Category Archives: Beliefs

Breaking News! Success Won’t Make You Happy But This Will!

horizons-spiritual-calling-phil-koch

“Breaking news! Success won’t make you happy. Wait, there is more. Borne out by science and decades of research; Success won’t make you happy BUT happy can make you successful! Yes, again, I repeat, happiness leads to success. Happiness leads to success!

From ancient times until now it has been pointed out that happiness and positive thinking and optimistic thinking is healthy and leads to better health, wealth, and abilities. Happiness makes you better at what you do and makes what you do much easier. Sadly, most people, through the centuries, got it backwards.

Sadly, people believe the right job or success, the right partner or mate,  money or things would make them happy. They thought happiness came as a result of something else happening first.

Sad again. They only discovered that they delayed feeling good, if at all, and that even acquiring many things still left them feeling empty. It is because IT really is the other way around! It IS the other way!

It is time to straighten everyone out. The happier you are the healthier you tend to be. Happiness affects your health, your well-being, you ability to handle or process stress, your thinking and clarity and your productivity. The happier you are the more you can accomplish.

Happiness Is Its Own Reward And Has Multiple Benefits

Since the early 80’s I have been teaching workshops pointing out that by practicing happiness and positivity you could develop new neural pathways.You could develop wonderfully supportive habits, live more delightfully, successfully and happily, easily and nearly effortlessly.

You could open up your neurology to be capable of evolving yourself in positive ways. I suggested you could create positive habits which would positively serve you.

In my workshops we practice daily gratitude, asking positive directed questions, smiling more, laughing meditation, feeling good and accessing wonderful and powerful resource states, imaging a better future, scanning for positive and new moments each day and more. A lot more. But these were core rituals or practices.

We had rituals we did each class session and each day. I pointed out that making a habit requires a minimum of 21 days repeated practice or rehearsal. What people began as practice during my  10 or 14 day programs they were encourage to continue back home.

Habits Come From Rituals And Rituals Become Habits

Rituals are things we do everyday. For some people that includes hygiene, brushing teeth and washing. We eat, sleep, go to school or work. We may read the paper or get online. Have a cup of coffee. There are things we do regularly each and every day; sometimes multiple times throughout the day.

Spaced repetition builds habit. Correct spaced repetition builds reliable skill. Reading instructions doesn’t change you but implementing what the instructions tell you to do can change you. This is why I suggest doing these practices as often as possible each day.

I called it rehearsal, from my acting background, or the kind of conditioning athletes go through or practice professional sports teams undergo to build reliable skill sets for performance.

Create The Happiness Habit

I was harshly criticized in a number of books and publications as promoting pseudoscience and pie in the sky thinking. I was even accused (rightly) of utilizing the placebo effect.

How cool of me! Then again, they scoffed because I told people we could deliberately utilize the placebo effect. Some finally are catching on. Some Psychologists, as are scientists, catching up.

I and others pointed to things like ‘mirror neurons’ prior to their discovery. We knew through mediation, rapport studies, and other practice that many things were ‘contagious’. Smiling, rapport, happiness, peace, relaxation are infectious.

One person, neurologically, can affect another. Large groups practicing the meditation or laughter or peace have a dynamic, synergistic effect and affect others, even those not practicing. Hooray, some are finally catching on! Not nearly enough though.

Decades later research has verified what I knew back then, and far greater minds than mine have known for centuries. The better you feel the better you do. I repeat. The better you feel the better you do. Happiness leads to success and not the other way around.

Happiness is a choice! Practice feeling better a little bit each day. By practicing daily you eventually make it a reliable habit AND grow new neural pathways and connections thereby overall evolving yourself!!! Research Neuroplasticity and evolving your brain.

Here is the rub with science. IT is usually behind not ahead except for some cases. Scientific testing works this way to test a theory. Scientists make a claim, or stated hypotheses.

Happiness Is A Choice

Then they try to disprove the hypothesis. If it can’t be disproved it is accepted as the best theory you currently have for explaining what is going on. In research validation, they seek independent replication of results.

Science takes time to verify and establish new theories and validate. Not all science is equal, nor is it all good, nor is testing or reporting or publishing or disseminating the findings reliable or always upright.

BUT STILL much of science is what we hope it to be. Rigorous and trustworthy. OPEN and flexible. Because science is supposed to update theories, as better explanations become available, through testing.

Choose To Be Happy And You Will Be

There are many abstracts citing the research and conclusions. You can look them up. Look up topics such as happiness, optimism, placebo, overcoming depression naturally, mindfulness, meditation, relaxation, mirror neurons,  etc.

There are many, MANY, books written citing the research in health, healing, attitude, psychology, meditation, spirituality. One I want to refer you to (not only because it concludes and incorporates many of the practices that I and others have taught for many years but) because they really delved into researching the topic.

You can read Shawn Anchor’s findings and the research conclusions in The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work. He has since published other books. Available at amazon. Check out the research and the results.

Why Would You Ever Choose To Not Be Happy

If you aren’t going to read it then at least stay tuned to this blog. I will bring you the latest and greatest as well as the oldest and the tried and true.

HAPPINESS is something that you can have more of anytime. If you do certain things you are guaranteed to become happier. It can be as easy as a couple minutes spent daily.

While, it probably won’t occur overnight it will occur in time as you stick with it. One of the greatest life transforming things you can do, is to practice gratitude. Feel gratitude, live it daily.

In my workshops I had people create list of 25 things they were grateful for each night. Shawn has them do as few as three every day. Something so simple can be so profound.

We’ll discuss more. We have happiness, beliefs, and a number of topics currently in play here. So keep reading and re-reading. Most importantly, begin doing, if you haven’t already, and keep doing.

You can rewire your brain, feel better, be healthier, think more clearly and enjoy more success and prosperity as you do! SO Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a wonderful day!

If you think these posts would help others please share them. Please Help Spread the word. 

Horizons photo used with permission of Phil Koch.

