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The Power of Thinking Positive! PT 6 How To Recognize Opportunity As The Wealthy Do

November 4, 2014 rexsikes Leave a comment

What is an affirmation? It could be an an accurate observation of the current moment. It could be a statement of fact. It could be an opinion. It is a declaration and an assertion. It is positive and to use the word itself it is affirming. It promotes well-being and positivity, it is designed to encourage and support.

Continued from: The Power of Thinking Positive! How To Make Your Thoughts Work For You Parts 1- 5

Let’s take an example. Abundance is a current buzz word that some enjoy and some are growing tired of. I think it is worthy to use for examination. Let’s try this on: ‘We live in an abundant universe. Abundance flows to me and through me. I deserve riches and all good things. I am wealthy in every way. I give to and I help others from my abundance’.

Some people will say, ‘nope we live in a world where resources are being depleted and there are too many people’. That may be. Still there is, at this time, plenty of air, sun, darkness, food, water, money and everything else needed for everyone on the planet to thrive.

The biggest problem for us is not that these things are scare but that people don’t have access to them. That is a sad, very sad. It is unfortunate and people should act to rectify it. It is horrible when the political powers in charge allow or force people to go without. Yes, very sad because food, water and resources are plentiful but people are prevented. Everyone deserves health, wealth, well-being and the pursuit of happiness. This is a discussion for elsewhere.

There is plenty to go around. There is plenty of power and electricity, all types of necessary goods, frivolous items, and money. There is so much money. Money is everywhere! Some have much more than others. Many of those who do have money attempt to thwart others access to it. Still, there is more than enough money everywhere. There are countless wealthy people everywhere. Many millionaires and beyond have made their money in the best and the worst of times. Money is plentiful always.

Consider that none of the statements regarding abundance might be accurate. Or the all could be or just some parts them could be true. After all the statements are just sentences you either agree with or you don’t. You decide what you want to agree with or disagree with. You will have your own reasons, or excuses.

You will also experience the life style that accompanies your beliefs about those simple sentences. You either will have more than enough, enough, just enough or not enough. You determine it all by what you think, believe and by where you place the cause of the lifestyle you live. You either accept yourself as the cause of it or you put it off onto others and circumstances.

If you put it off onto others there is probably little you can do about it unless you learn how to better communicate with them regarding your needs and improving your lot. If it is circumstances holding you back then either you give up and allow them to dictate your life or you find a way to legally alter them for your benefit. If you accept responsibility for yourself and your lifestyle you can change whatever you need to in order to change your lifestyle.

Let’s examine briefly some of the example statements and find out what is the up side and down side to thinking that way. We live in an abundant universe. Of course, someone could object stating that everything is limited and that we are wasteful. They could assert that if we aren’t vigilant we will run out. There is not enough for everyone and there are people in poverty.

This is not an illogical nor necessarily false statement. It is a view of current circumstances. The person who embraces such a view may operate from the view by helping others because they believe that is important. They may practice conserveing, they may give away their money OR they may do nothing but live in fear and worry. Anything is possible.

The person who believes there is abundance could be a pig and a hoarder and consume wantonly without regard for others. This is definitely possible. On the other hand they could see the world as a friendly living place with enough to go around for all. This may inspire them to work to see to it that all people have access to resources and plenty. They may be inspired to create all manner of wealth, beautiful experiences and good things.

Few, if any, people get rich focused on poverty. Those who get rich make their riches because they turn their backs on poverty. They don’t focus on scarcity and what they don’t have instead they focus on making what they want. They know what they want to have an include and where they want to get to. They are driven to accumulate.

To declare a war on poverty, while well meaning, places the emphasis in the wrong place. Instead of wiping out poverty let’s create and utilize abundance. Let’s make sure people have all they need not just the basic necessities. To create wealth and well-being for all should be the goal but it isn’t.

To declare war on anything seems to be a less than optimal way to make changes in our world. It states what we want to end but does not give clear picture or indication what we want to build and have instead. This is proven over and over again many times through history.

The goal isn’t to eradicate poverty but to insure that all people have more than enough. The person who thinks and believes the world is plentiful finds examples to support that point of view just as the person who thinks scarcity is the state of being finds examples to support their viewpoint.

I realize there is more that I don’t know than I could ever possibly know. If I err, I prefer to err on the side of what can be done and what is positive and hopeful than otherwise. I could be wrong about the world being abundant but I know it feels better to believe it is.

One point of view is not more right than the other in my world, but some make us feel better than the other. There are some people who may extract great joy in feeling bad but most people seem to want to feel good. In order to feel better we need to think the thoughts that make us feel better. Feeling just okay is not an option.

We need to choose what makes us feel the best and put our attention on that. The goal is to live fully and joyfully feeling wonderful as much of the time as we can. Years ago I declared this world my garden paradise. I claimed ownership. I realized I could either have an ecstatic life of I could have something else. I opted for an ecstatic life. I also realized that there are plenty of co-owners I share this planet with and determined we could all celebrate, if we only would.

I prefer to include everyone in my abundant world. Not everyone will gain or have everything they need or want. There are poor. I don’t blame them that is not my place to judge. I prefer to operate from the Golden Rule and what great religious leaders, philosophers and visionaries have had to say about compassion, understanding and ministering to those. I do believe that givers get but that is not the reason to give. Give simply to give.

Some people will agree completely with each of these statements I used as example while others may not. ‘The universe is plentiful. I deserve and attract all good things. I am wealthy in every way. Because I am wealthy I help others’.

Some may not feel that they deserve riches. They may not feel like they attract good things. If you don’t feel that you deserve riches, if you don’t feel wealthy now, most likely you won’t be or become wealthy any time soon. This is because wealth, just like health and well-being is a mind set. It is the adoption and adherence to certain attitudes and principles. The wealthy look at themselves and the world differently than those who don’t enjoy it. We will examine this more later.

In order to HAVE wealth (or anything, a relationship, health, a parent) one must first BE the kind of person who can have it. In order to have you need to BE AND DO FIRST. In order to be rich you need to think rich thoughts. In order to be healthy you need to think healthy thoughts. In order to attract a loving partner you need to be a loving partner first.

You can DO everything right and work real hard but if your attitude and mind set, if your thoughts and beliefs don’t support and encourage you it is unlikely you will have wealth, health or much happiness unless you get really lucky and inherit it or win the lottery etc. ‘As a man thinketh in his heart so he is’ is a nice little Biblical saying that says, ‘You are your thoughts’.

The wealthy don’t think impoverishing, lackluster, deprecating thoughts. They may or may not practice affirmations as we discuss here but they certainly think differently than most of the rest of the world. They most assuredly feel they deserve to be wealthy and that money is plentiful, easy to make and attain. The see opportunity all around them because they are primed to see it. If they loose money they will just make some more. Money is to enjoy life. Abundance is wonderful!

Their thoughts, their attitude is primed to help them advance. We can adopt the good components of their mind set to advance ourselves as well. The same is true about people who have health, loving relationships, are great parents, athletes and successful in any other ways. Attitude is everything. Attitude determines your altitude!

Affirmations allow us to look for examples in the world around us and find them. People erroneously think ‘Seeing is believing’ but it is actually reversed. ‘What we believe determines what we see’. This is verified over and over again by research. We also tend to live up to the expectations placed on us by others and by ourselves. Our mind set is critical to how far we are able to go and what we are able to be and do.

