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Who Else Knows This SureFire Way To Getting Everything You Want?

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“Do you know how to get what you want? Are you able to consistently? Would you like to know how? If so you will want to consider the following questions:  How much time do you spend on your personal happiness? How devoted are you to feeling good?  How devoted are you to making your career and life goals come to be?

Are you aware that how you spend your time matters; what you spend your time focused on matters; what you do during that time matters? Do you spend your time wisely?

The amount of time you spends devoted to your personal happiness and your personal and professional goals makes a difference at how easily attainable these are. How you spend your time IS a critical factor. Consider the following:

Are You Growing Or Dying

A plant is either growing or dying. It is either eating or starving. Are you feeding and growing or starving and dying? You can actually evaluate this each moment of each day. Where you spend your time is where you are at?

All you have to do is ask throughout the day, ‘Am I growing or dying?’ ‘Will doing this contribute to me growing or dying?’ Evaluate how you spend your time and what you spend it doing. Are you thriving or withering? Does it contribute to what you want or detract from it? Will it get your closer or take you further away?

If you are spending most of your thinking positive and feeling positive you are moving in the right direction. If you are growing more often than dying that is a good thing. That is what you want. The next ingredient is the kicker that makes it all work better and faster. Intensity. The ability to feel intensely good is important!

FEEL GOOD NOW! You want to feel AS GOOD as you can feel for AS MUCH of your time as possible. You want your day and night to be spent enjoying the very best feelings you are capable of.

Feeling Good In The Present Moment Is What Makes It All Work

When you feel great, when you feel passionate and enthused, when you are eager and are filled with energy you think clearer and are able to keep going longer. Your passions make you powerful.

You may think, ‘Well, if I could feel good I would.’ This is where taking charge comes in. You will never think and feel your best if you expect the outer world to make you happy or better. It just doesn’t work that way.  How you feel better is by taking control, even when you don’t feel like it.

To feel better you must learn how to control your thoughts and feelings! It is true we may all have bad days. We do! Some times in our life are more difficult than others. Accept that.

Still, much of the time, the reason the day sucks is NOT the outer circumstances (though they may be horrendous) as much as our reaction to them. Our thinking contributes to whatever the day will be like. Whether we react automatically or respond with measured control makes a difference.

You Can Learn To Control Your Thoughts And Feelings

When you learn to control your thoughts you absolutely can have higher highs and higher lows. Since you learn how to control your thoughts and feelings you aren’t a victim of them.

If there is a legitimate reason to feel less than glorious, grief at a loss for instance, you can and should allow that process to unfold. When the timing is right you move forward again.

This is the reason why we fill our mind with positive thoughts. It is why we read and listen to inspiring materials. It is why we visualize our goals as completed and feel the feelings of that accomplishment. It is why we monitor our self-talk to insure it is positive.

It is why we affirm out loud and passionately who we are and what we are capable of. It is so we learn to have and to take control of these processes. It is a system of self management. You put yourself in the driver’s seat 100% and take responsibility for whatever happens good or bad.

Take 100% Responsibility And You Will Make Life Wonderful

You take responsibility for managing your thoughts and feelings and steering yourself in the most positive and productive ways. You celebrate whatever life hands you, even if you don’t know how things will work out, and you look for everything to be thankful and grateful for.

You do whatever you can do to make yourself feel even a little bit better each day.You can ask, am I growing or am I dying? Each moment, whenever you notice you are not feeling great, you do what you can to feel better. Read something inspirational or chant your affirmations firmly and enthusiastically! Take a break, a walk, get some exercise.

Generate some positive physical energy by moving your body and your mind in positive ways. The more energy you put into it the more you get from it. Think better and your body responds. Move your body on positive ways and your thinking responds. Mind and body are part of the same feedback loop or system.

Body And Mind Are Part Of The Same Feedback System

Too many people feel just ‘okay’. They robotically move from day to day doing the same routines, accepting that is how it is supposed to be and there  isn’t much to look forward to. They put all their hope in things outside themselves to rescue them from this existence. You know, you work hard, pay taxes and die. It is sad, really.

Life IS vibrant and alive. There is more energy in a empty inch of space than in all the worlds power sources. There is plenty to go around. You are alive! All of your millions of cells are alive and vibrating. Experience it because you can! You can tap into it and enjoy it!

In order to put the ‘oomph’ into your positive thoughts you have to intensely feel good while thinking them, The more intense you feel while affirming or visualizing (or simply in daily life) the more the subconscious mind gets the message. It reproduces that which we give to it through powerful feelings. Feelings are the message!

This is how people limit themselves. The feel strongly afraid, or hurt or depressed, or doubtful and the subconscious mind takes that as the message and ends up giving them back more of the same. Whatever you focus on, concentrate on, think about, most of the time is what you get and what you become.

You see it is always working. You can’t stop it! You cannot stop it but you can change the outcome. You can’t stop it but you can direct it! You can’t stop it but you can steer it to get different results. Since you can’t stop it learn to use it. Take charge! Gain control. Be the victor not the victim of the process.

