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Whatever Your Excuse Doesn’t Matter! Part 2

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“Have you noticed you can feel stopped by all sorts of things? What we think and say to ourselves has a great impact. Some people never get going for this reason. Instead of making their dreams come true they live life as a victim. Do you? Do you have victim mentality?

If you honestly ended up answering yes, you can change it. That’s good news! You don’t have to live as a victim of excuses and blames. You can become free and begin to make marvelous positive changes that are meaningful and powerful. Let’s begin to explore how!

Start changing all your ‘I can’t’ and ‘I don’t’ to ‘I won’t’ or ‘I will not’. Take complete responsibility for being in charge. Example; I won’t make enough money because I will not. I won’t make enough money because I won’t do the things I have to. ACCEPT responsibility!

Awareness Is The First Step

I won’t be happy because I won’t think positive thoughts. OR I am not going to get healthier, any time soon, because I refuse to eat right. I will not get a raise because I will not do what is expected of me at work. I will not be good at basketball because I won’t practice.

Take FULL responsibility for not being, doing and not having. Accept that it won’t happen because YOU won’t make it happen. No blames, no excuses simply shoulder the responsibility. Convert all your can’ts and don’t’s to won’t and will not. If YOU won’t then YOU won’t.

I can’t be rich because I won’t work at it. I won’t be rich because I will not do what is necessary. I am not going to be happy because I will not take control of my mind. I will not be healthy because I will not eat right, exercise right or sleep right. I am not going to ___________.

The Second Step Is Understanding

OWN up to not being, doing or having what it is you want! Understand if you want to be, do or have anything in life it is up to YOU. It is not going to happen without YOU making it happen. YOU are the one who determines your own happiness and success.

Take all your excuses and blames and reasons why YOU can’t be, do or have, why life isn’t grand, and convert them to ‘I won’t’ or ‘I will not’ statements and notice what is different.  WRITE these out. Notice what happens when you change them. Notice how you feel.

Notice if and how things shift. It may feel very foreign or uncomfortable. You may fight or resist trying these statements on but do it anyway. If YOU can’t do it then you must! Realize you must put yourself in the driver’s seat if you want to get anywhere.

Beliefs Create What Seem Like Facts – They Are Beliefs

Besides, the only way you couldn’t write these is if someone tied your arms down or removed all writing implements and locked you up so you couldn’t write them out. Otherwise, you are more than capable to make these adjustments to your excuses list.

Of course, there are those of you who didn’t do the exercise from my last post, to begin with. Why not? Didn’t want to. Seemed silly. I already know it. Didn’t have time. What was the reason you didn’t do it fully? Why not? Own up to it.

The bottom line is you chose not to for whatever reason. Own your decision. Each second we have a choice. Each second we come up with  reasons for the choices we make. Whether they are valid or not is a separate issue. We believe they are. Hence, believing is seeing.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t – You Are Right

We act as if these limiting beliefs are the truth. They aren’t but we think they are. As long as we maintain limiting beliefs we will be limited. Don’t you think it is time to change them? Do the exercises and we’ll discuss more in the next blog post.

Once you convert your I can’t, or I am not able to, or this is what prevents me to I won’t or I will not THEN hang in there. It can be upsetting or it can be liberating. You are challenging assumptions and beliefs you have held for a while. It takes a bit of time to adjust.

Realize this, whatever you discover can be wonderful. Even if it is painful at first. Look at it and understand you don’t have to be limited. You have the opportunity to change in wonderful ways. Sit with it, even if it is uneasy. Relief is coming!

Be Willing To Explore Discover Become Aware And Understand

You will discover how marvelous you truly are. You are marvelous with imperfections and flaws. Embrace yourself and be gentle with yourself. Understand it is only old conditioning, it ISN’T YOU who are limited. Beliefs either support us or they don’t. It’s the beliefs!

Most of us weren’t brought up told we can choose. We were brought up believing we had to be the way we were. We had to accept what we think and believe as the truth. The TRUTH is we aren’t our beliefs but we operated from them as if we were. We can change them!

As we choose more supportive and productive and positive beliefs we transform delightfully. As we accept responsibility for everything, without blaming ourselves or outside ourselves, it frees up our energy to find opportunities so we make good things happen.

Always Believe Something Wonderful Is About To Happen

This is a journey of discovery and exploration. This is all about becoming aware. Great changes can occur and you can get anything your heart desires. Let’s clean some house and make room for the new, good stuff. Do the exercise. Learn what you learn. Be grateful, enjoy and delight. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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How To Knock Off The Whiny BS If You Want Happiness And Success

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“What do you do when things go wrong? What happens if you are riding the crest and suddenly discover yourself in the trough? Bad stuff happens how do I get out of it or around it?  What about when everything simply sucks?

These questions I am asked a lot. I will answer these from my perspective. This is how I choose to view my world and my responsibility in it. I learned it from others. from ancient and modern texts and role models. If I can do it you most likely can do it better.

Here is what I think and do. Recently, I was hit by a car. Injured in a hit and run. I got notice that one of my monthly payments was going up a gazillion times at the end of the month. There are numerous ‘crappy things’ going on in multiple ways. The fan has been covered.

Against All Odds And Obstacles You Are Going To Make It

I say, ‘Bring it’. You think you are tough you haven’t met me then. I am bigger than all my problems even when I don’t know how I will solve something I expect it to work out for good in the end. This is my mindset. I take 100% responsibility for all that happens to me.

It is as if I created it. I think the universe is trying to provide me a lesson to learn from by giving me hardships to deal with. Do I actually believe that? NO, not on your life. It is, however a useful frame I adopt and use. It supports me. I don’t BS myself.

If I BS myself it means I put the blame on everything else, which may include me. I blame the weather, the government, the economy, my parents, my kids, anything else outside of me. It is their fault. Well, if that were true then there is probably little I could do to change it.

It Is Kind Of Fun To Do The Impossible

However, if I am the author of it then I must change whatever I am doing that got me the poor results I didn’t want. I must shift something in me. Change my thinking and feeling to be more positive and productive.

In accepting the responsibility for it means I CAN CHAGE IT!

I create everything. The good and the bad. Currently, some bad stuff is going on. Okay, I created it. Why? I don’t know and I don’t care. I do know however, that the kite rises against the wind. We are made stronger through our struggles. I know I will learn something. I will!

In the end it will all be good BECAUSE I declare it so. So what if we have troubles. My troubles may pale in comparison to someone else’s. We all have troubles. Bad things happen to good and bad people. Good things happen to bad and good people.

Pessimists Calculate Odds Optimists Overcome Them

I don’t worry about why or fret and fuss. What is IS. I can either handle it or I can’t. I choose to be able to handle it. I direct my thoughts to what can I find to learn, to be grateful for, and feel blessed by. Something good is out there that I don’t know, yet.

In the end and right now I am blessed regardless of what is going on around me. I am not going to be a victim of circumstances. If I am responsible for the crap I am responsible for cleaning it up. If I am responsible for the good I am responsible for everything.

I made it happen. DO I believe that I somehow engineered the universe, or conspired with the gods. NOPE not for a second BUT it is a useful frame. I did it to me so I can undo it. No blame, no shame, no excuses.  You think your god is tough I’ll show you tough.

