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The Easiest And Quickest Way To Make Your Life Wonderful!

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“If you could find a way to easily make all of your life wonderful you would do it, wouldn’t you? If there was one simple thing to remember to do each day you’d do it, right?

If it meant making a huge difference for how much you enjoyed your experience would you put it into practice and apply it? You may have heard it before but unless you are actively applying it, you are missing out.

What is it you can do that will have such a great effect? It is the practice of gratitude for every thing. It is actively appreciating all aspects of your life and continuing to do it. Here is what to do:

You Got To Accentuate The Positive

Find, validate and repeat the validation for things, people, circumstances, events, and belongings, you are grateful for because this practice reinforces it. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

Celebrate everything you can find to be grateful about over and over again. It builds the habit of finding good things, and feeling good about them. You get back more of what you put out!

As you do this you spend more time feeling good and grateful. What you focus on expands so your own brain will help you find and make connections to other things you can appreciate too.

Remember, the Reticular Activating System (RAS), looks to match the outer with what you have going on inside. It’s job is to provide you evidence for what you already believe on the inside.

Good taste dictates that you believe and think wonderful thoughts on the inside. You find more and more. Like attracts like. Birds of a feather flock together. In finding more your feel better and better.

The More We Do The Easier It Becomes And The More We Can Do

Pretty good deal, if you ask me. You begin to find areas to be grateful about things you perviously might never have considered. Your ability to look, find, consider, validate and celebrate expands even more. You get better at it and build a reliable skill.

The more you find to appreciate the more you transform every aspect of your life, past and present. By living in gratitude and celebration you open the doorway and floodgates of the future.

Life, for you, becomes a celebration. When you live thinking and feeling this way you get back more of what you have. Remember, like attracts like and birds of a feather… You live in increase!

You create and attract a most marvelous life. When outer events throw you curve balls, at any time, you are more prepared and resourceful to respond in positive and powerful ways.

Perfect Practice Repeated Again And Again Makes Perfect

Because you have emphasized and practiced feeling grateful, because you have made it a habit, it automatically works for you. You really do become what you think about.

Remember, what they recommend on shampoo bottles. ‘Wash, rinse and repeat’. The practice for your good mental health and well being is the same in essence. Cleanse your mind with appreciation and repeat then do it again.

Then repeat and repeat and repeat. Rehearse the skill you want to develop as an actor does. Practice the skill again and again, drill it, as an athlete does.

Act as if you are already living the life you want, in your mind, and that life can become yours. What you think about you bring about. Fill your mind with all the positive good you can find and focus on it.

If most of your thoughts, most of your time are celebrations if most of your time is spent thinking and feeling grateful you transform your life into a life most grand. Use the 80/20 rule. Think 80% positive!

Luck Is The Crossroad Where Preparation And Opportunity Meet

You continue to find blessings because that is how your mind and being now operates. When you are optimistic and happy your mind works clearer and better. You’ll only discover this through application.

You will find more opportunity and advantages than you can ever imagine. Your brain will look to match the good things on the outside with those you imagine on the inside. That is its job!

What have you done and learned in doing this? That you can and that you did take charge of your mind and control of your thoughts. Your entire life improves because you made and effort and followed through.

What was your effort? Count your blessings and repeat. Celebrate and delight in things that bring you joy. Keep looking and finding things to appreciate. A pretty good trade off, don’t you think?” Rex Sikes

Make your day a celebration!

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If You Do This It Is No Wonder Why You Struggle To Get Ahead!

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“I had the misfortune or the good fortune to overhear a conversation the other day. I’ll explain my opening statement later. I knew the parties involved. I know many things about the parties and the nature of the conversation.

One person was emphatically reciting, to the other,  what is wrong with the government and the legislation and the economy and why and how it prevents him from moving his business forward. I have heard him recount these things for a number of years now.

Times have changed but his reasons for remaining the same haven’t. Said another way, times have changed but his excuses have not. Since, I have known the him I have know the person to maintain why progress is impossible even though I know others who have moved onward and prospered.

What You Think About You Bring About

I thought to myself. ‘He is getting exactly what he is saying.’ It is as if he is reciting from a script. In fact, I use the word reciting, because that is what he is doing. He is repeating the same arguments he has made for quite some time. Nothing new. Same old, same old.

The sayings, ‘what you think about you bring about.’ AND ‘You become what you think about’, definitely apply. He has convinced himself, through autosuggestion, that it is everyone’s fault but his. His brain (RAS) seeks and finds more examples ‘out there’ of how he is right.

