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A Few Positive Sayings To Make Your Day!

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“Today, I have gathered a few of my favorite sayings. I hope you enjoy these.  Most of these come from posters that were made to adorn our workshop walls. 

We become what we think about.

To know and not to do is to not know.

Action is the proper fruit of knowlege.

The more we do the more we can do.

A mind stretched to a new idea can never go back to it’s original dimension.

If you really want to do something you find a way; If you don’t you find an excuse.

You are where your thoughts take you.

The happiest people don’t necessarily have everything. They just make the best  of everything.

It is astonishing how short a time it takes for very wonderful things to happen.

Our self image and our habits go together. Change one and you automatically change the other.

The common denominator of success — the secret of success of every man who has ever been successful — lies in the fact that he formed the habit of doing things that failures don’t like to do.

Be willing to listen to things about which you already know.

Every life has its dark and cheerful hours. Your level of happiness comes from choosing which to remember.

Attitudes are contagious. Is yours worth catching?

Well, there you go. Some of my favorite quotes off the top of my head. None of them are mind but they are one’s I like and remember. I hope these stimualte your thinking, inspire you and help you celebrate your day!” Rex Sikes

Make your day delightful!

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The Number 1 Reason Why You Aren’t Getting Results Even Though You Know What To Do

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“Is life a struggle? How is the career going? Are you happy? Is your relationship fulfilling you? Are you doing what you want to be doing? Is your bank account growing? Are you making your dreams come true? If not, why not?

You say, you wish things were going better. You read this blog, you read all the books but you just can’t seem to make it work. I have a question for you that is critical. There is a big difference between reading and using what you learn when you read.

Are you applying what you know? Many people read. Fewer people do. People read and get information, life changing information, and then do nothing with it. Reading a book about how to ride a bicycle and riding a bike are two completely different things.

You Truly Can Be, Have and Do Anything You Want

You may learn how from books. You might know what to do. Then you must apply it. To know and not to do is to not know. Then you must apply what you know consistently. When and as you do you will discover that it does work and that you can make your dreams come true.

Set yourself from the crowd. Step out from the herd. Apply what you know and have the life most people only dream of. Put into action what you know. Live with purpose. Do what you intend to do and you will find an entirely wonderful world.

For example, you have read about gratitude. Try it! Sincerely try it on. There will be those who complain that they have and didn’t notice much change. I would say they may think they have but they have not.

To Know And Not To Do Is To Not Know

If you don’t understand why I am doubtful, I suggest that you don’t understand the practice of gratitude. See what I mean? There is a reason for my statement.

Do you know why I say, if they complain they have tried it and then maintain it doesn’t work, that they haven’t actually tried it? If not, think on this for a while.

If you want your life to change you must change things in your life. I always wish you the best! Until next time. Celebrate!” Rex Sikes

Make the day grand!

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Success Tips & Principles You Can Use For Your Career & Life! (Audio Blog)

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“Today, I thought I would post an audio blog. This mp3 is on success tips and principles you can immediately use. I hope you enjoy listening instead of reading today. Let me know your thoughts in the comment section.

Why did I record this. For those of you who don’t know I do an internet radio show, available as a podcast on itunes, called Rex Sikes’ Movie Beat. The purpose of that program is to assist filmmakers and actors by discussing movie and TV production from A-Z with working professionals. It is a marvelous learning program.

On this particular show day my guest did not appear. Rather than cancel I decided to use the time, on the spot, to share some important success principles I have used through the years.

This recording is completely extemporaneous. I spoke off the cuff, as it was not at all planned. I am seated at my microphone and am fairly subdued or laid back.

There are some show comments regarding my guest not showing up and then I start discussing success principles as a topic at  about 5:48 into the recording. You can skip the beginning or you can listen to the entire program.

Regardless, I hope you make use of these principle. Utilize these to make you life and getting your dreams easier. I think you will be pleasantly surprised if you will apply these right away. Enjoy the program.

There is an ad in the beginning but you can skip it by placing your cursor at the 1 minute mark and the show will begin or skip to 5:48. I can’t do anything about the ads on the show.

Celebrate and be grateful! Listen, learn and enjoy! Make all your dreams come true.” Rex Sikes

Have  a fabulous day!

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Your Entire Life Can Absolutely Transform If You Just Do This!

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“Transformation is by far the easiest thing that I have ever done. I never would have thought that would be the case but it truly is. Many people don’t change simply because they believe it to be too difficult. It is not. It is easier than you might believe.