Zest For Life Makes Life Worth Living

Successful people tend to be passionate, intense, people. Their emotions are powerful. You can feel their energy when you are around them. Creative energy is intense. People who are passionate are intense! They know they must be laser focused and at the top of their game. They live at the top of the world!

People who make money are intense. Think, Wolf of Wall Street. However, I am not advocating licentiousness. Still, these people are not half assed, namby-pamby, wishy washy, ‘oh well, ho hum’ people. They live to their fullest. They understand this is important.  When you live with passion, when you fill yourself up with positive feelings and energy you become unstoppable!

How you think determines how you feel and how you feel determines how you think. You can begin by thinking or you can begin by feeling. Head first or body first. Are you growing or are you dying? Put energy into you thoughts and feelings. Put energy into your actions! Live to your fullest.

A great way is to begin with gratitude. Look around at what you are so happy to have in your life, people, relationships, what you are able to do, health, career, wealth, things whatever makes you truly appreciate and happy can start you feeling good. Take a moment to actually feel how these make you feel!

You Can’t Stop It So Make It What You Want It To Be

Some times you have to ‘prime the pump,’ as Zig Ziglar used to say, to overcome inertia. You have to pour some water down into the pump to get the flow going. Energy flows where attention goes.

Feel it! Savor it! Feel it some more! Savor it some more! Keep with it. Let it grow. Allow yourself to be consumed with gratitude and celebration! Live happily. Live intensely! Live passionately! Have fun!

If you want to feel better think better. If you want to think better put  a spring in your step. Shake up your body, dance, skip, twirl. Stand and move with confidence, energy and liveliness. Move your body vigorously! Have fun! Feel more alive!

The more you feel the good feelings right now the more changes you will discover. Positive changes! The more you will transform your life into something more incredible. When you do this you can and you will surprise and delight yourself.

Live passionately! Celebrate and enjoy! Shake it up positively and you will discover yourself moving into new areas of joy that are beyond anything you could presently imagine!” Rex Sikes

Delight in this day!

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Get Back Up When You Fall Down! Never Stay Down!

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“Have you ever attempted to change something and faltered? What did you do? Did you keep going until it worked or did you give up? A lot of people give up. They try something and if it doesn’t work they quit.

They try to stop smoking, or diet, or exercise and then they smoke after days, or weeks or months of not smoking and they throw in the towel and go back to smoking. They eat something they shouldn’t and they fall off their diet.

They miss an exercise session and then another and another and soon they aren’t exercising at all.  Some have tried positive thinking or working with the Law Of Attraction (LOA) and then state, ‘I tried, but it didn’t work.’ So they quit.

It Is A Process! It Is Not Binary!

Have you ever done this? I sure have. These people, as I used to, think it has to be all or nothing. Either you are on task or you aren’t. If it is tough and requires too much effort, well, that too may be enough reason to quit. Many don’t want to work that hard for success.

People who give up after a falter need to reframe the meaning of failure or falling off the wagon. Obstacles, mishaps, falling down are all part of moving forward. If you succeeded at all for a little while, thinking right, eating right, exercising, not smoking, biting nails or whatever, then you have had success.

Success will breed more success you just have to let it. If you have had some success you can have more success you just need to stick with it. Take it moment by moment, day by day or step by step. If you fall down it means you get back up, dust yourself off and get doing it again.

The old adage is’get back on the horse.’ I used to have this very problem. I would succeed at something, then ooops, and I thought, ‘well that didn’t work’ and I’d quit. I’d give up. I tried and IT didn’t work. Later, I realized it was fine I didn’t work. In order for IT to work I had to make it work.

Get Back On The Horse

I determined in my own mind that if I screwed up I would still continue. I had come to the awareness that one screw up didn’t mean the whole program didn’t work. It did work! It worked and sometimes I might still make a mistake or a mis-step. I might fall down.

If I quit, fell down, fell off, or whatever, I simply resume. It took becoming aware that we are (I was and I am)  in a process. We aren’t done yet. Nothing is completed. As long as we are moving forward we can move forward past difficulties, issues and those times we screw up or feel like abandoning the program. We can continue!

These awarenesses came first. It’s okay to fall down. Success wan’t ended because of a failure. Success was ongoing as long as I kept going. Once I came to these realizations I decided I was not a quitter. The ONLY time you fail is when you give up, give in or quit.

Failure Only Occurs When You Stop Trying

Failure happens when you stop trying. As long as you are trying you aren’t failing! The only time I failed was when I gave up trying.

As long as I was, and am, someone who continues to attempt it then I am succeeding in some way. If I am succeeding in some way then I remain motivated to continue. Now I refuse to throw out the baby with the bathwater. So keep going. Keep doing! Keep making it happen inch by inch!

Keep in mind, ‘Winners never quit and quitters never win’.  You have to keep going in spite of falling down so that you can make it a new habit. A new habit will form and eventually take over and the hard work will end. You just have to hang in there, and keep doing what you are doing, long enough. Repetition over time is what causes habit to form.