We don’t like being wrong or uncomfortable so our brain does whatever it can to keep us the same and make us feel good about ourselves, even if that is what is wrong with ourselves. We’ll take right over having to change nearly every time.

Our beliefs, attitude, mindset, paradigm or thoughts, words and feelings, work to keep us the same. We need to be able to recognize when we hold ourselves back and keep ourselves struggling and what we need to do instead to move forward positively and productively.

We Build Habits Through Repetition Over Time

Autosuggestion is always ongoing. We are always suggesting, through our internal pictures or movies, our assertions and declarations and our feelings either things we want and the good in our life or things we don’t want and that which sucks.

We can’t escape autosuggestion we can only direct it. When we repeat again and again what we think about the world reinforces it. If we think things are bad and we aren’t capable to resolve it then that becomes our habitual script from which we behave. It becomes our habit. Changing our life means changing our scripts and habits.

We must first change our thoughts and feelings, what we repeat and live from in order to get the results we want to get. If we maintain the same things for decades we get to remain the same for decades good or bad. Sadly, most of us don’t know this so we stay stuck. Most of us rehearse and practice remaining stuck or the same when we could rehearse and practice what we want to be, do and have.

Speak Only To Bless, Heal And Prosper

Tongue in cheek I say misfortune or good fortune because, once again, I was exposed to his less than glorious rant. No biggie, though, life happens. I can take care of myself and my own thoughts. I need not be affected just because he is sour. A little exposure to the darker side isn’t going to harm me.

Obviously, it could if it were perpetual, as it is for him. My assessment is, he could move forward and do many wonderful things, though he is unable to presently notice that. He’d rather argue and defend his position if alternate ways of thinking and doing were presented. He will maintain his stance and his opposition, his opinion, which he calls fact.

I say good fortune because it is another reminder for myself to only speak what blesses, heals and prospers myself and others. I prefer my self talk to be supportive and encouraging. I prefer my declarations, my use of autosuggestion to be positive and lead me in productive ways.

What You See, Say, And Feel IS What You Get

And I say good fortune because it gave me material for today’s blog. Watch what you think and say and feel. Learn to focus on what you want and then create and attract that. Do not defend being stuck where you are at. Let go of excuses that prevent you from being all you can be. Think and speak only to bless, heal and prosper.

Yes, good fortune because it is also a reminder and lesson to me.” Rex Sikes

Make your day glorious!

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It Is Easier To Change Things Than You Think

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“We have been discussing beliefs. In my last post I mentioned that we would discuss changing beliefs. We can actually trade in our old limited ones for updates. It is easier than you may think. Instead of living from and getting poor results, we live from positive, powerful, tailor made beliefs and begin getting good results.

How do you change it? You tell yourself what you want to believe over and over and over again until you believe it! Repetition will make a habit. Our beliefs are only beliefs we have told ourselves again and again. Fortunately, though it seems difficult, beliefs can be easily changed.

Use the same method you did in the first place. Only this time chose a new, useful, positive belief that serves to get you what you want. Then repeat it again and again enthusiastically over time and you will come to believe it. THIS is how the military conditions minds.

Ask yourself, Directed Questions™ (see other posts on their use) and direct your mind to what you want. Ask again and again over time. Visualize yourself repeatedly already being, doing and having whatever it is you want. It is already yours. Act as if!

What you see you get! What you say you get! What you feel you get! Manage your imagination and see it fully! Manage your self talk and keep it nice. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper. Speak only to affirm what you want. Repeat your positive mantras over and over.

Feel it. Feel what it would feel like to have the perfect life. To already have the change you desire. Enjoy these feelings. Feel these feelings through out your day. Feel the best you can as much as you can. Think 80/20.

If you are feeling good and thinking good and speaking good 80% of your time I’d bet you are kicking serious butt. You are making your dreams come true. You are living an incredible life. AIM for it. You can make it happen. It is easy. DO IT. It is easier than you think.” Rex Sikes

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You Are Only One Thought Away From Making All Your Dreams Come True!

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“Henry Ford said, ‘whether you think you can or you think you can’t; you are right!’ We have been discussing beliefs and the role of the Reticular Activating System (RAS), that part of your brain that looks for outer world matches to your inner world beliefs.

In other words, what you hold in your mind your brain actually finds evidence for. Driving home the point that Believing IS Seeing and not the other way around. We find evidence for what we already believe. We prove ourselves right. That is the job of the RAS.