NEW BLOG SITE LAUNCHES SOON – Do you get this blog emailed to you? You will have  to again subscribe to this blog, newsletter. I’d hate for you to miss anything when it switches. Subscribe and Follow Daily Inspiration and Gratitude!

Stop Being Stuck It Doesn’t Have To Suck! Live The Life You Want!

horizons taking-a-time-out-phil-koch

“What happens when we don’t think we can’t accomplish something because it is too difficult? Since, thoughts determine our reality shouldn’t we be more careful what we believe? Can we do something about self-limitations ? How do we overcome what seems to hold us back?

Switch your thoughts! Stop thinking what you are thinking and begin to think new, different productive thoughts. You may exclaim, ‘but that is hard’. Yes, if you think it is, it most probably will be. THAT is but another thought!

Thoughts determine our reality. Everything begins with thought. Are you really going to let a thought prevent you from seeking the highest good? Are you? You would let a mental packet of energy, or an internal feeling prevent you from being and doing and having everything you want? Really? Sad, that seems pretty wimpy.

At some point you simply have to face it. If you want things to change you must change some things. You can’t keep doing the same things over and over again and expect anything to be different. It doesn’t work like that. So give it up and face the fact that YOU have make some alterations if you want the clothes to fit. So to speak.

Why Would I Ever Choose To Believe That

You need to think more positive, productive thoughts. So whenever you discover yourself thinking or saying something less than productive or counter to what you want you challenge it.

When you encounter a limiting belief and recognize it as such ask yourself, ‘why would I ever choose to believe that?’

Your answers will be more of your paradigm of your limiting beliefs. More grapes from the cluster may appear. If you treat them as no big deal they will be no big deal. They are conditioning from your past that you accepted from other people. If you treat them as big things they will be big things.

You determine whether your responses will be minor or a big problem for you to deal with them.  How you feel about them will determine whether it’s  difficult or whether it is something you can easily and effortlessly change. YOU decide! Again, YOU DECIDE!

You can change effortlessly and let all your limiting beliefs go.

Whenever you encounter a limiting belief, from time to time, celebrate be happy. When you encounter something and you think ‘I can’t do that’ celebrate that you uncovered it because that’s the moment when you can become free.

Even If That Were True Why Would I Ever Choose To Believe That

If you become aware of a limiting belief then you can do something to change it. If you’re not aware of it it will just remain obscure. So as they come up, notice and let them go. Treat them as minor incidences. Ask yourself, ‘why would I EVER choose to believe that?’

You will get answers that are other reasons.  Continue to ask that. You can even state, ‘EVEN if that’s is true why would I choose believe that?’  The answers may sound logical, even plausible but be willing to simply gently challenge or question the belief statements.

For example, you think, ‘I can’t make a lot of money’ or ‘Other people get all the luck’, whatever the limitation statements may be THINK ABOUT IT – WHY ON EARTH would you EVER choose to belief that? WHY would YOU ever choose to limit yourself in this way? Who says you can’t?

How would your life be different if you didn’t believe that? Why would you ever accept that as true? Even if it were true why would you chose to believe it? Ask and repeatedly ask. You may find you get into a recursive loop of, ‘just because I do.’

Who Says? According tTo Whom?

The reason why most of our beliefs have some sort of power is because the assumptions within them go unchallenged. Questions have a way of helping you bring light to the darkness. Once illuminated you have some choices to make. Adopt new ones or continue with old.

There are many other questions you can ask, ‘ How do you know?’ ‘Who says’ or ‘According to whom?’ “How specifically does X cause Y?’ or “How do you know this causes that?’ ‘How does thinking this limit me?’ ‘How does X mean Y?’ ‘How does thinking this stop me from doing what I want?’ ‘Whose fault is it that I have this problem?’

‘How does this limitation benefit me?’ ‘What can I learn from this limitation or problem, or negative thought?’ ‘What seed of opportunity or advantage can I discover hidden within this?’ There are other questions.

Realize it is your choice. At some point you just let it go. IF you could be, do and have anything you want in the world why would you ever let a negative thought stop you? Yup, there might be that answer? BUT so what, that answer is only another thought.

Who Is Wearing Your Pants?

YOU could be, do and have anything you want in the world. It’s unlimited. Give yourself permission! Allow yourself to discover who you are without limitations. Seek the positive, the highest good for yourself and everyone else and enjoy what life offers.

In addition to the previous questions you can also ask,  ‘What do I want?’ ‘When, where and with whom do I want it?’  ‘What positive benefits and opportunities are there for me to explore?  ‘When I get what I want, what else will improve?’

What stops me from having the what I want already?’ (Yep, this question again explores the negative, limitation, or problem aspect of any situation) ‘What resources do I have to help me achieve what I want?’ or ‘In how many different ways am I resourceful?’

Time For You To Realize You Are In Charge – You Decide

‘What are the many different ways I am able to overcome it being a limitation?’ ‘What am I going to do to accomplish my goals and dreams?’ ‘What can I easily do to begin making it happen?’ ‘What will I do next?’ ‘How much fun can I have making my dreams come true?’

Don’t suck for your paradigm.  Don’t suck for a cluster of limiting beliefs you unconsciously adopted while growing up. Don’t let negativity and limitations hold you back from the positive good things in life. BUT treat them all lightly. They are not big things even when they may seem like it. They are what they are. Routine, patterned though habits.

There are not things in your unconscious you need to get rid of. If you worry about your paradigm you will worry about your paradigms and create another problem for yourself. Don’t be silly in this way. Others want you worried about your paradigms but you need not be. Be free instead! Be free. Enjoy life and have fun!

They are simply, old habits, familiar, comfortable ways of thinking because you didn’t think differently. Yes, they are traps, but they are only thought habits. They hold fast but they are no big deal. YOU can overcome negative thought habits and create new powerful positive thought habits. Let go of them. Keep it simple. Have fun. Enjoy!

Just remember to THINK that they are easy. THINK this will be easy. THINK This is easy. You probably have already thought for years that they are difficult. THIS TIME, right NOW, you determine how it is going to be instead of letting them call the shots.

