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The Difference Between Success And Failure Is You!

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“I’m just saying…

that some people claim…

we have beliefs that keep us stuck and these are hard to change.

You do know this

do you not?

People claim that our paradigms and our beliefs

conscious or unconscious beliefs

limit us and keep us stuck

or prevent us from being who we truly are.

Do you believe this?

Because

That…

is another belief.

Do you realize this?

Keep in mind

WHATEVER you think

you make it so!

If you can or can’t

If it is easy or not

If there is abundance or lack

is all up to what you think.

You

ONLY you

create your reality.

The world is cruel or friendly

that is up to you.

Whatever excuse you have

whomever or whatever you blame

whether you find pleasure of pain

ease or difficulty

think it is possible or impossible

limited by your paradigms or free

all are just more thoughts or beliefs.

Your beliefs

either allow or prevent you.

Bad habits are difficult to break

it is too tough to change

it takes lots of work to transform

others can succeed but I can’t

are all just beliefs.

You do realize this, don’t you?

Do they have power?

Perhaps.

Perhaps the only power they have

is the power you give them.

If they remain in the dark

from there yes perhaps they control you.

But can you change them?

Is it difficult to change them or easy?

Will it take a long time or a short time?

The answers to these questions are found

in your beliefs.

Do you realize this?

Whatever your answer

you answer

from your belief set.

It will be as easy and quick and pleasant

as you decide it will be.

Whatever it will be – you create it.

So create it to be how you want it

and allow yourself to be pleasantly surprised.

Become the master of your beliefs

do not let them be your master.

You decide how you will be

decide what you will do

you decide what you will have.

Determine what your life will be

and live it!

Make

believe

it is simple

easy fun delightful enjoyable.

Believe what you want

and what serves you to

live how you want.

Is it easy to do?

You decide that.

You do realize this – do you not?

You might be surprised at how

simple and quick transformation can be.

Celebrate and delight!” Rex Sikes

Make this day incredible!

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The Secret Is To Make The World Conform To Your Ideal

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“How do we make things happen? How do we create? How do we manifest? How do we attract good things to us? Let’s explore what Neville Goddard had to say about this today. It is quite profound.

He said:  ‘Master it and make your world conform to the ideal you want to experience.’

I love this! Make the world conform to your experience. Our upbringing is just the opposite. We are taught how to experience the world and that outer factors determine what happens to us.

You Determine What Is And What Will Be

Whether it is a good or bad day depends on the weather, the stock market, the parents or children, the boss, spouse, the clerk at the store.

Make the world conform to your experience. The outer conform to the inner. Yes, it is time we begin to think this way much more! Oh wait, I love the next part. Especially, cool!

‘Stop thinking of, and start thinking from.’

WOW consider that. Stop thinking of and start thinking from. Stop thinking of your dream as off in the future but think of it as right now. It is in your present. Already fulfilled.  Some day never arrives but now is right here.

Napoleon Hill said, ‘If you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it’. Imagine that for a second. Whatever you can conceive and believe you can achieve. You wouldn’t be able to imagine it if it were not possible. Make the impossible, possible now.

Stop Thinking Some Day And Start Thinking Already Done

The Wright Brothers wanted to fly and so they did. As far as we know it had never been done before. They imagined doing it and they did it. We made it to the moon because someone thought it possible.

‘All things are possible to him who believes, therefore learn the art of believing and persuade yourself it is true.’ Neville says. The Bible says, ‘all things are possible’ to the person who believes.

We have been brought up believing the outside dictates the inner when in fact, the truth is the exact opposite. The inner determines the outside results.

What you have going on right now, your circumstances, are merely the result of your previous thinking. If you don’t like your circumstances it is time to change you thinking. Wouldn’t you agree?

Believe It Is Possible And Open The Door To What Can Be

Neville continues: ‘One day a friend told me that when she was a child, her father would say: “If you have but a dollar and it was necessary for you to spend it, do so as if it were a dry leaf, and you the owner of a boundless forest.”

If one really knows how to pray, he could spend his dollar and then reproduce it again. You see, this world is brought into being by man’s imagination, so it is very important to learn the secret of prayer. ‘

How cool is that. The world is brought into being by man’s imagination. We know this is accurate. Thought precedes action. All human invention was first an idea.

We have created the world we live in from our thoughts. Tomorrow will be based on the ideas we have today. Where else do inventions come from? Everything that is from humans originates in the mind.