Impossible Difficulties Set The Stage For Amazing Miracles

You haven’t met tough yet. No wallow. No victim. Bad things happen, unfortunate things happen get over it. Go on. Because bad things happen it doesn’t mean I have to be unhappy. I choose to be whatever I want to be. I may bend but I won’t break. Fortitude!

I control my thoughts and feelings as best I am able. I steer them to be maximally positive and productive and supportive. When the going gets tough the tough get going. Nothing is bad unless you name it as such. Things just are. What is IS. Stop labeling!

I am challenged in a new way that is all. New things have occurred. Life is going on. At the same time some really wonderful things are going on. I won’t let negativity obscure them. Do you get it? Everything is always up to each of us. We make our life what it is.

The Ability To Triumph Always Begins With You

I don’t call it anything other than challenges or opportunities. I have an opportunity here to learn and discover something new. I have a challenge that presents an opportunity for me to be different and create different results. I use the challenge as an alert signal.

Alert. Alert. Make some positive changes. I am not suggesting when bad things happen you are imagining bad things happening. I am not saying you are waving a magic wand. I’m say pretend you have the power and you did it so you can undo it. That is my point.

Accept responsibility and take charge for making it different. Don’t blame others or yourself. Don’t look for causes or excuses. Just recognize that life offered you a bunch of lemons. What are you now going to do about it? It is all in your hands and up to you!

You Have The Resources Within You To Make Any Change

We either think powerfully and positively or not. Yes, bad things happen. I only call them bad here to acknowledge that. As people we label events. That is a function of out mind of our our mental habits. Whatever you say it is, makes it so. Hence, I declare myself victor.

I call the win in advance. I expect to win. I expect to prevail. Sometimes things are easier sometimes they aren’t as easy. So what. Sometimes it is hot sometimes it is cold. Life is what it is. I am learning to celebrate all of it and discover what to be grateful for.

A champion wants a worthy competitor. If the seas of life are going to be rough so be it. Bring it. Bring the challenge on. I can handle it. I can handle anything. I will be victorious. This is the mindset I use when challenging situations come my way. Opportunity is hiding!

Know There Is Something Inside You Greater Than Any Obstacle

It isn’t very valuable if I only am grateful for the good stuff but can’t find the silver linings. I want to be grateful for everything. That is why I take responsibility for all of it. I can change and manage my thoughts. I am in charge. I determine the outcome. I choose to win.

I choose to be happy all along the way. I choose to find the blessings. I love my life. My life is wonderful when easier or hard. I love me and that I am learning to be a kind and gentle, dedicated, loving taskmaster of me. Get it? Begin Now. Celebrate everything! Rex Sikes

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The Reason You Must Be Tough And Speak With Authority

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“Most people seek and find problems. They don’t think they do but that is what they spend most of their time doing. They put out daily fires. Then they re-live them by talking about the fires of today and from long ago. They keep the issues alive in their minds talking about them. They even seem proud to share them much of the time.

They look for where things are wrong. They look for poverty, lack, frustration, crap and they find it. They seek limitations and what they can’t do and they find them. You can’t move forward always focused on what’s behind you. You must look forward. You must look forward free of what holds you back.

Stop looking at limitation and problems! Reverse the direction. Seek what is good and new. Seek and find what is enjoyable and positive that you can delight in. The brain provides you with either. It is up to you to direct it. The brain’s default is problems and dangers. It evolved this way to protect you in the jungle. It does a great job too!

You Must Focus On The Finish Line To Win Not The Starting Line

It is good at finding what is wrong so you could deal with it if you had to. This is WHY you must take charge of your brain and learn to direct it. You want to move it from operating at default to working for you. It will work perfectly for you when you train it to. It is a wonderful servant but a terrible master. You must master it.

The reason it seems difficult at first to make positive changes or gain control over one’s thoughts and feelings is because it runs by habit automatically. You want it to do that. You want it to be somewhat difficult to change because you want it reliable. You don’t want it  randomly changing all over the place. You want it to be consistent.

So it seems tough at first. It may be a little but you can change it. You must absolutely, positively change your focus from what you currently see, what the ‘reality’ currently is, and focus completely on the reality you want to create. You must focus on, and maintain your concentration on, the future reality as though you already have it.

Refuse To Succumb Emotionally To Negative Events Around You

Don’t talk about what is. Stop. That is what you must no longer do. Talk only about what will be as if it has already happened. Create what you want. Don’t reinforce what you don’t like. Yet, that is what most people do. They discuss what is wrong far more often than what can and will be. That is why what can be never shows up.

Command the future to become your present. Demand it. Declare it. Affirm it with strong emotions. Expect it. Be certain of it. Then you will make it happen. You most likely can’t get to this place over night. It takes work, dedication and persistence. It takes will power. That is why many abandon the pursuit. They don’t develop what it takes.

People will tell them, ‘you can’t do it’. They will read articles that state, if you focus on what you want and don’t get it you will be disappointed. So don’t try it is too hard. There are all sorts of messages from others, and reasons from oneself, why not to attempt it. If you never attempt it you will never know what might have been.

A Journey Of A Thousand Miles Begins With A Single Step

The courageous and the steadfast make it happen. That is the plain truth. Those who go after their goals, in a smart and wise fashion, can and do make them happen. There are plenty of examples of people who get what they want and even exceed their own expectations. Learn from them. Learn from success. You can do it.

Don’t learn from those who haven’t done it and tell you not to. You are listening to the wrong people. Listen to those who try and who win. Stop listening to those who don’t and haven’t. They may mean well, so be polite, but if they are holding you  back, if you are holding yourself back, then what is certain is, you are held back if you listen.

Stop and move forward. How? Do what I have been sharing in these posts. Condition you mind. Learn from successful people. Focus on gratitude and ‘can do’. Do something each day. Exercise your mental muscle as you have to to condition your body. Eventually, the results will begin showing up. It isn’t magic. It is how it works. IT does work!

The Pain You Feel Today Is The Strength You Will Feel Tomorrow

You don’t get in physical shape overnight. It takes time. The same is true with mental toughness and the renewal of your mind. You condition it for success. Remember, the quote I shared from Muhammad Ali, ‘I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.’

You must become the authority of your life. You must take charge, be in charge and stay in charge. You must think, and speak and act from authority. Stop being the victim of your own mental processes. Develop the direction  that serves you. Your brain is already serving you well. NOW you have to learn how to aim it positively. That’s all.

Your brain is working perfectly well on default to get keep you focused on what is wrong so you are aware of it. That is marvelous appreciate that. NOW learn to turn your attention from the problem to the solution and what works and what is good. Stop focusing on what is broken, wrong and bad. That is what you must learn. Steer it.

Develop The Mental Strength And Toughness Of A Warrior

Out of control it will run on and on as it always has. Take control and you will discover how powerful your are. If you don’t have enough money stop, shift the focus. Be thankful for the little bit of money you do have! Be grateful you have any money. Be grateful money flows.  Be grateful you can spend that money even if it is on bills.

You are circulating energy. You are making things move. If your attitude sucks, if it is is, ‘woe is me I am  broke, I’ll never have enough, this is awful’ what do you expect to attract and live from. You live from that attitude. That is your reality. Why? Because you go no further. Yes, you wish it different but you don’t demand it.