Transformation is worth far more than anything you can imagine!

I’ve been sharing about beliefs in recent pages. Our beliefs either serve us or they don’t. Unfortunately, many of us grew up and got used to thinking less than productive thoughts for ourselves. The good news is those thoughts and beliefs can be changed easily. In order to make the changes you want you do need to act.

You need to initiate the transformation.

You And Your Life Are What You Predominantly Think About

Within these very blog pages I have written it is not easy but it is simple. I do this because it does require something and if you are going to go for it then you should understand you have a role to play. You have something to do. That something is simple. All you have to do is monitor your feelings.

Whenever you notice you are feeling less than glorious or could use an attitude adjustment do it. DO anything positive that makes you feel a bit better. Do something good that puts you heading emotionally in the right direction. Change you thoughts, go for a walk, relax, read an inspirational book, play with a pet but do something nice that makes you feel better.

Change Is Far Easier Than You May Have Ever Imagined

While this may not seem easy at first it get easier. It is very simple. Repeat your positive affirmations and put your mind on what is positive. The only reason it may seem difficult at first is because you haven’t yet made it a habit. You are busy doing what you have aways done that doesn’t work. Once you change it your life and world changes!

It changes from the very first honest decision you make to do this. Everything begins changing the instant you decide. You begin to marshall your inner resources whether or not you think so. In the act or truly deciding you start change right then! The process begins. You became purposeful, at cause and intentional. You decided things would be different. AND so the shall be.

In Order To Begin Transforming You Must Decide To Begin

This is a wonderful beginning step! When you think about it you either decided to or not to transform. There really isn’t a middle ground. Either you are stuck or unstuck. You use these types of opposites to monitor your feelings. Think of it this way. Things are  either good or bad; right or wrong; hot or cold; positive or negative; There is either increase or decrease. Getting closer or further away.

Your feelings are a signal for whatever you are thinking. If you begin to think negative thoughts your feelings will change and feel less wonderful. You’ll feel more discomfort. If you are thinking about problems or lack or what’s wrong or what you want to avoid you won’t feel on top of the world. MAJOR SIGNAL HERE to change your thoughts and feelings.

Your Feelings Are A Signal That Your Thoughts Need Changing

Once you notice you make the shift. You think positive thoughts. You shift your body and feelings by doing some of the suggestions I made earlier. Your goal is to feel  better bit by bit. Incrementally is absolutely fine. You change your focus from what is wrong to what is right, to what you can appreciate right now. You think increase instead of decrease.

You focus on what’s good not what’s bad. You shift from the uncomfortable thoughts and feelings to the pleasant positive ones. You do this whenever you notice you are off course. By doing this you train yourself to shift your focus and feelings. One day, soon enough, this begins happening on its own.

You discover yourself automatically returning to what is positive and productive. You begin to find you spend much more time there naturally. As you do life changes. Things get better. You enjoy everything much more. It grows exponentially. You open up, the world becomes friendly. Things change in marvelous ways.

You Are Either Being Positive Or Negative – That Is Simple

As you change and make the adjustments back to the positive you will notice your beliefs changing. You will be delighted and surprised to find some seem to shift on their own. Others you may confront and decide they are worn out and need replacing with healthier more positive ones. Transformation is exciting this way.

There comes a tipping point where the momentum for positive change accelerates. Things come together quicker, easier, seemingly spontaneously. Birds of a feather flock together. Your thoughts and feelings improve and you feel wonderful so you get more of the same. You find situations changing for the better and life getting easier.

If things are tough you respond differently and more resourcefully. Obstacles no longer derail you. Because you are thinking and feeling positive you attract positive people who can help you. The results you get start improving. Everything changes in marvelous ways.

It is worth every effort. Even if it were far more difficult it would be worth it. It is simple and it is easy. When you decide to  go for it you change what you focus on. What you focus on is what you get. Remember, we become what we think about. Think wonderful positive thoughts and you feel better and you become more wonderful and positive. If you haven’t already, begin today!” Rex Sikes

Each moment is marvelous! Be sure to notice.

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My Life Absolutely Transformed When I Decided This!

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My life absolutely transformed when I decided I was no longer going to focus on what I don’t want or want to avoid and concentrate instead only on what I do want.

Yes, I don’t want wars but instead I focus on peace. Yes, I don’t want poverty but instead focus on wealth creation.