The More We Do The More We Are Able To Do

Some people have the habit of quitting as soon as it gets tough. Some people throw in the towel after one or two attempts that don’t work out. Some quite after slipping up one or more times. If you are one of those, stop it. Stick with it. Keep going. It is a process and you will get there as long as you keep going. You absolutely won’t if you throw in the towel.

Anything worth doing is difficult at first. The more we do the more we can do because we become accustomed to doing. We can’t lift a lot of weight the first time we work out but by working out consistently we can lift more weight. Stay with it. Keep on keeping on. You will win, you will prevail. Keep the faith and make the change!” Rex Sikes

Make your day delightful!

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What Should I Do When I Screw Up?

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“Have you ever let yourself down? You wanted to do one thing but did another? You made some progress in a given area only to fall back into old behaviors? Have you disappointed yourself? Has this ever happened to you?

A coaching client of mine came to me frustrated stating, ‘I struggle to stay positive. Sometimes I am able. Sometimes I succumb to less than glorious thoughts and feelings. I let myself down in my program. I am frustrated and feel bad. Sometimes things are great and sometimes all hell breaks loose. It shouldn’t. I disappoint myself. What to do?’

The following constituted my answer. Happily, by applying these insights this person got over many hurdles and has gone on to accomplish some really fantastic things in career and life.  You can do anything with the right mind set. Remember, all things work together for good!

Forgive yourself

Be gentle, be kind and be accepting. It is okay. All things are possible. You are on a journey. There is no expectation of perfection. Forgive yourself and continue on. When you fall get up.

The only thing that happened was that you fell. Don’t judge it. Don’t be critical because you fell. Be thankful you didn’t get very hurt. If you did nurture yourself and take care to heal.

If when you fell you hurt others. Get up. Own up. Apologize and make amends. Make good. Take responsibility. Look them in the eye and assure them it won’t happen again. Do your best to keep your promise. AND keep your promise!

None of what I am saying is about letting yourself off the hook if you did wrong. It is all about responsibility and taking care not to repeat. There are ways to do this that move you along further more swiftly and there are ways that keep you stuck and repeating mistakes.

I want to help you discover how you can more easily and readily change in the positive ways you desire.

Nothing Is Wrong In Falling Down

Nothing is wrong about failing to do what you hoped to as long as you stay with it. If you quit, if you throw in the towel and give up, then, yes, you failed. You stopped by your own choice.

If you are going to do that then forgive yourself. You made a decision. Accept it, own it, be responsible for your choices. It is entirely okay. That is what you decided. Give yourself some credit.

Do not blame or criticize yourself or others. If later, you decide to try again so be it. If not, so be it. Just accept that you have the power to decide. Decide to live without blame and criticism. Decide to live with love and light and life. Decide to celebrate everything.

Everyone Falls Down Sometime

So what? Get up and go on if that is what you chose to do. As long as you continue to assert yourself, as long as you attempt to continue you are learning and growing. You are a work in progress. Make many mistakes. That is fine. Attempt not to make the same mistakes more than once.

If you make the same one again and again keep working to change it. Realize you have some efforting to do and accept it. Focus on what you want instead of the mistake and gradually you will make it less and less. You need to develop some new habits and new ways.

Aim at what you want. Stop trying to avoid at what you don’t want. When you slip up for self and others do what has already been suggested. Make good. Don’t criticize yourself and move forward.

You are growing and evolving. Accept that wherever you are IS where you are. It is right where you should be given the choices you have made. All systems require correction. Your thermostat changes and corrects for temperature fluctuations. It gets feedback from environment and makes adjustments.

Use Changes As Feedback And Course Correct

So if you make a mistake, or you get off your chosen course you correct it. Don’t judge, correct and move forward. Don’t add insult to injury by criticizing yourself for being human. Being human means getting up and falling down and getting up again. Any negative commentary is unnecessary.

If you find yourself commenting in negative ways stop it when you become aware of it. Don’t go into a recursive loop of criticizing yourself for criticizing yourself. Many people do this and it is unfortunate. Stop blaming it does absolutely nothing of value.

Free yourself of this and go on. Love and accept everything about yourself and stop judging your progress. Don’t try to be further ahead. You will get there when you get there. Accept and continue to move forward. Comparisons can cause pain. There is no need to compare.

Step By Step You Get Closer To Your Destination

Bite by bite you get nearer to completing the meal. Drop by drop the tub is filled. You will get there. Don’t let mistakes, obstacles, challenges or influences bring you down. If they do, accept it and move on when ready. Ease up on yourself.

The sooner you keep going the easier it is. ‘Get back up on that horse!’ and keep on riding. Soon enough you will get the hang of it. We may always make mistakes, so what? We may always have difficulty, so what? Expect the best of yourself. Remain optimistic. Be positive and have faith. You can do it.

Accept That You Are Wonderful

Through it all we can learn to and have an incredible life. We can be filled with light and life and love. We can celebrate all and our joy can know no bounds. As you positively progress, as you become more aware, congratulate yourself for the positive changes.

