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Develop Some ‘Huevos Muy Grande’ And Never Give Up!

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“Said another way, sometimes you just need ‘realmente grandes botas’.  Sometimes, you have to burn the boats to win the battle. You need to leave yourself no way out but to face your obstacles and conquer them.

You need intestinal fortitude, steel will, indomitable spirit. You need really big balls and just need to keep going. You need the mindset of a winner. You need to look at all your problems and shrink them down in your mind.  Do not let them loom over you LOOM over them instead!

When things get tough you need to cry out, ‘Go ahead! Give me your best shot. I will prevail!’ Let the universe know you are not daunted by anything it hurls at you. Come what may you will succeed! You are confident in yourself! You believe in you!

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

You. need to  know, believe and declare, that no matter what, ‘I always land on my feet!’ ‘Things always work out the best for me.’ ‘Ultimately great good will come of this!’ NO matter what! NO MATTER WHAT! Keep this in mind!

Anything.  Any challenge or obstacle is only a temporary inconvenience, a speed bump, and you will continue regardless. You are relentless and persistent. You are committed to your future and dedicated to well being. You will not let anything stand in you way.

It is time to stop sniveling, whining, complaining. excusing and blaming. Rise up, stand strong and claim victory.  Face the giant Goliath, and even, rush the giant, as the biblical David did.

David didn’t shrink back from this looming monster of disaster. He ran towards Goliath after having stated ‘today God will be victorious!’ He charged into his problems.

The Mind Is As Strong As Its Weakest Think

David told Goliath, ‘This day the Lord will deliver you into my hands, and I’ll strike you down and cut off your head. This very day will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds and the wild animals, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel.’ 

‘All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the Lord saves; for the battle is the Lord’s, and he will give all of you into our hands.’

‘ As the Philistine moved closer to attack him, David ran quickly toward the battle line to meet him. Reaching into his bag and taking out a stone, he slung it and struck the Philistine on the forehead.’

‘The stone sank into his forehead, and he fell face down on the ground. So David triumphed over the Philistine with a sling and a stone; without a sword in his hand he struck down the Philistine and killed him.’1 Samuel 45-50.

You Are Where Your Thoughts Take You

Whether true or just a story, the point is the same. David declared victory in the face of his problem. He declared victory prior to the fight. David had faith. David’s faith gave him courage and determination. David asserted how it was going to go down.

David ran toward his problem and conquered it! Keep in mind David was young and slight and Goliath a giant among man whom had killed scores of men and was deeply feared but not by David. David believed. David knew. David came, saw and conquered.

You must develop this kind of faith. You must develop the kind of faith that whatever comes your way you know you can, and you will, handle it. You won’t let anything get the better of you but YOU will get the best of problems.

If You Really Want To Do Something You Will Find Away

You know absolutely you will prevail. You are an emperor and you love a good challenge. You like a tough fight. The true champion doesn’t flee a strong opponent. The champion welcomes the tough opponent. So grow a pair! Develop steel will! Trust yourself!

The true champion fights the fight and continues on. Let nothing bring you down or get in your way. ‘Burn the boats!’ Leave yourself no recourse but to win AND you will be victorious.

You can find positivity in every situation. You can learn from every obstacle. Your worst moments most likely will be your defining moments. Search for the good, trust in yourself, believe you can get through the darkest hour. Create the circumstances you want!

Know inside yourself that you can find the utmost good for all concerned. Raise the bar don’t lower it. Don’t succumb to negativity, or let hatred, anger and fear fume and fester. Tackle your problems with a positive and powerful mindset of resourcefulness.

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You

Become someone who overcomes. Solve you problems cheerfully. Be thankful not fearful. What you think about you bring about. Don’t attract more difficulty by thinking on your troubles instead know a better day will come and focus on that.

Concentrate on the invisible future goodness you want to create. Why do I say invisible? Because you haven’t manifested these results yet, but you will if you stay focused. You will change your circumstances by the sheer power of your will if you stay focused on what you want to create AND not on troubles.

You may have thought, ‘yes, but how?’ I have already told you how so many times within these pages. Within in you YOU already know how. I’ll share more in upcoming posts. When you master faith and this attitude you will master much more of great importance.

Attract positivity. Create goodness. Celebrate everything. Face your fears bravely and with a smile and a laugh. Do not let things bring you down. Let your attitude determine your altitude. Soar high! Fly above the troubles. Set down in the promised land.  Do it!!” Rex Sikes

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What The Athlete Knows And Does That You Don’t Is Critical!

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“I consult for movies,TV, online digital content, actors etc. and showbiz. Of course, I act, produce and direct too. I also consult for others from all walks of life as a mentor and coach. Every now and then I get a email or a post from a showbiz website, or from a client that I respond to, and think, I can share this with my blog readers.

Today, I thought I’d share one of my brief responses. It can be applied to anything, any career, and anyone. It is a simple message expressing encouragement. I enjoyed the persons’s response too. It was very cool and great to receive back. I have not included their quest or comments.

‘Thanks and hello. Yes,  I know the feeling. It seems it can be tough. I am going to point you to a brief blog of mine being published on 11/30/15  You Have Been  Conditioned To Fail But You Don’t Have To.

Persistence is the attribute or characteristic that separates the haves from the have nots. Those who win from those who give up along the way. Mindset and attitude we largely inherit and then make it our own as we grow up. It is a blend of influences from others and our experiences.