Yes, I don’t want many things but instead of focusing on the problem, once identified, I prefer to focus on the solution.

That is what we are after most anyway. Life is good!

My life absolutely changed for the better when I stopped thinking and saying ‘I can’t’ and decided to say ‘I can’, instead!

My life absolutely transformed when I stopped thinking and saying ‘Somebody ought to do something’, and started thinking and saying ‘I ought to do something’.

When I learned to take control of my own thought process everything in my life got better!

My life transformed in glorious ways when I decided I wasn’t a victim or survivor of my past but that I am, and could live as, a champion. I could be a victor in every way.

My life changed wonderfully when I opened the possibility for thinking positive instead of thinking habitually negative or mere lack luster thinking.

My life transformed positively when I decided to take 100% responsibility for all of my life past and present as well as for my future.

I decided I was a creator and attractor. I recognized that I choose. I decide. When I realized I was deciding all along, even when I didn’t think I was, or when I wanted to blame someone else, I came into incredible power.

My life transformed when I realized my feelings were a signal as to what I was paying attention to in my mind.

When I decided I was going to live feeling the best I could at any moment is when miracles began happening in my life!

Simple moments became auspicious moments.

My life transformed delightfully when I decided to put my energies into what I am grateful for. When I filled the day and each moment with gratefulness beauty became evident.

Suddenly, everything became perfectly okay and as it should be!

My live transformed incredibly when I learned how to better let go and drop weight I need not carry.

When I learned how to stop resisting and start allowing life because so much easier. Flow happened and I started to enjoy it so much more.

My life transformed in amazing ways when I learned how to forgive myself and others.

When I could shower others with love and not hold anything against them so many relationships changed.

My life transformed when I transformed my life. I transformed me and everything transformed after that.

Life is good. Life is great. Life is grand!

I believe any one of these practices will transform your life too in incredible ways. You can transform in ways that you may not even be able to begin to fully imagine yet.

Pick one and put it into practice. Soon it will lead to the others.

There is no reason to not be absolutely happy in life and with life. To feel happy is a choice we make. Choose to be happy and you can be. Choose to be happy and you  will be. What you get is completely up to you. It is up to you. Celebrate and enjoy!” Rex Sikes

Make each moment marvelous!

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How Can You Tell When Your Dreams Are On The Way?

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“How can you tell when your dreams are on their way? How do you know when you are creating, making them happen or attracting them? Do you know? There is a way to tell. There is a clear indicator.

Your feelings are a clear indicator of what type of thoughts you are thinking. Your feelings inform you. Remember, what you think about you bring about. What you focus on expands. What you think you become.

If you are feeling good your dreams are on the way. When you are feeling good you are thinking positive, productive, powerful thoughts.  You are in creation mode, attraction mode and when feeling good you have the least resistance. You are most open and inviting.

You Are Most Open And Inviting When Feeling Positive

If you are feeling negative and less than glorious you are working against your dreams. Your feelings are a clear refection of your thoughts. If they aren’t positive and productive what would you expect to end up with?

You are least positive, least creative, and most resistance when you feel negative. You are still powerful and attracting but not the things you want. You are interfering with getting your goals and dreams.

Your emotions tell you whether you are moving closer to your dreams or moving away from them. Your emotions and your beliefs, your thoughts determine the results you get or don’t.

Your Reticular Activating System (RAS)  filters and determines the evidences you get back from the outer world. It ensures that the outer world will match your inner world.

You Either Move Toward Or Away 

So if you are positive and happy and feeling excited that is what you get back and what you experience in the outer world. If your inner world is dark and gloomy your outer world reflects the same. It is simple to understand how this works.

The big questions now IS DO YOU believe this? DO you believe what I just described? We have been discussing beliefs and how they affect you and your circumstances. If you do not believe it that is okay. You don’t have to.

I invite you, however, to act as if it is accurate and true. Act as if, try it on for a while, and find out what you discover. Accept it long enough to validate or invalidate it again. Does what I am asking make sense?

We know what your immediate reaction to the question is. If it is ‘no I don’t believe it’ then I ask you to suspend that for awhile, while you try on a different belief for a bit. Imagine you have a coat rack and you take off one belief as you would a suit coat and try on another one.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

Wear it long enough to determine if it is a true fit, The reason for this is IF you aren’t happy with your current circumstances or results something is bringing them about. Perhaps, it is your thinking.