If on the other hand you begin by emphasizing what you are grateful for, what you have, ‘I have money, I can spend money, it is good to circulate money, I am able to put money toward my bills, money flows to me and I use it as a tool’.  Then you have a much more productive mindset. Speak with authority that which you want.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

Inside you mind live as if you already have it. Imagine this, see it, feel it and say it once or twice a day. Work your way into it. Concentrate on having wonderful feelings when you imagine and speak what you want your future to include. Imagine this future IS your present reality. Live within that reality, experience this fully in your mind.

‘I am glad I have money. I am glad I can spend money. I am happy to take care of my bills because it means I have money.’ This may seem foreign to you if you have’t done it. If you haven’t and you have been stuck for awhile realize that if you want things to be different in your life you are going to have to do different things.

You can’t do the same things and get different results. You must be different to get different. Be, do and have. Mindset first and actions will follow. Speak with authority. Live from your own strength and power. It will take a little while to develop strong muscles but you will as you work at it. Keep going and don’t give up. Commit.

If You Want Quality Act As If You Already Have It

Know what you want. Imagine it as if you already have it. Feel good and enjoy the marvelous feelings. Believe in yourself and expect to make it happen and never quit. You will make your dreams come true. Enjoy the journey all along the way. Learn from obstacles and keep going. Keep the faith. Feel positive. Plan for success!

You become what you think about most often. What you focus on expands. Energy flows where your attention goes. If it is going to happen it will be up to you. Remember and repeat, ‘If it is going to be it is up to me!’ It truly is. Enjoy making positive and powerful changes. Have fun with it. Delight and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Let your smiles travel miles, today!

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If You Want To Change But Don’t: This Is What You Must Know And Do

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“Do you know why most people don’t make positive changes and get the life they deserve? They want to, they really want to. Wanting to is not enough. Here is what you need to know and do. Wanting only leads you to where the possibility to change exists. It’s a beginning.

Recently, I shared what holds us back. Automated processes that run on and on, outside of our awareness, that lead to less than glorious feelings. While some think of it as obstructive it is not nefarious. It is not sabotage. That is what our subconscious does.

It runs impersonal, learned processes that are outside of our control, for the most part, unless, we deliberately learn other ones instead. These habits of thought, feeling and action that are triggered by outside and inside events and circumstances. We react.

Today You Are Where Your Thoughts Brought You

One thought leads to another. A thought leads to a feeling. The feeling leads back to another thought of a similar kind. Like attracts like. Birds of a feather flock together. How we feel often, most usually, determines how we act and if we act.

As we engage this process enough, repeatedly, through time they become our habits. We routinely think, feel and act, OR NOT, certain ways, positively or negatively. Either these support us or they do not. These habits determine our results in the world.

If we don’t like the results we are getting it can all be traced back to our thoughts, our beliefs, our mindset and attitudes. This is precisely why, for centuries, thought leaders have emphasized taking control of your mind and learning your power to do so.

Tomorrow You Will Be Where Your Thoughts Take You

We are absolutely capable of making positive changes and learning new habits. More difficult are the evolutionary processes such as fight, flight or freeze but even these can come under some control. We can manage the affects of these more than previously believed.

The processes that govern our results are changeable, manageable and controllable, when you learn how.  Using our perception, our ability to reason, our imagination and will power we can intelligently make changes that serve us powerfully and positively.

Just as you learned any skill, learning to control your thinking and feeling is a skill. It is completely do-able. You are capable. It requires patience, dedication, understanding, perseverance and awareness. Awareness is the first step to change. Awareness comes first!

You Cannot Escape The Consequences Of Your Thoughts

We only change that which we know, are AWARE of, or perceive needs changing. Then we can intelligently REASON and decide that we must actually change. When we CHOOSE to take responsibility for our thinking, for everything in life, we take a major step forward.

Even if it isn’t true that we are responsible for everything in life that happens to us or involves us; even if we haven’t control over all of our circumstances it can benefit us to ‘act as if’ to ‘think as if’ we do. To do this without blaming ourselves or others is powerful.

It organizes our perceptions, helps us marshall our resources. It puts the ball and everything, in our court so we can think and work to make changes if we don’t we live as a victim to happenstance. It is far more beneficial to live powerfully than helplessly without hope.

Life Is 10% What Happens To You And 90% How You Respond To It

When one thinks as a champion victor one feels as a champion victor does. Hence one behaves and can get the results of a champion victor. Sure, there will be obstacles and problems but the champion victor takes care of them along the way. It doesn’t stop the victor!

It doesn’t prevent the victor! Everything is line up, aligned and congruent for moving forward positively. This awareness alone is dynamic and perhaps the most needed change anyone can make. Live as an emperor not hopeless and helpless. Live powerfully!

Take control of the power between your ears to make changes in the results you get. Live effectively. Stop making blames and excuses and start living the way you want to be living. It begins with mindset. It starts with controlling our thought habits so they serve us.

Better To Get Hurt By The Truth Than Comforted By A Lie

When it comes to creation, making things happen, getting goals, manifesting, attraction or vibrating in alignment, whatever words you choose to describe the process, being congruent is crucial. That is why it pays to get rid of all junk thinking and negativity.

Most people think of something they want and their habitual patterns of thoughts leap in stating you can’t afford it, your not good enough, you don’t deserve it. Others can have it but not you. Why bother? You aren’t the type of person who does that, and on and on.

These thoughts use up our creative energy because they operate under threshold much of the time. Just like my thoughts about how the woman in the lap pool was the problem. We must become aware of our routine, habitual, less than glorious thinking.

Still – Nothing – No One  – Can Hurt You – Without Your Permission

Then we can begin to change. Awareness opens the door. Once we become aware there’s an issue we need to address it and take care of it. We need to stop it AND make a better choice.  It is a choice. It is ALWAYS a choice. It is in our control and up to us to be different.

Most people won’t make the choice because they think it too hard. They don’t feel capable. Prior, bad thought habits. This is why it is first crucial to identify that you are not thinking powerfully. This is why it is necessary to point out the negativity again and again.

The message signal value has to be strong and loud enough for the individual to think, whoa, maybe I ought to try to do something differently. The person needs to become aware of what is holding them back. What IS the problem to be solved? Get it?

Be A Product Of Your Decisions Not Of Your Circumstances

If you don’t know there is a problem you won’t do anything to change it. Most people put the blame outside themselves so then they never have to address it. If you take responsibility for everything, everything is up to you. Now, you are in charge.

Once aware you have a choice. I f you choose to be different you will be. It requires will power I won’t kid you. It doesn’t happen over night, although it could potentially. Be prepared to condition yours mind for good mental health as you would your body.

You have to eat right, exercise right, sleep right consistently, repeatedly, long enough over time to get in shape and then to maintain it. The same is true about controlling your thoughts and feelings and taking charge of your mind. Step by step you move.

Everything You Want Is On The Other Side Of Why You Can’t

You condition your body AND your mind bit by bit over time. If someone is obese and doesn’t notice it affecting their health, or blames everything else for the issue then they have no power to change it. We have bought into societal memes, too.