We get, from others, the initial input, then we make that our own. Experience then either confirms or it doesn’t what we hold in our mind. Typically, because how the brain works, we find what we already believe. The Reticular Activating System (RAS) functions to find what we expect to find. Our brains support what we believe BY DEFAULT!

So in order to stop losing and start winning one has to condition oneself to win the same way an athlete conditions oneself to compete and win. They have to get up each day whether or not they feel like it and train. Whether OR NOT they feel like it!

Nothing can stand in the way if they want a shot at olympic gold. That is just the way it is. Sweat, hard work, diet, sleep and exercise. A regime they do for years to be ready. They have to overcome OLD habits and create news ones they adhere to regardless of what comes up.

Most of us try and give up shortly there after. We find excuses rather than reasons to continue. If we want to win at whatever we do we must condition our mind and prepare ourselves. We need to develop new, positive,supportive habits to keep us going. We create new neural pathways.

Nothing happens over night especially in show business. It can be brutal and is fraught with rejection.

Those who get to the top, when you listen to them, most almost always say, they knew they would succeed they just had to get through all the dark times first. They knew it first and expected to succeed! That kept them going and their brain (RAS) found reasons to continue during their darkest times. One needs to develop the habit of self confidence!

Success is built on failure. In failure we learn what not to do, as well as, what we could otherwise do. There are always lessons and if we are wise we learn from them and continue the pursuit. There is opportunity and advantage in every setback if we look for it.

If you are meant to do it you will do it if you keep the passion flamed and your belief in yourself strong. Never quit.

IF on the other hand this is really not your calling then perhaps look into something that makes you feel fully alive.

No one has to be in show business except those who HAVE to be. If you have to be then nothing will stop you; Not economics, politics, the weather, others, circumstances or events. It can be daunting at times but there are ways through that.

If you are meant to succeed, inside your own heart, then you will find the way, the reasons, the fire and fuel to keep going no matter how difficult. You will dictate the circumstances rather than letting them dictate you. You will exercise your personal power to positively push through.

Attitude, positive thinking and optimism don’t guarantee success but negativity certainly doesn’t. Positive thinking and optimism make it easier and more likely though. Learn how to take control of your thoughts and feelings and live as the emperor you were born to be.

Read my blog.  Get other inspirational material and fill your mind daily with I CAN DO IT thinking. Then do it step by step and you will eventually get there. Meanwhile, all the best wishes. This is my 2 cents.’

And there you have it. My response to someone who reached out. Whenever we face opposition and setbacks, disappointment and difficulty it becomes easy to throw in the towel unless we find the reasons within for continuing to move forward. The person, who reached out, found it within.

This is another reason why optimism and positivity work. Our mindset is critical! Gratitude and celebration of all things will keep us going too. Remember always to be thankful and celebrate!” Rex Sikes

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You Have Been Conditioned To Fail But You Don’t Have To!

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“Have you been conditioned for failure? Sadly, the answer is yes. You were not born to fail but you learned it from well meaning people who were around you as you grew up. Since, you learned to fail there is something that can be done about it.

Consider this. A toddler, when learning to walk, falls many times. It does not stop trying. Nothing prevents it. It keeps going until it masters walking. The young child did this with rolling over, crawling, sitting up and feeding herself. It did this many times with many learnings.

Only later through communication with others does a child learn what success or failure is. It becomes an event. The child learns right, wrong, good, bad. It learns judgement and evaluations from others. The child learns about winning and losing.

At this time in the young person’s development f something doesn’t work out it is wrong. It is a failure and bad. Judgements are imposed on efforts made from the outside.

Soon the child learns to make these assessments and label attempts that aren’t fruitful. Before long the child tries once, twice, three times and quits. Worse before long the child may label him or herself based on these trials.

Brains that fire together wire together. The more you judge the easier it becomes to make judgements.The more you quit the easier it becomes because you develop the neural pathways the habits for quitting. The more you succeed the more you develop the neural pathways and habits for winning.

Your brain doesn’t care which you choose. Your brain will do whatever you give it to do. If you prefer being a winner, train your brain, and you will be a winner. Otherwise, what is your option?

You were born a winner. Don’t stop being one because you have learned to quit. Learn again to win. Learn to persist until you do succeed. Stop thinking of yourself as anything other than a winner.

Your mindset, you attitude, how you feel about yourself will determine how much you ‘go for it’. Persistence separates the winners from the losers. If the goal is to cross the finish line the only one who is a failure is the one who quits and never crosses.

The infant encounters temporary defeat but keeps on doing until she succeeds. You can too. All failure IS only temporary unless you quit. Then it is permanent. Then you have given up.

Never give up on your positive goals and dreams. Adjust your plans, attempt another way or route but keep on going until you get there. You can do it. Be the champion you were born to be. Be the victor you are and triumph over circumstances.” Rex Sikes

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Why You Always Find It In The Last Place You Look

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“There is an old joke I am going to make a blonde joke. It’s fair I was born a blonde. A blonde is rummaging in the house muttering ‘I can’t find my keys.’  Her husband asks, “Where did you last have them?’ ‘Outside’, she replies, ‘but the light is better in here.’

This is a perfect example of what most of us do. We look everywhere but where we need to. ‘What you lost is always in the last place you look’. While designed to be a humorous (and obvious) statement it is also true. Often, we don’t find things until the last place we look, because we hadn’t considered looking there until then.

We don’t consider looking where it actually may be until late in the search. The reason it is so difficult for you and me is we are brought up told to look in all the wrong places. We look outside ourself, we look at parents, teachers, peers. We are taught to look outside ourselves.

