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Blessings, Celebration, Creating The Future, Expectations

What Is Your Little Miracles Quotient? How You Can Improve It!

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“A few months back I attended a screening in the Chicago area, of a feature film I have a role in. Prior to the film starting I went next door had an amazing dinner and glass of wine. This culinary experience has been on my mind on and off for these past months.

This week the yearning grew large. I could taste it. I didn’t want to drive a couple hundred miles round trip just to dine but I was getting willing. Monday through Friday I began to imagine that I would dine when some meeting or audition became available near by.

Choose To Have Magic And Miracles In Your Life

Friday, I was contacted and asked if I could audition in the Chicago area today. As I drove there I realized I might not be far from my desired restaurant. As it turns out, I was only five minutes away! I went to the audition, it was fine. Then went off to dine.

Dine I did! I had the same meal and wine. Delicious again. This time however, I sat outdoors in the gorgeous afternoon weather. I got to enjoy two incredible happenings in one day. A positive  audition and a positive dining experience. I was absolutely delighted by this.

I mentioned today to someone who then asked. ‘So, did you get the dining experience, that you thought about all week, by creating an audition? Or did you create an audition by thinking about the dining experience all week?’ The truth is I haven’t a clue and I don’t care.

Within You And Your Life Exist All Possibilities

Sometimes, I think we try to figure things out and it just gets in the way. To celebrate the moments seems to be the correct thing to do. To enjoy and be grateful is appropriate. I don’t think we need to overthink things. Relax and be happy. Delight in everything,

As an actor I look at it this way. I got to audition. Whether I book it or not I got to audition. On top of that I got to eat a really wonderful meal outdoors that I had been hoping I would for a couple months. All is good. So whether this job comes about or not, no worries.

Maybe, something else is completely in store. I don’t know. I just know things always turn out good no matter what they are. If nothing comes of the audition, fine. I used to want to get every job, Now I know I get the right ones for me. All is good. Truly!

Want More Good Things – Then Celebrate Everything

This past week I had a wonderful audition. I really enjoyed it and thought I’d love to have more like that. I did today. I got called twice yesterday, so I have another coming up on Monday. Then mid-week. So that is pretty cool. 4 auditions in 7 days is good!

My point is, if I don’t book the role so what. I let it go. I wanted to have more fun auditions and they seem to be coming my way. I am happy with that too.  I wanted to eat at this wonderful restaurant and today I did. I take it all as wins. All is marvelous! Good things!

Seems like to be grateful is all that is necessary. Enjoy whatever happens in the future. I’m not going to try to force things or worry over things. I’ll enjoy the little sweet moments all along the way. Mini miracles. Some might call them coincidence.

Count All Your Blessings Large And Small And Delight In All

Others might say they are a cosmic treat. I don’t care whether it is a coincidence or not. Good things came about and I know more good things will too. Whether the audition and dining were connected or not I had a wonderful day. It always works out for the best.

Savor the moments. Expect good things. One of my mantras is, ‘all good things flow my way and I joyously receive them’. Open the doors for more and more wonderful things to enjoy. Don’t sweat the less than glorious stuff, let it go. Don’t try to force things, allow.

Receive. Whether you creator or attractor, simply put it out there positively and let go. As when you tell your waitperson what you want for lunch. You place the order and allow them to bring it. You don’t go back and tell everyone how to do it. At least, some don’t.

Magic Happens When You Allow Wonder And Let It Happen

Life is a gift. I think too many of us forget that. We get caught up in trying to make things happen. We get frustrated and disappointed that things don’t work out. We compare to others and feel bad. Stop, that isn’t why we are here. Well, I can’t actually tell you why.

Perhaps, we are here to fulfill some larger cosmic purpose. Perhaps, we are here by a random accident. Who cares? We are here. Either we love it and enjoy it or we don’t. Why not make it a point to have the best life possible no matter what?

That is a decision you and I can make. The rest is not all that important. Live, love, and laugh! I like to enjoy the ride. What about you? It is a most wonderful, mysterious one. That is what adventure is all about; not having it all go by plan but by being surprised.

Receive It – Allow It – Accept It – Be Open To It – Say Yes

It isn’t about knowing all the answers or what is around every bend. To choose which fork in the road and be surprised is all a part of it. Adventure isn’t predictable or it isn’t adventure. Life is a mystery. It is not something that should be solved. It’s to be lived! Explored!

Sometimes it is challenging and scary other times it delightful beyond belief. So, I am counting my blessings. Enjoy and be grateful for the little miracles that make you smile. Count the blessings and more come your way. It is always all good, regardless! Regardless!

My two auditions, upcoming this week, are within a half an hour of the restaurant. Perhaps, I’ll return. Yum. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight or don’t. It is your choice.

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Attitude, Creating The Future, Decision, Mindset

How Your Struggles Can Help You Succeed

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“Times might be tough. Perhaps, you feel like you aren’t making the progress you had hoped. Maybe, you just want to throw in the towel. Have you ever felt this way? Many do. They let their struggles stop them. When hardship continues they want to bail. Do you?

It is normal because that is what most of us learned to do growing up. It’s our habitual, chronic thinking. We lose sight of what we want when it is hard. We had hoped it would be easier. We can’t see the forest through the trees because we become fixated on problems.