When you begin to look for good things around you instead of the bad things you will find them. The affirmation is an organizing principle around which we wrap our perceptions. You will find reasons to be joyful, happy, healthy and whole. If you look for the negative, the hurtful, the unfair you will find those too. Everything, all contrasts exist. What you seek you will find. What are you seeking most of the time?

Affirmations filter and organize our thoughts and determine what we pay attention to. We look for and notice that which helps us feel great. Look around and notice what is good, great, and wonderful! Notice what you are thankful for and delighted in more and more during your day. Stop paying attention to that which is negative, less than glorious and makes you feel bad. What do you spend most of your time doing?

Start validating the good things and don’t put energy into the bad things. It is NOT about wearing rosy tinted glasses and ignoring needs and problems. It is all about being in a positive and productive place to meet those needs and solve those problems.

Much more is possible and probable when you feel better. You are far more resourceful when you feel good and do not let yourself get bogged down in negative or bad feelings when facing difficulty.

When you think abundantly you begin to realize everything is an opportunity. When all of your energy is the highest and most positive form you attract other like minded people to you. You mind opens up to possibility and you are more readily able to recognize opportunity and positive circumstances and events as they occur.

As you raise your stock in yourself, your confidence and your sense of worth soars you move differently in the world and travel to different places too. You have the mindset to find advantages and to act resourcefully. It all begins within us! Unfortunately, too many people think it comes from the outside. That is why there are so many not living the life they want to live. Our thoughts make it so!

Affirmations help us organize our thoughts and see what else is possible in us and around us. They are positive thoughts and statements we can embrace and operate from to feel better and do better. I would rather fill my mind with thoughts of encouragement and support than anything otherwise. Wouldn’t you?” Rex Sikes

We will continue to discuss this further in upcoming posts.

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The Power Of Thinking Positive PT 5 How To Stop Wasting Your Time And Energy

November 3, 2014 rexsikes 1 Comment

“In the buffet line you choose what you want and pass over what you don’t want. What you do not want and don’t like you do not give another thought to. Instead you select from what you want to enjoy, you focus on what it is you like and exclude the rest. You do not beat yourself up because there are items on the buffet that are not for you.

Continued from: The Power of Thinking Positive! How To Make Your Thoughts Work For You Parts 1- 4.

It is the same in everyday life. We need to keep our eye and our mind on the good now in our present and the good future we want to create. This is where we keep our attention and our energy.

Do not get distracted by present circumstances no matter what they are. Even if everything around you is crappy you still focus and concentrate on the very best you can find now and in the future.

Your goal should be to feel good. You should feel the best you are able to any given moment. When you are feeling joyful, happy and confident, you are in a better place to make your dreams come true. You literally vibrate at a higher level. You are more powerful and attractive. Well-being radiates from you. When you move through the world with power in this fashion you attract others of like mind and energy.

Here is another analogy. Imagine you want to build a house. You design it and plan it and get it just the way you want it. It is your dream home. You get everything in place to build it. Even though there may be problems with the land, the contractors, and the money, you still keep your focus on what it is you want to build.

Don’t let the other things take you attention away from what you know you want. Keep your eyes on the home you intend to build for yourself while you work to get it built. Do not get caught up in the everyday events and forget about your dream home. Do not let any circumstances shift your focus from what you want to build and have for yourself.

There are always difficulties and challenges. That is part of life. Do not make them bigger or more important than what you want. Do not get hooked or distracted or caught up by mundane or terrible circumstances. Do not focus on what you don’t want and what the problems are.

People think they have to focus on or deal with what they don’t want in order to make things better. You don’t! Yes, you may have to solve present circumstances but don’t let whatever less than glorious events or people life presents you with take you away from what you want. Do not give your energy to the problem give it to the solution. Keep it on what you want to have.

You will NOT get what you want by paying attention and giving energy to what you don’t want. It does not work that way. In all likelihood it just is not going to happen. You will only waste your time and your energy and remain pretty much in the same stuck place.

Yes, you can notice the problems and you know you don’t want them. You can acknowledge them but don’t give your energy to them.

Turn your attention back to what you do want and keep working to make that happen. Remain positive, optimistic, dedicated and focused.

Do this and you use the positive force of your mind and being instead of accepting the negative circumstances. Choose to prevail instead of succumb. Live as a victor and not a victim.

Most people get caught up in an endless array of details and lose sight of the goal. They go back and forth, they live wishy washy, they drift like a captainless ship at sea. They hope and then doubt and then hope again. They try and then get frustrated. They are positive then fearful, eager then anxious and this is what confuses the unconscious. The back and forth of emotions sends mixed messages so we produce mixed results. If you think wishy washy you get wishy washy.

Remember the principle of garbage in garbage out (GIGO). Whatever we put into the brain is what we get back out. If we write a bad software program we get poor results from the computer. We can’t run our engine on anything but the appropriate fuel. In order to get what we want we must do what it takes.

I am not suggesting that we have to work physically harder or longer either. That is a mistake to think that. We need to work smarter and wiser. It begins inside our head where everything begins. It begins with the thoughts we have. It begins with the seeds we plant. We can only reap what we have sown.

I am not suggesting we sit alone in our room and concentrate on having material goods somehow magically shower down on us either. That is not going to happen. It doesn’t appear to work that way.

What does work is that we organize our thinking first, this helps organize our behaviors and then we work smarter, wiser and more efficiently at getting what we want. We make it happen because we are at cause. We are in charge. We are in control. We create and we attract what we want.

We accelerate our potential to make it happen because we align our entire being in that mission. We are congruent, devoted, dedicated, focused, concentrated and passionate about making it happen. We become a person who is able to get what they want.

It is evolution. We evolve ourself, we make ourself into the kind of person who gets what they set out to get. In order to be that kind of person we must send a single clear, powerful message!

Positive Thinking is the ability to know exactly what it is you want, maintain your focus and your attitude, and stick with it until you make it yours. Trouble may come and go, you may adjust your plans but you expect to win no matter what. You focus on the good, the solutions, what can be done and you do it.

Positive Thinking training is learning how to focus your mind like a laser and target what you want so that you get it. When you aim at the target you focus where you want to hit. You don’t worry about the rest of the target or what is off the target you put your concentration where you want the projectile to land.

I have provided some analogies here for consideration. The point is this: it is all about where you put your attention. Energy flows where attention goes! Keep your attention where it is most useful and let go of the rest.” Rex Sikes

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The Power Of Thinking Positive PT 4 Repetition: What You Need To Understand

November 2, 2014 rexsikes 1 Comment

Our world functions repetitively. Day becomes night, seasons come and go, you wake up, follow a routine, work, play, watch the same TV shows and do it all over again and again. Our lives our based on repetition and habit. Repetition by itself can be powerful. You know that you can expect results when you correctly repeat exercises. When you repeatedly practice any skill you get better at it.

Continued from: The Power of Thinking Positive! How To Make Your Thoughts Work For You Parts 1- 3.

Advertisers know that repetition and repeated exposure creates awareness and brand identity. It has been said and demonstrated that ‘a lie repeated long enough and often enough becomes substituted for the truth’. Governments and advertisers have prospered and benefited from propaganda. So a lie constantly stated can become believed and accepted as truth.

An affirmation isn’t a lie it is an accurate statement. It may feel like or seem like a lie because you don’t think it applies to you. It may not be in your thinking or view of yourself or the world to accept it as a fact. So for you it may not seem true. But it can be true for you. It can become your truth!