Acknowledge, validate, celebrate and be thankful. Encouragement in the positive direction will help you move forward faster. Delight and live with more joy. Make this part of your purpose. Have fun.

It is all within each of us, the capacity to discover your true nature, your true power and your true gifts. You will find that you are absolutely worthy and deserving. No need to think otherwise. You are wonderful, accept it and enjoy it!” Rex Sikes

Discover what is good and new about today and have some fun!

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Do This Whenever You Feel Like Giving In, Giving Up or Quitting!

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“Do you ever feel tired and want to throw in the towel? It seems like you have struggled for so long and your efforts just aren’t paying off. The days seem arduous and hardly worth it at times. You want to quit? Have you felt this way? It’s tough sometimes to smile and plod your way ahead. Sometimes you just want to give up, right!

Well, don’t!

Keep going!

Stop sniveling right there!

There are so many people who have faced incredible odds and who kept going and who persevered no matter what.  The problems, you and I face, what most of us face, while difficult yes, it isn’t a fraction of what others have  suffered through and triumphed over.

There is no failure if you keep going. There is only failure if you quit. Yes, you may feel like quitting a million times but hang in there. Tomorrow IS another day.

Sadly, we are so conditioned, growing up, expecting bad things and worse things that we often fail to realize that good things can also spontaneously, seemingly miraculously happen any instant. We don’t only have to be bothered by ‘bad news’ perhaps we could be plagued by good news.

Life IS what we make it. Expect good things and the best from yourself and you are much more apt to find these. Develop an indomitable spirit, cultivate a winning, champion attitude and a self confidence that moves you forward. Realize you can do! You can do anything you set your mind to do.

Or you can give up. I say, don’t quit!

Prevail! Be the victor!

Make what you want happen in spite of the challenges and obstacles. Stop focusing on what you don’t want, the hardship. Stop taking a bath in the crap. Get out, rinse off and get going forward.

What I used to think was, ‘if it could only be easier.’ I thought then everything would be great. I’d be happy and positive. Then I realized being happy and positive wasn’t only for the easy times it was to see me through the difficult times.

If I could be happy and positive when things weren’t going well then I had truly learned to live well.

Then I could be happier and positive more of the time. Then most of the time I could enjoy because my happiness and positivity wasn’t dependent on what was going on on the outside. If it were, then I would not have benefited much. I’d be a fair weather positive thinker, feeling good only when times were good.

The key is to learn to feel good no matter what the times are like.

It may be a difficult lesson to learn but it can be learned. The right attitude can see us through all sorts of times. We don’t have to be tired and defeated when times are hard we can be happy through them. Sure, we may feel like we want to quit. Don’t!

Instead, learn to transform those feelings into the means to take hold of your life and live as a champion. Live as a gladiator. Come through serious battle proud because it is a test of your mettle. Without challenge you wouldn’t be a victor. Without the troubles the good times wouldn’t mean much either.

You become what you think about most during your day.

What occupies your thoughts and feelings is what you get back. You create, attract or make happen what you enjoy most or fear most. The point is you are the chooser. You are the one who decides where to place your attention.

Use good taste.  Use good judgement. No more crap baths!

Focus on the positive, the ‘I can do anything’, the good, strong, powerful thoughts and feelings and keep your attention there. Magnify these, enjoy these, bask in these and you will get through tough times. You will transform your work,  your play and your life. You will make for yourself a life worth living! Celebrate It! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Notice something? It is an entirely new and different day! What is good and new about it?

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Stop That! Do This Instead! It Makes All The Difference!

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“Have you ever wondered why you keep getting the same ole, same ole? Have you ever been concerned with why you seem stuck and can’t advance very fast in career or in life?

If you don’t like your present circumstances and wish they would go away then you need to understand how you are contributing to getting what you do not want.

Go back and re-read that. Yup, you may be contributing to precisely what you don’t want.

If you are screaming ‘NO!’ at what you do not want you are NOT pushing it away. You are giving it energy. You are actually attracting and creating and feeding what you do not want.

Whatever you are trying to leave behind, escape from or get over, whatever you attention is on, you are magnifying and making bigger and perhaps even worse. Certainly, you are getting more of the same.

Whatever has your primary attention; whatever you focus on, think about, puzzle over, worry about most is what runs the show. What ever is most dominant in your mind, most of the time, is what you are feeding and putting energy into and growing more of.

Those are the very seeds you are planting. Whenever you whine, blame, criticize yourself or others you are planting negative seeds that will grow and blossom as sure as anything else.

Whenever you spend time feeling dour, sour, negative and yucky you are keeping everything the same and then getting more of it.

Whenever you are doing something that isn’t working to get you the results you want two powerful words come to mind: STOP IT!!!!  Then START focusing on what you do want instead!!!

In order to change and get more of what you want you have to be focused on and say ‘yes’ to what it is you DO want. You have to know what it is you DO want and focus on this. You do not focus on what you do not want or what you are trying to avoid. PUT ALL YOUR ENERGY AND ATTENTION ON what you want!!!

