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Why Not Begin Living Your Dreams Today?

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“Why not make today the day to begin living your dreams? Why not start pursuing your passions and greatest goals? Don’t you think it is about time you discover how absolutely incredible you are? You were born to excel and be wonderful!

You are wonderful. You have so many resources you aren’t aware of. Oh, sure, you know about some, but there are so many more within you. You just didn’t know to look, or you have looked in other places. All are within your grasp but you may need to look differently.

Why not live the incredible life you deserve? Life is multi-faceted and glorious. If you look you can see a gorgeous world. Why not make your life gorgeous too? Why live as less than the powerful person you truly are?

When You Stop And Look Around  – This Life Is Pretty Amazing

Some people have let life beat them down. Some have let circumstances take the wind from their sails. Sometimes the path is rocky and treacherous but not always. Life has ups and downs. The sea rises and falls. The wind blows hard and almost not at all.

Each of these changes are movement. Seasons come and go. Night becomes day, cold becomes hot. Goods times turn sad. Troubles give way to increased delight. Everything passes. Life IS flux. There is no reason to think you are stuck. Everything is moving.

Why not make today the beginning day of a new attitude? Start with a renewed sense of joy and determination. Look within for all your good bits as well as outside for that to enjoy! How about you find some of all the many reasons why your life can be beautiful.

Constant Repetition Results In Conviction – Believe In Yourself

Even if you aren’t convinced, at first, the more your pursue these notions; my life is beautiful; I am wonderful; everything can be a blessing; I can find a way; you will. Why not put a smile on your lips a song in your heart and a dance step in your feet.

Move forward in a new way. Enjoy who you are. Enjoy what you have. Enjoy what is yet to come. Enjoy making it happen. Enjoy believing in yourself. Enjoy co-operating with others. Enjoy creating new positive ways to be. Enjoy everything. You can begin right now. Find the good and the new today. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Determine to delight and you can!

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2 Things Successful People Do That Separate Them From The Unsuccessful

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“Not everyone who is successful and rich is a nice person. However, most all of them have things they do in common that separates them from the unsuccessful. There a few things they do differently and routinely that are crucial to adopt if you want success. Here’s one.

In order to make any change you want to be permanent you have to wire it in. You have to make it an automatic, reliable habit.  To do this you must overwrite the old habit with the new thoughts, feelings or behaviors you want instead. You must learn the habits of success.

In order to do this you must do the correct things consistently and for a long enough time. That is what ‘perfect practice’ is about. You do the right things for as long as it takes. This IS how you create new habits. Sadly, most people, won’t do what it takes to succeed.

Practice Doesn’t Make Perfect – Perfect Practice Makes Perfect

That is why it has been pointed out that successful people do the things no one else will do. If you want to think better, more productively, positively and powerfully then you must practice and rehearse that thinking until you wire it in. There is no other way.

Do you want to feel better more of the time? Then you must practice and rehearse feeling good consistently and long enough. The same applies to behaviors. There isn’t any other way. You can’t change being a couch potato, taking a magic pill or wishing it will happen.

You must take charge and do it. How long does it take? It takes as long as it takes. You do what you need to do to make the changes you want, and to make them permanent. Let go of the when, the time, and deadlines and focus on developing the thoughts and feelings.

The Difference Between Ordinary And Extraordinary Is Practice

There is a bamboo plant. Once planted it is watered and nurtured for 6 years. The plant remains underground with no evidence of growth. In the 7th year the plant sprouts and grows 90 feet within 2 months. The question to consider is, when did it grow the 90 feet?

Obviously, it must have been growing the entire time. If it wasn’t watered or taken care of it in any given year it would have died. It was always growing even when you couldn’t see it. The same is true of you when you do the right things long enough and consistently.

Success is the same way. Besides taking responsibility for their success those who are most successful enjoy working at it. They work harder and longer than most others. However, they don’t consider it work. They love it. They enjoy it. It is their passion.

Practice Happy Thinking Every Day – And Be Happy

Because they enjoy it they say things like, ‘I work harder than anyone else but I have never worked a day in my life.’ This is important to understand. They feel good about working for success. If you feel good too you will never work a day in your life either.

The more you decide to enjoy the process the smoother it can go. When you are enjoying something you want it to last or you don’t care how long it takes. This is a great mindset. Then it doesn’t matter how  long it takes because you are enjoying it and benefiting from it.

Enjoy the process of evolving yourself. Take control of your thinking and take responsibility for creating your life and circumstances. Do what it takes for as long as it takes. Enjoy the process and keep the faith even when you don’t see results for a while. Keep the  faith!

The Only Way To Do Great Work Is To Love What You Do

You are growing. You really are. You may not see the evidence for a while. One day, you’ll sprout and an entire new magical life will open up and takes off quickly. That is how it can work for you. Just stick with right practice. Develop your mindset.

Learn to think and feel good most of the time. Do what it takes to be successful and enjoy it.  Do what the others won’t and you will be counted among those who succeed. In the meantime have fun. Keep at it. Do the right things consistently for as long as it takes.  Be grateful and celebrate everything! Rex Sikes

Delight in this day!

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How To Know For Certain You Are On The Right Track

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A major key to personal and professional change is to answer one simple question. When you figure this out almost everything else falls into place. This organizing question makes an incredible difference at how quickly and easily you live the life you want.

From my previous blogs, you already know, there are two ways to divide up the world. There is positive or negative; increase or decrease; closer or farther away. You get this, right? You are either predominantly positive or negative in your thoughts and feelings.

The organizing question you use to determine how you are doing from moment to moment, is simply this: How am I feeling? Do I feel good or not so good? Get it? The goal is to feel your best as much of the time as possible. That doesn’t mean bliss all the time.