Perhaps not. You may already have an opinion. What you need instead of an opinion is an open enough mind to experiment to find out if your opinion is valid or not.

If it isn’t valid you may want to and need to make some changes. You will only know if this works well for you if you are courageous enough to try it on fully.

You Never Really Know Until You Try

To really practice it and find out whether things shift for you. You can’t really know for sure until you actually test it out. That will require an honest test.

But if you are willing to try for at least 90 days then you will have given it a decent beginning try. WHAT! you think 90 days is too long. It is the blink of an eye. But try it for 60 or at the very least 30. You do realize you need to do at least 30 days of honest, intentional trial.

What am I asking you to do? Fill your mind and being with positive, motivational material. Read and listen to positive speakers. Practice with affirmations and visualization daily.

Declare positively, powerfully with wonderfully strong enthusiastic emotions who you are and what you have. Live it for at least 30 days as optimistically as possible.

Set Up A No Whining Or Complaining Rule

If you catch yourself, whining, complaining or making excuses stop it and immediately focus on being more positive and feeling better. Try it on and find out if, at the end of the test time, you don’t feel much better and get better results beginning to come your way.

It is all up to you. Live with gratitude and celebration. Have fun and delight. Speak only to bless, heal, prosper yourself and others. Either you are moving toward feeling good or away from feeling good.

Whenever you notice you aren’t moving toward feeling good change what you are doing so that you are. Take control of your thoughts, feelings and life for a minimum of 30 days. Then evaluate. This makes the most sense to me. So go ahead, do something wonderful for yourself! You might just be surprised!” Rex Sikes

Make it a marvelous day!

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Can You, Will You – Answer This Question?

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“Today my blog will feature a statement and question or two. This blog will be brief. It is up to you if you will entertain the question/s and answer but I think it would be most useful if you did reflect on it for awhile. We can learn a lot from some time well spent reflecting on what we do and how we do things.

Recently, We have been discussing beliefs.  Are you ready? Here goes.

Whatever we focus our energy on we create an increase of, more of, an abundance of. What we think about predominantly we get back more of. What we think about we bring about.

The question: What have you created? What are your results? What is your life and circumstances like? Are you pleased or not?

Exploration Is The Doorway To Adventure

I used more than one sentence for the statement and the question so I could state it and ask it in a couple different ways. Consider the questions for a few moments.

So are you pleased or not? If yes, fantastic, you must be doing something right, so keep it going. If not, then some changes may be in order so you can live more successfully as you would like to.

What are some of the beliefs you have around this topic? Can you list them? How do these serve you? How do they limit you? In other words, what does believing what you believe do for you?

You might want to reflect on this for awhile whether not pleased or pleased. Then you might want to consider where you put your attention, on what, and how you use your attention most of the time.

Are you focused on what you want or what you do not want? What are you getting back more of? What is the increase you are getting? What can you do, regarding your thinking, to stop getting what you don’t want? What can you do, regarding your thinking, to begin to get what you do want?

We Become What We Think About

Each one of us deserves the very best. You deserve the very best. More happiness, joy, success, and all good things. DO YOU  believe this? Why or why not?

My hope is that during the moments you consider these questions you learn something wonderful about you that allows you to move forward and live exactly how you want to live. More to come! Peace, blessings and celebration!” Rex Sikes

Have a marvelous day!

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A Lie Repeated Often Enough Get’s Substituted As The Truth

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We all have beliefs as you already know. Some of them are useful beliefs that support us and help us do things important to us. Other beliefs we have do just the opposite. They limit us. The interesting thing is that a belief is just a thought. A mental packet of energy.

It literally is just energy. In the body it may be chemicals and electrical impulses. Why do we have such a difficult time with some of our beliefs and behaviors if it is just electrical, chemical, energy? It would seem the answer is in the fact that these mental packs of energy are tied to our feelings.

Your Brain Is As Strong As Its Weakest Think

AND for some silly reason we think (mental energy again) if we feel a certain way, well that is it, it is written in stone. If we don’t feel like it then we just shouldn’t do it. Worse yet, if we don’t feel like it we can’t do it. Have you ever thought about this? We think some 60,000 thoughts a day most of which we thought yesterday.

We are creatures of habit. The same neural firings and pathways get activated. We routinely think and feel pretty much the same, day to day, with some obvious variations. Some things upset the apple cart pleasantly and some not so pleasantly. Something happens and we react.