You have to feel good and delight in it. Feed the wonderful thoughts and feelings and those will grow and blossom. Nurture the best, the finest, the most wonderful and you will get more back in return.

Use your imagination to visualize what you want, see it and enjoy it! Speak nicely to yourself and others. Feel the most wonderful delicious feelings. Let yourself feel grand and delight in all things!

Stop paying attention to all that is wrong and troublesome in your past and your present life. Stop worrying about what is wrong in the world and start celebrating and noticing what is right.

Put your energy into positive, happy, wonderful moments. Emphasize these when you talk about your life and the world!

Appreciate what you have and who you are and what you do. Celebrate, feel blessed and keep your attention on the most wonderful thoughts and feelings and you will get what you want.

You will attract, feed, create, make happen all the good things. Don’t you think it is about time you get what you deserve to get? Enjoy life and feel blessed!” Rex Sikes

In how many different ways do you think you can amaze yourself today?

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Do You Keep Doing This Without Taking The Credit?

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“Do you know what most people seem to miss? It is right there, right under their nose and yet they miss this critical piece. Somehow they just don’t realize, or if they do, they don’t own up to it.

Most people seem to miss that they have choice. They miss that they are making countless decisions day in and day out based on choices. The are making some very deliberate conscious choices and many subconscious, unconscious choices.

Meanwhile, they think they are a victim of circumstances. I’ll tell you what you can’t change. The weather. If it is going to rain it is likely it is going to rain. If it is going to snow it most likely will snow.

You can’t change it but you can chose how you will respond to it. You have a choice. You don’t have to like it or dislike it you can chose how to feel about it. It is completely up to you.

What is needed is for each of us to see and to realize that we are the person who is doing the choosing. You are determining what you put in your latte. You pick your route to school or work or how you get there. You choose what you have to eat.

You may say the donut called out to you and you could not resist but no one held your arms down and force fed you the donut. It only seemed that way. Right there is the key. It SEEMS like you don’t have choice but you actually do.

You live as if you don’t choose but you are choosing all along. IT JUST DOESN’T SEEM LIKE IT because you have gone about it without awareness.

Take stock of how many decisions you make each day. Write them down keep a tally. How many decisions do you make from hot or cold coffee to the large ones that influence you and others? Become acutely aware of each and every time you decide something.

Be tough on yourself don’t let any sneak by you. DO your best to notice each one. Become accustomed to the many decision you make. Take a few days and track all your decisions. Record all of your choices. Notice all the choice points in each day.

Discover that you are making decisions. You are deciding between alternatives. You are choosing. Recognize this and realize this. Take responsibility for the decisions you made. Claim your power do not give it away.

Do not give it to others, events or circumstances. Take responsibility (another decision). Decide to live as someone who chooses. Live as a victor, a champion. You are at the mercy of no one and no thing. Stop giving away your power.

Some will claim it isn’t them choosing it is their brain choosing for them. That somehow they don’t have control. That is a habit, a choice you made that you keep making over and over until you lost that distinction. Now you make it automatically.

You can learn to make new habits and make new decisions. Might it be tough? Sure it might. It might be easy. You decide. What is it going to be? Stop making excuses or blaming and start living from your power. If you don’t know where that is yet, decide to look for it.

Decide to keep looking until you find it and befriend it again. Decide to keep going no matter what until you get what you want. Decide to stop living in fear and failure and live in confidence and success.

You say you don’t know how. Well, decide to learn how! C’mon stop playing around and take charge of your life. No one and no thing is running your life but you. You may not have been very great at it up until now but you can be. Tomorrow is a new day.

Decide to learn to run your life better. Decide to fill your life with fun, passion, confidence and ecstasy. No one can live your life for you. Don’t you think it is time you start living your life for yourself? It is your decision. Make it today!” Rex Sikes

Celebrate each moment!

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Want To Make Good Things Happen To You & In Your Life?

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“Who doesn’t want to have more of the good things in life? Don’t you? If there were a way to get it would you take that way? What would you give up to get the life of your dreams? Some people want things without really wanting them very much. They don’t do anything to make their dreams come true other than wish. Sadly, wishing won’t make it so.

If you’d like to make good things happen to you and in your life you need to focus on good things. Your thoughts must remain positive. You must know what you want to create and include in your life and support that with your thoughts and actions.

You need to hold  these good, positive things in your mind because energy flows where your attention goes. You direct the flow of energy by what you pay attention to. That is why your attention must be riveting on the positive and the good things you want.

You can’t be wishy washy and expect stellar results.

Positive or negative? It is always your choice. Focus on the good you get good. Focus on the positive you get positive. YOU make it happen. It is always up to you.

Which side gets most of the energy?  Positive or Negative? The one with the most energy runs the show. The results you have been getting are an indicator. If you aren’t getting what you want you aren’t focused on it in a way that works.

Your feelings are an indicator. If you are feeling less than glorious most of the time you are not focused on being positive most of the time. It is simple. It is straight forward. It is clear!