Advertisers, media, politicians and all governments know (and they have invested billions in researching this area), that if you constantly present a notion, by repetition, to people many of they will gradually come to accept it.

Researchers also discovered that people will usually become more tolerant when repeatedly exposed to other people, other ideas and practices. We become less afraid and more accepting of that which is familiar. We find areas of commonality or overlap and we become more accepting.

We allow more and are more willing to entertain notions the more we see or hear them. This is why radio, TV, magazine, billboard and all media advertising is effective. It is through repeated exposure that ideas can become more acceptable to us. Do you think all the billions would be spent if it didn’t work?

Even fears and phobias can be overcome by the appropriate repeated exposure to what is feared. Systematic Desensitization is a method of safely exposing the person bit by bit to what they fear most. It works.

Studies suggest we tolerate more televised violence when we repeatedly watch violent and horrific shows and news. We become less sensitive to it. Lies become accepted as true, violence becomes less horrible, people and concepts become more familiar when exposed to them enough times. It works.

So when you repeat affirmations over and over again your resistance to these ideas breaks down. Gradually, you begin to accept and believe them. Ultimately, you embrace these new thoughts and begin to operate from them. You make them your own thinking and your new beliefs. You do this by constantly exposing your mind to the positive ideas!

Repetition works and there is a way to make sure it works even better. Advertisers, media, military and governments know that to make this process maximally effective you have to emotionally hook or involve the person. YOUR emotions are the key. YOUR strong emotions are the mechanism that makes this work faster and efficiently.

So while repeating an affirmation such as, ‘everyday in every way I am getting better and better’ lifelessly may transform you, it may take a a very long time. It can work but there is a more effective way to insure success. You do want success don’t you?

To get the most powerful results you pair your affirmation with tremendous positive energy while you think and say them. For affirmations to work the best and the swiftest they need to be repeated with dynamic energy and enthusiasm. The stronger your feelings the more you reinforce whatever is going on.

Do you understand this process? Your life already works this way. You have unwittingly engaged in this process again and again. Sometimes you got good results, sometimes poor results, sometimes wishy washy results. What you did not get is consistent positive results. You used this process haphazardly and without conscious determined awareness. You having been doing this all along!

Your emotions paired with your thoughts have already programmed you. Your emotions lock in your thinking. Now it is time to take charge and deliberately control what you think and do and what you get back. To use an analogy, your ship has been drifting and now it is time for you take control and steer it to where you want it to go. You choose the destination and you get it there! (The appropriate designation for ship would be to use ‘her’, when referring to the ship. I didn’t).

There is good news! You don’t have to learn to do anything new. You are already doing what works but you have been using it poorly. You have been effectively using this process, without awareness, over and over again to get what you didn’t want. Now, instead, begin using it purposefully to get what you DO want!

All you have to do NOW is begin to make a few adjustments and you can get on track to get what you want. You use what you already do naturally, but you use it in a NEW way.

Now, emphasize the positive most of the time and let go of the negative. Accentuate the positive and fill yourself up with positive powerful energy. Keep your positivity banks full, more full than the negativity bank. Go for 70% 80% 90% positive and you will experience great changes.

So what to do?

First, you have to decide that YOU want to make the change and that you will begin. You choose. Then you aim your mind toward what is good and new and delightful. Aim your mind at what you want and focus on that intently. You concentrate your energy and your thinking on the positive and let go of the negative.

One key to finding the positive energy and enthusiasm is to look at what you are already grateful for in your past and present life. Take an inventory of all that you are thankful for, all that feels good, whatever you have accomplished, anything and everything, and everyone and accentuate it. Do this everyday! Do it morning and at night and re-visit it during the day.

Focus on the sense of thankfulness and stay with the appreciation. Look around you at everything that is good and that uplifts you. Remember, what we focus on expands. We get and become what we think about most often. What we hold in our mind we can some day hold in our hand.

Read inspirational material everyday. Fill your mind with strong positive messages. Make it a habit to feed yourself positive food for thought daily. Commit to reading at least a page. You can do at least one page! Certainly, you can do more if you want. Make the commitment to never go a day without at least reading one page of positive, inspirational, motivational, nutritional messages. You can do this!

Listen to audio programs and watch motivational videos. There is plenty of free material on the internet. Turn your drive time into inspirational and educational time.

If you are typically dour, or unable to find anything, then you may have to pull yourself up using your own boot straps. Take a walk, and emphatically with powerful determination chant an affirmation. Repeat it while exercising, do jumping jacks or something that gets all of your being, inside and out, moving. Move vigorously. Remember what the military does to train troops. Find a buddy to partner, if that helps. Share your inspiration and enthusiasm! Put a program of action to work for yourself. Even if all this comes easy for you you can do these things too if you like.

Add delight, enjoyment, enthusiasm, eagerness, positive feelings, happiness, and excitement when you think and repeat your affirmations. Do this morning and night and throughout the day. Sing them, chant them, shout them in your car with a smile. Add uplifting energy to your affirmations. Make each of your moments count. Write them out and put them where you will see them.

I’ll share more next time. One of my favorite thoughts I use as an affirmation is a biblical saying ‘ this is the day the lord has made, rejoice and be glad in it’. It reminds me to be thankful, and to look for the good. I want to begin the day with gratitude and rejoicing. I return to this thought frequently throughout the day and at times when difficulty presents itself.

I think, ‘It is all good. Good things are happening even though I don’t know what they are, yet. Everything always works out for the best. Everything will work out because this is the day the lord hath made, rejoice and be glad in it.’

Remember the more you do the more you are able to do. The more you feel good and think positive the more you will make that happen for yourself. The more you will benefit because you take action and start the process. Train yourself to feel good and to look for the good and that is what you will find and have.

If you get off base nudge yourself back to the positive. When you steer yourself back to what you want, when you steer back to the positive you begin to send a clear single powerful message to your unconscious servo mechanism that this is what you want more of.

I repeat: YOU focus on what YOU want. Concentrate on it and fill your mind and being with good thoughts and feelings. If you get off base steer back to the positive. Course correct and get back on course. Always aim at your target and nowhere else!

When you maintain this practice you inform your unconscious servant that this is what you want ALL the time. Program your brain, your mind and being for success. Determine what you want and forgo what you don’t just as when you are at a buffet table. As you do this repeatedly, through time, you are developing positive habits which work automatically.

These are the seeds you plant. Expect to reap good things when you plant good strong seeds. You WILL reap if YOU first plant them.

This is necessary to understand. PLANT positive seeds and NURTURE them to fruition. They will grow and flower and you will benefit again and again as they do. EXPECT a great harvest. When the time comes you will REAP even more of the benefits. Actually, you will benefit all along the way. It IS a very enjoyable process once you begin.” Rex Sikes

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The Power Of Thinking Positive PT 3 How To Start Getting What You Want!

November 1, 2014 rexsikes Leave a comment

“Quantity is one thing. How much, how often, for how long is necessary to consider, it is important, but quality matters too. It matters a lot! Some people lifelessly repeat an affirmation perhaps thousands of times expecting it to somehow transform them. It usually doesn’t. It may, but rarely. Listless repeating of a phrase is not the correct application of this practice.

It is not the words that make the difference but the energy behind the words. That is the ‘special something’ required that makes it work.

We continue from The Power of Thinking Positive! How To Make Your Thoughts Work For You Parts 1 and 2.