Ford was correct. Whether you think you can or you think you can’t; you are right. You will find the evidence and prove yourself right either way. That should stop each of us and give us a great pause.

If I prove myself sad, poor, stuck, out of work, lackluster, disabled, morose IS that how I want to live? If my thoughts determine my results, perhaps, I should learn to manage my mind and change my thoughts? Don’t you think?

Either you live a life of can’t or a life of can. If you could have happiness, love, peace, fun, adventure, money wouldn’t you prefer that? My guess is most of us do even thought our lives run counter to what we wish for. The reason for that has been made clear.

We get the results in the outer world that we first create in our inner world. If we think we can’t we won’t. If we think we are undeserving, worthless and not entitled to wealth or happiness we will never get it, because we will instead, prove ourselves right.

Hmmm. I think I’d rather be wrong and rich! Wrong and happy! Wrong and in love with a partner, family and friends. I’d rather take control and make the positive, wonderful life happen. Because, if I think I can I am right! Wouldn’t you?

Do you realize you are only a thought away from having everything you wish and dream for? A thought away. Don’t you think it is time to take control and get and live the life you want? However you answer these questions YOU ARE RIGHT! The proof is forthcoming.

As for me, I prefer to live abundantly in all things. I believe I deserve it, as does everyone else. I believe it is all mine for the enjoying, as it is for you too. I prefer to make good things happen and live powerfully and positively. BECAUSE I CAN! SO CAN YOU! You are only one thought away!” Rex Sikes

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Tips To Make Good Things Happen For You!

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“How do we make things happen? How do we attract? How do we create? The process is quite simple. The fact is many people mess it up by getting in their own way. They believe it must be hard. They think, ‘it can’t be this simple’. So they go about proving themselves right.

After all the unconscious mind makes no judgements. The unconscious mind just agrees with you. If you think it is simple your unconscious says, ‘yep, it’s simple!’ If you think, ‘boy this is hard.’ Your unconscious thinks, ‘yep, boy this is hard!’ It’s job is to agree with you and find agreement with you out in the real world.

So how do you get what you want? How do you make it happen?

Visualize the good you desire in your life. See it, hear it, feel it. Imagine the good you want is already yours. You have it right now. NOT in the future, sometime, somewhere, but right here and now!

What You See Is What You Get

Affirm it.  The quickest way to be what you want to be is to say ‘I am’ what you want to be. Declare it. Affirm yourself to be it right now. Whatever follows ‘I am’ or ‘I have’ is your affirmation. Your mantra, that which you repeat over and over.

See it, visualize it fully, and declare it. What you think about you bring about! Feel all the wonderful feelings that accompany having it right now. Enjoy these feelings. Feel these and think about your desire. You become what you think about most.

For example. Imagine you played and won the lottery. You get a call that tells you in a couple weeks you are going to get a check for millions of dollars. How do you feel getting this news? I bet pretty good. I bet, too, you imagine many things you would do with that money. Right?

What You Say Is What You Get

Now consider this as well. NOTHING in your daily life has changed other than you got this news. Your life is exactly the same as it was before the news. The money is yours that is certain. BUT you do not have any of it yet. It is coming. BUT it is yours right now too. You can feel it. Your entire life changes. You vibrate with energy and enthusiasm.

These are the kind of feelings and expectations you want to have when it comes to your desires. You want to feel it already belongs to you and you are thrilled. It feels incredible! Savor and bask and enjoy these feelings. You know it is coming. There is nothing left to do but allow it to arrive. You expect it completely!

You live with eager anticipation because you now it is coming. You don’t doubt it because you know it is happening. You don’t have to pull yourself up by your own bootstraps to believe it because you know it is yours already. You accept it. ALL you have to actually do is receive it.

What You Feel Is What You Get

If you were just told you won the lottery you wouldn’t declare or think ‘someday I am going to be rich’ you’d think ‘I AM RICH! I AM SO RICH! I HAVE LOTS OF MONEY!’ You would state what you have (lots of money).  You would most likely ignore present circumstances, except you’d imagine paying off any bills and still being rich.

You have not yet received as much as an actual penny but you know the money is yours. Yet, you don’t let that deter you from feeling marvelous and celebrating. In an instant your life is entirely transformed.

This is how we make it happen. We live it first within our imagination fully. What we think about we bring about. Our powerful, joyful enthusiastic, thrilled feelings open the floodgates. Our detailed visualization and our declarations pinpoint what we want. We make it happen from the inside out.