You Are Where Your Thoughts Have Brought You

We learn from example as well. We adopt behaviors we see others engage in and make them our own. Then we look to other people, circumstances, the weather, the economy, the government; we look to religion and god. We look to events and results. We are never much encouraged to look within ourself and find.

We are not encouraged to take responsibility for ourselves. We learn to blame, whine and criticize. We exclaim, ‘somebody ought to do something! There ought to be a law!’  Is it any wonder then that many of our politicians, of the past number of decades, lie, cheat, and blame everything except themselves for their foibles.

When it comes down to it we expect them to fess up, own up and state, ‘I alone acted this way. I am responsible and I am accountable’. The buck never actually seems to stop where it belongs to stop. Even then, we ‘know’ they are just saying that to get out if it.

The buck actually needs to stop with each us. Each of us needs to take 100% responsibility for what we think, feel and do. Since, we are taught to look everywhere and assign responsibility to everything except where it belongs, it makes it difficult for us to be deliberate creators.

You Will Be Where Your Thoughts Take You

We doubt and have fear and worry things might not happen as we hope they will because we don’t think we have any control. It seems difficult to be a deliberate creator because we have never been responsible for anything. We need to overcome our own conditioning. We have to get past our habits of blaming others.

We are distracted and unfocused.  Since we learned to assign responsibility to anything and everything outside of us we are not in control but subject to the whims of whomever or whatever. We are like little boats without sails being bounced around by the sea.

Drifting, with little power of our own. Is it any wonder the Law Of Attraction doesn’t seem to work. Instead of creating what we want we are filled with mostly less than glorious, habitual, routine patterns of negative thought.

We blame the universe instead of deliberately creating something that we do want. We tolerate or hate our circumstances instead of creating something different. We were never told, and it was never reinforced, that we create out reality. We are responsible for our results and circumstances but we didn’t know that.

You Cannot Escape The Consequences Of Your Thoughts

Come what may we are in charge. It is up to each of us whether we sink or swim. If we want to swim we can. We can learn how and we are able. Those are not the messages most of us get. So most of us put responsibility for our success and happiness on others and other things outside ourself.

If you expect others to make you happen; if you expect events to fulfill you then you may be in deep trouble when it comes to romantic and familial relationships. The other person can complement you but don’t expect the other person to be your reason for being happy. We contribute to each other, only.

We should take 100% responsibility for our circumstances and lot in life. We should take 100% responsibility for all of our decisions. If we were poorly informed then we should take 100% responsibility for not bothering to get better information. Our life is NOT anyone else’s responsibility. We shouldn’t expect them to make us happy or successful.

To take full responsibility, for good or bad, no matter what the case, means we can do something about it. When we pass the buck we deny our own ability to take charge and in control. When we keep telling ourself again and again someone or something else is to blame our subconscious gets that we aren’t in charge.

Thoughts Are Things

DO you get that? If you give away all your power your subconscious will agree with you that you are powerless. Remember, it is a faithful servant who says yes and looks to prove you correct by finding proof in the outer world. Instead of being a victor you will remain a victim and convinced you are one.

If we decide we aren’t powerful and can’t change things then that means we have to accept whatever is, even if we don’t like it. It is out of our control.  Everything and everyone else affects us. We are helpless to make changes. Basically, we are hopeless too. WHO would ever want to live this way?

When we have the opportunity to decide to use the law of attraction and make things happen we are previously conditioned to not be a creator but to be a reactor to outside influences. We want to create but our brain says others do that. See how insidious this conditioning can be. It is habit. It is routine. It is familiar.

People will do what is familiar and comfortable far more than they will do anything that feels uncomfortable for them. That means, if suffering is what they are used to they will continue because it is more comfortable to continue that to change it. WOW, right?

What You Think About You Bring About

When we think ‘I want more money’ and prior conditioning chimes in with, ‘well that will never happen. The economy sucks’. Or, ‘I pay to much in taxes’. Or, ‘I don’t deserve to be rich’. Or,  ‘all rich people are greedy’ ‘The powerful have made it impossible for the rest of us to get ahead’. Any number of limiting beliefs rush to the surface.

If we see something we want and think, ‘I can’t afford it’ your subconscious says, ‘right you are! Yes, YOU cannot afford it’ IT is too expensive for you’. You subconscious, as mentioned, will agree with you and seek to find you additional prove as to why you can’t. It will scour through your past and present to present you example.

WHAT you THINK and WHAT you SAY is what you get! The reason you don’t have a million dollars is because you can’t SEE yourself with a million dollars. You don’t SAY to yourself , ‘I am rich and a millionaire’ and imagine what that is like. If you can’t fully imagine it being yours, now in the present, you won’t have it. In order to behave in a reality you must first conceive of that reality!

Instead, you see the bills. You entertain the circumstances  of not having enough. You focus on lack and not being able to afford things. You react automatically to not having enough. You think life is otugh and hard.  You fret, worry, and doubt you will be able to make your payments. Still, you struggle and hope that you do so the bank doesn’t foreclose or repossess.

You Get What You Focus On

What you have not done is to decide to be in complete charge of you and everything in your life. You haven’t yet decided to create that wealth no matter what.

As long as you think and act from lack you will always not get what you want. As long as you try to avoid what you don’t want you will only create more and attract more of what you don’t want. As long as you put the responsibility elsewhere you will keep missing out! You must recognize YOU have to be in charge and determine what you will create!

You need to determine what will fill your mind with and how you will feel most of the time. You need to choose what you will think, see, say and feel! You need to become the emperor you were always meant to be. Be strong and powerful. Be determined and focused. Otherwise, you live from victim mentality and lose out.