Mind Is The Best Friend To Those Who Have Conquered It

It means to feel as good as you are able at any given moment. If you are down and out seek to feel a little bit better. Do whatever you are able to to improve how you feel. Move yourself inch by inch toward Nudge yourself in the ‘better feelings’ direction. Move!

These questions help you determine what is going on. Either you feel good or you don’t. That is what you want to be aware of. These questions help you illuminate what is presently going on with you so you can be more aware of your thoughts, feelings and actions.

Are you positive or negative most of the time? Are you focused on increase or decrease? Are you feeling good or feeling not so good? Discover this: Is what you are thinking, feeling, speaking, believing, and doing getting you closer to your goal or not?

Mind Is The Greatest Enemy To Those Who Haven’t Conquered It

Is what you are doing supporting you or preventing you from accomplishing your goal swiftly and with ease? Get it? If the answer is you are not feeling so good, or you’re negative, focused on decrease and moving further from your goal you know what to do.

Why would you engage in anything that didn’t support you in some way? If when you ask, you discover that what you are thinking, feeling, speaking and doing is limiting you in some fashion, wouldn’t it be wise to stop it? Why would you continue to limit yourself?

You know what you need to do. Change it. Shift to the other. It really is that simple. That is the bottom line. Are getting you closer or further away from your destination? Are you enjoying yourself of not? If not, do whatever positive, beneficial thing you can so you do.

A Positive Mind Looks For Ways It Can Be Done

Do whatever you are able to, to feel better. Find something to enjoy. Concentrate on the good, turn to gratitude and appreciation. Engage in activities that delight. The goal is to live the life that is most wonderful, most of the time. Get unhooked from drama and issues.

Find ways to turn resistance into assistance. Re-frame difficulties as learning. Look for the opportunity hidden within challenges. Stop and smell the roses. Take time with family and friends. Help someone who needs some help. Live, love and laugh more. Have fun.

If most of your time is spent feeling as good as you can isn’t that well worth it? If you mostly you enjoy life, have fun, are grateful for the people in your life and are able to focus on the good in all of your circumstances, you are living pretty well, aren’t you?

The Happiness Of Life Depends On The Quality Of Your Thoughts

Isn’t that worth it? If you live a good life wouldn’t that be wonderful? The answer to these last questions will provide you with great insight.  Your yes or no answer will reveal much about you, to you. Proceed from there. Meanwhile, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Spend today celebrating yourself!

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How To Use Your Mind And A Pen To Get What You Want

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We’ve discussed how many people don’t like their circumstances. They want things different yet they keep getting the same results. If you want your life to change you must change things in your life. You can’t keep doing the same things and expect your life to be different.

Review:  To change. First, you must be clear about what you want. One way to do this is to get absolutely clear about what they don’t want. THEN, and this is critical, once you know what you do not want you must  turn your back on it. Drop it, let it go.

Then put all your focus, your attention, your energy on what you absolutely know you do want. Use what you don’t want to clarify what you do want. For example, you don’t want the freeway to be backed up, you want your ride to be sooth and easy and quick.

Elaborate And Describe The Good You Want In Vivid Detail 

You don’t like bad service in restaurant you prefer good food served polite and friendly. When things arise that you do not want, that you do not like, stop, and decide what it is you would rather have. Focus on what you prefer and that you do want and like.  Maintain that!

Focus on what you do want. Get it? Get clear about what you do not want and then focus on what you do want exclusively. This requires you choose. You make a choice, a decision on what to focus. When you make the decision your life begins to transform.

Your life begins changing for the better because you stop telling and re-living the story of what you don’t want. Once you free yourself of the old, broken, undesirable way you are free to live it the way you want to. To make the new life a reality you must attend to it.

Every Day May Not Be A Good Day But There Is Good In Every Day

You must maintain the new story. This must become predominant. Tell the story of the reality you want to live. Not only tell it, be it. In your mind, act as if it is all already yours. You already are the person you want to be. Pretend the future reality IS ALREADY your reality.

Feel and do what you want to be feeling and doing. Imagine you already have those things you want to have. You brain, your subconscious will help you get whatever you imagine. If you think, ‘I want this in the future’, it will always remain off in the future.

You must think, ‘I have this right now’. This is what you presently live and enjoy. It is all right now. It is your present reality. Use present tense words to describe it. Feel it as if are it right now. You are living it. The feelings of having it right now ARE what make this work!

See – Feel – Speak – Write It:  1st Action Steps To Make It Reality

Feel it and believe it. The more you feel it is your current reality the more you will believe it. You nurture your feelings and your belief about it. You make it as real as possible. Enjoy it. This is your inner transformational work. This is how you get the mindset right.

You don’t have to tell others about the brand new car parked in your driveway, but you imagine it. Stop talking about your clunker car, the one you hate, and find the present good. Discover all there is to be grateful for. Don’t dwell on the problems dwell on the good things.

Express the good. Talk only about the good. Don’t whine or complain. Tell a different story about how reliable and wonderful your car is. While you do this imagine driving the new car now. Live that reality inside. That is the story you need to focus on.

See It Hear It Feel It Taste It Smell It – Act As If You Have It Already

Live the conclusion.  What thoughts would you think if you got what you wanted? How would you feel? What would you be doing? How would you look, walk, stand and sit after you got your goal? What would your voice sound like? Who might you be with?

Make your visualization vivid. You want to feel it. Live it. Enjoy it, as if you have it right now. Act as if. Keep a journal and fill it up. Write down how it feels to presently enjoy… (the new car). Describe everything you can. Have fun journaling. Write a bit each day.

Write how it feels to drive it. Describe it. How does it sound. How much you love to hear the engine. The comfort of the seats and the feel of the ride. How it feels to see it parked in your driveway. The places you love to go. The comments people make.

Write Down Your Goals And Your Reasons For Obtaining Them

What it was like to drive it off the lot. Stick with writing and telling the new story you want. Re-live each day, your future in advance. One day when you will have what you want you will think, feel and behave in certain ways. Do that now. Write about it.