We forget that it always works out for the best in the end. We don’t realize that if it hasn’t worked out yet, then it isn’t the end. We aren’t at the finish line just because we have problems. We may think we are but we have no idea where the actual end is.

We humans are silly creatures.

We decide we want something and then we try to figure out how to make it happen. You can’t know the how until after you succeed at what you want to do. You can experiment and try many different things but you don’t know the path until after you walk it.

Our Thoughts Determine Our Outcomes

As Edison did, the Wright Brothers did and many others.  All brilliant minds and inventors attempt many different things. Still, they can only determine what worked after it worked. Do you get this? It is an important principle. You never know how first. So relax.

You what something and don’t know how to make it happen. You learn what worked once you succeed. When you decide on a goal to pursue, that something you really want, you have to trust you will get it, even though you don’t know how it will happen.

You not only trust, but you believe you will get it. You know you will get it. Why? Because you determine to get it! You decide you won’t quit until you do. That is how you make things happen. You don’t wait for it you take action and get it done. YOU, YOU, YOU!

We Learn By Trail And Error

Even if you don’t know what to do you can take tiny steps in the direction of what you want. You don’t have to know how in order to act. You can do anything at all that moves you forward. You can study, research, connect with others and examine the possibilities.

You can go as far as you can see and when you get there you can see further. You learn as you go. Things work and  they don’t work. You learn by trial and error. There may be detours and obstacles along the route but you persist until you arrive at your destination.

After you get there you can describe how you did it for others. This is a concept that is very useful to understand and embrace. You will figure out the how but you don’t have to know the how how to begin. So begin. Don’t wait. Take positive constructive actions.

Mistakes Are Valuable – Learn From Mistakes

Concentrate on what you want and all the positive reasons why you want it and the how will take care of itself. Be clear and be motivated. Stay the course, act and continue to follow through. Never give up and you will eventually reach your goal.

The next major principle to understand is: Everything always works out for the best in the end. It actually does. Many people look back on trying circumstances, even the worst of their life, and at some point note, it ultimately was a positive defining moment.

The very worst becomes the thing most needed once they can look back and examine the events in their life and connect the dots. You can’t connect the dots until you look back. Hindsight is 20/20. That means you could have had  faith going through it in the first place.

Perception Is Everything

Yes, it is a big ordeal but ultimately it will all work out. Some day you will look back and laugh or appreciate every hardship you went through. So why wait. Begin now to appreciate everything. You are learning and growing through trials. The kite rises against the wind.

It always works out for the best in the end. If you are still struggling then realize you aren’t at the end, yet. This is useful concept to get and embrace. It isn’t over yet. Everything will work out. Trust it! Everything WILL work out. Have faith. It will be good in the end.

What is better to believe? It is terrible and all is lost or you always somehow manage to land on your feet? Choose the beliefs that support you because their are only two kinds. Those that support and those that don’t. Neither may be true, so pick what helps you.

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You

Silly humans always want guarantees first. How would you ever get one? Who can guarantee anything for you? Will it be hard or easy? Who knows until you attempt it? You can’t know first. You can only do whatever it takes to see it through to a successful conclusion.

How do you know when something is over? Life is a process. That is why you can only look back and connect the dots and you can’t do it looking ahead. You can plan and try and yet most people learn that the plan they start with is never the one they finish with. Get it?

Things change. Keep going. If you are struggling it isn’t over yet. You are in the process of bringing about positive change for yourself. You are in the midst of fighting the good fight. You will prevail if you keep going. Keep your eye on the prize and continue with faith.

Skill Comes Of Doing

There are plenty of people who quit before they would have succeeded because they didn’t realize where they were in the process. They throw in the towel. Napoleon Hill pointed out all defeat is temporary with seeds of learning and opportunity.

The only failure is when you stop trying. He recounted the story about the man who stopped digging three feet from a very rich gold vein. In a nutshell, man buys gold mine, digs, hits gold, vein runs dry. He keeps digging and digging nothing. He stops and sells mine.

The individual who bought it consults with experts and strikes a major vein only three feet form where the first owner stopped. Three feet further! That was the difference between rich and poor. The original owner quit thinking it was over. He lost everything.

Learn New Positive Habits That Support You

Because he quit IT was over. For the new owner it was just the beginning of new riches. That could have been the end of the story except the first owner learned from his defeat. He could have done something stupid. Instead he learned from his defeat.

He could have thrown in the towel to never win at anything or try anything again. Instead, he learned a valuable lesson and determined to make it gain, by selling insurance. He vowed never to accept ‘no’ as an answer. He made millions in the insurance business.

He persevered and never gave up. He learned from his first major loss in the gold business. He built an empire because he learned to stay committed. He stated loosing the gold was the best thing that ever happened to him. That is the winner’s attitude!

The More We Do The More We Are Able To Do

You may be tempted to quit because times are tough. If you realize when times are tough that it isn’t over yet, you can keep going if you want to. You can know inside it will all work out in the end. It always does in some way. Have faith, look for the good and the silver linings.