Since we get back whatever we are thinking about and feeling strongly about now is the time to consider choosing what one wants instead of allowing for whatever happens.

When we are angry or fearful we are thinking and feeling powerful thoughts which the unconscious mind receives as a message to deliver more of the same. It gets the energy of the thoughts and feelings.

Instead of letting this negativity go on and on we need to first decide to change it and begin having the life and getting the things we want. This is why we choose to focus on what we want. We shift our attention and our energy.

To make this shift we chose positive powerful thoughts and ideas to think. We choose to affirm instead of deny. We choose affirmations we want to focus on to direct our attention to those aspects of life we want to include and get for ourselves.

It is a means of directing our attention so that we PAY ATTENTION and concentrate on these. Whatever we hold most in our mind most often is what we get and become.

Everything is Energy!

A person should choose an affirmation and put power behind it. It requires energy and enthusiasm when you think and utter the affirmation. Emotion and energy IS what makes the difference! Sadly, these are what is left out of affirmation training. Yes, I said training because just like exercise or dieting it means adhering to the program.

Energy and enthusiasm is important. Big emotions are what capture the attention of the unconscious (servo-mechanism) mind.

Everything is energy!

When we feel bad we are feeling and endorsing that energy. When we feel good we are feeling and endorsing that energy. Whatever energy we experience most determines what our life is like.

Everything is energy!

Positive Thinking Training – Train your mind to see the good things in everything. When you focus on the positive energy you find more of it.

The military understands how to transform a human’s thinking. They make troops chant, scream, sing what they want to instill in them during all different forms of physical activity, stress, exhilaration and exhaustion. They want their training to stick so that lives are saved.

They train rigorously so that when the troop needs to react without thinking the troop will. If some one yells ‘hit the dirt’ they must without hesitation or thinking about it. Therefore they undergo intense physical, mental and attitudinal training to wire in what is critical to their survival. They want it automatic and reliable.

Stay with it. Never give up! IT will get easier as you go along. Your skills and abilities increase with practice in time. You will get better and it will get easier. BUT even if it never got any easier you should stay with it. When you make having it a necessity you will get it.

Passion drives everything. When ‘YOU MUST’ is what opens the doors. Wimpy and shallow doesn’t get the prize. Think Olympic contenders and what they do for years to compete for seconds. Their attitude and their training is rigorous. Their attitude and training determines how far they can go. Even if they fail to win the gold they are in the top tier of world class athletes.

Using affirmations and learning to embody the practice can be a whole lot more fun and less stressful than military training, it can be wonderful, but there are take away points to utilize from that style of immersion. Troops undergo intense process, it is highly emotional, and there is little let up during the training.

Keep in mind the military is attempting to break the habitual thinking the troop has when they arrive at camp and instill a new one. Frankly, it is brainwashing. Whether you agree or disagree with the practice or the military is a consideration for a different discussion. I am not agreeing nor disagreeing with it but utilizing aspects to make a point.

Brains could use a good washing from time to time. If you have habitually a bad attitude and aren’t getting the results you want then a change may be in order. If you want to transform and if you want it to be different IT absolutely can be. But there is a price for that change. The price is what you are willing to do to have what you want (legally of course). That does not mean we become what we wish about.

Rather, we become what we obsess about, what we are passionate about, what we feel strongly about. That includes the good feelings and what we fear, loathe and are angry about. We become whatever we hold in our minds strongly with strong feelings. We get back whatever we give the energy to. This is why it is important to realize that positive thinking is a choice.

It means you begin the program and stay with it for however long it takes. If it took 3 months, 1 year, 5 years or longer you stick with it. You decide to dedicate yourself to yourself! You chose to do everything you can to be the person you want to be no matter how long it takes. You don’t dabble or drift, you pursue it and passionately. Passion fuels everything! Passion is the fire and you need the fire!

We will continue next time. For now know that learning to be more positive can be one of the most joyous and delightful journeys you ever take. I use the examples of the military and athlete training as examples of how far people are willing to go to get what they want.

You can train hard for certain just as you can work hard. OR you can learn to be both smart and wise and learn how to enjoy and delight in the process. The art and science of getting what you what you want in life doesn’t need to be arduous or difficult but it is not pie in the sky either.

You can find and have more fun than you every thought possible, you can celebrate and discover all sorts of marvelous feelings and experiences along the way. It can be like a buffet and you can have all the wonderful delicious things too.

It is true you can’t give up along the way to your destination and still expect to get there because you won’t. BUT you can make the journey so incredible, so marvelous that giving up would never ever occur to you. So get everything you deserve to have and start today!” Rex Sikes

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The Power Of Thinking Positive PT 2 How To Stop Getting What You Don’t Want!

October 31, 2014 rexsikes Leave a comment

“Our unconscious mind (the servo mechanism) does not distinguish between good or bad, right or wrong, the wanted or unwanted. It just goes wherever you place your attention. Whatever you focus on it works to create, manifest or attract. It doesn’t care it is simply blindly obedient. Whatever you think about most of the time and feel emotional about you end up getting more of in your life.

This unconscious servant works perfectly and reliably. The results you get in life are due to your attention and feelings. What you focus on is what you get and become.

This point is important as we continue our discussion on Positive Thinking. Continued from: The Power of Thinking Positive! How To Make Your Thoughts Work For You.

When you feel frustrated, angry, disappointed, annoyed, sad, stressed, doubt, afraid, anxious, fearful, any less than glorious feeling you are reinforcing that feeling in your body and your mind.

The unconscious mechanism runs off our feelings. Whatever we experience strongly it works to reinforce, re-create and bring us more of. It is as if this servant thinks, ‘if this is what the human wants, okay let’s give the human more!’

The same is true when we feel happy, joy, bliss, confidence, love, peace, calm, whatever we feel strongly the unconscious mind works to deliver more of. This is why it is important for us to choose what we think about and how we feel.

Every emotion is an important one. You and I will at times experience them all. All emotions are part of being human. Contrast is a part of the human and experience in our universe. There is hot, cold, light, dark, day, night, near, far, fast, slow, tall, short, fat, thin, rough, smooth, black, white, red, green, good, bad, wanted and unwanted, happy, sad, confident, not-confident and many more.

All of these contrasts we notice through our five senses. In order to notice the difference between these some form of evaluation is necessary. Some could be noticed without judgement or with judgement.

For example, something could be near or far away. That may not require any feeling about it but one could judge it as either better or worse. Humans label and humans judge. One might feel it is better if it were nearer or if it farther away.

Whatever the distance is JUST IS. The human decides whether it is a good or bad thing. Sometimes this works in the human’s favor and at other times it presents a limitation or difficulty for the human.

Whatever we feel about these constitutes an opinion. We all know what they say about opinions right? We all have them but they do not make anything inherently right or wrong. We just think our opinions matter.

The same is true about emotions. They are all valid. They are all important. We will experience all or most of them during our lifetime. This is a given. Just as when you pick up a stick from the ground you pick up both ends of the stick. So all emotions are part of being human and Positive Thinking IS NOT about ignoring or blocking emotions.

Since we have the potential to feel an emotional range accept that. We shouldn’t fight our emotions we should accept and allow them. Feeling is what being human is all about.

When we have the less than glorious emotions or something that we do not want acknowledge them and then, when ready, move on. We do not have to be stuck there. We do not have to be in a place we don’t want to be, or at least not for very long.