From Within So Without

That is it. Sadly, people second guess, doubt, give up, try to make it work, figure it out, add extra effort, and all that does is muck it up and push it away. We see it and claim it! It is knowing that it is ours that creates the excitement. If you doubt it you don’t know it is yours yet.

If you are having trouble believing then create smaller more believable things. Pick something you can believe happens and make it happen. For example you may find it difficult to believe you can be a millionaire in a couple years but you don’t have any problem imagining that you could earn two hundred extra dollars in the next couple months.

Start with making the 200 happen. Then increase it. Only as large and as quickly as you are able to maintain your belief in it. Pick up wins as you go a long. That will convince you of your power to make things happen. How can you tell you believe it? How do you feel? If you feel ecstatic you do. If you feel less than glorious it isn’t likely you do.

Last thing for today. Don’t specify how it is to arrive. My example was you won the lottery. If you put all your hope and faith into winning the lottery I wish you luck. You might or you might not. If you don’t and you get discouraged then you will have truly lost out.

Relax, Let Go And Transform

Don’t specify how it happens. Simply, trust that it does. How it does, you don’t know and you could care less. Get out of your own way. Don’t put any conditions on it. Simply, enjoy it and vibrate positively with it. The less you dictate how it must be the quicker you will get it.

Let go and give in. Allow. Receive. Enjoy. Celebrate between now and whenever it arrives. Be happy, delighted, positive and patient. You did the creative work inside now celebrate and let it all come together. We’ll discuss more in future posts. Meanwhile, live, be happy, celebrate and delight!

The quickest way to get what you want is to be it! Be filled with gratitude and joy. May all your dreams and goals come true.” Rex Sikes

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Why Negative Things Happen To Positive People

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“A questioner asked me recently, ‘Why, if one is positive and practices the Law Of Attraction (LOA), do less than glorious things sometimes happen?’ Today, I am going to share an answer to this  question. This is my emailed reply. I delete the name and relevant details.

I don’t have all the answers. I only have my feelings for how some things may work or not. This was my answer to this individual. It is not meant to be a blanket answer to cover everything. Still, I hope it provides food for thought. Note: Bolded sentences were not part of the email answer to her. I use them here only.

Hi,

I’m sorry to hear about your accidents and glad you are alright. I have some thoughts but let me preface it by saying I am not at all sure they are correct or apply. BUT again, sorry to learn of your recent difficulties.

When You Don’t Know What To Do Celebrate And Be Glad

Having said that, yes, be grateful. Celebrate and be glad. Who knows why bad things happen to good people. They just do. It rains on the good and the bad – the sun shines on both too.

What to say? Perhaps, it is all still perfect in the scheme of things and you simply can’t see what is around the bend yet. One day looking back you may be able to connect the dots. For now it is obscured. That may be just the way it is. What to do?

Celebrate and be glad anyway. Expect good things to happen and for everything to work out for the best. Stay focused on the positive and what you want to create for yourself in your future. Don’t let present circumstances distract you. Keep the focus and the faith and persist.

One thing I learned to do, whether or not is is true or not. I learned to take 100% responsibility for everything that happens good or bad. That means if something bad happens I assume somehow I am responsible. MAYBE I am not but it doesn’t do me any good to try to find out who is or why or blame others.

Responsibility Is For Your Benefit – Really No Other Reason

I accept it as something I have created. It helps me to put my focus more clearly and steadily on the positive good I want to create.

Taking responsibility in this way puts me in charge and gives me power. I am not a victim but the architect of my story. If I created something bad then I can create something good. I can write the outcome more how I want it.

I don’t know why, when everything is going right, we get up and stub our toe. Maybe it is to keep us humble OR perhaps, without contrast,  we would loose sight of all the good.

Another theory is you are god and you create everything and the world is illusion. Everything that happens is an opportunity to remember your divinity. I don’t know if this is accurate or not either but heck, why not. It is just as reasonable an explanation as any other. (Though many people and religions will disagree).

We See Through A Mirror Dimly

Recently, within the past year, I wrote a blog about acceptance and going with the flow. I used freeway traffic, or any traffic, as an exercise to remember, and keep in mind, everything is perfect. For example, you are in a hurry, but traffic is not. You are stuck. You will be late you can’t do anything about it.

Well, you can suffer and burn, swear and hate. OR you can let go and think, ‘this is exactly where I am supposed to be right now stuck in traffic. I have choices. No matter what happens, from here on out, ultimately, it will all work out for me.’