Make that future real to you in your imagination. When you imagine. Writing it down helps you make those images. Actually, write it with a pen and paper, don’t type it. You can also make a vision board. Put pictures of what you want on a piece of car board. Or on your mirror.

Keep the idea, fresh, fun and alive in your mind. Whether you do this a lot or once or twice a day is up to you. The point is to get the feelings of the changes you want to bring about. Think it and feel it first, believe it and you can have it. Okay? Celebrate everything! Rex Sikes

Do something nice for yourself today!

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Your Story Holds You Back And Keeps You Down! You Must Do This!

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“Most people spend most of their time focused on what they do not want. They have poor health, their pocket book suffers, they are in a lackluster job or their relationships are falling apart. These are the things they are focused on. Doom, gloom, boredom and suffering.

They share these stories with family and friends, co-workers and strangers. They tell their stories day in and day out about what isn’t working for them and why. Over and over again they repeat the same sad tales. They know their story. They repeat it often.

They have gotten really good at telling these stories.  It’s as if they were rehearsing lines in a play. They got them down. They say things like, ‘You think you have it bad’ and  ‘Let me tell you about my boss!’ ‘I can’t believe what my spouse did yesterday’.

You Choose Which Story You Tell – That Is Always Your Decision

‘Do you know what the bank did to me?’ My car, my doctor, my kid, the government. They talk about how things are screwed up. It is as they  brag about all that is wrong. They they can’t make ends meet, their health sucks, their job sucks, they can’t get a break. Whatever!

They focus on the bad news, the latest reports, gossip or things they cannot change. They even focus on things that do not involve them. All negative. All distractions. All rob them from the life they could have. Truly, because they are busy repeating these stories.

These are their battle stories. They take pride in their stories of what is wrong. Sometimes, they may laugh as they tale their tales. People get together and commiserate. They share their bad stories with each other. They even try to outdo each other at times.

You Write Your Story From The Choices You Make

The problem is EACH and EVERY time they tell these stories they are reliving the experience.  Over and over again the re-live their problems.  REMEMBER, you get what you focus on. We become what we think about most often.

So they end up creating the same thing over an over. Energy flows where your attention goes. Their book of life sucks. Each chapter is filled with trauma drama and they wonder why their life doesn’t improve. It can’t They are too busy creating it the same.

They create and attract more of the same problems into their life. Can it be any clearer? What you say is what you get. This is why I emphasize to speak only to bless, heal and prosper yourself and others.  If you say it, IT is so! You create your reality.

You Have The Power To Say – This Is Not How The Story Ends

If you want happiness or success or a better life you have to tell a better story. Your story has to be about what you want. You must turn your back on what you don’t want and focus only on what you do want. That is when the change will occur. It will begin right away.

That is when good things can rush in and begin to happen. You must rehearse what you do want and not what you don’t want. Whatever story you tell you are creating more of it! Re-live the experience you want to have more of not what you do not want. Change your story!

It is not about ignoring or blocking what you don’t like. It is about changing the frame and putting it in another perspective. A different perspective. Napoleon Hill said in every difficulty there is a seed of opportunity. Stop focusing on the adversity. Find the opportunity.

The Life You Live Is The Story You Repeatedly Tell

Every situation or circumstance or event in life can be looked at as a positive experience, or at least a positive learning experience or negative. One side can be emphasized more than the other. You must focus on the positive. It isn’t and won’t be easy at first.

Still, you can do it. You can learn to reframe your difficulties. You can find the positive and focus on that and look forward to learning and growing. You can expect good to happen when hope seems lost. Again, not easy, but doable. If you begin to do it and keep doing it.

You must break the habit of focusing on what sucks and emphasize what works and what you can find to be grateful for. Find the good, reframe the bad as a positive learning experience. Find the opportunities and the good. This is the new habit to develop.

Your Past Is Just Another Story – You Can Always Change It

Habits can be hard to break but they are not impossible to break. You overwrite old habits with new ones through correct practice and spaced repetition. Practice at every opportunity. Practice the new way until you get good at it. It isn’t comfortable at first.

It is unfamiliar because you don’t do it. It isn’t your habit yet. Many people don’t like to be uncomfortable but that is where your growth occurs. You won’t change by remaining the same! It will be a struggle because your tendency will be the old habit you are good at.

If you stick with the new one you will eventually master it. The question is do you want to create a new, better, more wonderful reality and get positive results or do you want more of the same old, same old? You must decide and take action if you want it better.

Every Moment You Create Or Attract – Is It What You Want

Practice telling new positive stories about how, though facing some challenging moments, you are finding new opportunities to explore. That good is around the corner even though you can’t yet see it and don’t know what it is. Expect things to work out. Learn and grow.

Discover what there is to be grateful for right now. Share how you are learning and growing and moving forward. Life has presented challenges for you to excel and succeed and you are finding yourself up to the challenge and making things work out for the better.

It is either positive or negative. You thoughts and beliefs and actions either support you and uplift you or they don’t and they drag you down. Which do YOU want more of? Manage your thoughts, your self-talk, your internal images, your feelings. Take charge.

Change Your Thoughts And You Change Your World

Create, vibrate and attract differently. You know what it is you don’t want so turn around and focus on what you do want. Imagine already having it, feel it, see it, say it. Focus on being what you want and feeling that as though it is already accomplished.

Make this your story. Become a can do person instead of a can’t do, troubled, burdened person. Created and attract the good things. Live and rehearse how you are making wonderful things happen. The choice is yours. The decision is yours each moment.

Be grateful, and stick with it. Keep rehearsing the positive and you will become more positive. It will get easier. Keep choosing the positive and choosing will get easier too. You will develop new habits that support you. Live, love laugh. Do it today! Change your story and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make your day glorious.