Look for the good and you will find it. Look for problems you will find those too. Condition your mind. Your willingness to abandon your hope and dreams is your old conditioning, your old thought habits. Develop new habits of thought and action that serve you.

Nothing is gospel. Nothing is true. Nothing is written in stone. It is either useful or not. It is either supportive or not. It is either about increase or decrease. It is either positive or negative. YOU are the deciding factor for what YOU determine it to be.

What You Say Is What You Get

Expect things to work out. If you are struggling right now it isn’t over yet. Keep at it. Commit to seeing it through. Obstacles will give way if you trust, believe yourself and take action. If you give up that will who knows what might be? You will look back to know someday.

Persist and you will land on your feet eventually. Regardless. If you throw in the towel you can learn from it you too. You  might do well like the gentleman in Three Feet From Gold. Realize it is YOU who determines your present and you the future.

It is all in your hands. Since you can’t know the outcome in advance you might as well enjoy the the journey. Keep your eye on the prize. Take action and move forward. Keep the faith. Stay positive. Do no harm to self or others.

If You Think You Can Or Think You Can’t You Are Right

Make it a point to enjoy it no matter how difficult. Condition yourself for success. Learn along the way. Look for the good and celebrate everything! Appreciate your trials and your easy times. That is how you prepare yourself to win! Celebrate EVERYTHING!” Rex Sikes

Smile more today just because you can!

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Creating The Future, Decision, Focus, Gratitude, Intentional Thinking

The Secret: How To Stop Being A Crap Magnet

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“Consider this. What you focus on expands. Energy flows where your attention goes. You become what you think about. Keep this in mind. Birds of a feather flock together. Like attracts like. Why do I point this out?

Because when you focus on your problems you get back more problems. Whether you focus on career or job related problems, relationship issues with family or friends, health issues or wealth issues if you focus on the problem you find, attract and or create more problems. When you focus on crap you get crap back.

When you try to solve your problems you only end up with more problems. You think fixing them will make things better but it won’t because your focus is on what is wrong. If you focus on what is wrong you get more of the same. You do this because of habit. You were brought up to try to fix and solve things.

Success Secret: Don’t Fight The Old Focus On Building the New

It is old, chronic, habitual, mental conditioning that does not serve you well. When you look for and find what is wrong you only end up with more of the same. If your present moment is fill with crap how do you expect to live a wonderful life? How do you expect to feel marvelous? I mean really, why would you expect it to be different?

To feel marvelous and live a wonderful life you must look for and find what is good and what is right about this moment. You must accentuate the positive and nurture it. You look for and find anything and everything to feel grateful about and your life will change. Focus on the good in the present moment!

Consider this. You are on the freeway and traffic is moving quite well. No hangups everything is great. Suddenly, someone cuts you off, gives you the finger, slams on the brakes and screws with your driving. It sucks! THEN what do you do. Right then, you probably get hot, call him an ahole, give the finger back, and swear a bit. Or some version of all this.

What You Say Is What You Get – What You See Is What You Get

BUT what really happens. IT ruins your drive. You focus on and recount to others the ahole on the freeway. You have lost sight of the fact that traffic was moving well and all was good. What looms in your mind is the negative moment. YOU do this because of habit. Your brain has been conditioned and wired that way.

You focus on what was wrong and ignore and forget about all the rest. You miss all the good stuff. It doesn’t even exist anymore to your preoccupied mind. Your physiology changed, you got stressed, angry and then you relive it over again doing the same thing to yourself. Don’t forget the good just because bad happens.

This is just an example but realize your focus, your state of being, your emotions, your energy, your thoughts all change around the problem. They will stay that way as long as you focus on it. So what do most people do. They go from problem to problem in life either complaining or complaining and trying to fix them. It doesn’t work!

Whatever You Focus On You Create

Your focus, your state of being, your emotions, your energy, your thoughts will change around what is right and good too. You will get the good thoughts, feelings and chemicals from within. Whatever you focus on you get more of it back. Happy states of being or turbulent states; what do you want for yourself and your life?

This is precisely why gratitude is so powerful. Look for and find all the good in your present. Find what is right! Find all the good from your past. Stop reliving old wounds. Stop surviving hurts and start thriving. You will discover powerful, positive changes occur for you when you let go of the negative and switch to the positive.

You can do this if you think you can. It is simple. Look around your and find the good no matter how tiny or obscure. Put your attention ofYou won’t if you don’t think you can. It is always up to you and only you. Stop trying to fix everything. You never will anyway. If you don’t think you can do this you won’t. The choice is always yours.

What You Think About You Bring About

Stop trying to fix yourself. Stop looking for what is wrong. Start looking for what is right, what is working, what your strengths, talents, abilities and resources are and focus on these. Be grateful and discover your excellent self. Fall in love with you at the deepest level. Enjoy and delight in you. Find all the good things!

Stop criticizing and blaming yourself. Start loving, feeling grateful for you and enjoy yourself. Focus your attention on what what works in your life. Focus on the positive and value it. Truly value yourself and every aspect of your history. Put your energy and attention onto these. Think these thoughts repeatedly.