So you get there late, you are fired. You can’t pay your bills, you lose your car…

We Can’t Know The End Of The Story…

We all have heard stories like this… actor down and out… penniless and homeless BUT never loses sight of what is important and one day while pushing their grocery cart they meet an agent and voila’ the rest is history.

OKAY, it’s a fairy tale. BUT looking back ,often times, people will say, ‘the best thing that ever happened…’ was this negative event. BECAUSE, ‘if it hadn’t then I never would have…’

And on it goes. Keep the faith. Stay positive. Perhaps, it is a test. A self test or from the universe. Who knows?  It’s a test to see if you can maintain a positive, grateful stance while things fall apart.

I don’t know. I don’t know the truth. BUT I do know this. If you are able to stay positive, in spite of it all,  AND you are able to maintain your focus and celebrate and be grateful for EVERYTHING, you are far ahead of many others, far ahead in the game of life, and you will ultimately attract more good things to you.

… Don’t Get Caught In A Chapter

If on the other hand you get negative and down and out and let it pull you down you will also attract more negativity. SO the choice is always yours and yours alone. As you stated, Like attracts like. So just make sure you attract what you intend to attract.

IF you created the incidents – cool – don’t get down on yourself. If you didn’t don’t get down on yourself or others or god or universe or whatever. Utilize this as an opportunity to grow stronger, more positive and have more faith in yourself.

Maintain  your positive attitude. Stay focused on what you have that you are grateful for. Focus on that which you enjoy and what you desire most. Make more good happen.

Find A Way To Feel The Best You Can Most Of The Time

It could have been residual hang over from a previous lapse. There is the theory that what we experience today we create a while back. What we create tomorrow comes from our thoughts today. SO keep focused and positive. Love yourself, love life, radiate delight.

I don’t think having a positive attitude means nothing bad ever happens. It means, when it does, we can triumph over it quicker and easier than otherwise. It also means that, for the most part, we attract wonderful things into our life.

It does not mean that everything necessarily becomes fairy tale perfect. TOO many gods running about on the planet for that to happen.

Don’t Get Caught Up In Why – Live, Love, Laugh

Enjoy everything. Live to the utmost. Laugh, love and enjoy. Spend most of your time there and little else will matter. YOU are a creator keep creating the good. You are a magnet keep attracting the good. Radiate light and vibrate high positive energy. Celebrate each minute.

Then we are free no matter what transpires. Should we fall down and get bummed out, so what, dust yourself off, get up and carry on. No one said we are 100% of the time perfectly happy or positive either.

I mentioned the theory that we are gods, creators, lost in illusion that we are not. We don’t remember our true divine nature. Whether, true or not, has some great lessons for us.

If we get caught up in illusion from time to time who cares?  That is part of the game we are playing with ourselves. The ultimate goal of this divine game is to remember we are gods and remember we have choice. Of course, the illusion is we don’t and that things may be bad.

Everything Is As It Is Perfect In Its Own Way

Everything is perfect in its own way. We just can’t figure it out yet. WHO knows what good those incidents may lead to (if any) but it doesn’t matter. Keep the focus and the faith and move forward.

I don’t know if any of this helps or provides you any comfort or direction. I am happy you reached out to me. I wish you the best in all things and encourage you to stay in touch. Hope the auditions go well too. Let me know your thoughts.” Rex Sikes

Each moment is a miracle!

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The Secret Few Know To Making Positive Changes Most Easily!

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“Yes, there is still a secret. This secret is the key to making positive, permanent, productive change. It is being revealed here so you can immediately apply it and have it work for you.  This secret is ancient and spans all of time. It is absolutely powerful.

Sadly, everyone, or most everyone is familiar with it. They have heard about it and know it. It is one of the most well known secrets there is. Sadder still, while it has been hidden in plain sight, revealed numerous times, most people miss it and don’t use it.

That is why it remains a secret. Not because it is hidden but because people don’t use it. Since they don’t use it they don’t understand or benefit from its incredible power. Perhaps, today will be different. Most likely not for most people, but it will be for a few.

Even An Open Book May Not Be Read Until Someone Reads It

For those few THEY are ready to transform and begin to have a life more wonderful and fulfilling. AS I have always said, ‘Exploration is the doorway to adventure. Awareness is the key’. Be willing to explore new possibilities and a new world will open up to you in amazing ways.