I use the analogy of the buffet. If there are food items you don’t like or don’t want you don’t choose them. If you take something you don’t like and you think, ‘yuk’ you put it down and move onto something else you do like.

If there is a food you spot that you abhor you know you don’t want it so you are free not to have it. You are also free to choose whatever else you do prefer. You do not keep reliving the moment you chose to eat a food you don’t like. You let it go and move on.

In the same way if there is a feeling we don’t want acknowledge it and move on. When we fight the feeling we get stuck in the fighting of it. What we resist persists. SO acknowledge, accept, let go and then turn your back on it and nudge yourself in the direction you want to go.

Yes, gently you turn your back on the unwanted thought or feeling and take a small step toward the ones you do want. Move in increments toward the positive. Take baby steps. Steer back to center as I have mentioned numerous times before.

The key is you. You are either in control or you are not. You either choose what to experience or you don’t. It may seem tough because most of us were not educated that we could do this as we grew up so it seems foreign or difficult. Like any other skill or talent it can be learned. Yes, it can be learned and you can learn it!

Since the unconscious works to manifest more of whatever we feel strongly the POWER of positive thinking IS in choosing what we want to manifest for ourselves. It is a choice point for each of us.

Positive thinking is about making a decision in the moment. You make the decision to think better, more productively than you may have been. Positive thinking IS A CHOICE!

Just like the buffet items are choices. Either you want it or you don’t. If you don’t want it you let it go and decide to enjoy something you do want. You turn your attention to what you like and find delicious. You move on down the line choosing what you want.

This is precisely the same thing we ought to do with out thoughts and feelings!

We choose what we enjoy and find wonderful then we reinforce it. We savor it, bask in it, imbibe it, fill ourselves up with it, spend the bulk of our time there, put our awareness or attention on it and think about it and feel good more of our time than otherwise.

When something comes up that is unwanted, yes, we notice it and gently turn our attention back to what we want as soon as we are able. Sometimes we take longer sometimes we can adjust more quickly. We move on to what we do want and not give another thought to what we don’t want JUST as we do in a buffet line.

We develop the habit of FOCUSING on and CHOOSING what we want.

We develop the habit of SPENDING time with what we want to feel and enjoy.

When something comes up that is less than glorious we develop the habit of NOTICING it and then TURNING OUR ATTENTION back to what we want as soon as possible.

We develop the habit of MOVING BACK TOWARD what we want when we are off track. We steer to center.

We are learning to make new abilities automatic and reliable through repetition.

Naturally we end up spending a greater portion of our time becoming aware, focusing on and thinking positive thoughts and feeling positive feelings as we do this.

The greater proportion of our time devoted to the positive the more we create and attract greater positive results. WE get and we become what we think about most of the time, This is why WHAT WE CHOOSE to focus on is important!

Think pleasure and pain. Which do you want more of? Which do you want to spend most of your day feeling? It seems a no brainer to me, but apparently not everyone thinks the same way.

What we do is reinforce what we want to think, be, do and have. We reinforce what we want to feel. We concentrate on that which makes us feel alive, vibrant, confident, positive so that we are more resourceful most of the time.

The key is in reinforcing what we want more of and letting go of that which we don’t want. It is not really a difficult concept for most to understand, yet, many do. We are telling our brain, our mind, the servo mechanism, our being, we want THIS, not that.

We want more of this and less of that. Whenever we steer our feelings and thoughts to what we want we are educating our servant to give us more of the same. We focus on what we want on the buffet table and ignore or pass over (without much thought at all) that which we do not want.

We don’t give any energy to what we don’t want because that would confuse the poor servant and bring us questionable, lackluster results. ‘Attention flows where the energy goes’ so our servant mind gets that THIS, these positive feelings and thoughts, are what we want more of. We send it a clear, distinct, definite signal. We provide it a clear, concrete, concise message ‘ GIVE ME MORE OF THIS!!!!

We focus on what we ‘can do’ what we can accomplish, we focus on what we want, how to get there, and solutions. We spend our time looking for and finding the best in ourself, others, circumstances and events. When we do this, repeatedly and often, as a lifestyle we begin to make it an automatic, reliable habit.

The unconscious servant, that doesn’t care about what it delivers, delivers to us what we want. We begin getting the results inside ourself that give us the edge when dealing with the outside. We enhance and improve our abilities and become more resourceful. We become more powerful and positive. We can accomplish more incredible things. ‘The more we do the more we can do’.

As Henry Ford said, ‘Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.’ It is totally and completely up to each of us to determine the present and future we want to have. We decide and we determine the results we want to get. The saying ‘if it is to be it is up to me’ is one to keep in mind.

Another powerful reminder is, ‘You are where your thoughts brought you. You will go where your thoughts take you. You cannot escape the power of your thoughts’. Soon I will share more on why we energize with positive feelings and why repetition is required.” Rex Sikes

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The Power Of Thinking Positive! How To Make Your Thoughts Work For You!

October 30, 2014 rexsikes 2 Comments

When one mentions positive thinking one sometimes is met with, ‘oh I tried that it did not work’. Another answer people may give is, ‘it is unrealistic to be positive all the time’. Both of these responses ARE the reason it did not or does not work for the people that hold to these ideas.

Positive thinking is a life style. It is a mind set, and attitude. The goal in learning to become more positive in your thinking is to make it a reliable habit so that it is available to you when you need it and when you don’t. It is just like eating, sleeping it is a daily nutritional activity. No one in their right mind would exclaim, ‘I tried eating once and it doesn’t work’. You eat regularly and sleep regularly to nourish your body and brain, to be healthy and re-vitalize your being. It isn’t something you try for a while or do once, you do it regularly as habit AND, of course, because it is a physical necessity.

Positive thinking works like exercise. Some people don’t like exercise, they don’t want to do it and they don’t get enough. Others enjoy it immensely and benefit greatly. Some see benefits but struggle and stick with it. Others not seeing benefits soon enough give up. Exercise is a conditioning process. You have to do it and repeat it regularly to get results and to make it a habit. It is true that life may interrupt, things come up and schedules change, but those who know the benefits and have made it a habit find a way to return to it, or to modify their program until able to resume full time but they don’t just give up and quit.

If someone said ‘I tried exercise once and it didn’t work’ what would you think of them or their claim? The reason why positive thinking doesn’t work for some people is they don’t actually do it nor do they do it long enough. They dabble, they dip their toe, they find some affirmation and they say it sometimes but not enough. They don’t really get with the program. They don’t embrace it. For it to become a habit it you need to do it enough. How much is enough for any one person no one can truly say. Some may take longer than others. Whatever amount of time it takes is what it takes. Some people can’t handle the truth!

Researchers claim it takes a minimum of 21 days of concentrated, dedicated, correct repetition in order to begin to form a habit. That is the minimum time frame according to research. Typically, I tell people do it for at least 30 days. Those 30 days are really an introduction to possibilities. I never tell anyone do it for 30 days and you will have developed a life long habit because most of us know that just is not the case. We should be realistic after all.

What are the legitimate claims of legitimate exercise programs? Usually, not always, but usually they will state, ‘you will begin to see or feel results that you can be pleased within 90 days’. After 90 days of correct exercise you will be on your way toward what you want. You are not done yet but you are able to see some results that should motivate you to continue.