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How To Stop Screwing Yourself Over And End Self-Sabotage Forever!

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“Do you ever feel that despite your best, even your strongest, intentions, that some how you screw up? You go counter to what you want. You somehow sabotage your own efforts? Ever feel like that? You want to do something, but you don’t, or you do the opposite?

Here is a real life example of an important principle. I took some things to my son’s school this morning. While returning home I decided that at a particular intersection I would go straight to avoid traffic that was sure to be down the road to the east.

I drove thinking about upcoming meetings and activities. I got to the intersection turned right and headed east. Immediately, I became aware that I did not do as I had hoped and intended. Instead of going straight I automatically went home the way I normally would.

You Know More Than You Think You Do – Trust Yourself

I chuckled and thought okay, traffic or not here I come. I patted myself on the back for doing what I normally do automatically and suggested to myself to co-operate with the intentions I wish to set. BTW, there wasn’t any traffic. It was completely clear.  A surprise.

I realized that even while I intended to set a new course to avoid traffic my brain took me the old way, anyway. Here is the important point I am endeavoring to make. My brain did not sabotage me. It did what it normally does. It did the right thing! It took the normal route.

In spite of my intention it did what it reliably does. It was working as it was supposed to. I could get upset and angry and think that my intentions had been thwarted by a belligerent subconscious but that is not the case. It followed neural pathways and habits. It was good.

You Already Work Perfectly Well – Stop Fighting Yourself

It IS good! Many people buy into the notion of self sabotage. That is not the case at all. The sabotage explanation is not the most beneficial, nor useful, nor accurate description of what is occurring.. BUT it  does serve to fill therapist offices and sell lots of books.

We are not enemies of ourselves. Unless you believe you are. If you have that belief, change it. Our brain looks for supporting evidence for whatever we believe and think. You’ ll find examples for whatever you believe. Believe things that support and uplift you.

Sabotage is a label or description of a process. It is calling a process a thing. It is a judgement. If you remove the judgement and see the process for what it is, or what they are, then you understand there is no malevolent intent by your inner self. It is all good and all friendly.

Accept Yourself – Believe In Yourself – Realize You Are Amazing

Your inner child does not hate you! Your subconscious isn’t trying to screw you over. Get it? We are dealing with processes that run outside of our conscious awareness. They are reliable, predictable even. They run like clockwork because that is what we learned to do.

When we decide to change that is a new conscious decision. It is not unconscious yet. It is a new thought about what you want to do. You need to make this intention unconscious if you want to change. You need for your subconscious mind to GET the new intention!

Once it GETS IT, once it understands it, it becomes the new way to be. Obviously, your subconscious isn’t getting it the same way you understand things. It doesn’t work that way. It works by conditioning, repetition, exposure, deliberate practice to get it.

Start Trusting Yourself And You Will Know How To Live

It isn’t intellectual knowledge as when you go, ‘AHHHH okay, I get it.’ That is something entirely different. You get the point, the story, the joke but your unconscious doesn’t understand language that way. This is why feelings are so important in programming your mind.

My conscious intention was to do something else. I intended to go straight but while lost in thought I did what I normally would do. There’s no one to blame. Here’s the lesson: If I had wanted to go straight for certain, I needed to pay more attention to the process.

I needed to deliberately and consciously attend to my driving and my intentions. Even then, I may have had to override the tendency to turn. Who knows? To make sure I did what I wanted to I had to work the process. I had to be alert. I had to make it a matter of will.

Cooperation Is The Key – Cooperate With Yourself 

Do you understand where I am going with this? My brain didn’t foul me up or try to harm or prevent me from succeeding in going straight. It did what it was conditioned to do. Thank goodness because that is what we want our brains to do! Our brains work.

I wanted to change things but I didn’t insure I was attentive to the process. So the brain did what it always does. Hooray! Thank goodness for that. All is good. I learned, I need to pay more attention. I honored, myself for working perfectly. Hooray,  Hooray!

Our subconscious is like a huge ship and its power system, the engine. Our conscious mind is like the rudder. The rudder turns the ship. If you want to steer the ship you have to keep at the steering of it until, and after, it is going in the direction you want. You keep at it.

If You Realized How Powerful Your Thoughts Are …

Most people want to change but don’t do what it requires to change. They have been conditioned to be lazy, to want it easy, to have someone do it for them. If you want changes YOU have to make them and keep practicing them until they are yours forever.

It is a win/win. Here is the understanding I hope you derive. When we set goals and go after what we want we are using our conscious mind. If we want to be more happy, confident, relaxed or make more money, buy a new car or whatever it might be. We set it consciously.

Since that is the new change we want to make we need to focus on it and be sure we do what we intend to. Otherwise, we may discover ourselves doing as we had always done. No sabotage just prior chronic habitual conditioning playing out. Be happy to be aware!

… You Would Never Think A Negative Thought

Instead, of fighting yourself or blaming, learn to befriend yourself and co-operate with yourself. Love and honor yourself for working perfectly well. Yes, you ran the old conditioning yet again, but in time, with awareness you will change it. Keep at it! You’ll do it!

Eventually, the new program will take hold and become as automatically reliable as the old programming. Get it? So whether it is taking control of your mindset and thinking more positive thoughts or feeling happy more of the time you will as you keep at it.

Correct repetition is how we lay down the new neural pathways and habits. Yes, we need to do it enough times, and long enough, in order to wire it in. Just as we learned to do anything. Celebrate that you know you can change if you will stick with it. This is great news!

You Can Make Your Dreams Come True – Trust Your Subconscious

It may require some strong will power at times. That is a good thing, We all can stand to be stronger. After all, life offers many different experiences for us to grow and develop from. Enjoy, accept and allow everything. It is perfect, after all, if you decide it is. It IS!