The last place people look is to their own power. The last place they look is to  their own subconscious mind and thoughts. People were not taught to rely on their own subconscious, not because it isn’t powerful, BUT because it is! You can’t be a sheeple if you are in charge of your own thoughts and identity.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

NO nation needs a citizenry of individuals and leaders. Nations need sheeple who are the worker bees, who don’t make waves, who can be controlled. Hence, the great deception from long ago. There are the have’s and then there are the rest. We live in a feudal world.

There are the leaders and then the followers, there are owners and the workers.  I bet right now you may be thinking, ‘but of course that’s how things are’. Yes, they are AND they could be otherwise! The POWERS don’t want leaders.  Too many cooks spoil the broth. They want sheeple, worker bees.

Instead of being told you have an incredible brain, you can learn and do anything; you are completely resourceful; you can be completely self determining while working in collaboration with others, you are told you need to go to school, get a job and settle down.

Live as best you can, stay out of trouble, retire, and die. Work 40 hours a week for 40 years to get 40% pension. That  pension, which now, no longer really exists. They are taking that away. We have been deceived. You have been deceived.  Alright, enough about the great deception. You may or may not believe it anyway.

Do Not Be Deceived

The point is to become self determining! You should absolutely believe in is yourself. If you don’t believe what I write here investigate it and learn the science and history behind it. You really should be informed as to what is going on. Look through the lies and really search it out.

Within YOU is amazing power to be, do and have whatever you want! You don’t know that or you don’t know how to use that because you didn’t grow up knowing how to. You just weren’t informed, so it is the last place you look. It is okay because you can change all that.

Just because you didn’t get exposed to it early on doesn’t mean you can’t do something about it now. While, it may have been ideal to have been brought up that way, face it, most likely you weren’t. Can’t cry about water over the damn. That train left the station. Get with the current program and learn to do it now! Now is all you have!

Look to yourself. Learn to utilize your own power. Make your life what you want it to be. Live as you have dreamed. Don’t be stingy with yourself or loved ones. Don’t be a victim or a blamer or wimp. Take responsibility and take charge of your life. You may only have one go around so make it count.

Every Limitation Is An Illusion – Every Excuse A Lie

Don’t live beneath who you are or your means. Live as an emperor. Live as a victor and a champion. Never say or speak about what you do not want. Only think and talk about WHAT YOU DO WANT AND CAN DO.  DON’T waste time in gossip or complaints. Stop, no longer focus on less than glorious circumstances.

Imagine fully and feel all the wonderful feelings, wanting what you do want. Only think about what you want to bring about Focus your attention and your energy. Get you brain working for you the way you want it to. Accept nothing less.

Do not be haphazard. Don’t let the old habitual ways you learned to work from others dictate who you are or what you do. Napoleon Hill stated, ‘if you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it.’ Think it into being. Believe it is possible and you can and you will do whatever it takes to bring it about. Be strong and persist.

If You Really Want To Do Something You Will Find The Reasons

Do you want that old programming to dictate the rest of your life?

If You Don’t Want To Do Something You Will Find The Excuses

Would you like to have a say in how your future will turn out? You decide now because the decision is yours and yours alone. If you don’t make it for yourself others already have made it for you. They don’t really care about you all that much. SO what is your decision going be?” Rex Sikes

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Did You Know You Could Do This And Everything Would Change?

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“Why do you have difficulty manifesting what you want? If you read how to do it, it should be easy, right? For some, it seems utterly, ridiculously simple. They get what they want and when. Plus, why is it so much easier to bring about what you do not want? Producing drama and crap is not a problem at all. Why is this the case?

People are powerful. YOU are incredibly powerful. You and I have more energy in us than we can ever know. We can think nearly anything we can imagine into existence. We can, except we are dissipated, diluted and doubtful. We are unfocused. We are wishy washy and at times downright negative.

If your thoughts were aimed like a laser beam you might more instantly, easily manifest. As it is, you and I think a couple thoughts about what we want, a dozen or so thoughts about how the coffee is bad, another few hundred on drivers being stupid, and we fret and worry and doubt about everything else. We criticize and complain.

Affirm Assert And Declare! See And Say What You Want

We gossip and criticize. We fear the worst and we think negatively more than we think positively. Think of it this way, if you aren’t thinking positive what exactly are you thinking? Science says we think upwards of 60,000 thoughts per day and most of them are the same ones we thought previous days. We are patterned, habitual thinkers.

If we want our life to change than we must change most of our thoughts that are the same ones we have been habitually thinking. These are destructive thoughts, useless thoughts, petty thoughts along with our belief clusters or paradigms. We can’t expect things to be different and still keep doing things the same old way. That IS the definition of insanity, you may recall.

We give away all our energy constantly through out the day instead of it being concentrated. We have so much power but experience so little of it. Water run through a small opening at high speed can cut diamond but water poured from a glass merely gets things wet. Our thoughts aren’t governed. Our scales aren’t tipped in favor of the positive. I’ll come back to how we determine this in a bit.

Visualize The Good You Want In Your Life As Happening Now

How we use our energy, how concentrated and focused we are determines what we get in return. Napoleon Hill stated our Definite Chief Aim must become like white hot steel desire. It should become so hot it is white hot. That is way more than normal hot. We need concentrated desire and powerful dedicated faith.