We are told things aren’t our fault. It is genetics, it can’t be helped. It is the environment, our education or lack of it, the parents we have that are responsible. Our upbringing was less than glorious. All sounds plausible hence we buy into it. It is limiting programming.

We’ve been told this since birth. We’ve been misinformed, led astray, For each example one can use to prove the above case ‘true’ one can find counter examples of people who have changed in spite of every possible odd being against them. We are remarkable! We are!

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

Sadly, most of us don’t think we are. We have been conditioned to believe we are not powerful or strong enough. I won’t get into why this may have happened here. Suffice to say our power has been usurped in so many ways. It is time to claim it back. Use it or lose it!

You will be glad you did. Once you begin to notice the results you are able to get with a renewed, transformed mind you’ll wonder what ever took you so long. However, you’ll be too happy celebrating the new changes to regret the time it took. It happens when it happens.

You’ll enjoy glorious new feelings and a positive outlook. All of life becomes marvelous even when, or if, circumstances don’t because you aren’t dictated and controlled by circumstances any longer. Those can and will change too. YOU determine your course.

I Have Failed Over And Over In Life And That Is Why I Succeed

If it is ever going to happen it will be completely up to you and the decision you make. No one can think your thoughts for you. They can provide you with thoughts and programming, as they already have, but they can’t think your thoughts for you. Do you understand this?

It is up to you to decide whether you take your power back or forever continue to act out of how you were previously programmed when you didn’t have a choice. Are you going to live from the beliefs and limitations you learned as a child? I hope not.

Some of those did serve you. Yes, they protected to. They kept you safe and/or they kept you from trying. Or they comforted you when you tried and gave up. Sure, those beliefs served a purpose. To insure you don’t travel too far. To make sure you don’t head the pack.

To Move A Mountain Begin By Carrying Away Small Stones

You decide. Decide now! Do you want to live from chronic, old, prior, limiting, conditioning, most of which you absorbed prior to five years old, OR do you want to begin living as the person you deserve to be? Don’t you want to find the real you hidden in there? Discover you!

There is no better time than now to act. Begin now, start, and learn along the way. When it is completed will you be able to look back and connect the dots. So be courageous, take control of your life by taking control of your mind. DO it Do it now. Awareness first.

Then use your imagination to begin to see, hear and feel the you, you already are within, that you want to be in the real world. Begin to imagine living the life you have always wanted. See, hear and feel yourself ‘act as if’ it is all absolutely real. Stick with it. Stick with it!

People Don’t Lack Strength – They Lack Will

Will power is necessary. Some things, like the Chinese Bamboo plant, don’t show up for quite some time. Stick with it. Be passionate, have faith. Become convinced you can and will do it and you will. You attract and make happen what you ARE – not what you want.

People want all sorts of things they learn to live without. That is from their habitual mindset. Become the change you want to experience and you will have what you desire. You will transform yourself by the renewing of your mind. Get it? You do it! YOU!

“It is a lesson which all history teaches wise persons, to put trust in ideas, and not in circumstances,” said Ralph Waldo Emerson. Don’t give circumstances the power, claim it back. Learn to dictate what the circumstances will be. It begins with controlling your thoughts.

Exercise Your Power And You Release The Power Of Life Energy

Take charge. Focus your mind. Feel the best! How do you feel the best? Think the thoughts that produce those feelings. Put your attention on what you have to be grateful for. Stay focused. Thought leads to feeling and feeling leads back to similar thoughts.

Change your life thought by thought. Step by step. Fill your mind with CAN DO power. Enjoy, delight! Think right and feel WONDERFUL! Keep doing it over and over and before you know it this all becomes your new habits. Your new results.

Practice success until you are successful. Act as if! Be it NOW! and celebrate! When you do this consistently, long enough, everything can and will change for the better because YOU ARE DOING IT! YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF IT! So enjoy life now and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Determine to delight more today?

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2 Things Successful People Do That Separate Them From The Unsuccessful

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“Not everyone who is successful and rich is a nice person. However, most all of them have things they do in common that separates them from the unsuccessful. There a few things they do differently and routinely that are crucial to adopt if you want success. Here’s one.

In order to make any change you want to be permanent you have to wire it in. You have to make it an automatic, reliable habit.  To do this you must overwrite the old habit with the new thoughts, feelings or behaviors you want instead. You must learn the habits of success.

In order to do this you must do the correct things consistently and for a long enough time. That is what ‘perfect practice’ is about. You do the right things for as long as it takes. This IS how you create new habits. Sadly, most people, won’t do what it takes to succeed.

Practice Doesn’t Make Perfect – Perfect Practice Makes Perfect

That is why it has been pointed out that successful people do the things no one else will do. If you want to think better, more productively, positively and powerfully then you must practice and rehearse that thinking until you wire it in. There is no other way.

Do you want to feel better more of the time? Then you must practice and rehearse feeling good consistently and long enough. The same applies to behaviors. There isn’t any other way. You can’t change being a couch potato, taking a magic pill or wishing it will happen.

You must take charge and do it. How long does it take? It takes as long as it takes. You do what you need to do to make the changes you want, and to make them permanent. Let go of the when, the time, and deadlines and focus on developing the thoughts and feelings.

The Difference Between Ordinary And Extraordinary Is Practice

There is a bamboo plant. Once planted it is watered and nurtured for 6 years. The plant remains underground with no evidence of growth. In the 7th year the plant sprouts and grows 90 feet within 2 months. The question to consider is, when did it grow the 90 feet?

Obviously, it must have been growing the entire time. If it wasn’t watered or taken care of it in any given year it would have died. It was always growing even when you couldn’t see it. The same is true of you when you do the right things long enough and consistently.

Success is the same way. Besides taking responsibility for their success those who are most successful enjoy working at it. They work harder and longer than most others. However, they don’t consider it work. They love it. They enjoy it. It is their passion.

Practice Happy Thinking Every Day – And Be Happy

Because they enjoy it they say things like, ‘I work harder than anyone else but I have never worked a day in my life.’ This is important to understand. They feel good about working for success. If you feel good too you will never work a day in your life either.

The more you decide to enjoy the process the smoother it can go. When you are enjoying something you want it to last or you don’t care how long it takes. This is a great mindset. Then it doesn’t matter how  long it takes because you are enjoying it and benefiting from it.

Enjoy the process of evolving yourself. Take control of your thinking and take responsibility for creating your life and circumstances. Do what it takes for as long as it takes. Enjoy the process and keep the faith even when you don’t see results for a while. Keep the  faith!

The Only Way To Do Great Work Is To Love What You Do

You are growing. You really are. You may not see the evidence for a while. One day, you’ll sprout and an entire new magical life will open up and takes off quickly. That is how it can work for you. Just stick with right practice. Develop your mindset.

Learn to think and feel good most of the time. Do what it takes to be successful and enjoy it.  Do what the others won’t and you will be counted among those who succeed. In the meantime have fun. Keep at it. Do the right things consistently for as long as it takes.  Be grateful and celebrate everything! Rex Sikes

Delight in this day!

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Your Story Holds You Back And Keeps You Down! You Must Do This!

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“Most people spend most of their time focused on what they do not want. They have poor health, their pocket book suffers, they are in a lackluster job or their relationships are falling apart. These are the things they are focused on. Doom, gloom, boredom and suffering.