You can change your beliefs and attitudes to be powerful and positive. You can feel joyous and delighted much more often. You can learn new skills and behaviors you have always wanted to and you can get the results and things you desire. This is excellent news!

If you are learning to Pay Yourself First, and Save and Invest, if you are learning your money management skills and it seems difficult at first, that is okay. Your prior programming wants to keep doing what it has always done to serve you. YOU are the one changing things.

Accept Yourself – Love Yourself – Be Good To Yourself – Enjoy You

Stick with it and you will make the changes. You are training your brain that you want these new thoughts and feelings and behaviors. Your brain will get it eventually. You just have to stick with it until it does. Once it becomes the new habit it is yours forever. Hooray!

Lighten up. Believe you can and you will. Your brain will support you in that. IT is your friend. It is time you become your brain’s friend. The same goes for your body. Befriend yourself! Love yourself. Feel gratitude and appreciation for everything there is!

You will discover an immense new, wonderful world open up to you. As you stop blaming and start appreciating how you actually work from the inside everything will get easier. You will find greater cooperation between your intentions and inner processes. Respect, honor, and love yourself for how you work and for being you. Accept yourself through and through. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

What will you do today to make it marvelous?

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How To Stop Creating Trauma Drama And Crap In Your Life

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“You try but screw up. Things don’t work out. You end up with crap. Have you felt like this? You’re spinning your wheels getting out of debt or overcoming difficulty? What on earth is going on and why is it so hard? Would you like to know what you can do to change this?

Would you like to know what is possibly going on? From one standpoint the answer is simple. Negative manifestation. The results you keep getting are not the results you want to get. So why does it keep happening? What must you do differently to change it?

Napoleon Hill said, ‘If you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it.’ That’s what most people do to bring about disasters. If you are like most people it is because of what your focus in on. It is how you use your mind. We all tend to do this! Imagine the worst.

Our Feelings Are The Product Of What We Think

People don’t realize they are already powerful creators. We have been conditioned to believe that things just happen to us. It is true they do. We are taught to believe we have no control over our circumstances and to an extent this is accurate as well.

However, if you want to change your lot in life there are some simple things you must do. The first is to adjust your mindset and take 100% responsibility for everything that happens to you. You must understand you create it all. Even, if not completely true.

When you accept full responsibility for everything going on you begin to access your inner strengths and power. Even if you don’t actually create it, if you act as if it you do, if you accept responsibility for it you begin to have a say in it. Then you don’t blame or excuse.

Our Results Are The Product Of What We Think

Your mind begins to look for solutions because you are responsible. You are up for the task. If you got yourself into it you get yourself out of it. Most people won’t want to do this because of their prior younger conditioning. They want to blame others and things.

By blaming they miss out on tapping into their power. It is a natural tendency to blame and excuse, to point fingers, and find fault elsewhere. Blame and excuses doesn’t actually help anything. It doesn’t help to blame others or circumstances or oneself. Stop it!

Let go of the blame game. Accept the responsibility for what is and then shift your focus from what is going on to what you want to be going on instead. Move your attention from the crap to the potential. Focus on the desired outcome not present circumstances.

The Moment You Take Full Responsibility – Everything  Changes

When people have problems AND the reason most people do is that most people imagine the worst things they know can happen. They imagine the axe is  going to fall and it does. They have focused on the difficulty and worry and fear for the worst. Then they  get the worst.

They succeeded in helping make the bad thing happen. They created it. They supported it. They allowed it. Even though they didn’t want it they attracted it. In order to change your current reality from not so great to better or to great you must understand this principle.

Even if you don’t think it is true, if you accept it as if it were, and act accordingly, you will begin to experience positive change. You may create great positive change. But, to do so you must embrace it and live from it. You must understand it and change what you are doing.

You Cannot Escape The Consequences Of Your Thoughts

Here is the concept. The universe ONLY says yes. You get whatever you want or whatever you don’t want by what you put your attention on most. If you say ‘NO, I don’t want it’. You get more of it. If you say ‘Yes, I want it’. You get more of it. That is how it works.

You get back whatever you put out. Imagine standing in front of your bathroom mirror and you smile. What do you see reflected back at you? Imagine standing there and frowning. What do you see back at you? Now make a worried, anxious face. What is reflected back?

The principle is attraction. You attract back whatever you are. If you are worried about something you end up with more to worry about. Most people are exquisite creators of crap. Crap magnets! They want it to be different but they keep doing the same things.

You Are Already A Powerful Creator – Now Own Up To It

If you do the same things again and again you don’t get different results. If you frown into the mirror you don’t get back smiles. It would be silly to expect to. To get smiles you must be smiling! If you accept this and determine to work with this you can make changes.

People are successful at creating crap. They are successfully creating crap.  Success breeds success. The more you practice something the better you become. People get really good at creating poverty, lack of love, trauma drama and lots of negative experiences.

Are you tired of trauma drama? If you are getting lackluster results you can change it. If you like what you are getting keep on getting it. If you don’t enjoy your present circumstances and you want better then there are things you can put into motion that help.

You Are Already A Powerful Attractor – Now Own Up To It

You can stop creating the life you don’t want and begin to create the life you do want using the very same process you have already been using, mentioned by Napoleon Hill. Instead of conceiving or imagining dire results imagine what you want instead. See the good.

Use the very same process that you’ve already been using to get what you don’t want in life to begin getting what you do want. Take control of your mind to focus on what it is you want. Maintain the focus on what is good and what is positive. Keep this focus!

Then believe that you’re going to get that, without doubt. Believe that with certainty and you end up bringing that about. Belief comes from maintaining continual focus on it while affirming it in your mind using positive strong emotions. Feel happy. Feel good.