Awareness is the key. We have choices we may not realize, appreciate or utilize. One possibility is we react to situations out of habit. We react from pre-recorded programs we run day in and day out, where whatever happens triggers a conditioned reaction.

As when someone gives you the finger and you, without thinking, give them one back. These neural pathways are a well beaten down path. We react automatically. There is a cause and an immediate effect. It happens without awareness. Afterwards, we realize, perhaps, what we did.

Exploration Is The Doorway To Adventure

Then there is the other possibility, that from awareness we respond. We notice the instigation but it doesn’t grip or grab us. Instead, more like an observer, we watch without getting hooked and we choose how to behave or respond to the situation. There is a moment, or a gap, between the trigger and what happens next.

There is one practical method for creating that gap and that is to condition yourself for it. The other less productive reactive behaviors were conditioned without awareness simply by growing up. The new behaviors we deliberately intend to create. THAT is the difference.

One we ended up with reactions without realizing it. The new ones we intend to create, we take time to manufacture through practice and repetition. There are plenty of opportunities each day, each hour, to practice this.

Awareness IS The Key

At first when you begin applying this you will be late, most likely. Timing is everything. You will realize after the moment passes.  THAT is OKAY! That IS the first beginning steps. SO take it easy on yourself. Be gentle and be grateful you noticed whenever it is that you notice.

THIS is important to remember and realize. You decide, for example, to enjoy life more. You don’t want to get angry so much. DO not focus on the anger. That will only bring more energy to it and you will end up being angry more. INAPPROPRIATE anger is what you want to eliminate. It is appropriate to be angry in some situations. That may be the wisest response.

Focus on enjoying life more. Pour your energy into that. Then you will get more of that! Be positive and be happy. WHEN you discover that you are not, or that you got angry inappropriately, even moments after ‘the event’, congratulate yourself on recognizing you were angry.

YES! Congratulate yourself on recognizing you got angry. This is the beginning of awareness. It is simply late. As you continue along, life will afford you many opportunities to practice and build a new habit. Continue to recognize and appreciate your awareness.

Questions Direct Your Mind What To Look For And Find

You might ask Directed Questions™ like, ‘I wonder how delighted I will become to discover myself easily responding more positively to these situations…’ (whatever they are for you) or to whomever you want to respond more positively too.

OR ‘How delighted will I be to discover for myself that I have choices and that I am able to respond differently…’ OR ‘…that I am able to respond positively and productively?’ Send your mind on searches for what you want to have rather than what you don’t want.

Do you want to be more aware? Would you like to be more positive? Would you like more choice? Would you like to stay clam in trying situations? If so ask questions similar to the one’s above that direct you into having what you want. Put your brain on the search for you.

Throughout the day keep asking a few questions around the area of change you wish to develop. ASK!. These will greatly increase your ability to change and become more aware. That, after all, is the goal, to become more aware.

Be Gentle, Positive And Encouraging

Remember, to not get caught up and react. There is a great infographic out there that reads ‘ Every time you feel yourself getting pulled into other people’s nonsense, repeat these words. Not my circus. Not my monkeys.’

Whenever you FEEL yourself getting pulled into… other people’s or even your own trauma drama… remember to repeat, ‘Not my circus. Not my monkeys’. This is great because this is how we create awareness. We, first, must notice the pull.

Once we do, STOP!!! Take a deep breath! Maybe one or two more! THEN after the breathes engage a new behavior. REPEAT a new mantra, or affirmation, whatever it is. In this case it is a reminder ‘not my circus. not my monkeys’.

Whatever it is or whatever new behavior you want you instigate after the STOP – GAP. STOP first…. then Begin. Stop then Begin!

Come To A Complete 4 Wheel Stop And Then Proceed Differently

You feel the pull and you STOP! Completely stop! Pause. Take a breath or two. AND BEGIN The new behavior. Think a different thought inside or out. Do anything physically different from what you would have done previous to learning this.

Each time you successfully repeat this process you are on your way to building a new habit which includes awareness and choice! Soon enough it will be automatic and reliable. You will have transformed an unwanted into a wanted. You are moving forward!

Put your energy into what you want NOT what you do not want.

Remember, to be free you must pause and chose to respond differently. IF YOU DO get caught up that is okay, be gentle with yourself. Next time, maybe, you will remember. Or perhaps you will remember even sooner. You will catch yourself quicker.

You Stop And Then Move In A New Direction

Pat yourself on the back for whatever you did and for noticing it whenever you noticed it. Self criticism won’t help you change. It is part of the old behaviors and conditioning. SO while you are learning to change the anger, learn too how to end the negative self-talk! Get it? Be gentle and encouraging. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper.