The more positive you are the more you get back. The more negative you are the more you get back. You become whatever is most predominant in your life. If you are stuck you are waffling, drifting, your are 50/50.

Do you want more love? Focus on and concentrate on being more loving and giving more love. Do you want to be happier? Focus on being happy and making others smile too. Do you want more success? Focus on being successful and confident. Encourage and support others. Do you want to be debt free? Concentrate on abundance, feeling rich and be grateful for what you presently have!

You need to concentrate on what you want more of. You need to focus on what you want to include in your life. You do not get wealthy thinking poor thoughts. You do not get healthy thinking unhealthy thoughts. You need to put your attention on what you want and keep it there no matter what the present circumstances are around you.

To move forward the way you want to you need to be concentrated on the positive most of the time. That is just the way it is. You need to be positive in your thoughts. You need to remain positive in what you imagine in your mind and say to yourself.

You must be feeling good most of the time. Think 80/20. At least 80% of the time you should be thinking and feeling positive. Your attention and energy should be positive. Then you are in that wonderful creation space. You want the good life? You can absolutely create it. Take control of you thoughts!” Rex Sikes

Today is a day you can delight in!

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What To Do When Things Go Terribly Wrong!!

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“What do you do when things are going right and then whoops everything seems to be going wrong? What does a positive thinker do when they screw up and make a mistake? Do they feel bad? Can they, should they? I have been asked this question a lot over the years.

Recently, a situation presented itself, that allowed me to address these questions again. I hope you discover the answer within as you read what I share next.

I received a call from a couple who are coaching clients of mind. They hit the Wall of Woe and were on their way to a Pity Party when they dialed the phone and reached out.

Problems Have Seeds Of Opportunity Within

They had an argument with their son. They felt they had pushed him into it and were afraid they had lost him. Their concern was that he might move out and they did not want it to come to that.

Their anguish stemmed from feeling he was taking advantage of them. They were willing to do almost anything for him and it seemed he did little in return. After much asking and begging him to take some responsibility around the house they had it. They got mad.

Friends were more important to him. He would do anything for his friends but provided almost no help around the house. He overslept a lot and broke agreements regularly. They know he is a teenager but after a while of this they had had it.

They let him know they were very upset. Now they were afraid they had pushed him too hard and far. I was glad they called. They were at the end of their rope with guilt and shame. Dad felt awful for yelling loudly and Mom did too.

It Is Okay To Be Human

We all have opinions about parenting style and responsibility. We all have rules and ‘shoulds’ for ourself and for others. They felt they had done wrong but weren’t completely wrong in doing so. They felt conflicted.

They felt they should have and could have handled it differently. They knew they were pushing hard at the time and now they feared. I am not sharing what we did regarding that. Every situation is handled uniquely and appropriately for the client.

Many of my coaching clients are business leaders, filmmakers and actors and individual men and women (married or otherwise) but I do consult with a some couples. I am not discussing their parenting here but I will tell you some of what I shared with them regarding their feelings.

We all hit that wall from time to time. It is natural. Life has ups and downs. There are rhythms to everything. We all have the ability to disappoint ourselves and hurt others without meaning to. We are human and most of us feel the hurt deeply. We also have the ability to feel marvelous.

We Make Mistakes – Accept It – To Err Is Human

It IS okay to be a positive thinker AND have a bad day. It IS okay to be working on improving yourself AND slip up from time to time. It IS okay to be human! A positive thinker is one who seeks to find the positive in a situation. Sometimes that is difficult or takes time to recognize.

Attempting to be perfect is not be natural. All emotions are part of the human condition. It is okay to feel hurt, disappointed, angry, and guilt. It is normal to feel any and all of them. So accept what you did. Take responsibility for it and when ready move on.

Make good when you can, if you can. Apologize if an apology is needed or will help the other person. Process what happened and how you are feeling and move forward when you are ready to move on. Forgive. It may not do anything for the other person but it will help you.

Allow all the feelings, allow what is going on. If you cry, cry that is fine. Whatever occurs allow it. When ready move on. You feel it and when it is over let it go. The waves come in but they also go out. Guilt is good if it keeps up from repeating a behavior that may be harmful to self or others.

Allow  Let Go  Move On

Feel enough quilt to get the message. Resolve to be different and let go of the guilt. It did its job. Do not hang onto emotions needlessly.It is no longer required. Some people have great difficulty in living normal, well-adjusted lives. Just be you! Feel it and let it go.

The more I learned to manage my thinking and my emotional states the less time I needed before I moved on. What used to take days, or weeks or longer now takes a much shorter time. Sometimes days, hours, minutes or seconds. Sometimes it takes longer too. It is whatever it is. Whatever it is – it is the right thing, the right amount.

There is no right or wrong amount of time to spend processing hurt or loss. Allow what feels natural and right. Don’t blame yourself or others. Don’t be harsh and critical of yourself. You made a mistake. It is part of being human. We all make them.