Decide What Kind Of Creator And Magnet Your Are Going To Be

When you fear the consequences of crap results, THAT is a strong emotion. Fear, worry, sadness, anger lock you up. When you think and imagine the worst and feel frustrated or lost you combine your imagination with strong emotions. This is how you create it!

To get the best results you need to imagine while feeling the best feelings. Confident, happy, enthused, exhilarated. Use the same formula but with positive different components. Imagine what you want while feeling with confident. Consider this for a moment.

Have you ever known for sure something bad was going to happen and it did? It’s like you predicted it. Some people are certain they won’t have enough money at the end of the month and they worry about it. They feel dread. At the end of the month, guess what?

If You Aren’t In Charge – Who Did You Give The Charge To

Frequently, it turns out as expected. These people, you and I, are using our minds powerfully to succeed at getting exactly what we do not want whenever we do this. We could be using our minds to get better results, but frankly, no one ever really told us we could.

We grew up blaming and worrying about circumstances. We weren’t told we could be the master of our circumstances. So we practiced creating and attracting crap a lot. Oh, yes, sometimes we also make some pretty good things happen but not consistently.

Life is okay instead of incredible.  So, this is why you create crap in your life. You’re using the method that works. It always works. It doesn’t stop working.  The results you end up with, depend on how you use your mind. YOU get what YOU focus on. Get it? Yes, maybe?

What You Feel Is What You Get – You Get What You Focus On

The easiest way to change it is to focus on feeling your best. Do those little and positive things that bring you more enjoyment throughout each day. Find ways to smile and laugh more. Remember, you get back what you put out. Appreciate what you have. Enjoy!

Be truly grateful. Feel it. Let the mirror give you back wonderful feelings by feeling wonderful first. How do you feel wonderful, you ask? BY what you focus on. If you worry about crap you will feel crappy and worried. You must change your thoughts. Get it? Maybe?

You must change what you give your energy and attention to. Maybe you have to change your thoughts dozens of times in an hour but that is what you must do. If you do it you will gain control of it eventually. You get back what you practice. Success breeds success.

See It – Declare It – Speak it – Make It Happen – Bless Heal Prosper

Think positive, happy thoughts. Train yourself to do this. No one can do it for you. You have to do it. It requires commitment and persistence AND the pay off is spectacular. Think better thoughts. Smile into the mirror. Notice from moment to moment your feelings.

Are you feeling positive or not? Are you feeling good? If not shift your thoughts so that you do. Thoughts precede action. It is difficult to go uphill thinking downhill thoughts. Your thoughts determine how and what you feel. There are actions you can do to feel better.

Focus on the good you already have and feeling grateful. Take some time for yourself. Get a massage. Have a bath. Read something nice. Have an enjoyable meal. Skip, sing, get outdoors. Help someone else feel good. Change your mind, change your state of being. Feel better.

Accept Total Responsibility For Your Life And Everything About It

Don’t wait. Those who wait – wait. Be proactive. If you want to feel better you can’t wallow in the muck. You have to get yourself out of the muck. THEN leave the muck alone. Drop it. Let it go and move to where you’d rather be. Some people leave and miss the muck. STOP!

If it is to be it is up to you. You can change it. You can do it. If you realize you alone are responsible for everything you will take charge because you don’t expect anyone else to swoop in to save you. You don’t expect things to magically change on their own. You do it!

You keep doing it. You live from courage and discipline and positively charged power. Positive thinking may not solve everything but it is far better than negative thinking. If you want to feel great you have to think great too! Smile and the mirror smiles back!

Only You Will Get You Where You Want To Go

At any moment you can WONDER what is in your mirror. Take a look. If it isn’t what you want – make it so it is. Create what you want. Change yourself so what is reflected back IS what you want. Be the change you want more of. Enjoy the best feelings you have. Then keep on smiling! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

What will you reflect today?

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Expert Reveals: How To Use Your Attention For Success And Happiness

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“When it comes to making your dreams come true what is the most important element? What must you be clear on and what do you not need to know? These are important considerations because some people just can’t seem to make much happen as they would like to.

You must know what you want! First and foremost you must be clear about your Definite Chief Purpose (DCP). You must know what you want and focus on what you want and avoid thinking about what you do not want. You get what you focus on! Stop thinking on problems.

Think about the end result. Know specifically what you want and know WHY you want it. The why is the motivator. What will having what you want allow you to be, do or have? Will it result in more freedom, love, luxury, comfort, well-being, health, or fun? What?

Whether You Think Yes I Want It Or No I Don’t – You Attract It 

What will having accomplished your DCP do for you? This is important. Focus on having accomplished it and all the good reasons. Feel all the great feelings you’d feel if you had it right this moment. Imagine that you do. In your mind it is always the present.

Don’t put it off into the future. Imagine yourself already having the good you desire. See it clearly, in detail and feel all the wonderful feelings. This is your focus. The end result. The goal achieved! This is what you imagine. See it from your eyes – what you would see?

For example, you can see yourself sitting in your dream car. Better yet, imagine what it feels like to drive the dream car. See through the windshield, see your hands on the wheel, feel the grip, feel the seats, smell that new car smell, hear the engine and your positive self-talk.

Whether You Think Yes I Want It Or No I Don’t – You Create It 

Hear what others say as they congratulate you on fulfilling your desire. Make it vivid in all your senses. Sight, sound, feelings, taste and touch. Make it as real. Feel AS IF you already have it. Drive around feeling like you are driving your dream car. Yes! That’s it!

Focus on what you want. Where people screw it up BIG TIME is they begin to wonder how they will ever make it happen. How they will afford it, do it, get it and be it? The begin to worry they might not have what it takes. They get concern  with the how it will happen.

How it will happen is YOU will make it happen. YOU will ultimately do the right things at the right time to bring it about. YOU SHOULD NOT concern yourself with how you will do it. ONLY concern yourself with what you want, the feelings and why you want it.