Imagine bouncing a ball off the wall. It will come back to you with the same force you threw it at the wall. This is the Law of Cause and Effect which states ‘for every action (cause) there is an equal and opposite reaction (effect)’. If you hurl it at the wall it will hurl back at you. If you lob it there it may hardly make it back to you.

Your intention determines what you get back. Your results reflect back what is mostly on your mind. They actually show what you think about most and how you think about it. You become what you think about. You bring about what you think about. What you focus on expands. From within so without.

The Equal And Opposite Effect Is What Returns To You

KEEP THIS IN MIND! What you focus on expands. What you believe IS precisely what you see. What you believe, see, say and feel IS what you get. The rest is filtered out or ignored. You manifest what you predominantly hold in your mind. So your outer circumstances reflect what you think about on the inside. From within so without.

This is part of how we determine whether we are mostly positive or mostly negative. Your results show what you have been thinking about up until now. Your results or circumstances are the result of your previous habitual thinking. Your previous thoughts have brought you to where you are today.

Your thoughts today will determine where you will be and what you will have tomorrow. Your present thoughts dictate your future circumstances. Change your thinking and ultimately you will change your results. IT may not happen over night, which is what everyone hopes for, but it will happen. Gradually, it will happen.

Live With Passion Live With Joy Live With Bliss

Because most of your thoughts are haphazard or leaning to the negative YOU determine the life you lead. YOUR thinking determines the life you life. What you fear and anticipate most you bring about. What you worry about and dread about you attract. Combine that with sometimes thinking some positive thoughts and you have a mix. A wishy washy mix of okay, not great.

So which is larger and has more mass? Is it  your positive ball of energy or your negative ball of energy? REMEMBER and realize that whatever IS NOT positive IS NOT POSITIVE. BUT you can change it by taking hold of your thinking, getting it under your own control and thinking more positive more of the time. This you can do! All humans are capable of this barring neurological damage.

THIS is why it takes time. How you can make it easier and accelerate it?  Pay attention to your feelings. Whenever you are not feeling wonderful, your best, or positive then you are thinking and feeling negative or less than glorious. DO whatever positive action, mental or physical for yourself, within reason and for the good of all, that helps you feel better. Feeling good results in more feeling good!

You Bring About What You Think And Feel About – Feel Great

Walk, exercise, sing, enjoy a good meal or fun movie. Take a bath, get a massage, read inspirational material. Do whatever you can to feel, in the least, a bit better. Use feelings as your indicator. Feeling great you are thinking great. Feeling blah your thoughts are blah. Feeling down, mad or negative your thoughts are negative. You want your thoughts and feelings positive most of the time.

The better you feel the faster and easier you change. The quicker you transform your circumstances. Remember, if you don’t like what you have and where you are at you must change something. If you want your life to change you must change things in your life. You cannot keep doing the same things routinely and expect anything to be different. You must make it different to have it different!

That is the Law Of Cause and Effect. The same amount of energy you put into it is what you will get back. If you lob the ball it will return in kind. Have fun, get excited, be thrilled, stop worrying and fretting about circumstances, trust it will all work out. Be focused on what you want. Be passionate, white hot, and your life will transform. You will be delighted and surprised. SO celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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How To Transform Troubles Into Amazing Opportunities

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“What do you do when you are trying your best to be positive and someone or something comes along and seems to rain on your parade? There are times like that. You decided I will be positive and shortly thereafter find yourself in a funk or a fight. What do you do?

Realize that all great spirits encounter opposition. Obstacles are opportunities to learn and grow. Accept what is IS what is. You can’t push a rope. Understand it takes two to tango. Recognize you part in making it happen or continuing it.

Try to imagine the other person you may be in conflict in as a mirror, or holding up a mirror for you to see what YOU need to change. Learn from circumstances in the same way. Take it as ‘the universe’ is trying to get your attention to help make you a better person. It is trying to help you fulfill your dreams.

Everyone Everything Is A Mirror Held Up So You Can See You

Stop. Let go. Reflect instead of react. Realize what the message is and when ready respond instead. There may always be tough times. Living successfully and happily doesn’t necessitate the absence of obstacles it means learning and growing from them and with them.

Stop blaming others and circumstances. Stop whining and complaining. That is only more fuel for the fire. Accept the blame. Accept the responsibility for your part in all of it. EVEN if you don’t think you have any, look to see how you may be culpable. If honest, you will notice you are a part of it. Accept it. Go beyond it.

‘The kite rises against the wind’. People, events, circumstances are that wind. Your own inner conflicts can be that wind. Remember, when pushed there is push back. When you push back YOU are responsible for your reaction. Be willing to face your part in it.

What You Resist Persists

It takes two opposing sides to fight. The world and you, the other and you. You against you. You against the world or the other. It is normal but you don’t have to fight. You aren’t weak if you don’t push back you are far stronger. You are far superior.

You are far smarter and wiser if you know which battles to fight and which to not. You are far stronger turning the other cheek. Do you realize how much ‘let go’ there is in being able to actually turn the other cheek?  Do you understand how evolved you must truly be to forgive honestly? Seek to be able to do this and you will truly benefit.

Most people don’t actually forgive, truly let go, or are capable of turning the other cheek without resentment. Imagine a world when you could be free enough, secure enough, loving enough, of yourself and others you could do that. You would actually be free!

The Kite Rises Against The Wind

The strong person isn’t concerned with their ego being bruised; does not play one up one down power games; does not try to assert their power in order to triumph over family, friends, colleagues or strangers. That strong person knows there is no need. What is IS.

The strong, wise person seeks to accept, love and understand; to rise above the ‘disagreement’ and realize the stakes each has in it and simply not participate in further aggravating the situation. Yes, it is a road less traveled. That is certain.