Even then it is, most assuredly, the same way we usually react. After all we pretty much get mad the same way and usually about the same things. We get excited the same way and about the same things. You name it most of what we do is the same and automatic and it is all due to our electrical chemical squirts and pathways.

If You Really Want To  Do Something You’ll Find A Way

So are we doomed to live this way just because we have? For some the answer may be yes. Sadly, for some they will never opt for anything different. God love them anyways. ‘They know not what they do’. They just never wake up to the possibility that it COULD be otherwise. For them change may not even be a dream.

For others the answer is no, not at all. They can change and become whomever they want to be in life. They can do and have whatever it is they want. They can make profound positive, personal, lasting change that they enjoy now and into the future. For them change is real.

Then there are those who wish. They hope to have a better life but they do not do anything about it. The watch others succeed, have fulfilling relationship and enjoy happiness but they don’t think they can. The hope, they whine, they wish but for them it is only a dream.

If You Don’t Want To Do Something You’ll Find An Excuse

The bottom line is some will and some won’t. That is just the way it is. In the same way we have beliefs that limit us and support us. That is just the way it is. None of our beliefs are necessarily true. We think they are but the reality is they are things we believe.

Have you ever been wrong about anything, ever at all? If you are honest, then of course you have. Have your senses ever deceived you? You mistook someone for a friend? You sure thought it was her but it wasn’t. I bet you can come up with numerous examples.

The point is beliefs really are statements or assertions or declarations about ourself which don’t have to have anything with the truth. We just believe them, we believe that they do. Yes, they could have but they don’t have to have any resemblance to truth for us to have adopted and lived from them.

We Are Creatures Of Habit

That is why we believe things about ourselves that are negative, bad, harmful or limiting. We believe we are screw ups, worthless, unable to do things, bad, wrong and stupid. Why on earth would we EVER chose to believe those things about us. Guess what when we do we feel bad too. Heck, do you want to think and feel bad? I bet you don’t.

Without getting into long explanations as to why we have beliefs in the first place, or how we came to adopt beliefs through circumstances, peers and authority figures, or how they may help ensure survival etc. let us just admit we have them. Let’s also realize all of them are lies.

Lies repeated often enough may get substituted for the truth. If you adopted some of these at an early age and have been repeating them over and over to yourself, in one way or another, you have come to believe statements that can have absolutely nothing to do with the truth of who you are!

Thoughts Are Things

Except for the fact that you have embraced them, believed them and made them your own. You live from them, repeating them now because they are habit. Not that they are true they are just habit. They are reliable and automatic and they serve to keep you the same.

Your RAS looks for confirmation in the outer world thereby continuing the cycle of self deceit. If you believe things that aren’t true about you you are lying to yourself and accepting it as true. If that is the case CHOOSE better lies to believe. Choose lies that serve you to have everything you want in life!

SO while we are at it let’s admit we believe things about ourselves we may be better off not believing. We believe some pretty stupid and useless things sometimes. Henry Ford put it well when he said, ‘If you think you can or you think you can’t; you are right.’ Pretty much sums it up doesn’t it?

Birds Of A Feather Flock Together

There are beliefs we think that begin with ‘I can’ or ‘I am able’ then there are those that begin with ‘I can’t’ or ‘I am unable’. Both result in feelings, different feelings, and both determine how we act and behave and what and whether or not we accomplish anything much. Our mindset determines where we go in life.

You can absolutely change what and how you believe. You can develop new habits. I won’t lie to you and say it is easy it takes some effort. NOT very much but it takes some. Most of the effort is in overcoming the inertia of living a particular way so well you are comfortable with it even if it is painful.

People often times won’t do anything because it is uncomfortable. Change is uncomfortable it shakes things up. It is uncertain. People ‘don’t feel like it’. Yes, part of the brain’s job IS maintaining homeostasis. It keeps everything the same because it has made all those habitual neural pathways to run.

Our Brains Crave Novelty

It loves and craves novelty at the very same time. It is a learning junky. The human isn’t. We don’t like it all very much. We want it easy and ‘hey, don’t rock the boat!’ So many people won’t change because they believe it will be or is ‘too hard’. They believe ‘it will take too much work’ or that ‘I can’t’ or ‘I don’t know how’ or ‘all of this is BS’.