The quality of your life is determined by what you focus on. The quality of your life is determined by how you focus your attention on what you focus on? Get that? How you look at yourself and your situations past and present determine how you feel. How you feel determines how much you enjoy life. Stop the negative.

Thoughts Become Things

Stop looking at what is wrong, doesn’t work, disappointments and hurts past and present. Start looking at the good, the new, the right, the positive, what does work. STOP and smell the roses! STOP and see the forest through the trees! Want to live a magnificent life? Stop and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy today!

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Creating The Future, Goals, Habit Formation, Well Formed Outcomes

Strategies For Success: Take These 6 Positive Steps To Overcome Disappointment And Get Your Goals!

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“Want to make your career, relationship and life goals come true? Would you like to transform yourself into the person you always knew you could be? Do you want to set goals and take steps to get what you want in life? If yes, then do these things.

I have a number of large consulting and training projects. I am working with corporations, some large and some small businesses. One is a large psychological services facility, another is  consulting for the CEO and the Board Of Directors for a urban building project.

I am working with these as team members and individuals.  Our goal is to develop  an unstoppable success attitude or mindset and leadership abilities. To do this it is important to clarify the purpose of the project leader and the various team members.

What You See And Say And Feel Is What You Get

I help them learn and set Well Formed Outcomes (WFO) to create a daily, weekly, monthly, yearly action plan for moving toward their target purpose while accomplishing numerous smaller goals along the way. It is important to get to the big ones step by step.

All the goals should be in service of the overall purpose, otherwise they can be obstacles and distractions. As my clients work on accomplishing their large goals they achieve the smaller ones that move them forward in the right direction.

They also set individual and personal outcomes too. One of the tools in my tool belt come from Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). I have been training and teaching NLP (among other things since early 80’s) I shared with them the conditions for WFO.

Stay Positive

We’ll explore WFO in this blog post and subsequent ones. WFO have a set of conditions you must meet in order to make it easiest to get your goals. Each of these conditions help you get clear on what you want and how you can most readily accomplish it.

To practice WFO you want to write out each step to keep track of the answers that come to you. The Outcome should be:

1. Stated in the positive: Speak in terms of what you want. What do you want to include? Do not state what you don’t want or prefer to exclude. Leave that alone. By stating it in the positive you aim at your target. You know where and what you want to get to.

If You Can Conceive It You Can Achieve It

2. Capable of representing in the senses: What will you see, how will you look when you get your outcome? What do you hear, say to yourself and what are others saying? How will you feel? Emotions and positive sensations in your body?

Where? (E.g. you feel your shoulders pull back, your chest move out, you chine raise, your feet firmly planted) when you accomplish your outcome?  Are their smells or tastes too? Write out each of these as detailed as you can. Your evidence is real world based.

3. Possible and achievable: It can’t be outside of a real world possibility. It must be something people CAN actually accomplish in a reasonable amount of time. Most outcomes are possible given a realistic time frame.

Build On Successes

Unfortunately, some people want things too quickly and have unrealistic time frames and expectations. Given the proper amount of time, and correct actions you can accomplish most things See number 5.

4. You specify and have all the necessary resources: Capital, knowledge, equipment, time, people, materials, etc. You assemble what you need in order to make it happen. Determine where you must go, or who else you need to enlist. What’s required?

For Outcomes to be really well formed you should be able to begin your actions and maintain them all on your own. The conclusion should rely on you successfully achieving your goal without relying on anyone else. You can control what you do but not others.

Establish Good Habits

Make sure you outcome is something you alone can pursue. Make certain you can begin working on it, follow through and complete it all on your own. Outside help is fine but should not be the determining factor on whether you get or don’t get your outcomes.

5. Have a deadline date that is realistic: Accomplished by when? Set a reasonable time for accomplishing your outcome. Put it on your calendar and work towards achieving it within that amount of time. The more realistic you are in all of these the easier it is to get it.

6.It is appropriately contextualized and ecological: This means it does not upset the system or apple cart. Your goal should not screw up your life or others. It should fit within your existing lifestyle and relationships. It does not harm anyone. It should be beneficial.

Decide And Act

If it includes others it is win/win. If it requires too many extraneous conditions or is too large of an immediate lifestyle change you may not continue to work on accomplishing your outcome. Don’t try to push a large boulder uphill. Make it manageable and do-able.

For example, if you wanted to exercise more how can you fit it into your existing schedule? What changes might you need to make in order to get to the gym, work out, and not rob you of important time with family, work or whatever?

If it takes time from other important areas in your life how likely would you be to continue? While some may answer, very likely, most people ultimately don’t continue. This is important to realize. You don’t want to bite off more than you can chew.

Limit Distractions – Focus On What You Want

Bit by bit you get there. You take positive, practical, reasonable, well thought out steps toward accomplishing what you want. You identify the end result clearly, what you see, hear and feel, so you know when you have arrived. You know what to expect.

Knowing these and feeling these keeps you motivated and feeling positive. By setting a deadline date you learn to begin and end within a given time, no excuses. You do what you can in the time you are allotted with the resources available.

That is Well Formed Outcomes. You can set them and accomplish more than you ever thought possible.