When You Drop Your Keys You Don’t Try To – You Just Drop Them

Decide it will be easy and it will be a heck of a lot easier than if you decide it will be hard. That is how this thing works. Do not take them seriously or make an issue of them. Determine to keep it simple, easy, fun and free and it will be. Put your energy into what you want!

Declare yourself to bigger, larger, freer. You are unlimited. You are powerful. Assert it, affirm it, declare it with gusto and you will be! Remember, whatever you affirm negatively you will end up with too. You decide what you will affirm and declare. YOU make it so! You are the one who decides what and how life will be! Make it what YOU want!” Rex Sikes

Why not celebrate everything today!

If you think these posts would help others please share them. Please Help Spread the word. 

Horizons photo used with permission of Phil Koch.

NEW BLOG SITE LAUNCHES SOON – Do you get this blog emailed to you? You will have  to again subscribe to this blog, newsletter. I’d hate for you to miss anything when it switches. Subscribe and Follow Daily Inspiration and Gratitude!

You Get Exactly What You Accept; Nothing More Or Less!

horizons firelight-phil-koch

“Do you want more from your career, your relationships and your life? Would you like to be the best you you can be? Would you like to be more successful and happy?

Do you want better health and fitness, wealth and adventure, fun and enjoyment? Would you like things to simply work out and be more delightful?  Well, guess what:

‘Remember, no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand abundance and prosperity, than is required to accept misery and poverty. A great poet has correctly stated this universal truth through these lines:

“I bargained with Life for a penny, And Life would pay no more, However I begged at evening When I counted my scanty store.

“For Life is a just employer, He gives you what you ask, But once you have set the wages, Why, you must bear the task.

“I worked for a menial’s hire, Only to learn, dismayed, That any wage I had asked of Life, Life would have willingly paid.” Napoleon Hill, THINK AND GROW RICH

Not much more need be said does it? Life gives you what you ask and expect from it. YOU should set the terms not accept them. You determine your circumstances. You dictate how things will be. That is what it means to be a deliberate, intentional creator.

You either live richly or poorly. It is completely up to you and no one else. Yet, most people blame everyone and everything else. The truth is, it is up to you! If you are living in lack it is because you have accepted living that way.

If you want something else make something else happen. It is not about working harder it is about thinking smarter. Think and Grow Rich is the title of the book NOT work hard and grow rich.

NO, it does not mean you don’t do anything at all it means YOU take control and you make it happen. Everything first begins with your thoughts.

Know your destination. Set your course and keep going until you get there. Never stop, never give up and you will one day successfully arrive. Settle for nothing less. The reason you don’t have a million dollars is you don’t SEE YOURSELF with a million dollars, yet.

Determine to positively have the ife you want and deserve. If you want a better life thought precedes action. Think Rich and become rich. There is a formula.  Begin today!”Rex Sikes

Make today even more marvelous!

If you think these posts would help others please share them. Please Help Spread the word. 

Horizons photo used with permission of Phil Koch.

NEW BLOG SITE LAUNCHES SOON – Do you get this blog emailed to you? You will have  to again subscribe to this blog, newsletter. I’d hate for you to miss anything when it switches. Subscribe and Follow Daily Inspiration and Gratitude!

Develop Some ‘Huevos Muy Grande’ And Never Give Up!

horizon cutting-loose-phil-koch

“Said another way, sometimes you just need ‘realmente grandes botas’.  Sometimes, you have to burn the boats to win the battle. You need to leave yourself no way out but to face your obstacles and conquer them.

You need intestinal fortitude, steel will, indomitable spirit. You need really big balls and just need to keep going. You need the mindset of a winner. You need to look at all your problems and shrink them down in your mind.  Do not let them loom over you LOOM over them instead!

When things get tough you need to cry out, ‘Go ahead! Give me your best shot. I will prevail!’ Let the universe know you are not daunted by anything it hurls at you. Come what may you will succeed! You are confident in yourself! You believe in you!

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

You. need to  know, believe and declare, that no matter what, ‘I always land on my feet!’ ‘Things always work out the best for me.’ ‘Ultimately great good will come of this!’ NO matter what! NO MATTER WHAT! Keep this in mind!

Anything.  Any challenge or obstacle is only a temporary inconvenience, a speed bump, and you will continue regardless. You are relentless and persistent. You are committed to your future and dedicated to well being. You will not let anything stand in you way.

It is time to stop sniveling, whining, complaining. excusing and blaming. Rise up, stand strong and claim victory.  Face the giant Goliath, and even, rush the giant, as the biblical David did.

David didn’t shrink back from this looming monster of disaster. He ran towards Goliath after having stated ‘today God will be victorious!’ He charged into his problems.

The Mind Is As Strong As Its Weakest Think

David told Goliath, ‘This day the Lord will deliver you into my hands, and I’ll strike you down and cut off your head. This very day will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds and the wild animals, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel.’ 

‘All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the Lord saves; for the battle is the Lord’s, and he will give all of you into our hands.’

‘ As the Philistine moved closer to attack him, David ran quickly toward the battle line to meet him. Reaching into his bag and taking out a stone, he slung it and struck the Philistine on the forehead.’

‘The stone sank into his forehead, and he fell face down on the ground. So David triumphed over the Philistine with a sling and a stone; without a sword in his hand he struck down the Philistine and killed him.’1 Samuel 45-50.

You Are Where Your Thoughts Take You

Whether true or just a story, the point is the same. David declared victory in the face of his problem. He declared victory prior to the fight. David had faith. David’s faith gave him courage and determination. David asserted how it was going to go down.

David ran toward his problem and conquered it! Keep in mind David was young and slight and Goliath a giant among man whom had killed scores of men and was deeply feared but not by David. David believed. David knew. David came, saw and conquered.

You must develop this kind of faith. You must develop the kind of faith that whatever comes your way you know you can, and you will, handle it. You won’t let anything get the better of you but YOU will get the best of problems.