You Are Where Your Thoughts Have Brought You

‘If you are still desiring, stop it right now! Ask yourself what it would be like, were your desire a reality. How would you feel if you were already the one you would like to be?

The moment you catch that mood, you are thinking from it. And the great secret of prayer is thinking from, rather than thinking of.’

Neville is awesome!

Imagine the end result. Imagine the good we desire as already ours, already manifested. See, hear and feel it as having already happened and FEEL how marvelous it feels as a result. Live the end result in your minds and feel the incredible feelings.

You Will Be Where Your Thoughts Take You

‘Anchored here, you know where you live, your bank balance, job, creditors, friends, and loved ones – as you are thinking from this state. But you can move to another state and give it the same sense of reality, when you find and practice the great secret of prayer. ‘

When you move to that other reality you find that other reality is how things work. It may be difficult to believe because we have believed the other way for so long. Our beliefs determine whether we can or can’t whether we will or won’t.

So said, Henry Ford. ‘If you think you can or you think you can’t you are right’. Remember, the RAS proves it to be.

We think the outside controls us. The one thing humans can absolutely control is their thoughts and the mind. We can control what we focus on. We can control our decisions.

We are, we can be, and we definitely should be. Become the master your fate and the captain of your soul. It is within us and within our control. It is within you. Start living it.

Act As If Everything Already Is Completed

Imagine ‘from’ not ‘of’. Imagine and live ‘from’!  Consider this: If everything were perfect how would you feel? Imagine that. If you had the perfect life, the perfect you, what would it, what would you, look like, sound like and feel like? Most importantly, what would you be feeling?

Live most of your day with those wonderful feelings and you can make your dreams reality. Live feeling the end result and you will bring it about.

I’ll leave you today with some more from Neville and Napoleon.

‘Persistent imagination, centered in the feeling of the wish fulfilled, is the secret of all successful operations. This alone is the means of fulfilling the intention.

Every stage of man’s progress is made by the conscious, voluntary exercise of the imagination. Then you will understand why all poets have stressed the importance of controlled, vivid imagination.’

‘Whatever you can conceive and believe you can achieve.’ “Rex Sikes

Neville quoted from “The Secret Of Prayer’ & ‘How To Use The Imagination’

Celebrate and enjoy this day!

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Without This Ingredient Your Struggle Will Continue

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“I’d like to discuss that which makes your dreams come true. It is the special ingredient, when added to desire, makes you unstoppable. It makes you absolutely capable of creating what you want. To discuss this I will use some verses most people are familiar with. I hope you won’t mind. I think the verse speaks volumes to this point.

‘Faith without works is dead’,  is usually understood to mean good works. If you believe in love, for example, then you should behave in loving ways. You should do things for others that exemplify love. Others should be able to tell what you believe in by your actions. If you speak about love but are not loving your faith is dead.

By Their Fruits You Shall Know Them

You know the tree is an apple or orange tree by the fruit it bears. So if you love others, you may be known as a loving person. I want to add to these definitions when it comes to living the kind of life we want. I want to add to it because there is hope and there is faith and there is a difference between the two.

I may hope to get a bicycle for a holiday gift. I am not sure I will get one but I have a great wish. This is different from I expect to get a bicycle. With hope I may or may not get it and I sure want it. With the expectation of getting the bicycle, I sure want it and I have every confidence that I will receive it. I believe it. I have faith. I know.

With hope I am not certain but with faith I am certain. With faith their is no question. It has been said that ‘faith is seeing the invisible’. With faith we see what is not yet apparent. One might look at the chaotic world around them, but see a brighter day. One may look into the heart of a troubled child but see a great leader.

When A Fearless Heart Believes Miracles Happen

With faith one looks forward, anticipating what is to come, or what is already there, to be revealed. In faith one sees the circumstances that one intends to bring about rather than what is presently there. It is not a wish it is a knowing. It is confidence. When you know something is going to happen there is no dispute, there is no doubt.

I believe that if you have faith in yourself, if you believe you will make you dreams come true, if you have faith that it will happen no matter what then you look and behave a certain way. You believe in the invisible, and do not let circumstances dissuade or prevent you. You are known by your works, by your fruit.

Many people think a person of faith believes in an unseen power, meaning God, or powers of the universe, and that is fine. I let people place their faith where they wish. For purposes of this discussion I am placing the locus of faith on, or in, the human, you and me. I am suggesting that when your faith in yourself is unwavering you can accomplish incredible things.