Consistent And Persistent Action Will Get You There

One more thing. You should know that you already have all the resources within you to accomplish your goals and dreams. However, you may not know this, believe this or recognize them. Still, you do. There are other times you succeeded, no matter how small, when you thought, felt and behaved resourcefully.

Tap into these. Remember, previous accomplishments and challenges when you prevailed. What did you see, hear and say and feel when you were confident and successful? Relive these in your mind, your memories. Get in touch with your feelings of success.

Think of resources as emotional states and abilities. Resources include your ability to learn; to smile, laugh and feel good; to be confident. Your ability to relax or feel peaceful or secure. Your ability to think clearly. Your ability to be playful and have fun.

Look For, Find And Use Your Inner Talents And  Abilities

You are already resourceful in so many ways. Recognize and validate this. Look inside for the best you have. Saying no can be a resource, setting boundaries, getting appropriately angry. Frustration or discontent that leads to positive action can be a resource. Anything CAN be a resource when utilized appropriately.

I’ll share more about WFO in upcoming blogs. I provide you with more details about setting them including questions you can ask to make certain you can most easily achieve the outcomes you set. Remember, what you can conceive and believe you can achieve!

It is an exciting opportunity for each of us to examine how our minds limit us, when we let it, and how to take control of our mind and direct it toward our goals and dreams. Setting WFO means gaining needed clarity in order to more easily get what you want.

Know What You Want – Clarify And Simplify – Make It Happen

It means helping team members clarify their over all purpose in working together. It is important they are all on the same page and that their efforts support each other and contribute to the overall project purpose.

In the same way it is important for a team of rowers to all face the same way, oars in the water, rowing in the same direction at the same time. It is important to get cooperation from members so they work in harmony. They work with each other not against.

The same thing can be said of your conscious and unconscious mind, the left and right hemisphere. The goal is to get them aligned and working together congruently so you can make your goals and dreams happen. Work with yourself not in opposition.

Keep It Simple Sweetheat

The members of the team get home work and exercises that I prescribe and we meet weekly to evaluate and track progress. Well, that’s pretty much it for today. If you enjoy these blogs please use the information to positively transform your own life.

AND please share it with your family and friends, even strangers, so they can changes their lives for the better too. Spread the word and together we can help many more people live their dreams. That is one of mine, to reach and positively influence as many as possible.

Set goals, make them big enough to motivate you with tiny enough baby steps to accomplish them by a deadline date and you will easily achieve much more than you ever imagined possible. Drop by drop the tub gets fill. Get into the practice of setting and getting WFO.

To Know And Not To Do Is Not To Know

The proper use of knowledge is to apply it. Make it a habit. Have fun learning and using WFO daily. While some people think they must have a life transformation explosion, a dramatic major overall, realistically it is the little things you do on a consistent basis that pay exponential dividends. Master this and it will amaze you. All the while live, love laugh, and celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Minutes count to. Make all your moments magical!

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Acceptance, Attitude, Creating The Future, Friendship, Love

Trump This! What America And The World Needs Right Now That You Can Give It

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“Here’s a quote that is critical and timely in our world today. If we made it our business to make the positive changes suggested, our world could and would be a much more enjoyable place.

“No matter what kind of riches you have, if you are not at peace with yourself, your fellow men, and those you work with, you’re not truly rich. You will never be rich until you learn through discipline to be at peace with all people, all races, all creeds.

My audiences have Catholics, Protestants, Jews, Gentiles, people of different colors, people of different races. To me they’re all the same color and religion. I don’t know the difference and I don’t want to know the difference, because in my mind, there is no difference.

I’ve risen above this idea of letting petty things such as racial differences anger me or cause me to feel the least bit out of step with my fellow man. I just won’t let those things happen, though there was a time when they did happen.

One of the curses  of the world that we’re living,  and particularly in this melting pot here in America, is that we haven’t learned how to live with one another.” Napoleon Hill, Your Right To Be Rich.

There really ins’t much else to add. Except, let’s all focus on getting along instead of what separates us. We get what we focus on. We become what we think about. Let’s become peace, love, acceptance, instead of hate and intolerance. Focus on the light not the darkness. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Why not make a new friend today?

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Beliefs, Creating The Future, Focus, Overcoming Difficulty

Doubt Kills More Dreams Than Failure

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“When it comes to success; being happy; having the career; the relationship; the family; and the life of your dreams you need to have faith or nothing will happen.

You need to believe in yourself and know that you can make a difference. You must know you can make you dream come true if, you believe you can and, you take action to accomplish it

Doubt Kills More Dreams Than Failure Ever Will!

Failure is an opportunity to learn. All failure is temporary unless you throw in the towel and quit. What kills more dreams than failure? Doubt! It is sad when people doubt themselves instead of trust.

You may not know how, yet, but if you move forward, you will see farther the further you go. Standing here right now you may not be able to see the forest through the trees but it is there.

With your seeds planted in the ground there may not be any evidence that you can see that they will break ground and grow into wonderful strong thriving plants. You must patiently wait and trust.

If You Think You Can Or You ThinkYo Can’t You Are Right

Circumstances around you may be difficult and you aren’t yet able to see your way to the future but don’t give up. Stop, and instead of doubting, decide you will do whatever it takes to get what you want.