Whether You Think I’m Rich  Or I Am Poor – You Attract It 

For most people their brains go haywire on this. That is because you have been conditioned from early on to work on the how. Your parent, teachers, friends, everyone, most all of us were brought up concerned with how can we make something possible.

We listened to our parents worry over bills and money and how to make ends meet. How to afford a new home. How to get an A in a class at school. How to throw a baseball better or how to be a better skateboarder or computer geek. How to get a better paying job.

The people who get good at anything and get to the top do so because of their desire and passion. The want it and know why they want it. They live it and breath it. The keep doing and as a result they improve. Action, repeated correct actions, bring about the results.

Whether You Think I Am Healthy Or I Am Sick – You Create It 

It begins inside first with their mindset. The know they WILL have this. They are certain. They pour everything into making it happen. The find mentors, the observe others who successfully do what they want to. They do not let anything stop them. They keep at it.

Those born to wealth and privilege rarely concern themselves with whether or not they will be it or have it. They know they will. They know they can afford it so price is not an issue. Their mindset is they are entitled to it, they deserve it and will have it. This can be great!

You too are entitled and deserve it as a person born on this planet. Pompous entitlement isn’t good for anyone but understanding that you have as much right as anyone else is important. If it is possible for one person it is possible for you. Keep this in mind. Know this!

Whether You Think I Am Smart Or I Am Stupid – You Are It 

Mindset rules everything. It determines how you feel and how far you will go. If you never concern yourself with not having it imagine how much easier it is to actually have it. You bring it about because you are convinced you will and act accordingly. Faith is crucial.

Your mindset should be positive, powerful and unstoppable. You should focus solely on what you want and not get distracted by anything else. Ultimately, you will get your DCP! It will come in the right time so stay with it. When is the right time? When you get it!

Stop putting your focus on anything that doesn’t support or contribute to your making it happen. Get very clear about this. Remember, how is not important.  I’ll share more on this in upcoming blogs. We become what we think about. We get what we focus on.

Whether You Think I Can Or You Think I Can’t – You Are Right

Focus on feeling good. Focus on enjoying your life right now. Focus on being grateful that you already have your DCP. Feel it. Be grateful for everything you do have right now too. Appreciate the challenges and blessings. All of it is worth learning from and enjoying.

Energy flows where your attention goes. You direct it. How you spend your time is important! Spend it feeling blessed and enthusiastically. The better you feel, the more of your time, with your purpose in mind, the swifter you are able to bring it about! So relax, enjoy, and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Prepare for a blessed day. Can you discover all the good today?

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Expert Reveals: What You Do Now Determines Whether You’ll Be A Have Or A Have Not Person!

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“Is there something that separates the successful from the not successful that can be defined? You bet there is! Is there something the successful do that non-successful don’t do? Again, yes! Are there things the successful don’t engage in that others  do? Absolutely!

The practices of the successful and the wealthy differ greatly from the practices of those who are not successful. Often, times people make lists of different activities for each to compare. What is first and foremost important is the differences in mindset!

The right mindset is critical. The wealthy and successful are not perfect. In some cases, far from it. What the wealthy and successful share in common is an unwavering faith that they will make happen what they want. They don’t doubt themselves. They believe!

Success Occurs When Your Dreams Get Bigger Than Your Excuses

They know they will prevail. They know where there is a will there is a way. They decide on what they want and they go for it full steam ahead. The gather their personal resources and those who can help them make it happen and they go after it optimistically.

They expect good to happen. They expect things to work out. They expect the best. They know it will happen. Whereas, other people worry things will sour and turn out badly the successful people know they can handle any obstacles. They keep the faith and forge ahead.

One cannot think  ‘yes but, it is difficult’ or ‘yes, but, I don’t have the money’ or  ‘what if it doesn’t work out’ or ‘what if I lose my screw up?’  ‘Yes, but’ and ‘what if’ are problem thinking. Typically, that thinking focuses on on the negative or what won’t work. Stop it!

The Price You Pay To Be Great At Something Is Repetition

To stay thinking on ‘what if’ keeps one focused on excuses and blames. The successful do not worry much about what ‘can’t be’ done because they are too busy making what ‘can be’ happen. The difference IS mindset. One is positive and powerful the other isn’t.

The successful maintain unshakeable faith in oneself and one’s abilities. To succeed that is required! We call these people successful because that is what they do. We call people who win lotteries or are born into something, lucky. Those who are successful are people who make it happen. They do it with what they have. They go for it!

Successful people focus on what they don’t want only long enough to clarify what they do want. They entertain what they ‘can do’ and don’t give time to what they ‘can’t do’ because they know we get what we focus on. They know if it is going to happen it will happen because of them. They know they have to do it to have it.

Change I Can’t Into I Can And Soon You’ll Say I Did

Many rich people may not be nice. There are plenty who are  be greedy, ruthless and will do almost anything to beat others to the profits.  Obviously,I don’t suggest you emulate any of those traits.  What one should emulate is the conviction ‘I will succeed!’

‘I can do it.’ ‘I will do it’. Then act. Move! Do something each day towards that end. Be proactive. Expect the best. When challenges arise handle them. Have no fear. Be relentless. Be happy and optimistic. Adopt the Nike motto and ‘just do it’.

Another aspect of the wealthy mindset we will explore soon is that they never concern themselves with how, only why. Once you learn this important principle you can begin getting better results. It is a distinction that makes a huge difference in the results you get.

A Positive Attitude Changes Everything

Right now, dedicate yourself to becoming a ‘can do’ person.  Develop the faith that you can learn to do anything you put your mind to and stick with. Napoleon Hill’s famous quote is ‘What you can conceive and believe, you can achieve.’ Your belief in you, is crucial.

I’ll leave you with a few quotes. ‘Any idea, or plan may be placed in the mind by repetition of thought.’ Napoleon Hill. This is how we come to think and believe everything. Repetition of exposure and repetition or action. Because this method worked we can use it!