With Faith All Things Are Possible

We will continue to discuss this in upcoming posts because it is an important point in manifesting the future you want. You must be able to see it, believe it is yours to have, and that you will have it. Faith is about what IS and works in the present. Faith is not about the future as I’ll share soon.

‘Faith without works is dead’ means faith is active. It is action. ‘By their fruits you will know them’ means you can recognize a person with faith by actions and behaviors. If you have faith you think, speak and act in specific ways others without faith, don’t. People will see in you that difference.

Faith is immediate. For example, If you are confident you act confident right now. You will also be confident in the future. It is who you are. Faith is freedom from fear, worry, and doubt. We need to cultivate faith to live the life we want. From that faith the life we want will come to be. Faith is the seed. Plant it! ” Rex Sikes

Delight in this day!

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The Easiest And Quickest Way To Make Your Life Wonderful!

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“If you could find a way to easily make all of your life wonderful you would do it, wouldn’t you? If there was one simple thing to remember to do each day you’d do it, right?

If it meant making a huge difference for how much you enjoyed your experience would you put it into practice and apply it? You may have heard it before but unless you are actively applying it, you are missing out.

What is it you can do that will have such a great effect? It is the practice of gratitude for every thing. It is actively appreciating all aspects of your life and continuing to do it. Here is what to do:

You Got To Accentuate The Positive

Find, validate and repeat the validation for things, people, circumstances, events, and belongings, you are grateful for because this practice reinforces it. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

Celebrate everything you can find to be grateful about over and over again. It builds the habit of finding good things, and feeling good about them. You get back more of what you put out!

As you do this you spend more time feeling good and grateful. What you focus on expands so your own brain will help you find and make connections to other things you can appreciate too.

Remember, the Reticular Activating System (RAS), looks to match the outer with what you have going on inside. It’s job is to provide you evidence for what you already believe on the inside.

Good taste dictates that you believe and think wonderful thoughts on the inside. You find more and more. Like attracts like. Birds of a feather flock together. In finding more your feel better and better.

The More We Do The Easier It Becomes And The More We Can Do

Pretty good deal, if you ask me. You begin to find areas to be grateful about things you perviously might never have considered. Your ability to look, find, consider, validate and celebrate expands even more. You get better at it and build a reliable skill.

The more you find to appreciate the more you transform every aspect of your life, past and present. By living in gratitude and celebration you open the doorway and floodgates of the future.

Life, for you, becomes a celebration. When you live thinking and feeling this way you get back more of what you have. Remember, like attracts like and birds of a feather… You live in increase!

You create and attract a most marvelous life. When outer events throw you curve balls, at any time, you are more prepared and resourceful to respond in positive and powerful ways.

Perfect Practice Repeated Again And Again Makes Perfect

Because you have emphasized and practiced feeling grateful, because you have made it a habit, it automatically works for you. You really do become what you think about.

Remember, what they recommend on shampoo bottles. ‘Wash, rinse and repeat’. The practice for your good mental health and well being is the same in essence. Cleanse your mind with appreciation and repeat then do it again.

Then repeat and repeat and repeat. Rehearse the skill you want to develop as an actor does. Practice the skill again and again, drill it, as an athlete does.

Act as if you are already living the life you want, in your mind, and that life can become yours. What you think about you bring about. Fill your mind with all the positive good you can find and focus on it.

If most of your thoughts, most of your time are celebrations if most of your time is spent thinking and feeling grateful you transform your life into a life most grand. Use the 80/20 rule. Think 80% positive!

Luck Is The Crossroad Where Preparation And Opportunity Meet

You continue to find blessings because that is how your mind and being now operates. When you are optimistic and happy your mind works clearer and better. You’ll only discover this through application.

You will find more opportunity and advantages than you can ever imagine. Your brain will look to match the good things on the outside with those you imagine on the inside. That is its job!

What have you done and learned in doing this? That you can and that you did take charge of your mind and control of your thoughts. Your entire life improves because you made and effort and followed through.

What was your effort? Count your blessings and repeat. Celebrate and delight in things that bring you joy. Keep looking and finding things to appreciate. A pretty good trade off, don’t you think?” Rex Sikes

Make your day a celebration!