How does one disengage when all our hot buttons are pushed and inflamed. When we are hot and emotional. THAT is the ability we need to learn and the only way we learn it is by stepping out of it. We need to become aware when we are a partner to it.

When You Drop Something You Drop It You Don’t Try To Drop It

When we, in that moment, recognize we are part of perpetuating it, we can STOP. I use the analogy of being stuck in traffic. When stuck, you can sit and stew, fighting it won’t change it. It won’t and you know that is true. But what do you do?  You can use the time productively to relax and enjoy. To chill while waiting.

It doesn’t matter if you need to be somewhere. If traffic isn’t moving it isn’t moving. That is what is. Accept it, get over it, get on with living life. There are other things to pay attention to. There are other things far more important and enjoyable than time spent blaming the world because you are stuck in traffic. IF you can’t do anything about it LET IT GO!

The same is true when you are in a hurry. The slow asshole in front of you isn’t that slow, you are that sped up. You are pushing traffic trying to make your way through. Stop. Going faster won’t get you there that much quicker. You are all riled up. YOU are the issue not the traffic. YOU are late because of YOU no other reason.

You Can’t Push A Rope

We can interrupt the pattern. We can stop the cycle. We can take a break, a deep breath, we can stop. We can slow down, walk away. It may take time to cool down completely it usually does. The other may insist on continuing, circumstances may persist but we have stopped. Allow yourself to cool down. Endeavor to keep peace.

We learn ‘let it go’. In doing this whenever we get ‘hooked’, if we can become aware and wriggle free we are learning and evolving. The time between the trigger, getting hooked , and getting free will lessen.

We will learn to let go sooner rather than later. Eventually, we come to our senses because our senses are freed up and not engaged in anger and hostility. Learning to get free and let go and not continue to create drama by participating in it IS A process. We evolve.

Stop Take A Deep Breath And Let Go – Breath – Get Free

More clearly are we able to see. When we are free of anger and stress our brain works better. Our eyes work better. Literally. Stress, fight or flight, constricts our abilities to only focus on survival. It narrows our senses to focus on immediate need.

When dealing with most people, most all of the time, survival is not an actual issue. Though we perceive it as one physically. The brain doesn’t know the difference between a real and imagined image or a real or imagined threat. The brain and body respond the same to a perceived or real image or threat. That is a blessing and a limitation.

So when troubles come your way in the form of a family member, friend or stranger there is something to be learned. When events and circumstances are not to our liking a message is being delivered. Even if that is not actually true, if you act as if it is, you will be better off in the long run because you will become more self aware.

Let Go And Let God

Seek the road less traveled. Find the higher ground. Let go of troubles and woes and do not participate in trauma drama. Seek instead to feel better and help everyone else feel better too. Seek to think and feel positive and happy most of the time.

You can’t if you are upset and cursing the world and others. So ‘let go and let god’, as the saying goes. Trust it will all work out without you trying to manage and fix it. Trust and enjoy that all will be okay if you don’t get hot, bothered and angry. Enjoy, feel good and have fun.

Then you and life transforms. Problems, while there will lessen. You will spend more time able to focus on what you want and not get caught in what you don’t want or want to avoid. You can focus more on what you intend to create. So celebrate whenever you notice.

Deliberate Creation Is To Create Only What You Intend To Create

Use the fact that the brain can’t tell the difference between a real and imagined image to visualize the future you want! See it. Imagine it as if you already have the good you desire. This is how you use how the brain works to get what you want.

Create the future in your mind as a present reality. See it, affirm it, feel it fully! That is how you get it! What you see is what you get. What you say is what you get. What you feel is what you get. Feel how good it feels to live that life in your mind’s eye. Enjoy it!

Celebrate!  Celebrate whenever you become aware and get unhooked and walk away from a fight you need not participate in. Let go and live free. Spend your time in gratitude and loving life. When others and circumstance challenge you realize it is an opportunity to go beyond what you already know and into an entirely new way of being.” Rex Sikes

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What To Do When Life Is Tough And You Don’t Like It!

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“Know this. Some days you are up and on top of the world. Some days you aren’t. Sometimes, things may come along and knock the wind out of your sails. Some days may just seem to drag. Some suck! All of it is what is. That is what is going on.

If you fight it, well you know the saying; what you resist persists, and it is true. If you push back you spend your energy in a fight. Then you get more of what you are focused on; push back. You get more resistance. If you don’t want more of the same yuckiness, what to do?

I say, throw your arms up and surrender. It is what it is! That is what the waitress brought you. Yuckiness on your dinner plate. You can get sad, you can get mad, you can fight her, it, and the establishment, you can threaten, you can blame, you can whine but that is what was served up. Do you really want to do all the rest of that to yourself?

What You Resist Persists

Hopefully not. So don’t! Understand that is what you got and let it go. Drop it, at least as best as you are able. Any time you are tempted to return to it think something else. FOR GOODNESS SAKE don’t talk about it to everyone all day long either. You only keep the bad news alive that much longer. Don’t perpetuate it!

It was what it was. Let it go. It is already in the past an instant later. You were served what you didn’t want. OKAY! Be bigger than it. Don’t reduce yourself to that person in public griping that no one likes. ORDER something else for yourself! You didn’t get what you want, you got slop instead of savory, ORDER something else!

Whenever you may realize you got caught up, got hooked and are fighting the flow, resisting what is, in that instance, drop it. Let it go and focus on what you would prefer instead of what is causing discomfort. To argue over what causes discomfort will only make you more uncomfortable.