If You Really Want To Do Something You Will Find Away

You know absolutely you will prevail. You are an emperor and you love a good challenge. You like a tough fight. The true champion doesn’t flee a strong opponent. The champion welcomes the tough opponent. So grow a pair! Develop steel will! Trust yourself!

The true champion fights the fight and continues on. Let nothing bring you down or get in your way. ‘Burn the boats!’ Leave yourself no recourse but to win AND you will be victorious.

You can find positivity in every situation. You can learn from every obstacle. Your worst moments most likely will be your defining moments. Search for the good, trust in yourself, believe you can get through the darkest hour. Create the circumstances you want!

Know inside yourself that you can find the utmost good for all concerned. Raise the bar don’t lower it. Don’t succumb to negativity, or let hatred, anger and fear fume and fester. Tackle your problems with a positive and powerful mindset of resourcefulness.

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You

Become someone who overcomes. Solve you problems cheerfully. Be thankful not fearful. What you think about you bring about. Don’t attract more difficulty by thinking on your troubles instead know a better day will come and focus on that.

Concentrate on the invisible future goodness you want to create. Why do I say invisible? Because you haven’t manifested these results yet, but you will if you stay focused. You will change your circumstances by the sheer power of your will if you stay focused on what you want to create AND not on troubles.

You may have thought, ‘yes, but how?’ I have already told you how so many times within these pages. Within in you YOU already know how. I’ll share more in upcoming posts. When you master faith and this attitude you will master much more of great importance.

Attract positivity. Create goodness. Celebrate everything. Face your fears bravely and with a smile and a laugh. Do not let things bring you down. Let your attitude determine your altitude. Soar high! Fly above the troubles. Set down in the promised land.  Do it!!” Rex Sikes

Make it marvelous!

If you think these posts would help others please share them using your favorite means; Facebook, Twitter, email, reblog, Google etc.

Hit the Like Button. Please Help Spread the word. Then you benefit by giving them a gift too!

Please leave comments too. Thank You!

Horizons photo used with permission of Phil Koch.

LAUNCHING THE NEW BLOG SITE SOON – The site has a new look and feel. Do you get this blog emailed to you? You will have  to again subscribe to this blog, newsletter.

Stick with me. I’d hate for you to miss anything when it switches. Subscribe and Follow Daily Inspiration and Gratitude!

Use The Science Of Your Mind To Get What You Want

horizons the-goodness-of-the-lord-phil-koch

“Do you want your life to be easier and more hassle free?  Would you like to enjoy more of the good things life has to offer? Wouldn’t it be nice to have fewer speed bumps, but if you must have some, to be able to navigate around them smoothly? Do you want to learn how to be able to be, do and have anything you want in life?

Do you want to attract good things to you? Then you must learn how to deliberately create. You must begin to practice Intentional Thinking. It is by your intentions, your design, your deliberate, predominate thoughts that you can make positive things happen.

‘If we can conceive it’, meaning, if we can intentionally create it in our minds; if we can fully visualize and realize it inside our mental movie theater and affirm it to ourself in our self-talk and discussions daily, so that we come to ‘believe it’, and expect it to happen without doubting, ‘we can achieve it’.

In upcoming  posts I’ll share more and we will explore how to do this. Together we will put the science of your mind power to work for you. You will learn more and understand more so you can do more. Keep in mind learning about it by reading and actually doing it are two very different things.

All You Have To Do Is Convince Yourself Of It In Your Mind

IF you want enduring success then you must put into practice what you are learning. You must use it. You can read about building a house without ever having built one. That is what too many people do. We are going to build one, so to speak.

If you will commit to using these principles without fail you will transform your life in miraculous ways!

If you want a body builder’s body you must exercise, eat right and get the proper amount of rest. You wont change anything unless you first change something. Everything will stay the same, as it is, if you don’t implement these practices. You must do the work to get the benefits. Remember that! More next time” Rex Sikes

Enjoy and delight in this day!

If you think these posts would help others please share them using your favorite means; Facebook, Twitter, email, reblog, Google etc.

Hit the Like Button. Please Help Spread the word. Then you benefit by giving them a gift too!

Please leave comments too. Thank You!

Horizons photo used with permission of Phil Koch.

LAUNCHING THE NEW BLOG SITE SOON – The site has a new look and feel. Do you get this blog emailed to you? You will have  to again subscribe to this blog, newsletter.

Stick with me. I’d hate for you to miss anything when it switches. Subscribe and Follow Daily Inspiration and Gratitude!

Stop! Whatever You Are Doing And Learn How Not To Fail!

horizons -like-going-to-heaven-with-your-feet-still-on-the-ground-phil-koch

“Life can be much better. You know that don’t you?  It doesn’t have to be limited in any way. It really doesn’t.  Life can be absolutely incredible! Your life can be marvelous! Have you heard the saying, life is what we make it? You may not believe that is accurate but it is.

You are the one who determines how your life goes whether you believe that to be the case or not. The reasons are clear. They are even backed up by science. Your thoughts determine your reality and here is why. Everything humans create first begins in the mind.

Thought precedes action. Everything begins in thought. Our thoughts make up our reality. Reality is only our own interpretation. What we think and believe is what we find in the world. We think, we look at the world and we draw conclusions.

We Experience The World From First Within

Those conclusions determine the kind of life we will have. We conclude we can or can’t. We conclude the world is friendly or not. We are whomever we think we are. You can think you have nothing, you can ‘know’ you are poor and in debt or you can believe you are rich and destined to be richer.

In order to succeed, and get anywhere in life you must set the course. You must specify or choose your destination. Once you determine where you are headed the way there will become obvious to you. You won’t be able to see the path until you pick your end point.

The GPS in an automobile or your phone doesn’t chose the route until the address is entered. Once entered, the route and alternatives become available. Your internal GPS to happiness and success works similarly. You must make the decision. This is what activates your internal GPS resources to get you there.

Choose Your Destination Set Your Course And Go For It

Our universe works on attraction. Your brain works on attraction. It is a ‘yes’ world, and you have a ‘yes’ brain. Whatever you believe is what comes to you, it is what you attract and create. If you think you are poor, ‘yes’, you will be. If you think yourself rich, ‘yes’, you will be. Our results are due to how we think.