When confronted with the opportunity to change often times resistance comes up. Those are all the beliefs trying to keep you the same. All the reasons why something is wrong, won’t work, why you can’t, why it isn’t worth it, why why why… excuses…excuses…excuses…

Habits, habits, habits. Habitual thoughts you have been thinking forever keep you from living your goals and dreams and having the life you want. If you want to change examine these limiting statements  You can change you beliefs and you belief habits, by developing new habits.

Habits Are Reliable And Automatic

Would you like to learn more about how to do this? More next time. BUT keep in mind ‘ a lie repeated often enough gets substituted for the truth’. What we think about we become. You can create new positive, powerful beliefs that serve you better and help take you where you want to go. AND THAT IS GREAT NEWS!” Rex Sikes

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What You Believe Is What You Get!

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“We are discussing the effects of beliefs on behavior. What we believe is critical to our success and our happiness in all facets of life. Beliefs are really nothing more than thoughts or clusters of thoughts that result in feelings. We habitually think more than 60,000 thoughts a day which produce feelings. That’s quite a few thoughts.

We can’t possibly keep track of all of them. The good news is we can use our feelings to figure out what we are thinking. If we feel good we are thinking positive and along the lines of what we want or what we want to include. If we feel less than glorious it is a good bet we are focused on what we don’t want or what we want to exclude from our lives.

Believing Is Seeing

The goal is to feel good most of the time. So when we discover we are not feeling good then it is up to us to change our thoughts to more positive ones. The negative feelings we have are a signal to change our thought patterns. Isn’t it nice to have a built in signal that alerts us it is time to change?

We can also shift our body and use our physiology to feel better. We can move, walk, skip, dance, breath differently, get a massage, play with a child or a pet. We can do anything to help us feel a bit better. The point is to make changing from less than glorious to glorious a habit. Bit by bit, step by step. Tiny doesn’t matter it is all good.

Because we become what we think about – we will become less than glorious if most of our thoughts are less than glorious. The reverse is true too. We can feel better if we think better. It works both ways. So do whatever it takes to build the habit of self correcting. Discover that you can feel great most of the time.’

Reality Is Determined By What We Believe

There is a saying, ‘Standing Is Harder Than Walking’. It is true. Have you ever noticed? Try standing still for any amount of time. There is a tendency to move, to fidget, to squirm. We want to move. If we can’t move large muscle groups we might blink more, or twitch small muscle groups. We want to move. We were designed to move.

It is easier to make progress and to change than it is to remain stuck or still. Our natural inclination is for progress and movement. We grow and develop. We learn. Being stuck takes it toll just as standing takes its toll on the muscles. Being sedentary takes its toll on the body and our health. We evolved to move most of the daylight hours.

We crave change but we fear it too. Our body and brain wants it while at the same time we make excuses not to change. ‘Should I’, or ‘shouldn’t I’, is an example of being stuck. Thoughts oppose each other. We feel unsure or bad, afraid to move. Why? It isn’t because we think or believe something wonderful is going to happen!

Standing IS harder Than Walking

We fear the worst. We anticipate failure. We think it will be too hard. Someone else is smarter and can do it but I can’t. We have beliefs about what could go wrong and what it would mean about us if we try and fail. So we don’t try. That takes a toll on us emotionally and spiritually. It becomes part of our history data bank.

Then when it comes to other changes we hope to make we look back and find historical proof for not doing anything. We will find examples of when we tried and it went awry or when we didn’t which proves us an even bigger failure. That cycle continues. Our self image; our self esteem; our self confidence; our self love eroded.

The purpose of this blog, and the wisdom from ancient times to now from the thought leaders is to help you feel better and make the changes you want. My hope is that you lead the life you want to live. Recipes, formulas, principles and suggestions have been handed down to us for centuries so we could improve our lot.

You Art Where Your Thoughts Brought You

YET, few do. Few will because they don’t believe anything will help. The become hopeless and helpless. They expect help to arrive from outside of them instead of from within. The truth of the matter is inside each of us already have what is needed to live as champions but few will look within. It is inside you where the truth resides.

This is the major distraction we all face. TV, media, economy, politics everything distracts. We look outward and outside ourselves for change. Or we look upward for help. Everything necessary for you to begin to live the life of your dreams is already within you. In order to find it you must first believe that is true.

Drop By Drop Fills The Tub

For some,  for many, that is too big of a leap. You would be well advised to begin by believing it is at least possible. See, we have to create an opening in our armor. Our armor is fashioned by our beliefs. We wear it even when we don’t need to.