Consider someone loosing 100 or 200 pounds. It isn’t healthy or realistic to do it within a month. How long it takes depends on many factors. So what is a realistic time frame? Slower is better according to medical practitioners. Eventually, they will get back down to their desired weight IF THEY STICK WITH IT.

How long they keep it off also depends on whether they made lasting lifestyle changes in eating, nutrition, exercise, sleep, and in attitude. A large part of keeping weight off is managing what one puts in one’s body another part is what you think, believe and expect. Who you now consider yourself to be is important. Are you still a fat person on the inside or are you now a thin person? Are you someone who can easily eat,exercise and sleep well or are you someone who struggles with it? There are numerous factors in succeeding to lose and keep weight off and yet enough people do it. They succeed because they LEARNED how to do it and then they DO what they learned ROUTINELY.

It can take a while to change life long habits. Habits are difficult to break. THAT is why it is important to make GOOD habits because then these good habits will be hard to break. Habits are powerful things. They are consistent. It means we behave in predictable ways. If we have a lifetime of bad eating it is unlikely a miraculous change will occur overnight. While it CAN happen it is not likely. The odds aren’t with it but it could and does happen sometimes. ANYTHING is possible.

Still, if one has a lifetime of poor eating habits, bad food choices, over consuming, lack of exercise, poor sleep and crappy attitude then one should expect that it may take a while to overhaul everything. Even if one works at one thing at a time it may take a while. SO be prepared for it to take forever and then whenever you succeed you will be happy it didn’t take that long. Alright, I half kid here, but really, you have to approach it as if you WILL succeed! The WHEN is not important!

Kids come to Hollywood wanting to be in show business and exclaim, ‘I’ll give it a year’ or they have a five year or some amount of time trial period. Frankly, most of those will quit. They will give up and go home and do something else. The ones that make it have no alternative BUT to succeed. They don’t care when they make it – they KNOW they WILL get to the top. They know nothing will hold them back and that no matter what they are going to be a star. Disappointments may follow but they stay with it and they keep at it until they succeed.

This is the attitude you need to adopt for Hollywood success or ANY success. This is what you need to think and feel when you begin to think positively. It isn’t how long that is important!!! If you make it about time you will quit in time. Whenever it happens for you is when it happens keep doing what you are doing and enjoy the journey!

Stay with it. Never give up! IT will get easier as you go along but even if it doesn’t stick with it. When you make having it a necessity you will get it. Passion drives everything. When YOU MUST is what opens the doors. Wimpy and shallow doesn’t get the prize. Think Olympic contenders and what they do for years to compete for seconds. Their attitude and their training is rigorous. Their attitude and training determines how far they can go. Even if they fail to win the gold they are in the top tier of world class athletes.

Most people today want change to occur while they are chowing down on junk food channel surfing. They want it instantly and magically. They don’t want to have to do anything for it. They don’t want to change their thoughts or their efforts, yet that is precisely what is required. ‘We become what we think about’.

That does not mean we become what we wish about. Rather, we become what we obsess about, what we are passionate about, what we feel strongly about. That includes the good feelings and what we fear, loathe and are angry about. We become whatever we hold in our minds strongly with strong feelings. This is why it is important to realize that positive thinking is a choice.

We choose what we fill our minds with and what we feel strongly about. We exercise control, we take charge. Instead of letting the mind and feelings run us we run them. We run our thoughts and our feelings so that we get better, more positive results. We chose to take control so that we get what we want instead of what we don’t want. We fill our minds with what we want to become and then we keep doing it until we become it! More next time.” Rex SIkes

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How To Get Unstuck And Move Ahead Successfully

October 29, 2014 rexsikes 1 Comment

‘Standing is harder than moving’, it is true. Try standing in one spot for an hour, or even less time and you will find it difficult. Walking for the same amount of time not so tough (for most of us). Standing is harder than moving is a great way of saying it is difficult to be stuck. Stuck conveys the notion of no movement.

One can be stuck mentally or physically. When your car is stuck in the mud you aren’t going anywhere. When you car is stuck what are you trying to get it to do? Move, right. Yes, the wheels may be spinning, there is some movement, but not the kind that results in the car moving from stuck in the mud.

The movement has to have some friction in order to get the car going. It has to make contact in the right way for it to be meaningful. Random extraneous movement like spinning your wheels doesn’t get the car anywhere unless you can actually some how move the car itself, or change the position, or the environment so that contact can be made. Once made you may actually get the car out of the mud.

My point is that sometimes we get stuck and that is difficult. We aren’t going anywhere just as the car doesn’t. We may be spinning our wheels meaning we make no significant forward progress because our efforts are not effective. We keep doing the same thing over and over, as the spinning wheel does, but nothing changes. If we expect it all to change that is the definition of insanity. Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.

Being stuck is difficult just as standing is harder than moving. When we walk we are moving all of our muscles together so we don’t feel the effect of gravity on us nearly as much as when we remain in one position, in one place. So these analogies remind us of at least one or two meaningful thoughts we might be able to apply to our own life and circumstance.

When the car is stuck you try to create forward OR backward movement. Any movement that will get it going and get it unstuck. Assuming all things equal it wouldn’t matter if you back out or pull forward you just know you need to move in a direction to get out of there.

You also know how you mentally feel when your car is stuck. You have things to do and places to be and now you have to stop and deal with this. It is annoying, at the very least, most probably. The mind goes to the problem, perhaps to how late one will be or whatever other less than glorious thoughts arise. Frankly, it sucks.

SO when stuck lot’s of less than productive things occur. There is no movement, it is difficult to remain in one place. We may spin our wheels and think less than productive thoughts all the while trying to get unstuck. We work ourselves up, get frustrated or angry, fear the worst, being late or missing out (whatever it may be) and none of these things help us to get unstuck. In fact, they don’t help at all. In fact, they may inhibit any success because they create more stress physically, mentally and emotionally. Stress in not too useful when you want to find solutions and solve problems.

So what to do?

What one MIGHT do is Stop for a second. TAKE a deep breath. Let it out slowly. Take another or as many as you need to to calm down and relax a bit. You aren’t going anywhere so there is nothing to do in the moment but relax. Let out a sigh… and chill for a moment.

Once you do this it IS as if, using another car analogy, you put yourself into neutral. When you drive using a manual or stick transmission you pass through neutral to changes gears or direction. SO put yourself into neutral for a moment so you can better decide where to mentally move next. You need a moment to get away from the energy drain or the stress that is the immediate problem. For most people being clear headed works better to make changes and find solutions that being angry and uptight. The brain just works better when given the opportunity to find solutions instead of focusing over and over on what is wrong.

I mean really, when you do focus on what is wrong it expands in your mind, doesn’t it? It may become way more important than it actually is? You may really become hot and bothered in a negative way. This is not where most people would choose to be or want to feel. To be different in that moment we need to learn to do things differently.

If we keep doing what we always did expecting things to somehow be different well, that IS insane. Remember?

SO take a short break, put yourself in neutral. Sigh, let go, take a bit of a walk. Remember walking is easier than standing still. When all your parts are moving your brain works better too. Many people pace or walk when on the phone for example. Whenever you have a problem it is easier to find solutions when you walk. IT REALLY IS!

For people in therapy, it would be much more effective if the counselor and the client, or therapist and patient walked during the session than if they sit in the chairs. When we sit, we get stuck, entrenched, we maintain a position (literally and figuratively) and it is as if we freeze everything. PLUS, we associate problems to the chair we are seated in. Every week the client comes in and sits down to pour out their problems. The chair, the feeling of being in the same chair, what they see always sitting in the same chair, the same way, looking at the same things while thinking of what is wrong makes it easier to find what is wrong, the problem, and it is much tougher to find solutions or what is right. Minds travel in directions.