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It Is Easier To Change Things Than You Think

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“We have been discussing beliefs. In my last post I mentioned that we would discuss changing beliefs. We can actually trade in our old limited ones for updates. It is easier than you may think. Instead of living from and getting poor results, we live from positive, powerful, tailor made beliefs and begin getting good results.

How do you change it? You tell yourself what you want to believe over and over and over again until you believe it! Repetition will make a habit. Our beliefs are only beliefs we have told ourselves again and again. Fortunately, though it seems difficult, beliefs can be easily changed.

Use the same method you did in the first place. Only this time chose a new, useful, positive belief that serves to get you what you want. Then repeat it again and again enthusiastically over time and you will come to believe it. THIS is how the military conditions minds.

Ask yourself, Directed Questions™ (see other posts on their use) and direct your mind to what you want. Ask again and again over time. Visualize yourself repeatedly already being, doing and having whatever it is you want. It is already yours. Act as if!

What you see you get! What you say you get! What you feel you get! Manage your imagination and see it fully! Manage your self talk and keep it nice. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper. Speak only to affirm what you want. Repeat your positive mantras over and over.

Feel it. Feel what it would feel like to have the perfect life. To already have the change you desire. Enjoy these feelings. Feel these feelings through out your day. Feel the best you can as much as you can. Think 80/20.

If you are feeling good and thinking good and speaking good 80% of your time I’d bet you are kicking serious butt. You are making your dreams come true. You are living an incredible life. AIM for it. You can make it happen. It is easy. DO IT. It is easier than you think.” Rex Sikes

Have a delightful day!

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You Always Determine The Outcome!

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“We have been discussing beliefs. In my last post I mentioned that you are only one thought away from having what you want. I quoted Henry Ford.

‘Whether you think you can or you think you can’t; you are right.’

I mentioned the role of our Reticular Activating System. It finds proof for our beliefs.

I said, you are only a thought away!

Some readers, likely, thought, that is not true.

Others thought, yes, it is.

Some think, it is difficult to get what you want and unlikely.

Others think, it is easy and eminently possible.

And so it is!

Whichever you think you are right!

That IS Ford’s point!

What was your first thought? How did you react?

We’ll discuss how you change it the next time.” Rex SIkes

Have a beautiful day!

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You Are Only One Thought Away From Making All Your Dreams Come True!

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“Henry Ford said, ‘whether you think you can or you think you can’t; you are right!’ We have been discussing beliefs and the role of the Reticular Activating System (RAS), that part of your brain that looks for outer world matches to your inner world beliefs.

In other words, what you hold in your mind your brain actually finds evidence for. Driving home the point that Believing IS Seeing and not the other way around. We find evidence for what we already believe. We prove ourselves right. That is the job of the RAS.

Ford was correct. Whether you think you can or you think you can’t; you are right. You will find the evidence and prove yourself right either way. That should stop each of us and give us a great pause.

If I prove myself sad, poor, stuck, out of work, lackluster, disabled, morose IS that how I want to live? If my thoughts determine my results, perhaps, I should learn to manage my mind and change my thoughts? Don’t you think?

Either you live a life of can’t or a life of can. If you could have happiness, love, peace, fun, adventure, money wouldn’t you prefer that? My guess is most of us do even thought our lives run counter to what we wish for. The reason for that has been made clear.

We get the results in the outer world that we first create in our inner world. If we think we can’t we won’t. If we think we are undeserving, worthless and not entitled to wealth or happiness we will never get it, because we will instead, prove ourselves right.

Hmmm. I think I’d rather be wrong and rich! Wrong and happy! Wrong and in love with a partner, family and friends. I’d rather take control and make the positive, wonderful life happen. Because, if I think I can I am right! Wouldn’t you?

Do you realize you are only a thought away from having everything you wish and dream for? A thought away. Don’t you think it is time to take control and get and live the life you want? However you answer these questions YOU ARE RIGHT! The proof is forthcoming.

As for me, I prefer to live abundantly in all things. I believe I deserve it, as does everyone else. I believe it is all mine for the enjoying, as it is for you too. I prefer to make good things happen and live powerfully and positively. BECAUSE I CAN! SO CAN YOU! You are only one thought away!” Rex Sikes

Make your day count!

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Can You Do This???? — Extra Blog Post 10/19

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Hey there. I trust you are well. Hope you have had a marvelous day. If times are tough I hope they resolve themselves soon. They can you know. Keep the faith and maintain your forward momentum in gratitude and celebration and you may be quite surprise.