They share these stories with family and friends, co-workers and strangers. They tell their stories day in and day out about what isn’t working for them and why. Over and over again they repeat the same sad tales. They know their story. They repeat it often.

They have gotten really good at telling these stories.  It’s as if they were rehearsing lines in a play. They got them down. They say things like, ‘You think you have it bad’ and  ‘Let me tell you about my boss!’ ‘I can’t believe what my spouse did yesterday’.

You Choose Which Story You Tell – That Is Always Your Decision

‘Do you know what the bank did to me?’ My car, my doctor, my kid, the government. They talk about how things are screwed up. It is as they  brag about all that is wrong. They they can’t make ends meet, their health sucks, their job sucks, they can’t get a break. Whatever!

They focus on the bad news, the latest reports, gossip or things they cannot change. They even focus on things that do not involve them. All negative. All distractions. All rob them from the life they could have. Truly, because they are busy repeating these stories.

These are their battle stories. They take pride in their stories of what is wrong. Sometimes, they may laugh as they tale their tales. People get together and commiserate. They share their bad stories with each other. They even try to outdo each other at times.

You Write Your Story From The Choices You Make

The problem is EACH and EVERY time they tell these stories they are reliving the experience.  Over and over again the re-live their problems.  REMEMBER, you get what you focus on. We become what we think about most often.

So they end up creating the same thing over an over. Energy flows where your attention goes. Their book of life sucks. Each chapter is filled with trauma drama and they wonder why their life doesn’t improve. It can’t They are too busy creating it the same.

They create and attract more of the same problems into their life. Can it be any clearer? What you say is what you get. This is why I emphasize to speak only to bless, heal and prosper yourself and others.  If you say it, IT is so! You create your reality.

You Have The Power To Say – This Is Not How The Story Ends

If you want happiness or success or a better life you have to tell a better story. Your story has to be about what you want. You must turn your back on what you don’t want and focus only on what you do want. That is when the change will occur. It will begin right away.

That is when good things can rush in and begin to happen. You must rehearse what you do want and not what you don’t want. Whatever story you tell you are creating more of it! Re-live the experience you want to have more of not what you do not want. Change your story!

It is not about ignoring or blocking what you don’t like. It is about changing the frame and putting it in another perspective. A different perspective. Napoleon Hill said in every difficulty there is a seed of opportunity. Stop focusing on the adversity. Find the opportunity.

The Life You Live Is The Story You Repeatedly Tell

Every situation or circumstance or event in life can be looked at as a positive experience, or at least a positive learning experience or negative. One side can be emphasized more than the other. You must focus on the positive. It isn’t and won’t be easy at first.

Still, you can do it. You can learn to reframe your difficulties. You can find the positive and focus on that and look forward to learning and growing. You can expect good to happen when hope seems lost. Again, not easy, but doable. If you begin to do it and keep doing it.

You must break the habit of focusing on what sucks and emphasize what works and what you can find to be grateful for. Find the good, reframe the bad as a positive learning experience. Find the opportunities and the good. This is the new habit to develop.

Your Past Is Just Another Story – You Can Always Change It

Habits can be hard to break but they are not impossible to break. You overwrite old habits with new ones through correct practice and spaced repetition. Practice at every opportunity. Practice the new way until you get good at it. It isn’t comfortable at first.

It is unfamiliar because you don’t do it. It isn’t your habit yet. Many people don’t like to be uncomfortable but that is where your growth occurs. You won’t change by remaining the same! It will be a struggle because your tendency will be the old habit you are good at.

If you stick with the new one you will eventually master it. The question is do you want to create a new, better, more wonderful reality and get positive results or do you want more of the same old, same old? You must decide and take action if you want it better.

Every Moment You Create Or Attract – Is It What You Want

Practice telling new positive stories about how, though facing some challenging moments, you are finding new opportunities to explore. That good is around the corner even though you can’t yet see it and don’t know what it is. Expect things to work out. Learn and grow.

Discover what there is to be grateful for right now. Share how you are learning and growing and moving forward. Life has presented challenges for you to excel and succeed and you are finding yourself up to the challenge and making things work out for the better.

It is either positive or negative. You thoughts and beliefs and actions either support you and uplift you or they don’t and they drag you down. Which do YOU want more of? Manage your thoughts, your self-talk, your internal images, your feelings. Take charge.

Change Your Thoughts And You Change Your World

Create, vibrate and attract differently. You know what it is you don’t want so turn around and focus on what you do want. Imagine already having it, feel it, see it, say it. Focus on being what you want and feeling that as though it is already accomplished.

Make this your story. Become a can do person instead of a can’t do, troubled, burdened person. Created and attract the good things. Live and rehearse how you are making wonderful things happen. The choice is yours. The decision is yours each moment.

Be grateful, and stick with it. Keep rehearsing the positive and you will become more positive. It will get easier. Keep choosing the positive and choosing will get easier too. You will develop new habits that support you. Live, love laugh. Do it today! Change your story and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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How To Stop Creating Trauma Drama And Crap In Your Life

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“You try but screw up. Things don’t work out. You end up with crap. Have you felt like this? You’re spinning your wheels getting out of debt or overcoming difficulty? What on earth is going on and why is it so hard? Would you like to know what you can do to change this?

Would you like to know what is possibly going on? From one standpoint the answer is simple. Negative manifestation. The results you keep getting are not the results you want to get. So why does it keep happening? What must you do differently to change it?

Napoleon Hill said, ‘If you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it.’ That’s what most people do to bring about disasters. If you are like most people it is because of what your focus in on. It is how you use your mind. We all tend to do this! Imagine the worst.

Our Feelings Are The Product Of What We Think

People don’t realize they are already powerful creators. We have been conditioned to believe that things just happen to us. It is true they do. We are taught to believe we have no control over our circumstances and to an extent this is accurate as well.

However, if you want to change your lot in life there are some simple things you must do. The first is to adjust your mindset and take 100% responsibility for everything that happens to you. You must understand you create it all. Even, if not completely true.

When you accept full responsibility for everything going on you begin to access your inner strengths and power. Even if you don’t actually create it, if you act as if it you do, if you accept responsibility for it you begin to have a say in it. Then you don’t blame or excuse.

Our Results Are The Product Of What We Think

Your mind begins to look for solutions because you are responsible. You are up for the task. If you got yourself into it you get yourself out of it. Most people won’t want to do this because of their prior younger conditioning. They want to blame others and things.

By blaming they miss out on tapping into their power. It is a natural tendency to blame and excuse, to point fingers, and find fault elsewhere. Blame and excuses doesn’t actually help anything. It doesn’t help to blame others or circumstances or oneself. Stop it!

Let go of the blame game. Accept the responsibility for what is and then shift your focus from what is going on to what you want to be going on instead. Move your attention from the crap to the potential. Focus on the desired outcome not present circumstances.

The Moment You Take Full Responsibility – Everything  Changes

When people have problems AND the reason most people do is that most people imagine the worst things they know can happen. They imagine the axe is  going to fall and it does. They have focused on the difficulty and worry and fear for the worst. Then they  get the worst.

They succeeded in helping make the bad thing happen. They created it. They supported it. They allowed it. Even though they didn’t want it they attracted it. In order to change your current reality from not so great to better or to great you must understand this principle.