If you can’t say something good about yourself, another person or the circumstances, do not say anything at all. Do not reinforce what you do not want? Do not give it your energy! DO YOU UNDERSTAND?

Only put the energy you have into the things you want. Make sure you are putting it into what you want! Many people think they are when they aren’t! So check and double check. Energy begets energy. You want to get back WHAT YOU WANT and not more of what you do not want. Is this clear? I hope so.

Speak Only To Bless, Heal And Prosper – Congratulate Yourself

I repeat: WHENEVER you do remember, give yourself a pat on the back for noticing and changing. Encourage the positive behaviors you want more of. Literally, ignore the behaviors you wish to eliminate. Do not put energy into the negative thoughts or behaviors or you end up getting more of the same. Focus and get back the positive!

So here it is. A huge wide open secret that most people never apply so they never get the changes or life they want to have. Sad, but if it is to be, it will be up to them. Just as it is up to you and me. No one can do this for us. We must each do it our self.

So what is it going to be? Will you dive in and begin transforming your life in powerful and positive ways or not? It is up to you. Whenever you make a positive decision to make a positive difference for yourself, celebrate and be grateful that you recognized an opportunity.

This is how we learn to recognize more and more opportunities as they present themselves. I hope you, decide today to, transform your life in wonderful ways that bring you more delight than you can even begin to imagine right now. Celebrate, enjoy and be glad! Today is a magnificent day!” Rex Sikes

Savor the positive wonderful moments you create!

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The Number 1 Reason Why You Aren’t Getting Results Even Though You Know What To Do

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“Is life a struggle? How is the career going? Are you happy? Is your relationship fulfilling you? Are you doing what you want to be doing? Is your bank account growing? Are you making your dreams come true? If not, why not?

You say, you wish things were going better. You read this blog, you read all the books but you just can’t seem to make it work. I have a question for you that is critical. There is a big difference between reading and using what you learn when you read.

Are you applying what you know? Many people read. Fewer people do. People read and get information, life changing information, and then do nothing with it. Reading a book about how to ride a bicycle and riding a bike are two completely different things.

You Truly Can Be, Have and Do Anything You Want

You may learn how from books. You might know what to do. Then you must apply it. To know and not to do is to not know. Then you must apply what you know consistently. When and as you do you will discover that it does work and that you can make your dreams come true.

Set yourself from the crowd. Step out from the herd. Apply what you know and have the life most people only dream of. Put into action what you know. Live with purpose. Do what you intend to do and you will find an entirely wonderful world.

For example, you have read about gratitude. Try it! Sincerely try it on. There will be those who complain that they have and didn’t notice much change. I would say they may think they have but they have not.

To Know And Not To Do Is To Not Know

If you don’t understand why I am doubtful, I suggest that you don’t understand the practice of gratitude. See what I mean? There is a reason for my statement.

Do you know why I say, if they complain they have tried it and then maintain it doesn’t work, that they haven’t actually tried it? If not, think on this for a while.

If you want your life to change you must change things in your life. I always wish you the best! Until next time. Celebrate!” Rex Sikes

Make the day grand!

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Success Tips & Principles You Can Use For Your Career & Life! (Audio Blog)

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“Today, I thought I would post an audio blog. This mp3 is on success tips and principles you can immediately use. I hope you enjoy listening instead of reading today. Let me know your thoughts in the comment section.

Why did I record this. For those of you who don’t know I do an internet radio show, available as a podcast on itunes, called Rex Sikes’ Movie Beat. The purpose of that program is to assist filmmakers and actors by discussing movie and TV production from A-Z with working professionals. It is a marvelous learning program.

On this particular show day my guest did not appear. Rather than cancel I decided to use the time, on the spot, to share some important success principles I have used through the years.

This recording is completely extemporaneous. I spoke off the cuff, as it was not at all planned. I am seated at my microphone and am fairly subdued or laid back.

There are some show comments regarding my guest not showing up and then I start discussing success principles as a topic at  about 5:48 into the recording. You can skip the beginning or you can listen to the entire program.

Regardless, I hope you make use of these principle. Utilize these to make you life and getting your dreams easier. I think you will be pleasantly surprised if you will apply these right away. Enjoy the program.

There is an ad in the beginning but you can skip it by placing your cursor at the 1 minute mark and the show will begin or skip to 5:48. I can’t do anything about the ads on the show.