Today, tonight, I am adding a brief extra blog to all subscribers, followers and readers. I want to say thanks. I hope you like the blog. If you have questions or there is anything I can do to assist you finding information please ask. Anything I can do I will do.

Tell me what topics you are interested in. If I am able and have some experience or knowledge in the area I will attempt to discuss or point you in a useful direction. Please, tell me how I can improve this blog for you. Your feedback is welcome. Let me hear it.

Thanks for sharing the blog with others too. That helps more than you can ever imagine!  When you share it gives others a chance to read it too. I appreciate that and your efforts. It has been my goal to provide a daily inspirational piece and for nearly 500 consecutive days that is the case. I will continue.

Can I ask you something?

I need your help too. It is getting very busy for me in the next few weeks and I could really use a hand, each day, getting my blog out. If you would share the daily blog posts with your friends and on Facebook, Twitter, and elsewhere that would help. It would mean so much! SO MUCH!!!

Whether in person or by email, re-blogging or however you are able to get the posts out to others IT would be wonderful. I won’t have the time to promote the blog for a while (few weeks) so I ask your help in doing this. Is this possible for you to do?

If you can and if you will that would mean a lot. I’ll still write it in the middle of the early am hours and get it to you.

Thank you! I look forward to your feedback on improvements and topic ideas. Have a wonderful rest of the day! Meanwhile, all the best. Make your dreams come true. Celebrate and enjoy!

Rex Sikes

You Are Marvelous!

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Why Negative Things Happen To Positive People

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“A questioner asked me recently, ‘Why, if one is positive and practices the Law Of Attraction (LOA), do less than glorious things sometimes happen?’ Today, I am going to share an answer to this  question. This is my emailed reply. I delete the name and relevant details.

I don’t have all the answers. I only have my feelings for how some things may work or not. This was my answer to this individual. It is not meant to be a blanket answer to cover everything. Still, I hope it provides food for thought. Note: Bolded sentences were not part of the email answer to her. I use them here only.

Hi,

I’m sorry to hear about your accidents and glad you are alright. I have some thoughts but let me preface it by saying I am not at all sure they are correct or apply. BUT again, sorry to learn of your recent difficulties.

When You Don’t Know What To Do Celebrate And Be Glad

Having said that, yes, be grateful. Celebrate and be glad. Who knows why bad things happen to good people. They just do. It rains on the good and the bad – the sun shines on both too.

What to say? Perhaps, it is all still perfect in the scheme of things and you simply can’t see what is around the bend yet. One day looking back you may be able to connect the dots. For now it is obscured. That may be just the way it is. What to do?

Celebrate and be glad anyway. Expect good things to happen and for everything to work out for the best. Stay focused on the positive and what you want to create for yourself in your future. Don’t let present circumstances distract you. Keep the focus and the faith and persist.

One thing I learned to do, whether or not is is true or not. I learned to take 100% responsibility for everything that happens good or bad. That means if something bad happens I assume somehow I am responsible. MAYBE I am not but it doesn’t do me any good to try to find out who is or why or blame others.

Responsibility Is For Your Benefit – Really No Other Reason

I accept it as something I have created. It helps me to put my focus more clearly and steadily on the positive good I want to create.

Taking responsibility in this way puts me in charge and gives me power. I am not a victim but the architect of my story. If I created something bad then I can create something good. I can write the outcome more how I want it.

I don’t know why, when everything is going right, we get up and stub our toe. Maybe it is to keep us humble OR perhaps, without contrast,  we would loose sight of all the good.

Another theory is you are god and you create everything and the world is illusion. Everything that happens is an opportunity to remember your divinity. I don’t know if this is accurate or not either but heck, why not. It is just as reasonable an explanation as any other. (Though many people and religions will disagree).

We See Through A Mirror Dimly

Recently, within the past year, I wrote a blog about acceptance and going with the flow. I used freeway traffic, or any traffic, as an exercise to remember, and keep in mind, everything is perfect. For example, you are in a hurry, but traffic is not. You are stuck. You will be late you can’t do anything about it.

Well, you can suffer and burn, swear and hate. OR you can let go and think, ‘this is exactly where I am supposed to be right now stuck in traffic. I have choices. No matter what happens, from here on out, ultimately, it will all work out for me.’

So you get there late, you are fired. You can’t pay your bills, you lose your car…

We Can’t Know The End Of The Story…

We all have heard stories like this… actor down and out… penniless and homeless BUT never loses sight of what is important and one day while pushing their grocery cart they meet an agent and voila’ the rest is history.