You Go Where Your Thought Take You

If you feel you have to be right, put another person in their place, teach them a lesson, well, most likely you won’t and they will only resent you more afterwards. None of us like self-righteousness, even when it may be appropriate. SO give them and the world and you a break.

Cut everyone and yourself some slack. Ease off. Back up, stop, and move forward new and afresh. Going down the wrong road further won’t undo the mistake already made. Stop, turn around, change direction and head towards where you want to go. Heck, laugh it off.

Probably, the best response you can have when you catch yourself being an idiot is to laugh. Not at yourself or anyone else; you wouldn’t want to do that. Let it go and just laugh  at how ridiculous it is to fight what is. There is the saying, no use beating a dead horse. Sorry for that but it is illustrative.

It Is What It Is

Okay, better one, no use crying over spilt milk. OR it is water over the damn. What is IS! What is done is done! Move on from that moment cleanly. The only way to successfully do that is to drop it. Accept it and go on. My favorite analogy and teaching example of going with the flow in our modern age, is traffic.

The zen of not driving or not caring is learned in traffic. You can’t push it but you can try. When stuck and surrounded there is no where to go, so relax you can’t change it until it changes. LET IT GO. That person that cut you off they are already ahead of you leave them be. That person who gave you the finger, bless them; returning it my make you feel right but won’t make you feel much better.

Yes, traffic is the perfect place to let it all go and learn to surrender to what is. Use it to enjoy. Yes, you will be late, but that is what is. You may be reprimanded, docked or fired. Leave earlier next time. It is what it is. Use whatever happens to learn to not react out of anger, or fight or flight, but to let go, accept and respond more appropriately.

Realize You Always Have Choice Even When You Think You Don’t

Celebrate and be grateful you are able to. Celebrate and affirm how wonderful you are. You have all this extra time for yourself to chant your positive mantras in the car or listen to positive motivational audios. Use it wisely rather than loosing your cool. Steer back to positive thinking and feeling good and you will have learned something useful.

If you steer back each time, as best as possible, you are developing a positive habit. Whenever you encounter something less than glorious, something you don’t like and wouldn’t choose for yourself, you are returning to what is good, positive and enjoyable.

You seek a better alternative. Soon you will do it automatically, reliably and habitually. What a wonderful tradeoff. You learned to make your life more grand by default. SO use your not so good times to create better times ahead. Be grateful you can. Celebrate it all and you will live a life of true, absolute celebration!” Rex Sikes

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How To Become A Winner And Champion!

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“How does one become a winner and a champion? What does it mean to live as an emperor? What is it like to be a victor? What do these people do differently than the rest of us? Are they different or special? Were they born this way? Can we learn to do what they do?

Yes, we can! That is the good news. The champion, the winner, the emperor, the victor determine and dictate the circumstances. They make the world conform to their idea. They begin with an image in their mind of what they want. They hold it, emotionalize it and bring it into being. They create the results they passionately desire.

They determine the outcome in advance. They use their mental faculties and mental powers and resources to create the life they want to live. They don’t make excuses, they don’t blame, they don’t rely on anyone else. They decide and they make it happen.

They focus each day, they affirm, they develop habits that support them. The learn how to concentrate and focus their attention and put their energy only on the good they desire. They think positive, feel positive and know that what they hold in their mind will be a reality. They know they will manifest what they want or better!

Without a doubt they bring it about. Doubt, fear and anxiety know no place in their being. Whenever they feel less than glorious they switch their focus and move back toward the glorious. They know that whatever you can conceive and believe you can achieve. So that is what they do.

They know that what you think about is what you become so they only think about the good they want to make happen. They focus on all the good they want to attract. The look for and find opportunity and advantage.

They know how to attract and work with other like minded people to create and manifest their burning desires. Just as positive thoughts flock together and create exponential power so do people. Together they make their dreams their reality. They create it!

Obstacles and challenges contain lessons from which they learn. Their mindset is strong as steel. Their faith unwavering and steady. Their commitment and persistence and spirit indomitable. The never quit but persist until what they hold in their mind is the reality they live.

They call the shots. They determine how the world will conform to them. Were they born this way? Absolutely not! They became this way through dedicated work on oneself. They focused their attention, gained control of their thoughts, their feelings and their actions and made these work for them.

They conditioned themselves by proper practice and spaced repetition. The visualized, they affirmed, they chanted their mantras. The developed belief in themselves and their abilities. They learned how to tap into their intuition and awareness. Everything they have they learned and developed.

The sowed the seeds, nurtured them and in time reaped the harvest. Having learned how they do it once, they did it again and again. Each win, each success building on each other. They transformed themselves into CAN Do people. The fashioned themselves into unstoppable deliberate creators.

The good news. It is not just them that can do this. Many are from poor backgrounds. Many uneducated. Some downright dumb. But they worked and transformed themselves. They made no excuses.

Not one of them is special or born into it. They are the same as you and I with one difference. They decided to do it for themselves. They made a decision and followed through. I bet there were many who dropped out along the way.

If any ONE can do it so can the rest of us. If anyone can do it so can you. Drop the excuses. Stop the whining and the complaining. Decide to take responsibility for yourself. Decide to become invincible. Live fully and live the life you want. Stop being a victim and become a victor! YOU CAN DO THIS! NOW IS THE TIME!” Rex Sikes

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What Excuses Do You Keep Using?