Your limitations are caused by your habitual routine, patterned thinking. You maintain your problems and issues because you think about them again and again. Stop maintaining your difficulties and they will disappear. Focus on what you want NOT what you don’t.

Change your thinking and you change your life. Form new, positive thought habits and everything will change. Thought initiates everything and precedes action. Once your thought habits change you will automatically

It serves you better to imagine, to visualize, to affirm and believe you are rich and worth millions that you haven’t yet put into the bank than to focus on your bills and your debt and worry about how to pay them. What you see is what you get.

Whatever You Imagine Is Possible Is Possible

The only reason you don’t have lots of money yet, is because you don’t yet see yourself with lots of money. You haven’t claimed it in your own mind and made it yours. You live as a pauper instead of an emperor.

By thinking you are wealthy you have chosen an end point. The path to your destination will become clear as you stay focused. When you change yourself everything else changes. Your habits will change. All will become new. You must first, however, decide to make this change.

Becoming successful, happy and accomplishing your goals and desires  is a process. You must become what you want to attract. This requires your full effort and commitment. You must persist and be relentless. You must adopt the right mindset and never quit moving forward.

If You Don’t See It And Don’t Claim It – It Will Never Be Yours

Obstacles cannot prevent you but  will teach you what to do to succeed. Challenges  are great for learning, if you are willing to learn from them. Most people mistake temporary defeat as permanent and give up. The only failure that is permanent is when you quit.

You must not. You must be fully engaged and committed. Most people never actually go after their dreams. They will live a life of excuses and settle for whatever they get. You can achieve great things and greatness when you decide you want to.

‘If you can conceive it, and believe it, you can achieve it’, says Napoleon Hill. Don’t settle for less. Go for gold! Make your dreams come true. Don’t be part of the 90 some percent who do nothing with what they have. Make yourself and your life what you want!” Rex Sikes

Take time and enjoy your day!

If you think these posts would help others please share them using your favorite means; Facebook, Twitter, email, reblog, Google etc.

Hit the Like Button. Please Help Spread the word. Then you benefit by giving them a gift too!

Please leave comments too. Thank You!

Horizons photo used with permission of Phil Koch.

LAUNCHING THE NEW BLOG SITE SOON – The site has a new look and feel. Do you get this blog emailed to you? You will have  to again subscribe to this blog, newsletter.

Stick with me. I’d hate for you to miss anything when it switches. Subscribe and Follow Daily Inspiration and Gratitude!

What The Athlete Knows And Does That You Don’t Is Critical!

horizons floating-along-the-edge-of-dawn-phil-koch

“I consult for movies,TV, online digital content, actors etc. and showbiz. Of course, I act, produce and direct too. I also consult for others from all walks of life as a mentor and coach. Every now and then I get a email or a post from a showbiz website, or from a client that I respond to, and think, I can share this with my blog readers.

Today, I thought I’d share one of my brief responses. It can be applied to anything, any career, and anyone. It is a simple message expressing encouragement. I enjoyed the persons’s response too. It was very cool and great to receive back. I have not included their quest or comments.

‘Thanks and hello. Yes,  I know the feeling. It seems it can be tough. I am going to point you to a brief blog of mine being published on 11/30/15  You Have Been  Conditioned To Fail But You Don’t Have To.

Persistence is the attribute or characteristic that separates the haves from the have nots. Those who win from those who give up along the way. Mindset and attitude we largely inherit and then make it our own as we grow up. It is a blend of influences from others and our experiences.

We get, from others, the initial input, then we make that our own. Experience then either confirms or it doesn’t what we hold in our mind. Typically, because how the brain works, we find what we already believe. The Reticular Activating System (RAS) functions to find what we expect to find. Our brains support what we believe BY DEFAULT!

So in order to stop losing and start winning one has to condition oneself to win the same way an athlete conditions oneself to compete and win. They have to get up each day whether or not they feel like it and train. Whether OR NOT they feel like it!

Nothing can stand in the way if they want a shot at olympic gold. That is just the way it is. Sweat, hard work, diet, sleep and exercise. A regime they do for years to be ready. They have to overcome OLD habits and create news ones they adhere to regardless of what comes up.

Most of us try and give up shortly there after. We find excuses rather than reasons to continue. If we want to win at whatever we do we must condition our mind and prepare ourselves. We need to develop new, positive,supportive habits to keep us going. We create new neural pathways.

Nothing happens over night especially in show business. It can be brutal and is fraught with rejection.

Those who get to the top, when you listen to them, most almost always say, they knew they would succeed they just had to get through all the dark times first. They knew it first and expected to succeed! That kept them going and their brain (RAS) found reasons to continue during their darkest times. One needs to develop the habit of self confidence!

Success is built on failure. In failure we learn what not to do, as well as, what we could otherwise do. There are always lessons and if we are wise we learn from them and continue the pursuit. There is opportunity and advantage in every setback if we look for it.

If you are meant to do it you will do it if you keep the passion flamed and your belief in yourself strong. Never quit.

IF on the other hand this is really not your calling then perhaps look into something that makes you feel fully alive.

No one has to be in show business except those who HAVE to be. If you have to be then nothing will stop you; Not economics, politics, the weather, others, circumstances or events. It can be daunting at times but there are ways through that.

If you are meant to succeed, inside your own heart, then you will find the way, the reasons, the fire and fuel to keep going no matter how difficult. You will dictate the circumstances rather than letting them dictate you. You will exercise your personal power to positively push through.

Attitude, positive thinking and optimism don’t guarantee success but negativity certainly doesn’t. Positive thinking and optimism make it easier and more likely though. Learn how to take control of your thoughts and feelings and live as the emperor you were born to be.

Read my blog.  Get other inspirational material and fill your mind daily with I CAN DO IT thinking. Then do it step by step and you will eventually get there. Meanwhile, all the best wishes. This is my 2 cents.’