OKAY, it’s a fairy tale. BUT looking back ,often times, people will say, ‘the best thing that ever happened…’ was this negative event. BECAUSE, ‘if it hadn’t then I never would have…’

And on it goes. Keep the faith. Stay positive. Perhaps, it is a test. A self test or from the universe. Who knows?  It’s a test to see if you can maintain a positive, grateful stance while things fall apart.

I don’t know. I don’t know the truth. BUT I do know this. If you are able to stay positive, in spite of it all,  AND you are able to maintain your focus and celebrate and be grateful for EVERYTHING, you are far ahead of many others, far ahead in the game of life, and you will ultimately attract more good things to you.

… Don’t Get Caught In A Chapter

If on the other hand you get negative and down and out and let it pull you down you will also attract more negativity. SO the choice is always yours and yours alone. As you stated, Like attracts like. So just make sure you attract what you intend to attract.

IF you created the incidents – cool – don’t get down on yourself. If you didn’t don’t get down on yourself or others or god or universe or whatever. Utilize this as an opportunity to grow stronger, more positive and have more faith in yourself.

Maintain  your positive attitude. Stay focused on what you have that you are grateful for. Focus on that which you enjoy and what you desire most. Make more good happen.

Find A Way To Feel The Best You Can Most Of The Time

It could have been residual hang over from a previous lapse. There is the theory that what we experience today we create a while back. What we create tomorrow comes from our thoughts today. SO keep focused and positive. Love yourself, love life, radiate delight.

I don’t think having a positive attitude means nothing bad ever happens. It means, when it does, we can triumph over it quicker and easier than otherwise. It also means that, for the most part, we attract wonderful things into our life.

It does not mean that everything necessarily becomes fairy tale perfect. TOO many gods running about on the planet for that to happen.

Don’t Get Caught Up In Why – Live, Love, Laugh

Enjoy everything. Live to the utmost. Laugh, love and enjoy. Spend most of your time there and little else will matter. YOU are a creator keep creating the good. You are a magnet keep attracting the good. Radiate light and vibrate high positive energy. Celebrate each minute.

Then we are free no matter what transpires. Should we fall down and get bummed out, so what, dust yourself off, get up and carry on. No one said we are 100% of the time perfectly happy or positive either.

I mentioned the theory that we are gods, creators, lost in illusion that we are not. We don’t remember our true divine nature. Whether, true or not, has some great lessons for us.

If we get caught up in illusion from time to time who cares?  That is part of the game we are playing with ourselves. The ultimate goal of this divine game is to remember we are gods and remember we have choice. Of course, the illusion is we don’t and that things may be bad.

Everything Is As It Is Perfect In Its Own Way

Everything is perfect in its own way. We just can’t figure it out yet. WHO knows what good those incidents may lead to (if any) but it doesn’t matter. Keep the focus and the faith and move forward.

I don’t know if any of this helps or provides you any comfort or direction. I am happy you reached out to me. I wish you the best in all things and encourage you to stay in touch. Hope the auditions go well too. Let me know your thoughts.” Rex Sikes

Each moment is a miracle!

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The Secret Few Know To Making Positive Changes Most Easily!

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“Yes, there is still a secret. This secret is the key to making positive, permanent, productive change. It is being revealed here so you can immediately apply it and have it work for you.  This secret is ancient and spans all of time. It is absolutely powerful.

Sadly, everyone, or most everyone is familiar with it. They have heard about it and know it. It is one of the most well known secrets there is. Sadder still, while it has been hidden in plain sight, revealed numerous times, most people miss it and don’t use it.

That is why it remains a secret. Not because it is hidden but because people don’t use it. Since they don’t use it they don’t understand or benefit from its incredible power. Perhaps, today will be different. Most likely not for most people, but it will be for a few.

Even An Open Book May Not Be Read Until Someone Reads It

For those few THEY are ready to transform and begin to have a life more wonderful and fulfilling. AS I have always said, ‘Exploration is the doorway to adventure. Awareness is the key’. Be willing to explore new possibilities and a new world will open up to you in amazing ways.

Awareness is the key. We have choices we may not realize, appreciate or utilize. One possibility is we react to situations out of habit. We react from pre-recorded programs we run day in and day out, where whatever happens triggers a conditioned reaction.