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“Are you busy? Do you sometimes get caught up? Do you have difficulty making ends meet? Is life not everything you hope it would be? If you are like most people then, yep, you struggle. You experience is not the worst but not the best either. Things are okay but could definitely be better.

Many people want to improve their lot. They don’t for many reasons. They don’t think they know how and they feel they must prior to making that move. They think it might be too difficult. Others feel they don’t have time. Some feel they would have to give up too much to get something better. I have never quite understood that one.

Whatever the reason, whatever your reason, I suggest you put off your putting off. That is right procrastinate your procrastination. Stop waiting and start doing. The time is now. The journey begins right where you are. You move in whatever direction your feet are pointing.

There is never a right time. The time is always now. There is never a moment when things will be together enough to start getting things together in your life. The moment is now amidst chaos and confusion. Nothing is going to end and then start anew moments later. It is always just do it now. Start from where you are.

The journey of a 1000 miles begins with a single step, the saying goes. Take the step and then another. That is all you have to do. Initiate the very first one and then continue one step at time. You may be surprised. You may walk a while or you may instantly transform. Change happens the moment you decide.

Once you make the decision everything can be different. It may not occur that way but it can. Your journey is up to you. What adventure you have is pretty much up to what you allow. What you see is what you are open to seeing. If you never start you will never ever know. You must take that first step towards. Decide where you want to go.

Don’t wait. Those that wait do only one thing. They wait. Get going. Decide what you want and make it a point to have it. Decide where you want to go and make it a point to get there. Take as much time as you need but don’t stop. Keep going and you will get there. Along the way enjoy it. Celebrate and be glad you are moving! Delight!” Rex Sikes

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I Love It When This Happens – Let Nothing Stop You!

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“Synchronicity. Is there such a thing? Perhaps, that is a term used by those whose think all events aren’t somehow related. It would seem inside a closed universe that everything is connected. We just may not yet, be able to see how. So, sometimes, we get a glimpse or a treat.

Even if one maintains it is all chaos that is essentially saying the same thing in a sort of dyslexic, reverse, fashion. If everything is unordered there is order in that. I jest, in some ways, posing paradox like, can god make a rock so big god can’t lift it?

Two  posts ago, the other morning, I posted about people who kept going and had great attitude and lives in spite of losing body parts or the ability to move. Some people have an attitude of ‘life is good’ regardless of what happens. There is so much beauty in this.

Coincidence Or Connection

I was going past a book shelf looking for something and inadvertently knocked a book out. It fell open on the floor. Of course, it would be Canfield and Hansen’s, ‘Chicken Soup For The Soul’. It fell open on the floor. Picking it up and turning it over at the place it had opened, the chapter title was ‘Yes, You Can’.

After the subheading quote by Aldous Huxley, ‘Experience is not what happens to a man. It is what a man does with what happens to him’ : the first paragraph begins this way:

‘What if at 46 you burned beyond recognition in a terrible motorcycle accident, and then four years later, paralyzed from the waste down in an airplane crash?’ Coincidence? I think not.

What Would You Do?

A horrific question to consider for certain. I had just published my blog about how people see it through tough times. The paragraph continues:

‘Then, can you imagine yourself becoming a millionaire, a respected public speaker, a happy newlywed, and a successful business person? Can you see yourself going white water rafting? Sky diving? Running for political office?’ Then, ‘W Mitchell has done all these things and more…’

WOW, right! W. Mitchell is another example of someone who does not let what happened to him put him down and out or define him. Rather than letting circumstances define him he defines the circumstances! His story, is a powerful testament to the power of attitude and human will.

I think Canfield and Hansen too, put a little magic into the chapter they wrote when they asked ‘Can you imagine yourself becoming…’ because that is truly what it takes. The power of our imagination. If you can imagine it you can become it. You become what you think about.

What You Think About You Bring About

Napoleon Hill stated, much earlier, ‘If you can conceive it and believe it, you can achieve it’. Those who do this have the power and ability to move forward no matter what. In the face of the most difficult circumstances they determine how things will be. They do not let the circumstances define them.

Those of us, some of whom may have suffered tremendous hardship, can use examples like W. Mitchell to inspire and motivate us. Others of us, who have had it comparatively easier by far, should stop with the excuses.

The message is clear. We can do anything we put our mind and heart into. We can go beyond anything we thought was possible and soar to greater heights. If we can dream it we can do it.

We can stop letting the world tell us who we are, what we can do and what we can have and we can start telling the world how it will be instead! We can live as victors and champions. We can win and live as winners. We decide! You and I determine, we chose, how we will live.

UNLESS, You Let Someone Else Dictate That

Who is in charge? Are you or are you going to let the world; the government; the economy; the difficulties; get the better of you? OR do you decide to get the better of them and make you and your life what you want it to be? Who is in charge of your life?

If people like W. Mitchell can triumph in spite of terrific loss, that would stop most people dead in their tracks, we should be able to do at least as much. If it is possible for one human it is possible for all humans. NEVER let a thought stop you from the positive good that can be yours!

See it in your mind! Claim it! Make it yours! Own it and transform your life. There are no accidents. There are only incidents that we can’t yet see how they are connected or what their purpose is. We can however, trust that ultimate good can come no matter what!

What You See Is What You Get

Celebrate and live life fully! Choose to make it wonderful! Is the universe orderly? It is if you say it is! You determine how you go through life and whether or not it is a wonderful and friendly world.

Our beliefs determine what we see and what we find. So if you have to think and believe anything about yourself and the world; you might as well believe the very best! As for me, I’m glad that book fell open.” Rex SIkes

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