Once they pour out their problems the two should get up and walk to find solutions. Move from stuck to neutral and walk. Don’t just sit in the same place, facing in the same direction. It is harder to come up with new possibilities after focusing on problems for many minutes. SO change what you are doing. This applies to sitting over a conference table or arguing over the dinner table. We become anchored to a way of thinking, being and acting, we literally ‘take a position’ and defend it. When you want to discuss possibilities take a walk.

Think about people fighting. Boxers square off and face each other. From this position they fight. They couldn’t fight much standing side by side facing in the same direction, like when you walk together. When you both walk along side by side you explore things together, you discover things nearly simultaneously. You are walking along and seeing the same things, moving at the same pace, you are more in harmony figuratively and literally. It is easier to come to an agreement or find a mutually acceptable solution, or the client or patient to find possibilities when moving, when not entrenched, stuck sitting or defending a position. Really, I mean try it for yourself! It can work wonders!

Get up, get moving, get breathing, get thinking in new ways. The energy shifts just in doing these things.

If someone is ranting and raging getting them to stop and sit down is difficult because all the energy is moving rapidly and strongly. They literally may have to walk it off and slow down. They must change their breathing gradually to deescalate. They need to shift their body eventually into neutral. Really think about it. Watch someone get over being angry, watch the ‘unwind’, the release, the eventual ‘let go’ and the breathing changes.

Sometimes you may need to cool down. You are best served if you understand how to do it in advance of when you need it. That is successfully utilizing your resources. Remember the motto, ‘always prepared’. When you know what to do before you need it you are better able to navigate any circumstance.

A trick paramedics know is that when someone has a sudden change of circumstances (for example an accident but they aren’t injured) the body may pump adrenaline – it actually will. Adrenaline provides us energy for our fight or flight. In the olden jungle days, when we hunted and gathered we probably had more encounters or reasons for our body to flood us with adrenaline. Today, in our cubicle world of artificial lights and computers we have less physical threats or events that require sudden adrenaline release. Still, a perceived threat, an imagined threat results in adrenaline being pumped.

Okay, I digress, back to the paramedic point. When someone is flooding with adrenaline the paramedic knows not to have them sit down or lie down but tells them to walk it off in a safe place. They may move them out of traffic into a safe area and walk with them. The body needs time to release and process the adrenaline and eventualyl return to normal. Sitting or lying down first is not the correct thing to do. Walk it off until you CAN sit or lie down.

If on the other hand you are bored or depressed you need to energize and move. You need to change how you use your body, how you breath. You need to change your view literally. You need variety in what you see when you look around. SO move, walk and walk with energy, look around and listen. It is time to get out of your head and experience the outer world again. It is time to get the body pumping some chemicals and hormones that make you feel better (like endorphins).

This applies to the raging person as well. You need to change your internal mental view AND YOUR outside view in order to relax, calm down and become more resourceful again.

When you create movement in your body you create movement in your mind and vice versa. For you to feel significant change the movement needs to be meaningful, it has to move you in the direction you want to go in. You need to connect just as the tire needs to connect with some surface in order to free the car from the mud. You need to move from neutral into the appropriate gear. Remember, neutral is a great place. It is useful and a good place to move through if you are bored and depressed. Whatever you feel strongly you are invested in. You are locked into it.

Neutral allows you to be elsewhere at the moment. It is far better to be in neutral than to be depressed. While it may sound similar neutral is a place of non-judgement. It is not lack of energy, it has it’s own energy that is different from whatever other things you may experience. Neutral is more akin to the notion of feeling or being centered, It is a place of acceptance and of allowing. Neutral is not a place of judgement or blame. It is a sense of let go and calm. It is a place from which one can move in any direction.

SO learn to find neutral for yourself. From neutral you can move in more productive directions. If you are stuck there is one thing you certainly need to do and you know what it is. You need to move. If you are stuck you need to do something else differently than what you are doing. For your life to change you have to change things in your life. To get different results from the ones you do not want you will have to do things in another way. You will need to adopt a different and more useful point of view.

I think the notion of ‘outlook’ is fascinating. People say, ‘what is your outlook?’ I think the term outlook is meaningful. It means to look out from behind your eyes. What do you see when you look out at the world? It is your out look.

Our attitude and our beliefs makes a big difference in what we see and what we are able to see. Our outlook on the world or our future, our forecast is determined by what we consider and think on the inside. We either think of the world as a wonderful place and enjoyable place or a horrible bad place to use extreme examples. Guess what. Whatever we think first determines what we pay attention to in order to validate our mindset. We attempt to make the outer world conform to our thoughts and expectations of it. What we think it is IS what it is even if we are wrong. Our senses often deceive us. Still we trust them for the most part.

Our mental filters can shade or color what we think and do, what we expect and make happen in the world or don’t. Our perceptions determine our reality more than reality itself. Actually, we are not really sure of what reality is only our version of it. Most of us will fight tooth and nail to defend what we think our truth is. We will fight because we think what we think is real. It isn’t but that does little to change us.

I decided a long time ago if this were the case and if I make up reality then it was time I make up a good one. I wanted a reality that serves me and suits me. Why live in a cruddy one when I can live in a glorious one? And this brings us back to our thoughts. Thoughts create, thoughts precede. Thoughts make a difference. So choose to think the very best thoughts and to find the very best thoughts and you will. When you think positive your world can be more positive.

Instead of being stuck and thinking thoughts that keep us there, shift into neutral. Take a physical and mental momentary break and from there choose what direction you will move in. Make contact and set a positive direction. Think positively. And keep thinking positive! Keep moving in the positive direction and you will find that moving is easier than standing. You will discover it getting easier and easier along the way because everything works together. Keep moving meaningfully.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step but to get to the destination you have to take the next step and then each step after that. Keep going. Correct repetition builds powerful positive habits. Get yourself unstuck whenever it occurs and move on forward into a more wonderful way of being.” Rex Sikes

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You Can Successfully Learn To Do Anything You Want To Do!

October 28, 2014 rexsikes Leave a comment

Ralph Waldo Emerson correctly points out that ‘Skill Comes Of Doing’. Onto that I piggy back William Hazlitt’s statement, ‘The More We Do The More We Can Do,’ because both statements are true. Once we begin to engage the process of thinking positively, learning to cook, or to perform asanas in yoga, paint, draw, write, exercise, ride a bike, ski, swim, or whatever it is we want to do we begin to learn it and practice it. In time we get better at it as long as we continue to do it.

So skill does come from doing AND the more we do the more we can do, the better we get at it. It is important to note that whatever is worth doing is worth doing poorly at first. None of us are experts when we first begin to do something new so we need not pressure ourselves or get frustrated. Instead, ease into it, be gentle, be accepting it won’t go perfectly well, it never does but with practice and by sticking with it you will improve. That is guaranteed!

It will get easier. You will get better.

Of course, there is the phenomenon of beginners luck. This is when we do surprisingly well at first only to drop off in performance a little later. It is truly lucky that we do well at first and somewhat due to the fact that we don’t know what to expect of ourselves. The drop off occurs because the brain actually has to catch up and organize and systematize all the new learning you acquire.