And there you have it. My response to someone who reached out. Whenever we face opposition and setbacks, disappointment and difficulty it becomes easy to throw in the towel unless we find the reasons within for continuing to move forward. The person, who reached out, found it within.

This is another reason why optimism and positivity work. Our mindset is critical! Gratitude and celebration of all things will keep us going too. Remember always to be thankful and celebrate!” Rex Sikes

Make your day magical!

If you think these posts would help others please share them using your favorite means; Facebook, Twitter, email, reblog, Google etc. Hit the Like Button. Please Help Spread the word. Then you benefit by giving them a gift too!

Please leave comments too. Thank You!

Horizons photo used with permission of Phil Koch.

SOON SOON SOON –  LAUNCHING THE NEW BLOG SITE  – The site has a new look and feel. Do you get this blog emailed to you? You will have  to again subscribe to this blog, newsletter.

Stick with me. I’d hate for you to miss anything when it switches. Subscribe and Follow Daily Inspiration and Gratitude!

Did You Know You Could Do This And Everything Would Change?

horizons-country-living-phil-koch

“Why do you have difficulty manifesting what you want? If you read how to do it, it should be easy, right? For some, it seems utterly, ridiculously simple. They get what they want and when. Plus, why is it so much easier to bring about what you do not want? Producing drama and crap is not a problem at all. Why is this the case?

People are powerful. YOU are incredibly powerful. You and I have more energy in us than we can ever know. We can think nearly anything we can imagine into existence. We can, except we are dissipated, diluted and doubtful. We are unfocused. We are wishy washy and at times downright negative.

If your thoughts were aimed like a laser beam you might more instantly, easily manifest. As it is, you and I think a couple thoughts about what we want, a dozen or so thoughts about how the coffee is bad, another few hundred on drivers being stupid, and we fret and worry and doubt about everything else. We criticize and complain.

Affirm Assert And Declare! See And Say What You Want

We gossip and criticize. We fear the worst and we think negatively more than we think positively. Think of it this way, if you aren’t thinking positive what exactly are you thinking? Science says we think upwards of 60,000 thoughts per day and most of them are the same ones we thought previous days. We are patterned, habitual thinkers.

If we want our life to change than we must change most of our thoughts that are the same ones we have been habitually thinking. These are destructive thoughts, useless thoughts, petty thoughts along with our belief clusters or paradigms. We can’t expect things to be different and still keep doing things the same old way. That IS the definition of insanity, you may recall.

We give away all our energy constantly through out the day instead of it being concentrated. We have so much power but experience so little of it. Water run through a small opening at high speed can cut diamond but water poured from a glass merely gets things wet. Our thoughts aren’t governed. Our scales aren’t tipped in favor of the positive. I’ll come back to how we determine this in a bit.

Visualize The Good You Want In Your Life As Happening Now

How we use our energy, how concentrated and focused we are determines what we get in return. Napoleon Hill stated our Definite Chief Aim must become like white hot steel desire. It should become so hot it is white hot. That is way more than normal hot. We need concentrated desire and powerful dedicated faith.

Imagine bouncing a ball off the wall. It will come back to you with the same force you threw it at the wall. This is the Law of Cause and Effect which states ‘for every action (cause) there is an equal and opposite reaction (effect)’. If you hurl it at the wall it will hurl back at you. If you lob it there it may hardly make it back to you.

Your intention determines what you get back. Your results reflect back what is mostly on your mind. They actually show what you think about most and how you think about it. You become what you think about. You bring about what you think about. What you focus on expands. From within so without.

The Equal And Opposite Effect Is What Returns To You

KEEP THIS IN MIND! What you focus on expands. What you believe IS precisely what you see. What you believe, see, say and feel IS what you get. The rest is filtered out or ignored. You manifest what you predominantly hold in your mind. So your outer circumstances reflect what you think about on the inside. From within so without.

This is part of how we determine whether we are mostly positive or mostly negative. Your results show what you have been thinking about up until now. Your results or circumstances are the result of your previous habitual thinking. Your previous thoughts have brought you to where you are today.

Your thoughts today will determine where you will be and what you will have tomorrow. Your present thoughts dictate your future circumstances. Change your thinking and ultimately you will change your results. IT may not happen over night, which is what everyone hopes for, but it will happen. Gradually, it will happen.

Live With Passion Live With Joy Live With Bliss

Because most of your thoughts are haphazard or leaning to the negative YOU determine the life you lead. YOUR thinking determines the life you life. What you fear and anticipate most you bring about. What you worry about and dread about you attract. Combine that with sometimes thinking some positive thoughts and you have a mix. A wishy washy mix of okay, not great.

So which is larger and has more mass? Is it  your positive ball of energy or your negative ball of energy? REMEMBER and realize that whatever IS NOT positive IS NOT POSITIVE. BUT you can change it by taking hold of your thinking, getting it under your own control and thinking more positive more of the time. This you can do! All humans are capable of this barring neurological damage.

THIS is why it takes time. How you can make it easier and accelerate it?  Pay attention to your feelings. Whenever you are not feeling wonderful, your best, or positive then you are thinking and feeling negative or less than glorious. DO whatever positive action, mental or physical for yourself, within reason and for the good of all, that helps you feel better. Feeling good results in more feeling good!

You Bring About What You Think And Feel About – Feel Great

Walk, exercise, sing, enjoy a good meal or fun movie. Take a bath, get a massage, read inspirational material. Do whatever you can to feel, in the least, a bit better. Use feelings as your indicator. Feeling great you are thinking great. Feeling blah your thoughts are blah. Feeling down, mad or negative your thoughts are negative. You want your thoughts and feelings positive most of the time.

The better you feel the faster and easier you change. The quicker you transform your circumstances. Remember, if you don’t like what you have and where you are at you must change something. If you want your life to change you must change things in your life. You cannot keep doing the same things routinely and expect anything to be different. You must make it different to have it different!