‘Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition will one day become a reality.’ Earl Nightingale. We can change ourselves and the results we get this way, or we will keep on getting what we have been getting because of this.

Repetition Is The Mother Of Skill And The Key To Success

Either way the formula is powerful. ‘It is repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.’ Claude M. Bristol We can affirm positive things OR we can affirm negative things and get those results.

Whatever we continuously affirm by repetition we get. Whatever we speak most about we end up with. Do you think I can or I can’t? Do you talk most about what you will make happen or about what happens to you? Are you focused on solutions or on problems?

Whichever is predominant in your mind is what you will get. The wealthy and successful focus on that which is supportive and gets them what they want. They believe in themselves and don’t worry about problems because they are too busy making it happen.

Your Attitude Not Your Aptitude Determines Your Altitude

So can you. Believe it. If you don’t already you can develop that strong belief. This is what you can AND must do. Begin today conditioning your mind for the positive and for success. Enjoy everything along the way. Make it happen.  Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Today is up to you! How will you enjoy it?

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Expert Reveals: How To Be Truly Wealthy And Not Just Rich

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“There are happy wealthy people and plenty of screwed up rich people. What makes the difference? Why are some wealthy in all areas of their life while others are greedy and miserable to be around. Both exist. How do you avoid being miserable with money?

Napoleon Hill in ‘Think and Grow Rich’ said if you want to make money you must have a white hot burning desire for money. If you must have it the you must really want it  and be certain you will. Want it more than anything and believe you can get it is the formula.

Napoleon Hill was one of the original modelers long before Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) revived the concept of modeling. Napoleon Hill, long before Tony Robbins, many others, including myself, modeled and learned from 520 of the world’s wealthiest.

Health Is The Real Wealth – Not Silver And Gold

He distilled their methods of success into principles and practices which he first wrote about in ‘The Laws Of Success’. That book and ‘Think And Grow Rich’ are responsible for more millionaires perhaps than any other books. Hill knew his subject well.

Toward the end of his life he wrote that of the 520 only one was truly balanced and happy with his wealth. Hill pointed out that many others lost it, went mad or destroyed themselves because they made money their most important value.

You must have balance. You must be happy. You must emphasize other values and characteristics in order to live a good life. Help people, go the extra mile, love and value your family, friends and relationships. Don’t sacrifice wealth in all areas for monetary gain.

Without A Rich Heart Wealth Is An Ugly Beggar

Hill stated that your relationships, yours and others happiness, were far more important than ANY dollar amount. He emphasized balance and wisdom over greed. He said, have enough to live well and enjoy it. Don’t go insane trying to accumulate and keep it.

He knew these rich men. He stayed in their homes. He got to know their wives and their children and so many were severely screwed up. The families suffered. The kids a mess because they greedily sought riches, money, and not balance and wealth in all areas.

Many who used these principles to make money abandon the principles once they got money. Their mindset changed from wealth creation to scarcity. They feared losing what they gained instead of celebrating what they gained. What you focus on you get.

Happiness Does Not Depend On What You Have …

Since they now are scared of losing it they end up making that happen. They attract misfortune. For this reason alone a healthy mindset is important. You become what you think about most often.

If you worry about losing money you will find ways to lose it. You will create or attract or bring about the very thing you are wanting to avoid. Energy flows where you attention goes. This is why it is important to be happy, positive and grateful most of the time.

Hill pointed out that many who make money most important do arrive at the top by stepping on people. They stomp their way up the ladder. In the end these people and their families are not happy, but miserable. Their quest to greedily hoard it all ruins them.

… Happiness Solely Relies On What You Think

Money is tool that allows you to have more choice and do more things. You can benefit yourself and the world greatly when you have more money. If you hoard it you suck everything dry. Greed destroys families, friendships, businesses and individuals.

The mindset of greed is one of lack and competition. It destroys everything. The story of the Midas Touch points this out. Abundance heals and helps all. There is plenty to go around. Spread the good around. This mindset includes everyone and all good things.

Seek balance first. You can be, do and have everything you want. Focus on being a good person first. Focus on being happy, loving, kind and generous. Give and you get back. Take and it gets taken from you. There is great wisdom in being kind and compassionate.

Today Be Thankful How Rich You Are – Your Time Is Gold …

Be wealthy in health, love, and happiness. Enjoy money but  realize it isn’t everything, The LOVE of money is the root of all evil, not money itself. Money can help you help others. If you are wealthy and balanced in all aspects you naturally want to do good for all.

Don’t put off well-being and happiness. Don’t sacrifice sanity for shekels. Those who are happiest and most successful  begin by learning to be happy and successful in their minds first. Inner happiness precedes outer happiness. Inner wealth before outer.

To create more abundance think and feel abundant from within. Feel gratitude. Look for examples in nature of abundance. There is plenty of everything in nature. Allow yourself to feel wealthy. Really feel it. Think it and feel it. Thought precedes feelings.

… Your Family Is Priceless And Your Health Is Your Wealth

Pretend, as you did when you were a child. Pretend, be wealthy and regal. Walk around as a happy, healthy, wealthy, confident, loving person. Imagine what a truly wealthy person feels like, and acts like. Live it in your imagination. Live as abundance.

Think ‘I am health, I am wealth, I am love, I am success and prosperity. I am happiness’. Feel it. Think, ‘I love  my life. My Life is wonderful!’ Think it. Keep thinking it and saying it over and over. Imagine it. See it. Pretend it. Make it real.

Say it inside your mind and out loud. Feel wonderful as you do. Fill yourself with joy and enthusiasm. Say it, ‘I am filled with joy and enthusiasm.’ Assert it. Declare it. Command it! Be it. Live it. Enjoy and you will! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy the day!

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