You can take whatever positive actions, that benefits you and others, and move forward step by step, bit by bit, getting closer and closer to your goal. Obstacles are only speed bumps.

They may seem insurmountable but they are not. Here is a suggestion for you. Trust yourself! Doubt you will fail. If you are going to doubt put it to work for you. Doubt your problems will last.

Thoughts Are Things – Choose Good Ones

Doubt that anything is too difficult for you to prevail. Doubt that circumstances will get worse. Doubt that you are limited in any way. If you have to doubt anything use good taste. Doubt your doubts.

Make it work for you. Decide you won’t let doubt win. You win! You dictate how things will be. Trust, have faith, believe in yourself and know that when you come from your power you can do anything.

Believe in yourself and believe you will make your dreams come true. Do whatever you need to, to keep the lamp lit that lights you way. Focus on the positive, focus on the CAN DO and do it.

What You Think About Most Often You Become

Never let hard times or old, chronic, habitual conditioning keep you from being, doing or having what you want. Never let a negative thought or doubt rob you of your dreams.

Align your resources and move forward. Steel yourself. Know champions may have doubts from time to time but they push through them. You can too! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Determine in advance to enjoy this day!

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The Secret Few Know. You Can Actually Pave The Way For Good To Come Your Way

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“Would you agree we are limited by what we don’t know, yet? We are also limited by what we think we do know. We are constrained by both, knowing and not knowing. Still, we often act as if we know how the dire circumstances of our life will work out. We expect difficulties to get worse. Guess what, when we do, they do.

In my post previous post I mentioned being grateful for challenges that come your way. Obstacles and speed bumps present learning opportunities especially if you choose to look at them this way. They aren’t really good or bad, they are what we believe about them.

That which we believe is that which we will see. Believing is Seeing. AND what you see is what you get. The circumstances are and will be whatever you declare them to be. SO why not declare them to be blessings and operate from that mindset. It frees your thinking up!

I wrote about TRUST. A great mindset, or attitude, to develop about your circumstances is, ‘Everything IS okay! Everything will be okay. It will work out for the best. It always does. I always land on my feet. Some unexpected good is coming my way, I don’t know how or when or what it is but good is coming my way’. AND celebrate.

Face it. We see through neurological filters. We see through our previous, past, chronic conditioning and limitations. If you want to see and discover new wonderful opportunities you have to change your mindset so that you are ABLE to see and recognize them.

When you open up to the fact that things aren’t as they appear, you can be open to the possibility that good things are coming. When you recognize that you provide the meaning of all circumstances, you can assign the meaning that best serves you. You can literally pave the way for more good to come your way.

After all , if you are going to look back on a tough time and laugh, or consider it a blessing, or consider it an important life changing moment that was disguised back then, why wait?  Why not do it right now? Transform all your present moments.

You have the potential to make all your days much more marvelous by what you think and believe. What you think about you bring about. Your thoughts create your reality and give meaning to your circumstances. When YOU are in charge, as you should be, then you can assign whatever meaning you want there to be.

Dictate how you will think, feel and go through your circumstances. Decide whether it is a blessing or not. Consider it a blessing and trust that everything will work out for the best? After all, it usually does. In the long run everything tends to work out for the best anyway,

Truly, it usually does, BUT even if it didn’t, by adopting a more resourceful and resilient mindset you create for yourself more benefit than a narrow, negative limiting one. You open yourself up to your own resources and can discover possibilities you otherwise would likely miss. You benefit by staying open to positive possibility.

Remember, like attracts like. Birds of a feather flock together. You create and attract your circumstances by you thoughts. Thoughts are things. Very powerful things. What you believe is what you get. What you focus on expands. You become what you think about. What you think about you bring about. Attitude determines altitude.

The choice is yours. Suffer and burn or celebrate everything. Know deep inside you, everything always works out. You can handle it no matter what. Good things are coming your way even if you can’t yet see how. Have faith and enjoy the process. TRUST! Unexpected good is coming! All of life gets better when you delight, enjoy and celebrate everything” Rex Sikes

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You Will Never Succeed If You Are Doing This!

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” Do you want to be rich? Have better health? Want to improve your relationships? Drive a new car, get a new home? Have confidence and do well with people you are attracted to?

You won’t ever do it. You wont ever succeed if you are focused on the reasons why you can’t. You will never accomplish it if you don’t think it is possible and pursue it. Negative thinking won’t help you.

You will stay as you are with the results you don’t like until you decide to take charge and change how you think about things. That is the truth about it. For some people it has to get really bad.

What You See Is What You Get

Some people won’t move forward until they ‘gutter out’. Sad, they wait so long to find the impetus to make things better. The truth about waiting to change is that you wait.

The truth about positive thinking? The only way to do something is to do it. Make no excuses, take the bull by the horns and make some positive changes.

Some people may claim, ‘it is too difficult’. They may state they don’t have enough information. They don’t feel like it or they aren’t motivated.

Stuck Is The Inability To Move In Any Direction

They can cite any number of reasons why they can’t but realize this: ALL the reasons you have for not doing ‘positive thinking’ are the very thoughts you need to change.