Even if you don’t think it is true, if you accept it as if it were, and act accordingly, you will begin to experience positive change. You may create great positive change. But, to do so you must embrace it and live from it. You must understand it and change what you are doing.

You Cannot Escape The Consequences Of Your Thoughts

Here is the concept. The universe ONLY says yes. You get whatever you want or whatever you don’t want by what you put your attention on most. If you say ‘NO, I don’t want it’. You get more of it. If you say ‘Yes, I want it’. You get more of it. That is how it works.

You get back whatever you put out. Imagine standing in front of your bathroom mirror and you smile. What do you see reflected back at you? Imagine standing there and frowning. What do you see back at you? Now make a worried, anxious face. What is reflected back?

The principle is attraction. You attract back whatever you are. If you are worried about something you end up with more to worry about. Most people are exquisite creators of crap. Crap magnets! They want it to be different but they keep doing the same things.

You Are Already A Powerful Creator – Now Own Up To It

If you do the same things again and again you don’t get different results. If you frown into the mirror you don’t get back smiles. It would be silly to expect to. To get smiles you must be smiling! If you accept this and determine to work with this you can make changes.

People are successful at creating crap. They are successfully creating crap.  Success breeds success. The more you practice something the better you become. People get really good at creating poverty, lack of love, trauma drama and lots of negative experiences.

Are you tired of trauma drama? If you are getting lackluster results you can change it. If you like what you are getting keep on getting it. If you don’t enjoy your present circumstances and you want better then there are things you can put into motion that help.

You Are Already A Powerful Attractor – Now Own Up To It

You can stop creating the life you don’t want and begin to create the life you do want using the very same process you have already been using, mentioned by Napoleon Hill. Instead of conceiving or imagining dire results imagine what you want instead. See the good.

Use the very same process that you’ve already been using to get what you don’t want in life to begin getting what you do want. Take control of your mind to focus on what it is you want. Maintain the focus on what is good and what is positive. Keep this focus!

Then believe that you’re going to get that, without doubt. Believe that with certainty and you end up bringing that about. Belief comes from maintaining continual focus on it while affirming it in your mind using positive strong emotions. Feel happy. Feel good.

Decide What Kind Of Creator And Magnet Your Are Going To Be

When you fear the consequences of crap results, THAT is a strong emotion. Fear, worry, sadness, anger lock you up. When you think and imagine the worst and feel frustrated or lost you combine your imagination with strong emotions. This is how you create it!

To get the best results you need to imagine while feeling the best feelings. Confident, happy, enthused, exhilarated. Use the same formula but with positive different components. Imagine what you want while feeling with confident. Consider this for a moment.

Have you ever known for sure something bad was going to happen and it did? It’s like you predicted it. Some people are certain they won’t have enough money at the end of the month and they worry about it. They feel dread. At the end of the month, guess what?

If You Aren’t In Charge – Who Did You Give The Charge To

Frequently, it turns out as expected. These people, you and I, are using our minds powerfully to succeed at getting exactly what we do not want whenever we do this. We could be using our minds to get better results, but frankly, no one ever really told us we could.

We grew up blaming and worrying about circumstances. We weren’t told we could be the master of our circumstances. So we practiced creating and attracting crap a lot. Oh, yes, sometimes we also make some pretty good things happen but not consistently.

Life is okay instead of incredible.  So, this is why you create crap in your life. You’re using the method that works. It always works. It doesn’t stop working.  The results you end up with, depend on how you use your mind. YOU get what YOU focus on. Get it? Yes, maybe?

What You Feel Is What You Get – You Get What You Focus On

The easiest way to change it is to focus on feeling your best. Do those little and positive things that bring you more enjoyment throughout each day. Find ways to smile and laugh more. Remember, you get back what you put out. Appreciate what you have. Enjoy!

Be truly grateful. Feel it. Let the mirror give you back wonderful feelings by feeling wonderful first. How do you feel wonderful, you ask? BY what you focus on. If you worry about crap you will feel crappy and worried. You must change your thoughts. Get it? Maybe?

You must change what you give your energy and attention to. Maybe you have to change your thoughts dozens of times in an hour but that is what you must do. If you do it you will gain control of it eventually. You get back what you practice. Success breeds success.

See It – Declare It – Speak it – Make It Happen – Bless Heal Prosper

Think positive, happy thoughts. Train yourself to do this. No one can do it for you. You have to do it. It requires commitment and persistence AND the pay off is spectacular. Think better thoughts. Smile into the mirror. Notice from moment to moment your feelings.

Are you feeling positive or not? Are you feeling good? If not shift your thoughts so that you do. Thoughts precede action. It is difficult to go uphill thinking downhill thoughts. Your thoughts determine how and what you feel. There are actions you can do to feel better.

Focus on the good you already have and feeling grateful. Take some time for yourself. Get a massage. Have a bath. Read something nice. Have an enjoyable meal. Skip, sing, get outdoors. Help someone else feel good. Change your mind, change your state of being. Feel better.

Accept Total Responsibility For Your Life And Everything About It

Don’t wait. Those who wait – wait. Be proactive. If you want to feel better you can’t wallow in the muck. You have to get yourself out of the muck. THEN leave the muck alone. Drop it. Let it go and move to where you’d rather be. Some people leave and miss the muck. STOP!

If it is to be it is up to you. You can change it. You can do it. If you realize you alone are responsible for everything you will take charge because you don’t expect anyone else to swoop in to save you. You don’t expect things to magically change on their own. You do it!

You keep doing it. You live from courage and discipline and positively charged power. Positive thinking may not solve everything but it is far better than negative thinking. If you want to feel great you have to think great too! Smile and the mirror smiles back!

Only You Will Get You Where You Want To Go

At any moment you can WONDER what is in your mirror. Take a look. If it isn’t what you want – make it so it is. Create what you want. Change yourself so what is reflected back IS what you want. Be the change you want more of. Enjoy the best feelings you have. Then keep on smiling! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

What will you reflect today?

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Expert Reveals: How To Use Your Attention For Success And Happiness

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“When it comes to making your dreams come true what is the most important element? What must you be clear on and what do you not need to know? These are important considerations because some people just can’t seem to make much happen as they would like to.

You must know what you want! First and foremost you must be clear about your Definite Chief Purpose (DCP). You must know what you want and focus on what you want and avoid thinking about what you do not want. You get what you focus on! Stop thinking on problems.

Think about the end result. Know specifically what you want and know WHY you want it. The why is the motivator. What will having what you want allow you to be, do or have? Will it result in more freedom, love, luxury, comfort, well-being, health, or fun? What?

Whether You Think Yes I Want It Or No I Don’t – You Attract It 

What will having accomplished your DCP do for you? This is important. Focus on having accomplished it and all the good reasons. Feel all the great feelings you’d feel if you had it right this moment. Imagine that you do. In your mind it is always the present.

Don’t put it off into the future. Imagine yourself already having the good you desire. See it clearly, in detail and feel all the wonderful feelings. This is your focus. The end result. The goal achieved! This is what you imagine. See it from your eyes – what you would see?

For example, you can see yourself sitting in your dream car. Better yet, imagine what it feels like to drive the dream car. See through the windshield, see your hands on the wheel, feel the grip, feel the seats, smell that new car smell, hear the engine and your positive self-talk.