In order for us to change we have to at least entertain the possibility that it is possible to change. If we can;t get this far we probably are doomed to remain stuck, standing, the same for years to come. If we can imagine a better day ahead we can bring it about because what we can conceive of and begin to believe in we can achieve.

The reason changes is difficult for some is because we look through our prison windows of beliefs. Our RAS looks for that which proves our frame of mind correct. It finds examples in the outer world to match our inner beliefs. Thankfully, though it may be tough, we can usually still find at least one reason to change.

Out Of Chaos Stars Are Born

Usually a crises or some devastating circumstances shake us up enough to the point we wake up and exclaim, ‘I really need to change something here!’ It is sad or unfortunate that there is a crises and wonderful and fortunate there is a crises at the same time.

If it is the impetus for change it is a marvelous, bitter sweet opportunity to turn your life around. If it comes and goes and you reinforce being stuck, down and out then it was an opportune time wasted. The good news is if not now, perhaps another time. Who knows? I don’t but it is possible another time may come .

As you read this post are you aware of your agreement and disagreement? Are you aware of the beliefs you have around the topics being made? If you become more aware of what you think and believe congratulate yourself. Not everyone will reflect in this fashion. It is a very useful exercise or way to spend your time.

Be Willling To Explore

Continue the process of looking for and finding those beliefs you have that support you and enable you and those that don’t. What does having these beliefs mean about you? You can ask this question of each belief you discover. Hang loose with whatever answer you get.

It takes some courage, patience and persistence to want to uncover our thoughts and beliefs. That is just the way it is. Remember, if you think you can or you think you can’t you are right. Keep examining your beliefs. We’ll talk more about how we change them in upcoming posts. Changing your beliefs will put you on the path toward making the life you want to come true.” Rex Sikes

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Does What You Believe Serve You Or Hold You Back? Find Out!

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“Our recent discussion has centered around the Reticular Activating System and our beliefs. For today, why not examine some of your beliefs. We have them about everything. Take a look inside to discover whatever it is you find. You will find plenty, I am sure.

Who we are; what we are capable or; what we aren’t capable of; family; friends; relationships; finances; health; career; job; economy; the future; the past; other people, the government, world, god, education, medicine, leisure and so many more areas.  You name it we believe something about it.

Our beliefs tend to be Positive or Negative. They tend to be statements such as ‘I can’ or ‘I can’t’. They can be in the form of rules and regulations as when you think ‘there ought to be a law’ or ‘people should just know better’.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right 

‘Ought to’ or ‘should’ ought to or should tip you off that a belief statement is following. There are rules or beliefs about yourself and what you should do or could do and then there are rules or beliefs you hold about others. These may or may not be the same or be applied equally.

A belief statement may follow after the word ‘because’.  ‘Because’ is a reason you provide. We have beliefs about cause and effect. Beliefs tend to be assertions or declarations. Usually, any statement that begins with ‘I am’ or ‘I have’ cue you that a belief follows those words.

Some things we believe strongly and passionately. We fight about these at times. Others we hold less closely. Regardless, beliefs make up our map of the world and how we navigate it. Believe it or not, humans do navigate the world by a map. An inner map. Just as we do the outer world. Beliefs are an important part of that map.

Believing Is Seeing

They determine what we allow in and consider and what we don’t and won’t. They determine how big or small our abilities are as well as how large our world is. Our beliefs affect us in so many ways and at so many levels it is useful to uncover what it is we believe.

Some are very obvious, up front and in your face beliefs while others cluster around hanging out barely in sight. Both kinds affect us! Go ahead and examine, reflect, look at, introspect on what you believe about yourself. Write them down, as many as you can.

Put them into pro and con lists. Some will be enabling while others disabling. There may be clusters of beliefs around certain areas that seem to support each other or come out in a flood. Others you may have to tease out one by one.

What Do You Believe?

Some people will sit and fret thinking it is difficult to find beliefs (that would be your first belief to start with then) others will find this quite easy. Some are situational while others you may think are important for all time and space and for everyone.

Check into it and come back tomorrow. We will work more with beliefs as we move along. It is an important area that affects each one of us. So do some exploring, learn a little bit more about you, enjoy the process and return for the next post. Meanwhile have a fabulous time doing the exercise and a marvelous day!” Rex Sikes

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