This process is a life long process. It occurs as long as we engage in skill development. There will come times when our skills plateau for a while. When in a plateau phase it is important to relax, let go, don’t push, take a small break and come back later refreshed and ready to continue. All it means is your mind and body are coordinating your efforts.

The point is you can do anything you set your mind to. While it may be difficult you will get better at it. Henry Ford reminds us. ‘If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right’. Attitude is important! It is important to believe you can do and accomplish anything you want to WHEN you learn how.

We are all already incredible learners. We have learned so many things from rolling over to crawling and sitting upright to walking. We have learned to feed ourselves, use the toilet, tie our shoes, to read and write. We learned many different subjects through the course of our education and many skills, talents and abilities as we have grown. What each of us can do is learn. As a species what we all are is learners.

Some of us are more methodical and take some time to acquire things others may be a bit more speedy. Some of us learn better through seeing and showing, others by listening and discussing, while others pick it up better when they get their hands on it, walk through it or engage their bodies too. To differing degrees we all utilize some of each of these areas in learning. We may all learn somewhat differently but we are all able to learn.

We all learn and can learn anything if we will allow ourselves to do what is required to learn it. For some it may take more or less time but eventually anyone can learn to do it. Whatever it is! We may not all be the very best at a particular area, or some areas may seem to present more difficulty than others to acquire but we still are capable to move forward and become the best we are able to when we dedicate ourselves to doing so.

If you want mastery you have to continue to do it. Keep in mind that anything can be difficult or a struggle, or it can be easy and fun, or it may be a bit of both. It will be whatever you decide to make it. Whatever you experience is primarily up to you!

Learning is easiest when it is fun, relaxed and when you really want to acquire the skill or the knowledge. It is beneficial when one is motivated to learn, has an open mind, is curious and expects good results. When challenges arise one looks at these in context and recognizes them for what they are. They are only hurdles on the track on the way to the finish line. Challenges stretch us and help us grow strong, plateaus help us assimilate what we are doing into our everyday abilities.

You go where your thoughts take you. If you really want to do something you will find a way; if you don’t you will find an excuse. ‘The Brain Is As Strong As It’s Weakest Think’, said Eleanor Dean and she is as right as Henry Ford.

It is the tap tap tap of the chisel that carves away the stone. It is the drip drip drip that eventually fills the tub. In order to succeed most easily we need a good frame of mind and we need to stay the course. We only ever fail when we quit. Challenges are opportunities. The daily application of what you are doing when you are learning builds the skill and the habit. The habit comes from successful repetition.

Your ability to transform your life is easy. Bit by bit you will make an incredible difference for yourself. Gradually though application and repetition you will develop the habits that serve you and help you make the most of yourself and your life. It is easy when you know how.

There will always be challenges and opportunities to grow and excel simply know and accept that fact of life. There will be times when it seems like you are stuck or not moving forward. You have plateaued that is part of life so accept this too. There will be times when it is incredibly easy and everything just flows! There will be moments of disappointment and moments of ecstasy. Most of all there will be many more moments you will absolutely enjoy!

You will make more of your moments marvelous. The glass half full with positive energy is better than half full of negativity or of nothing. Fill up your glass, fill up your life! Life can be anything you want it to be. You can be anything you want to be! It is never too late!

You can learn to do anything and have anything. If you put it off you will succeed in waiting longer for it to transpire. If you decide to seize the day, make the decision and follow through on it now, sooner rather than later it will all be yours. The moment is always now. Dedicate yourself to yourself. Choose to think and feel the very best and make each moment matter!

You will be so grateful when you do!” Rex Sikes

Make this day a wonderful one for yourself and others.

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You Become What You Think About? So…..

October 27, 2014 rexsikes Leave a comment

“Make today count! Meditate or think on this: ‘We become what we think about most of the time’.

What do you think about most frequently, what fills your thoughts throughout the day? Are they thoughts of happiness, well-being, positive action thoughts or whining, complaining and worry?

What you hold in your mind you hold in your body. Your feelings and actions are a result of your thinking AND vice versa. If you want your life to change for the better you have to change things in your life FOR THE BETTER.

So today become aware of where you spend your mind time, what you think about most frequently.

It doesn’t matter why you spend time thinking what you think. No reason or justification is necessary. No excuses either!

Just examine your thinking process and decide does it serve you as best it could or not? If not then improve it. If you want your life to change it is completely up to you.

Become aware and notice. Don’t judge, don’t chide yourself just notice what you mostly do and opt to make whatever you think better.

Make yourself think and feel a little more positive.

Put your attention on what is the best of yourself, other people, the event or situation. Focus on the good thoughts and feelings. Find the best and concentrate on staying with the best. Fill your mind and being with delight, appreciation, positive thoughts and feelings and notice the difference when you do this.

How much time each day do you nurture and nourish yourself? Make it a point to add to it. Amaze and astonish yourself. Celebrate and enjoy!” Rex SIkes

Marvel in each moment!

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When Will You Accept Your Destiny?

October 26, 2014 rexsikes Leave a comment

Embrace this notion fully: You are a creator. Only you are the master of your destiny. You are in charge!

Whether you think it so or not, everything you experience is because of you. Everything you have or don’t have, all that you are or aren’t is up to you. Accept it. Take responsibility for it.

You may disagree but what does that get you to do so? Perhaps, it gives you some comfort and consolation. You can debate it but to what end? Try the concept on instead, take responsibility for it all, your past, your present and your future.

I happen to think that this is the case but even if it isn’t accurate – when you embrace the notion it gives you power to transform yourself. It is a useful concept to adapt. Forget about ‘gospel’ truth, and consider it instead as a rule for helping you to get ahead. Use what works and discard that which does not.

When you take 100% responsibility for everything it puts you in squarely in charge.

Then it is only you who answers for the results you get or don’t.

There is no one to blame when things don’t work out. If things are to be brought about it will be because of you and not anyone else. This is a place of immense power and opportunity!

When you put yourself in charge you can work with the power within you. When you think ‘If it is to be it is up to me’. When you take responsibility and operate from ‘I caused this and I caused that’ or ‘it is all because of me’ then you can change your thoughts, feelings, actions, reactions, responses, your plans, you can alter anything that isn’t working because the locus of control is on and in you and on no one and nothing else! This is a powerful mindset to operate from.

Some thoughts you may want to make your own if they aren’t already: ‘I am a powerful positive creator of my own destiny.’ ‘Happiness is available to all so it is available to me’, ‘If it is to be it is up to me’. ‘We become what we think about’.

All you have to do to change your life is think different thoughts! REALLY! Change your thoughts and change your life!

The reason why some people don’t move forward is that they do nothing, the think defeatist thoughts, or can’t believe it, they think it is too good to be true, or they think it must be hard not easy or they think it won’t work. If this is you change it and move forward in a new direction.

Whatever you focus on expands!

See yourself as a vibrant, powerful, positive, transmitter of energy. Imagine yourself as a powerful creator, responsible for bring you all things. THEN choose the very best for yourself. Nurture you thoughts and feelings and abilities. Hold in your mind positive thoughts and keep planting positive seeds.

Keep it simple, easy and do it every day! Each moment is a moment to enjoy and celebrate or let it slip away. Because what you focus on expands the more you enjoy the more you get to enjoy! Remember this and choose to delight and enjoy yourself throughout each day. Stay with it, make it a positive habit and enjoy!” Rex Sikes

Savor the seconds and delight in the day!

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