Whether You Think Yes I Want It Or No I Don’t – You Create It 

Hear what others say as they congratulate you on fulfilling your desire. Make it vivid in all your senses. Sight, sound, feelings, taste and touch. Make it as real. Feel AS IF you already have it. Drive around feeling like you are driving your dream car. Yes! That’s it!

Focus on what you want. Where people screw it up BIG TIME is they begin to wonder how they will ever make it happen. How they will afford it, do it, get it and be it? The begin to worry they might not have what it takes. They get concern  with the how it will happen.

How it will happen is YOU will make it happen. YOU will ultimately do the right things at the right time to bring it about. YOU SHOULD NOT concern yourself with how you will do it. ONLY concern yourself with what you want, the feelings and why you want it.

Whether You Think I’m Rich  Or I Am Poor – You Attract It 

For most people their brains go haywire on this. That is because you have been conditioned from early on to work on the how. Your parent, teachers, friends, everyone, most all of us were brought up concerned with how can we make something possible.

We listened to our parents worry over bills and money and how to make ends meet. How to afford a new home. How to get an A in a class at school. How to throw a baseball better or how to be a better skateboarder or computer geek. How to get a better paying job.

The people who get good at anything and get to the top do so because of their desire and passion. The want it and know why they want it. They live it and breath it. The keep doing and as a result they improve. Action, repeated correct actions, bring about the results.

Whether You Think I Am Healthy Or I Am Sick – You Create It 

It begins inside first with their mindset. The know they WILL have this. They are certain. They pour everything into making it happen. The find mentors, the observe others who successfully do what they want to. They do not let anything stop them. They keep at it.

Those born to wealth and privilege rarely concern themselves with whether or not they will be it or have it. They know they will. They know they can afford it so price is not an issue. Their mindset is they are entitled to it, they deserve it and will have it. This can be great!

You too are entitled and deserve it as a person born on this planet. Pompous entitlement isn’t good for anyone but understanding that you have as much right as anyone else is important. If it is possible for one person it is possible for you. Keep this in mind. Know this!

Whether You Think I Am Smart Or I Am Stupid – You Are It 

Mindset rules everything. It determines how you feel and how far you will go. If you never concern yourself with not having it imagine how much easier it is to actually have it. You bring it about because you are convinced you will and act accordingly. Faith is crucial.

Your mindset should be positive, powerful and unstoppable. You should focus solely on what you want and not get distracted by anything else. Ultimately, you will get your DCP! It will come in the right time so stay with it. When is the right time? When you get it!

Stop putting your focus on anything that doesn’t support or contribute to your making it happen. Get very clear about this. Remember, how is not important.  I’ll share more on this in upcoming blogs. We become what we think about. We get what we focus on.

Whether You Think I Can Or You Think I Can’t – You Are Right

Focus on feeling good. Focus on enjoying your life right now. Focus on being grateful that you already have your DCP. Feel it. Be grateful for everything you do have right now too. Appreciate the challenges and blessings. All of it is worth learning from and enjoying.

Energy flows where your attention goes. You direct it. How you spend your time is important! Spend it feeling blessed and enthusiastically. The better you feel, the more of your time, with your purpose in mind, the swifter you are able to bring it about! So relax, enjoy, and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Prepare for a blessed day. Can you discover all the good today?

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Millionaire Reveals: Do This To Create Greater Wealth!

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“The difference between the wealthy and the not wealthy IS people who are good with money manage it. They take charge of money and make it works for them. They don’t work for their money they manage the money that works for them. Get it? You can too!

If you want to become wealthier you must get your money working for you. You need to learn about money and wise investment choices. You need to stop trading your hours for dollars. There is only so much you can exchange when you trade time for money.

I’ve shared the principles of Pay Yourself First and Save And Invest. If you can only do a dollar a day or a week that is better than nothing. The point is to learn to pay yourself first and ultimately invest it. If you can do more do as much as you can. 10% of your paycheck. 20%.

Money Will Stay Away Unless You Know How To Care For It

Millionaire, Harv Eker introduced us to the notion of keeping separate envelopes, mason jars or bank accounts.  Whether the idea originated with him or elsewhere, I don’t recall. Divide up your paycheck and deposit a portion in each account.  It works like this.

Take 10% put it into your Financial Freedom, envelop, jar or account. You never touch this. You save it until you can invest in a form of passive income generating business or investments. Leave it alone. Be faithful to contribute the % each paycheck. Do not touch it!

Every 30 or 60 days remove the money from the envelops or mason jars and deposit into the highest yielding interest accounts. CDs still are higher than savings accounts in this day and age when banks give you nothing for using your money. Investigate this for yourself.

There Is A Reason The Rich Get Richer And The Poor Get Poorer

Take another 10% put in into A Long Term Account. Use this account to save for something big. A new home, car, television, a vacation, your kids education. Save something from each paycheck.

These two are your two long term accounts. Do not take from them except as specified. Use the following accounts similarly and do not rob from them either. Discipline yourself to pay yourself, manage your money, save it and invest it. The benefits will be great if you do!

Another 10% goes int Education. This is for your personal and professional development. It is so you can do seminars, workshops buy online programs, books, DVDs and audios. It is money you spend on your education and self betterment. Use it on an ongoing basis.

If You Want Something You Never Had …

10% goes into Fun Account. This money you spend at the end of every month. You blow it or treat yourself in a special way. Go out for a dinner, a special spa time, a men or women’s night out. Gift yourself. Have fun. Saving should have rewards. Reward yourself!

5% is a Charity Account. This is for giving back, contributing to others. Tithing. Helping your favorite cause. This is how you can help make a difference in your neighborhood, city, state or the world. It is important to give and to receive so learn to do both better.

That is 45% of your pay check you sock away in special accounts. If you save at home keep it somewhere safe and be sure to put it into actual accounts accounts soon. At least every 30 or 60 days. . Don’t stop pile cash at home where it can be stolen or burned up.

… You Have To Do Something You’ve Never Done

Look into getting the highest return accounts or CDs you can and put it there as I previously mentioned. Always seek professional advice when it comes to where to put your money, whether into banks, retirement accounts or investments. Lean on the learned!

The remaining 55% you use to your bills. This is your Necessities account. If you presently can’t do the percentages as suggested above do a variation of them. 5% each and 2.5% in charity. Find a way to save and manage something even if you divide up a dollar.

Whatever you do, the important part is consistency and commitment. Keep doing it. Discipline yourself. Learn to manage your money. That is why it is better to do it with a dollar every paycheck than to not do it. Begin today. Get some envelops.

Your Salary Doesn’t Make You Rich –  Its Your Spending Habits

Develop the habit of managing and growing your money. If you have lot’s of credit card debt seek responsible professional services that can help you get out of debt as fast and easily as you can. This is important. It is difficult to grow if you are paying off.

Robert Kiyosaki, Rich Dad Poor Dad author, had a great concept that stuck with me from the moment I heard it. Obviously, there are assets and debits. Assets are whatever has value and debits are whatever you owe. Your home could be an asset but it might not be.

For example, if you have a duplex and one half rented. If the rent covers your mortgage payment and you have a little left over, then your house is making you money not draining your accounts. Some things can be an asset or a debit depending on how it is used.