The excuses you maintain for not doing what would be good for you are nothing other than that.  Excuses! They are the negative thoughts you must change to be a more powerful positive thinker.

Those kind of thoughts are the very one’s preventing you from doing what would help you.  It is insidious. To succeed you must overcome the thoughts preventing you. You must push ahead.

What You Say Is What You Get

You think positive thinking is fluff. It doesn’t work. You tried it. It is too hard.  Okay, maybe it is tough at times. Perhaps, positive thinking isn’t always be successful but negative thinking never is.

Consider this: When you don’t feel like doing something what ARE you thinking? Are you thinking boy this will be fun? I can’t wait to dive into it! The rewards are immense and immediate!

This is worthy of my full attention. This is awesome, fantastic. WOW!!! Are your thoughts loud, clear and energetic? Are you excited and can’t wait?

What You Think About You Bring About

Most likely not. My guess is you are thinking it’s too tough, or you can’t or you don’t feel well enough, or you don’t have enough or, or or,  etc., etc.

Positive thinking is not magical thinking to replace negative thinking so you can stay in your room and hope and wish for money and abundance. Not at all.

Positive thinking replaces limiting beliefs, doubts, and excuses. Positive thinking turns ‘I can’t’ thinking into ‘I am able to’. Positive thinking provides you the power to get up and get things done.

Today You Are Where Your Thoughts Have Brought You

Positive thinking is for your benefit. Again, you will stay as you are with the results you don’t like up until you decide to take charge and change how you think about things.

Some don’t believe me. THAT is the problem. Proof won’t come along and change your mind. Seeing does not result in believing. You have the cart before the horse. BELIEVE IT and YOU will see it.

THAT is how it works. You can’t see it, you won’t see it, because your own beliefs, thoughts, reasons, excuses, blames and filters prevent you from seeing it. That is why you want the proof first.

You’ll Be Where Your Thoughts Take You Tomorrow

You are stuck in ‘I can’t do it’,  If you can’t then you won’t. If you won’t then you don’t so nothing changes. If you want your life to change you have to change things in your life.

If what you are doing isn’t work then you must do something else. If you don’t like the results you are getting, in order to get different results you must make some do things differently. Make changes.

It doesn’t happen over night. The results you seek may take time. That is just how things are. That is how the brain is designed to work. It creates habits and the operates from those habits.

You Can’t Escape The Results Of Your Thoughts

You habitually think the way you do. If it isn’t powerful, positive and serving you to get the results and kind of life you want, then that is what you can change, and must change, to have that better life.

The good news is you can create now, powerful, positive thought habits. It takes some time. Just as walking any journey is step by step but little by little you can experience immense benefits.

Your mind has told you what to do long enough. You’ve listened to chronic, bad thought habits. It is time you tell your mind what to do. Give it clear, concise, instructions, the right way AND IT WILL obey.

You Become What You Think About

Condition your mind for success. Condition it for happiness, health, wealth, loving relationships. Anything you want or desire but you must condition it. Otherwise, it does what it already does.

Drop by drop the tub gets filled. Bit by bit you will claim control. Take baby steps, it’s okay. A small degree of positive change can manifest incredibly large positive results. Isn’t that what you want?

Affirm what you want. Declare it. See it in your mind’s eye. Speak it. Assert it. When you do muster up all the wonderful, good, positive feelings you can. Shout it, chant it, FEEL IT! Be positive.

If You Can Hold It In Your Head You Can Hold It In Your Hand

Think, I am happy. I am healthy. I am rich. I can reach my goals. Make short, concise positive statements. Repeat them again and again with strong positive emotion. Day and night. Whenever you can.

That is how you got the limiting beliefs. You were exposed to them over and over. Now it is your turn to tell your brain what you want instead. Think positive and things can get better. You’ll see.

Sure, it might be hard. Instead of focusing on difficulty, focus on what you can and will do. Focus on it being easy and fun. Make it so and it will be. You get what you think about. You always have! So think the best thoughts not the worst. And while you are at it, appreciate what you have, feel grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make today a happy one!

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What You Don’t Rule, Rules You!

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“Why is it important to take control of your thoughts and feelings? Why do you need to control your brain? Why should you take charge of your life? Your brain is an organ just like any other in your body. It has a function to perform and operates by rules.

Neuroscientists, medical researchers and others know that thoughts are things.They are electrical impulses that trigger electrical and chemical switches in the brain. Our body responds to the thoughts we think. Our thoughts affect us!

Our beliefs, attitudes, opinions, and behaviors are made up of previously laid down neural pathways that function as patterns of behavior or habit. They are reliable and automatic. Many more are negative than are positive. There are thousands and thousands.

We adopted them growing up, from birth on. Our lives and present circumstances are the result of this neural conditioning. The brain does whatever it learned to do. It doesn’t care if the programs are right or wrong, true or false, beneficial or not. It does what it learned to do and it will keep doing these reliable until changed.

If you don’t take care to manage and control your thoughts and feelings your thoughts and feelings will manage you. You will continue on in the same fashion as you always have being controlled, your life dictated, by programs you adopted at an earlier age.

Some serve you well, many run counter to what you want. If you don’t learn to control your thinking and lay down new neural pathways and habits your old pathways and habits dictate the results you get. Change won’t happen unless you change it!