That is the Law Of Cause and Effect. The same amount of energy you put into it is what you will get back. If you lob the ball it will return in kind. Have fun, get excited, be thrilled, stop worrying and fretting about circumstances, trust it will all work out. Be focused on what you want. Be passionate, white hot, and your life will transform. You will be delighted and surprised. SO celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make this day extra special!

If you think these posts would help others please share them using your favorite means; Facebook, Twitter, email, reblog, Google etc. Hit the Like Button. Please Help Spread the word. Then you benefit by giving them a gift too!

Please leave comments too. Thank You!

Horizons photo used with permission of Phil Koch.

SOON SOON SOON –  LAUNCHING THE NEW BLOG SITE  – The site has a new look and feel. Do you get this blog emailed to you? You will have  to again subscribe to this blog, newsletter.

Stick with me. I’d hate for you to miss anything when it switches. Subscribe and Follow Daily Inspiration and Gratitude!

What To Do After You Give Thanks!

horizons we-sleep-in-our-dreams-phil-koch

“Did you enjoy giving thanksgiving?  Were you able to get together with family and friends. That is a reason to celebrate and be glad.

If you took time to feel grateful for all the good things in your life, do it again. Do it today. Then do it again and again. Count your blessings. What do you do after you give thanks? Give thanks again!

Feel the gratitude. Celebrate those feelings. When you do you make room for there to be more in your life. Like attracts like. When you look for and find people, events and circumstances to appreciate you get back more.

Keep giving thanks! Keep feeling the thankfulness. Wonderful things will happen as you do. Appreciate the tough times for what you can learn by going through them. Every moment is a moment to be thankful for and an opportunity to feel grateful. Keep it up!

If it helps to make a list make one. List big and small things to feel thankful for. First thing in the morning and right before you go to bed are great times to put your thoughts on gratefulness. Never let the sun go down feeling bad, irritated or angry with yourself, another or circumstances. Feel good, feel great when going to sleep.

That is time when your subconscious mind processes, clears, renews for the next day. If you are filled with joy, love, peace and happiness; if you energy is on all good and wonderful moments you had during your day, you set yourself up for more in the next day. If angry or sad, you set yourself up for more of that same the following day too.

You get what you focus on. It does actually expand. Your subconscious mind gets the messages you give it by your images and what you say to yourself and others. The most powerful delivery vehicle for those messages are your feelings. SO when you are upset with people and circumstances your subconscious goes, ‘okay I get it. This is what you want more of.’ It then works to deliver more of the same.

If you want more good things you have to feel more good things more of the time so your unconscious delivers that instead of the crappy things. Do you get this? There is a reason to think positive and feel good most of the time. YOU actually do get back what you put out there. You become what you think about. That is why! Beyond this fact, it feels good to mostly feel good. Make your moments count. They either work for you or against you. Celebrate!

Enjoy all life offers. It is what is is. The serenity prayer includes, ‘…change the things I can, accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to know the difference’. What is IS! Celebrate and enjoy. If you can’t change it don’t fight it. What you resist persists. Know when to stop and appreciate. Perhaps, in doing that, it will change. I would bet it does. Trying to change things all the time can be the problem too. Accept, enjoy, celebrate and discover. Then celebrate some more!” Rex Sikes

What can you make more special this day!

If you think these posts would help others please share them using your favorite means; Facebook, Twitter, email, reblog, Google etc. Hit the Like Button.  Please Help Spread the word. Then you benefit by giving them a gift too!

Please leave comments too. Thank You!

Horizons photo used with permission of Phil Koch.

SOON SOON SOON –  LAUNCHING THE NEW BLOG SITE  – The site has a new look and feel. Do you get this blog emailed to you? You will have  to again subscribe to this blog, newsletter.

Stick with me. I’d hate for you to miss anything when it switches. Subscribe and Follow Daily Inspiration and Gratitude!

 

How To Live Up To Your Full Potential! Accept Nothing Less!!

horizons what-about-now-phil-koch

“Imagine you were born prince or princess in line to be king or queen. What messages do you suppose you would get from birth on? Perhaps, you’d hear, ‘You descended from a royal, entitled bloodline’. ‘You are different and better than everyone else’. ‘You are destined to greatness’.  All because you were born to the right parents.

‘You can be, do and have everything you want’. ‘You are wealthy and powerful’. ‘Your world is your oyster’. Imagine hearing messages like this again and again. Imagine begin told ‘price is no objec’; that ‘you have everything within you’; that ‘you are special just because you are special’. ‘You are a have and not a have not’.

Imagine you received these as healthy messages and did not become an incredible snob.  Imagine the messages royalty and the privileged and the wealthy have received from birth on. What must it be like to grow up like that? I explore this concept with no first hand experience. It is all conjecture.

You Are Where Your Thought Have Brought You

Whether you grew up in royal families in European. Middle Eastern or Asian countries or as one of the privileged, American blue blood, silver spooners you’d have access to the best of everything. You’d enjoy the best food, clothes, homes, cars, schools, medicine, vacations, career paths, elite and powerful friends and connections.

You’d be exposed to the best and cost would never be a consideration. You’d grow up much differently than most of the world’s children. Stay on the healthy side of this, if all the messages and experiences were healthy and one grew up well adjusted what an incredible experience this would be.

While it is no guarantee the child will grow up healthy, of sound mind and body, and not wholly screwed up by that burden, keep considering the positive side to this upbringing. Those who have never been there can criticize and it may be apt to do so. Still, imagine, if you will, the powerful, positive messages one gets.

The powerful and the rich; the blue bloods wherever they are from, set themselves apart. They live and think and and behave differently. They feel different. Perhaps, they are, they have intermarried for centuries.

You Will Go Where Your Thoughts Take You

It is how they think about themselves, the world and opportunity that is critical to our understanding. They believe they are entitled to the best of everything and that they can and will have it. Most likely they don’t wonder if they can do or have something.

They don’t question if can afford it, or if it is possible or even likely. If they want it they get it. Why? Because that is who they are and what they are capable of. This is WHY the rich and the poor ARE different.  They think differently. They have different sets of assumptions, beliefs, concerns.