Do Not Save What Is Left After Spending …

A car could be if an asset if your company is leasing it to you  and makes use of tax advantages or deductions. If you have a monthly payment that is debt. That is money you kiss goodbye every month along with your gas and electric bill. It is money out the door.

Robert’s concept was Feeders and Eaters. Similar to the Law Of Attraction principles of Increase or Decrease. There are either Feeders which increase or Eaters which decrease your money and wealth. A car or house payment is usually an eater. Unless…

Monthly, you pay out money. Remember, if your business leases it and there are some tax advantages it could be a Feeder. The same is true with your home. It could be draining you of money or you could be making money with it. Look into this for yourself.

… Spend What Is Left After Saving

Remember to seek reputable financial advice to understand and utilize these notions and tax strategies. Become aware of your money flow.  Money moves, it does not stay put. If you are spending more than you are saving or earning your money will not last long.

Ask yourself this:  Is  Money Coming In and am I growing my wealth?Am I getting fed by Feeders or am I decreasing my money by spending? Is my wealth being consumed by Eaters? Which is it? It is always one or the other.

This is why many lottery winners, sports figures and celebrities go broke fairly fast. The never learned to manage their money and get it working for them. Instead they buy large. The have the same programs rich as when poor. So most return to being poor.

When You Buy Without A Plan – Emotions Dictate Your Spending

The live from their prior programming. Anything that doesn’t contribute to your overall wealth and long term happiness is an Eater. This concept really helped me curb my spending and begin thinking about where I want to put or invest my money.

It helped me decided whether or not I really needed something or whether I just wanted it because I wanted it.  It has helped me be responsible with my money. I look for Feeder opportunities.  These notions are worth their weight and impact in gold.

Practice Responsible Money Management. Take hold of the money you have and learn to control it. Discipline yourself. If you are like most of us you were not taught much about money. Instead what we learned was what we heard and witnessed.

Start Where You Are –  Use What You Have – Do What You Can

It is time to get free of prior conditioning and learn the mindset of creating and keeping wealth. As you learn be glad you have the opportunity. Study wealth. Learn about money. It is a useful tool to help you live the life of your dreams, help others and the world. Be grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Expert Reveals How To Handle And Prevent Trust Issues

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“You know how it feels when you trust someone; you take a person at their word, you expect them to follow through and they don’t. You feel hurt, angry or betrayed. At the least you feel disappointed and let down? I bet you have a discussion with yourself. Am I right?

Welcome to Part 20 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment. Part 21 tomorrow. Let’s go!

You blame that person. Perhaps, you vow to never again give your trust away. Right? Perhaps. It is hard to trust and be let down. It does nothing to improve relationships. A promise is broken no matter how big or small and people and relationships are affected by that.

Trust Is Like An Eraser It Gets Smaller After Every Mistake

Trust is defined simply as able to be relied upon, honest, truthful, dependable. We want people we trust to be these things and more. In return we may give our faith, our hopes, our respect. We may depend on them to carry through. We put great value on trust.

There are two people we need to be able to trust. The first is ourself. We need to keep our commitments or promises to ourself. We need to follow through on what we say to ourself and others. It we plan to clean our home or office then we should be sure to do it.

We have a relationship with ourself in a similar way that we have relationships to others. We are a person, we are important. We should love and respect ourselves. Too many don’t love themselves enough, sadly, while some others do, perhaps, too much.

How Can Anyone See How Awesome You Are If You Can’t See It

We should have a loving, kind, wonderful relationship on the inside. We should feel good about who we are. We should know we are a good person and worthy of good things. We ought to have a loving relationship with ourself and our self esteem should be high.

Our self image is important, as is our self talk. If you let yourself down, break your promises to yourself you are not treating yourself well. Why should you cause you to suffer a hit to your self image or self esteem? Why be disappointed in you? Stop. Don’t. Love, instead.

You feel better when you follow through. When you make a resolution keep it. Make a point to keep it. All day long we say to ourselves things we need or want to do. THEN do them. If it is realistic, possible, do-able and needs to be done – DO IT!

Trust = Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Keep your word to you! Don’t make excuses or blame. Don’t try to con yourself just keep your word if you give your word. Don’t play this game either. I knew children, when little, who would say this, ‘Uh huh, it doesn’t count. I didn’t say I promise in front of it.’ Stop!

If you say you will do something to or for yourself or another THAT IS THE SAME as saying you promise. If you say,’ I’ll get milk on the way home for you.’ Then do it! It is a promise. Someone is expecting you to follow through. Please understand this.

Whenever you don’t act according to your word you let someone down. Either yourself, others or both. Let your word be golden. It will improve your life, your relationship with you and with others. It will. You will learn and benefit in so many ways.

You Lose Credibility When You Don’t Keep Your Word

Commitment and the will to do is one of the great powers you have available to you. Some never tap into this power because they never leave their comfort zone, they aren’t too greatly challenged, they don’t keep their word or for a variety of other reasons.

Claim your power to follow through and you will find your life transforming. You get more done, will be more productive and learn how to get your goals and dreams. You benefit from being able to self start, or initiate and follow through. You complete!

When you are able to look back and check things off your list it feels good. You have an inner reward. When you keep your word and complete your tasks it feels good! Seek to reward yourself this way and your abilities and good feelings will increase greatly.

Silly Me – I Thought You Were Going To Do What You Said 

Make follow through a habit and personal change will get easier. Whatever you want to do with ease you must first do with diligence. You want to feel your best most of the time. This is another way to insure you do. Keep your promises to you and to others.

The other trust is with others. They need to be able to trust you and you them. I like to keep things simple. Trust is earned and given. To be considered trustworthy one must behave in a consistent manner and keep one’s word. Be sure you are always trustworthy.

Is it possible others will let you down? Of course. No matter how many times one has faithfully proven themselves it is possible. Should this happen you need to gather information at that time, to communicate effectively and discover why.

We Improve Relationships By Encouraging Not Criticizing

Make whatever relationship considerations there are at that time. It is likely, if they have consistently demonstrated trustworthiness, to have some extenuating circumstances and good reasons for the let down but again that needs to be clarified.

Discuss what happened and why. We can’t expect someone  to ALWAYS  act consistently, can we? People are people and anything is possible. Make certain we aren’t placing people in impossibly difficult positions to maintain. This includes ourselves.

There will always be disappointments, get over it. Find the positive and focus on the 98% that has been good and will continue to be. Get over the small amount that never may. Most of what we experience, good or bad, is due to our attitude in the first place.

The One Thing You Can Give And Still Keep Is Your Word

Anything is possible, don’t be gullible. At the same time, mistakes happen, someone is bound to screw up or let you down at some point so don’t get bent our of shape over it. Have you ever let someone down?  Suck it, life happens. Stop being a whiner!

If you want trust. Go first. Be an exemplar role model. EVEN THEN you may not get it 100% of the time from others?  Celebrate the relationships you have and encourage the behaviors you desire. Nurture more of what you want in you and in others.

Encourage what you want to be repeated. Remain open, positive and expect good results. Don’t get out of whack when things happen to disappoint. Pick up and keep going. Your relationship with yourself and others are important. Care well for each. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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