Celebrate and be grateful! Listen, learn and enjoy! Make all your dreams come true.” Rex Sikes

Have  a fabulous day!

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Your Entire Life Can Absolutely Transform If You Just Do This!

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“Transformation is by far the easiest thing that I have ever done. I never would have thought that would be the case but it truly is. Many people don’t change simply because they believe it to be too difficult. It is not. It is easier than you might believe.

Transformation is worth far more than anything you can imagine!

I’ve been sharing about beliefs in recent pages. Our beliefs either serve us or they don’t. Unfortunately, many of us grew up and got used to thinking less than productive thoughts for ourselves. The good news is those thoughts and beliefs can be changed easily. In order to make the changes you want you do need to act.

You need to initiate the transformation.

You And Your Life Are What You Predominantly Think About

Within these very blog pages I have written it is not easy but it is simple. I do this because it does require something and if you are going to go for it then you should understand you have a role to play. You have something to do. That something is simple. All you have to do is monitor your feelings.

Whenever you notice you are feeling less than glorious or could use an attitude adjustment do it. DO anything positive that makes you feel a bit better. Do something good that puts you heading emotionally in the right direction. Change you thoughts, go for a walk, relax, read an inspirational book, play with a pet but do something nice that makes you feel better.

Change Is Far Easier Than You May Have Ever Imagined

While this may not seem easy at first it get easier. It is very simple. Repeat your positive affirmations and put your mind on what is positive. The only reason it may seem difficult at first is because you haven’t yet made it a habit. You are busy doing what you have aways done that doesn’t work. Once you change it your life and world changes!

It changes from the very first honest decision you make to do this. Everything begins changing the instant you decide. You begin to marshall your inner resources whether or not you think so. In the act or truly deciding you start change right then! The process begins. You became purposeful, at cause and intentional. You decided things would be different. AND so the shall be.

In Order To Begin Transforming You Must Decide To Begin

This is a wonderful beginning step! When you think about it you either decided to or not to transform. There really isn’t a middle ground. Either you are stuck or unstuck. You use these types of opposites to monitor your feelings. Think of it this way. Things are  either good or bad; right or wrong; hot or cold; positive or negative; There is either increase or decrease. Getting closer or further away.

Your feelings are a signal for whatever you are thinking. If you begin to think negative thoughts your feelings will change and feel less wonderful. You’ll feel more discomfort. If you are thinking about problems or lack or what’s wrong or what you want to avoid you won’t feel on top of the world. MAJOR SIGNAL HERE to change your thoughts and feelings.

Your Feelings Are A Signal That Your Thoughts Need Changing

Once you notice you make the shift. You think positive thoughts. You shift your body and feelings by doing some of the suggestions I made earlier. Your goal is to feel  better bit by bit. Incrementally is absolutely fine. You change your focus from what is wrong to what is right, to what you can appreciate right now. You think increase instead of decrease.

You focus on what’s good not what’s bad. You shift from the uncomfortable thoughts and feelings to the pleasant positive ones. You do this whenever you notice you are off course. By doing this you train yourself to shift your focus and feelings. One day, soon enough, this begins happening on its own.

You discover yourself automatically returning to what is positive and productive. You begin to find you spend much more time there naturally. As you do life changes. Things get better. You enjoy everything much more. It grows exponentially. You open up, the world becomes friendly. Things change in marvelous ways.

You Are Either Being Positive Or Negative – That Is Simple

As you change and make the adjustments back to the positive you will notice your beliefs changing. You will be delighted and surprised to find some seem to shift on their own. Others you may confront and decide they are worn out and need replacing with healthier more positive ones. Transformation is exciting this way.

There comes a tipping point where the momentum for positive change accelerates. Things come together quicker, easier, seemingly spontaneously. Birds of a feather flock together. Your thoughts and feelings improve and you feel wonderful so you get more of the same. You find situations changing for the better and life getting easier.

If things are tough you respond differently and more resourcefully. Obstacles no longer derail you. Because you are thinking and feeling positive you attract positive people who can help you. The results you get start improving. Everything changes in marvelous ways.

It is worth every effort. Even if it were far more difficult it would be worth it. It is simple and it is easy. When you decide to  go for it you change what you focus on. What you focus on is what you get. Remember, we become what we think about. Think wonderful positive thoughts and you feel better and you become more wonderful and positive. If you haven’t already, begin today!” Rex Sikes

Each moment is marvelous! Be sure to notice.

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