Treat Yourself Gently

Be gentle, respectful, kind and loving of yourself and the other party. When ready aim your thoughts and feelings back toward the positive. Steer yourself again into a powerful position. Look for the smiles and feel the gratitude. Focus on what you want.

Celebrate the learning from the recent situation. I’ve discovered that truly all things work together for good. Blessings and delights are always around the corner. Sometimes we just can’t see them. Turn back to gratitude and celebration. Dwell on good things.

Some times our darkest moments become our finest hour but we don’t know that while going through it. UNLESS – unless you condition yourself to begin to always think this way.

Learn Patience

Your awareness increases through your daily commitment and experiences. The longer you practice positive thinking the better equipped you are when things go wrong. You more easily recognize that all challenges also present opportunity.

Then you may be more prepared for difficulty. We become what we think about most during the day.Then when upset occurs you know  it will pass. There will be reason to celebrate and be thankful through all of it.

Perhaps, this couple and their son needed this exact exchange. For whatever reason. Perhaps not. Who can say?  As long as they love each other and are willing to forgive each other they will do fine. It may take some time or it could resolve quickly.

Make New Mistakes

Great good can come from these circumstances if they are willing to look for and become aware of it. It is obvious this family does deeply love and care for each other. As long as they seek to accept and understand each other they will be fine.

We all would be better if we put these principles into practice with our loved ones and friends. Be patient with yourself, others and circumstances. Remember, this problem will pass. Cultivate Patience!

Yes, positive thinkers can stumble and fall. Everyone falls! Not everyone gets up. It is in the getting up that victory is born. Get up, shake the dust off and move on. Everyone makes mistakes. Accept it, correct it as best you can and move forward.

Learn from it so you don’t make the same mistake again but make new ones each time. Never try to be perfect. Just be who you are. Who you are is already someone wonderful. Celebrate and be thankful for everything in your life. Be glad to be human!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy this beautiful day!

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Who Else Knows What Precedes Career & Life Success!

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“How is your career going? How about your life? Are you as happy and successful as you would like to be? If yes, that is fabulous! If not, why do you suppose that is? If you ask people this question you discover some pretty insiteful answers that all tend to be the same.

Most people will tell you that they just can’t get a break. They are spinning their wheels. They can’t get past a glass ceiling. They state that the economy or the world has changed and hence it is impossible. They say they don’t know what to do.  They have tried many different things. Nothing seems to work.

People answer saying it isn’t their fault. Something or someone outside of them is preventing them. They are not responsible. Most people answer as if they are passengers on a bus in life rather than as the bus driver. Even then some drivers blame the road and conditions.

Attitude Determines Altitude

Too many people take a passive stance to their success by putting in other’s hands. They feel like circumstances or others dictate what their life and career will be like. In Hollywood it is, and was, always easy to blame the ‘gatekeepers’. Gatekeepers are those we perceive that keep some from making it while allowing others access. Never let the notion of a gatekeeper prevent you!

When you aren’t getting the results you want you must make an active change. Yet, most people think you must change what they are doing. They want to change an activity. You should but this is not the first thing you must change. You must first change your mindset! Thoughts precede action. When you get your thinking right right actions will follow.

You must create the successful, winning, champion mindset first.  From this mindset all else follows. Think like a winner and you can become a winner. Think like a champion and live as a champion. Take responsibility for making your career and life what you want it to be.

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You

Stop blaming and stop looking at the less than glorious circumstances. Stop putting your energy and efforts and attention on what you don’t want and focus entirely on what you want. Get your attitude up. Make you attitude right! Persist in your right thinking in spite of any obstacles.

You have to think, ‘if it is to be it is up to me!’ Once your mind is set in right thinking your mind opens up so that you can effectively plan. Your creativity and awareness improve. Your ability to plan and know what to do improves. The information has usually been there all along but you can’t see it because your mindset wasn’t right.

You miss opportunity and knowing what to do because your attention was in the wrong place. With the correct mindset you are able to notice new opportunity and advantages too. Everything opens up and your resources become more available to you. The blinders drop off and you can see more clearly how to act more effectively. You can plan!

As you move forward your plans may change. They most likely will. Along your path to making your career and life dreams come true they may change a number of times but don’t give up! When traveling to a favorite vacation spot, if a road or bridge is out, you don’t abandon your decision to get where you want to go. You find an alternate route.

The More We Do The More We Can Do

You change your plans. Obstacles may come your way and you may go through a number of plans but you will find what works because you are open to it. You are adaptable and flexible. You are more resourceful as a result of having a winning persistent mindset. You are more competent and confident.

Your mindset, your thoughts, beliefs, attitudes are aligned and congruent. When this is the case you become a force to reckon with. If you know what you want in your career and in your life you take your powerful mindset and aim it at getting what you want. Then you can and will do the things that work and bring about what you. You become passionate and unstoppable! 

Most people put the cart before the horse. They try doing things hoping whatever they do next will be the right thing. They spend years spinning their wheels. Knowing what to do comes after knowing what and how to think. Actions follow right thinking. Get your thinking in order and your life and career will excel.” Rex Sikes

Make all you moments marvelous today!