This is why the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. They think and feel and behave differently. They expect things to take place. They don’t question these will  happen. They believe without doubt or hesitation because, maybe, they never ever had to. They are used to getting what they want.

These are grossly oversimplified generalizations, you understand, There are always exceptions to every generalization BUT do you get it? How we were raised determines part of our future course. How we view the world and ourselves is important! We either highly value and believe in ourselves or we don’t.

We think of the world as either a rich, wonderful, abundant place or we don’t. It is either a place of plenty or one of lack. There is more to go around or there isn’t. People can have anything they want or they can’t. You can make anything happen or you aren’t able to. Whatever you believe determines how you live and move in the world.

Before you go and blame the universe for not birthing you  into a royal blood line realize, in fact, that you were. You are a one of the royals. The royals are only so called royal because they declared it when they gained power. Those who became leaders from different tribes set themselves apart from others and then only married other leaders offspring from other tribes. It was economics. It was power.

You Cannot Escape The Power Of Your Thoughts

They believed it was necessary to preserve their kind. BUT we are all star children. We all come from the same big bang. Truly, we are all made of the same stuff! Everything is made from the same stuff! We live inside a close but every expanding universe. Nothing is added or taken away.

Race, religion, nationality, politics, economy, blood lines are all human made. They do not exist apart from human beings. Classification is a human activity. So is inclusion and exclusion. There is really no such thing except we have made them real because we think they are real. These aren’t. These are fiction.

So stop blaming your parents, teachers, friends, peers, circumstances, events, strangers and life in general for not dealing you a better hand realize it doesn’t matter. Whatever your lot; whatever you starting point; we are all made of the same stuff and the same universal laws govern us equally. No one is better than another for any reason. All reasons are simply human justifications.

The rich and poor are both subject to gravity. Electricity works the same way for both of them. It rains and shines on rich and poor. The universe doesn’t make the distinctions humans make. Neither does your brain. Your brain and the universe simply say ‘yes’. They don’t judge, discriminate or evaluate.

You Become What You Think About All Day Long

If you think you are stupid and can’t do anything your brain and the universe will agree. Actually, so will I and probably many others. If you think you are smart and capable to learn anything and can do anything you put your mind to the universe and your brain will go yes. EVEN if I, and others, were to disagree.

So you got some less than glorious messages. Big deal! SO did the young kings and queens. They may have gotten more positive messages, in some regards, but I am sure it is not all a cake walk. It probably is pretty tough growing up in some of those shadows. So it doesn’t matter.

What does matter is that you stop believing less than glorious messages you may have received. Start believing, and living from, positive powerful messages you could have received. Live from power and glory not weakness and ineptitude. Imagine living as a kind or queen, become an emperor in your own mind. Live it! Do it!

Become a benevolent, humble ruler of your own life and adopt the best of all possible worlds. Live large and remain kind. Let no thought prevent you from positive action that benefits and is good for all. Be the person you want to be. Live as you want to live.

What You Think About You Bring About

You don’t have to take anything from anyone else, there is more than enough. The universe IS abundant.  So dream big and live large. Make room in your mind to be, do and have anything you want and then make it happen. Create it. It may take a while to get it but so what. If you really wanted it you would already be doing it.

Stop living from less than productive messages. Stop creating problems for yourself. Realize you are worthy, you are royal, you are in charge, you are deserving, you are exceptional. You are magnificent!  Why think anything less of yourself? You can be positive, powerful, humble and kind.

The incredible you I am describing already embodies that kind of understanding. The incredible you is more loving, peaceful, accepting, kind, and generous. You are rich but not a snob. You are powerful but not corrupted. You embody positive traits and values.

Imagine being the kind of wonderful person YOU WERE BORN TO BE. Imagine that your true nature has been obscured from you and it is your quest to discover the real you, the true you. You can and will and do find it within. Open your mind and your heart to who you already are and affirm it. Assert it and declare it.

What You Say Is What You Get

“I AM.” “I Have”. Two of the most powerful statements in language. Whatever follows each is what your reality will be. YOU determine this no matter where you come from. No matter what you past or you upbringing are. You decide who you are and what you have and what you will do. IT is all your responsibility and it has always been that way.

So who are you? Who do you claim to be? Victim or victor? Loser or Winner? Beggar or Emperor? Sick or Healthy? Lonely or Loving? Hateful or Peaceful? You determine it by your thoughts. What kind of thoughts are you thinking?

If they aren’t moving you forward, if they aren’t positive and productive, then they probably are not serving you very well. If you aren’t getting what you want, if your circumstances are messy then check your thinking and fix it.

From within so without. From above so below. Thinking precedes action.  Your thinking makes it so. Who are you? What are you capable of? What will you accomplish? What do you want? How can you benefit yourself and others? What good can you bring to the world?

Speak Only To Bless Heal And Prosper

When will you start? You decide. Because the decision is yours and yours alone. Will it be easy or hard because it will be whatever you decide it will be. If you think you can or you think you can’t you are right.  Your brain and the universe will agree with whatever decision you make. You will attract whatever you want or don’t want.

That IS how it works. So get with it. Understand how it works and then determine to use it wisely to make it work for you. You can’t violate or change the laws of gravity but you can learn how to use it to your benefit. Do the same with the law of attraction. Put it to good use and it will always do good by you.” Rex Sikes

It is another incredible day!

NOTE *** Do you like my blog posts? Do you find benefit reading them?

If yes, please share using your favorite means; Facebook, Twitter, email, reblog, Google etc. Hit the Like Button.  

Please Help Spread the word so others can benefit to.

 It means a lot to me too when you share. Please leave comments too. Thank You!

Horizons photo used with permission of Phil Koch.

GETTING CLOSER TO LAUNCHING THE NEW BLOG SITE  – The site has a new look and feel. Do you get this blog emailed to you? You will have  to again subscribe to the blog, newsletter.

Stick with me. I’d hate for you to miss anything when it switches. Subscribe and Follow Daily Inspiration and Gratitude!