If you don’t like your results you must change the early conditioning. You must update and upgrade and develop positive new programs, and automated habits that get you the results you want. Whatever you don’t control controls you. Whatever you don’t rule, rules you.

The good news is your brain continues to learn and can serve you better when you take charge and direct it. Using the same method to learn previous programming you can learn new, more beneficial programming and begin to get the results you want. Take charge!

You work with the brain and condition it according to its rules. Then it is easy. If you don’t do it the way the brain most easily learns you will have a much more difficult time. If you want to get new, better results, and make your life grand keep reading this blog.

In it I share how the brain works, how you can condition your mind for happiness and success and much more. Don’t just read once, read and re-read. Go back through these pages and study. BUT reading alone won’t make the difference. You must apply what you read.

You must use what you learn. Do the exercises. Practice the procedures. Apply the principles. Read to inspire and motivate and learn how. Then do. The proper fruit of knowledge is action. To know and not to do is to not know. If you want to your life to change you must change things in your life.

You must put these methods to work. So keep reading, keep doing. Have fun, enjoy the process. Be patient and keep the faith. Great things are ahead. Claim your life back. Rule your brain and your life. Dictate the results you get. Become the author of your life and write happy chapters! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Greet each day with a smile!

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What If You Don’t Believe In Your Own Success

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“People ask me, ‘what should I do if I don’t believe in the affirmation I am repeating?’ This actually is a great and an important question. There are a couple ways to think about it.

The point of the affirmation is to come to accept and believe the statement you are making. You are affirming with authority and intense positive feeling that what you say is what you are.

You may not believe it at first. That is normal. In repeating the affirmation you are working to change your thinking from what you don’t want to what you do want. You are learning something new.

What You Say Is What You Get

For example.  You have no money. You have been focused on the lack of money. Now you want to change that. In order to change it you begin to focus on abundance and wealth. You think differently.

So you claim, ‘I am rich’. But you may not believe that. It doesn’t ring true. That is okay.  It does run counter to the experience you have been paying attention to. It is foreign to you current practice.

If you doubt it or feel less than glorious you need to keep at it enough until you do feel wonderful claiming ‘I am rich’. THIS is the point. It will be at odds with your current experience.

You Become What You Think About

You never thought this way before. In order to get comfortable and accept it, and begin to live from it, you must repeat it enough over and over. You must send a clear signal to your brain I WANT THIS!

If you don’t yet feel incredible, intense marvelous feelings when you affirm and visualize there is work to do. Stick with it. Keep doing it. All good things come in time to those who persist.

It IS important to feel good when you visualize and affirm. If you think and affirm ‘I am rich’ and it feels wonderful, great! Keep at it. If it doesn’t feel good keep at it. Soon enough you will.

You Can Be, Do And Have Anything 

Do something to make yourself feel good when you affirm. Shout it. Ramp up the enthusiasm. Get excited. Jump up and down. Sing it. Whatever makes you feel good, utilize!

This might seem tough but by deliberately intend ing to feel good you are training yourself to. Work the muscle just as you would in physical exercise. Push it if you must. Have fun as you can!

Intend to believe the affirmation and intend to feel great while thinking and exclaiming it. Through the power of your will you are learning a massive amount of self control and valuable skills.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

Through repetition and strong emotion you are sending a clear, concise message to your brain this is what I am. This is who I am. This is what I believe. I AM RICH. Ultimately, your brain will get it.

You can search here for my work on Directed Questions™ which is another way to assist you in accepting the affirmation and getting what you want easily and swiftly. Incredibly valuable!  Look into it.

The point is you should want to learn to deliberately control your thoughts and feelings and do whatever it takes to gain that positive and powerful ability. Pay the price whatever it is.

Stop Being A Passenger In Life Become The Driver

It is your brain and your life. It is up to you what you make do with it. If you opt out of controlling your thoughts, as most people do, the alternative is you remain the same. Your thoughts control you.

If you chose to control it, while it may be somewhat difficult at first, ultimately it gets easier with practice and the benefits are incredible. Whether you do or don’t is completely up to you.

It will seem foreign, so what. Get used to it. You will through practice. That is the point of spaced repetition. Anything and everything you have ever learned you have learned this way.

Go Where You Decide To Go Don’t Be Taken For A Ride

I’ll save that discussion for another time. For now supercharge you affirmations with positive feelings. Find out how you can cheerfully and powerfully chant them with full expression. Have fun doing it!

The more omph you add the sooner they take hold. The quicker you make changes. The more you repeat the thoughts you want to believe the more you will believe them. You change your thinking.

Take charge and learn to think what you intend to think. Learn to be in charge instead of having your brain run on automatic old, negative programming. If you want it bad enough you will. It’s up to you.

Everything Is Better Through Celebration And Gratitude

There is so much more to cover. I’ll do so in upcoming blogs. You can also go back and read through these pages. In them resides great value and life changing practices and principles. Study and enjoy!

Drop by drop fills the tub. Little  by little these small changes add up. You can design and evolve yourself in whatever positive ways you want. Enjoy the process, be grateful you can, and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make each moment marvelous!

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