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Unleash The Magic Within You Right Now!

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“People want their life to change quickly. Do you? Are you one of these people who wants to have it now? Transformation can happen instantly? Often there is a breakthrough or ‘eureka’ moment when everything changes. This is very possible!

Then it takes time for everything else to adjust to the change. If you want six pack abs it will take some time to acquire. If you want to keep the six pack you know you will have to maintain them. If you get physically fit you still have to eat right and exercise right to stay fit. Still, there are moments when powerful things happen suddenly.

Just by reading this blog you could instantly change! Did you know that? You could transform in a single moment! You could enjoy great improvements in your life. You could delight more and have incredible happiness. You could skyrocket your career success. Its true!

Time Spent Reading Is A Wise Use Of Your Time

If you read my blog regularly you will learn and come to know what to do to get what you want. You will know what to do when you have difficulty and how to overcome it. It is rich with life transforming principles. That is one of the reasons I write the blog. I want to share what others have used, kept secret, or openly revealed that people still miss out on. When you learn amazing things will begin happening!

Just by reading! When you read and fill your mind with positive, inspirational material on a daily basis you can develop the necessary winning mindset to be, do and have anything you want in life. You can learn to live as a champion does and make your life marvelous.

So am I doing something to you? No. Is it what I write? Partly. What I share is wisdom from ancient times to modern times. Most of it is not mine I am just sharing what I have learned during my life. I am a messenger.

And one powerful message I want to deliver to you NOW is this: Read the blog. Read other inspirational material. Fill your mind. Read it and go back and re-read it regularly. You can and will transform. Go back through the blog site and read it again. Here is why.

You Make New Neural Connections And Pathways

Reading these words can instantly transform you but it is not because of the words. It is because of what you do with the words. It is because of your thoughts about the words. Everything in these blogs is about what you do! (Who is this YOU I write about? It is you and me. It is all of us. We are all in this together. What is good for the goose is also good for the gander). You must do something with it!

Information doesn’t transform us unless we apply it. If you know what to do but do not do it, you actually don’t know it. You can’t or you would be doing it. If you have the secret to life change and don’t use it you haven’t the secret. I am telling you right now here is an incredible secret if you put into action will make a phenomenal difference for you.

Transformation occurs due to your rumination. Your cognitions, and reflections. When you ponder over, think about, study and consider these concepts repeatedly your mind can begin to do astonishing things. Your mind will make connections within. Your contemplating and meditating over the concepts continually is like preparing the soil so seeds can sprout and grow.

What transforms you is not the words but your repeated study of the words and principles. The insights you gain is how change occurs. Your ‘ahas’ are what transforms you. Your instant illumination, that powerful moment when the concepts and principles gel and come together. That moment IS the result of you repeated filling your mind.

Apply Your Insights And You Evolve

Your personal ‘eureka’ instants are what changes you in amazing ways. These flashes and insights that you will have is when the magic happens. It is when everything suddenly comes together for you and you wake up to a new idea or a new way of being. You ‘get it’ finally!

This is precisely why it is important to fill your mind daily with positive, inspiring material. When you read it you can have an insight that changes everything! Wham! Everything comes together and you know what you need to do! That is a beautiful moment. You will still have to put things into motion and follow through but it all came together in an instant.

Your insights will lead you in positive and powerful directions. The conclusions you draw, change and draw again will change you in more beneficial ways than you can imagine. You will notice new things in your journey that previously remained hidden. You will wake up to new opportunities and advantages  as your mind assembles the principles and concepts with your experiences.

Correct Repetition Over Time Brings Success

So it it critical to get repeated exposure over time. When you go back and re-read the material a week or two later it can even seem entirely new material. You will be surprised by what you missed previously. Go back a month later. Keep re-reading.

The reason for this is because between the repeated readings you have thought about the principles, put them into action, gained experiences and evolved yourself. Write out your thoughts and conclusions. Then a while late, week or two, month or two re-write them out again. You will gain so much as you put into practice these simple practices.

By continuing to revisit the same concepts your mind has the opportunity to tie things together. If you only read something once and move on it similar to taking one bite of your dinner. You got a morsel. It is like pumping iron once. It doesn’t get the intended results. When you pump iron over and over muscles grow.

You Can Be Do And Have Anything You Want

So when you return to the same material you notice new things in it. Your mind puts it together in new ways. It is a fantastic evolutionary process. That means it is ongoing and improving. You can’t exposure you mind to positive messages enough. Each time you return to the same positive material you will get new things from it!

Those who are truly successful already do this.Those who have fabulous lives read regularly. It is really a secret that is hidden in the open, yet few take the time to do it. If you will you will discover a remarkable new world opening up to you. So please don’t miss out.

This material comes together in a new, meaningful and powerful ways for you. I write it to get it to you and to remind me. It is your cognition, your thought processes that are being stimulated by what you read. Focus on it, immerse yourself in it and real magic can happen. All the magic is within you.” Rex Sikes

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Make today fantastic!

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