As when someone gives you the finger and you, without thinking, give them one back. These neural pathways are a well beaten down path. We react automatically. There is a cause and an immediate effect. It happens without awareness. Afterwards, we realize, perhaps, what we did.

Exploration Is The Doorway To Adventure

Then there is the other possibility, that from awareness we respond. We notice the instigation but it doesn’t grip or grab us. Instead, more like an observer, we watch without getting hooked and we choose how to behave or respond to the situation. There is a moment, or a gap, between the trigger and what happens next.

There is one practical method for creating that gap and that is to condition yourself for it. The other less productive reactive behaviors were conditioned without awareness simply by growing up. The new behaviors we deliberately intend to create. THAT is the difference.

One we ended up with reactions without realizing it. The new ones we intend to create, we take time to manufacture through practice and repetition. There are plenty of opportunities each day, each hour, to practice this.

Awareness IS The Key

At first when you begin applying this you will be late, most likely. Timing is everything. You will realize after the moment passes.  THAT is OKAY! That IS the first beginning steps. SO take it easy on yourself. Be gentle and be grateful you noticed whenever it is that you notice.

THIS is important to remember and realize. You decide, for example, to enjoy life more. You don’t want to get angry so much. DO not focus on the anger. That will only bring more energy to it and you will end up being angry more. INAPPROPRIATE anger is what you want to eliminate. It is appropriate to be angry in some situations. That may be the wisest response.

Focus on enjoying life more. Pour your energy into that. Then you will get more of that! Be positive and be happy. WHEN you discover that you are not, or that you got angry inappropriately, even moments after ‘the event’, congratulate yourself on recognizing you were angry.

YES! Congratulate yourself on recognizing you got angry. This is the beginning of awareness. It is simply late. As you continue along, life will afford you many opportunities to practice and build a new habit. Continue to recognize and appreciate your awareness.

Questions Direct Your Mind What To Look For And Find

You might ask Directed Questions™ like, ‘I wonder how delighted I will become to discover myself easily responding more positively to these situations…’ (whatever they are for you) or to whomever you want to respond more positively too.

OR ‘How delighted will I be to discover for myself that I have choices and that I am able to respond differently…’ OR ‘…that I am able to respond positively and productively?’ Send your mind on searches for what you want to have rather than what you don’t want.

Do you want to be more aware? Would you like to be more positive? Would you like more choice? Would you like to stay clam in trying situations? If so ask questions similar to the one’s above that direct you into having what you want. Put your brain on the search for you.

Throughout the day keep asking a few questions around the area of change you wish to develop. ASK!. These will greatly increase your ability to change and become more aware. That, after all, is the goal, to become more aware.

Be Gentle, Positive And Encouraging

Remember, to not get caught up and react. There is a great infographic out there that reads ‘ Every time you feel yourself getting pulled into other people’s nonsense, repeat these words. Not my circus. Not my monkeys.’

Whenever you FEEL yourself getting pulled into… other people’s or even your own trauma drama… remember to repeat, ‘Not my circus. Not my monkeys’. This is great because this is how we create awareness. We, first, must notice the pull.

Once we do, STOP!!! Take a deep breath! Maybe one or two more! THEN after the breathes engage a new behavior. REPEAT a new mantra, or affirmation, whatever it is. In this case it is a reminder ‘not my circus. not my monkeys’.

Whatever it is or whatever new behavior you want you instigate after the STOP – GAP. STOP first…. then Begin. Stop then Begin!

Come To A Complete 4 Wheel Stop And Then Proceed Differently

You feel the pull and you STOP! Completely stop! Pause. Take a breath or two. AND BEGIN The new behavior. Think a different thought inside or out. Do anything physically different from what you would have done previous to learning this.

Each time you successfully repeat this process you are on your way to building a new habit which includes awareness and choice! Soon enough it will be automatic and reliable. You will have transformed an unwanted into a wanted. You are moving forward!

Put your energy into what you want NOT what you do not want.

Remember, to be free you must pause and chose to respond differently. IF YOU DO get caught up that is okay, be gentle with yourself. Next time, maybe, you will remember. Or perhaps you will remember even sooner. You will catch yourself quicker.

You Stop And Then Move In A New Direction

Pat yourself on the back for whatever you did and for noticing it whenever you noticed it. Self criticism won’t help you change. It is part of the old behaviors and conditioning. SO while you are learning to change the anger, learn too how to end the negative self-talk! Get it? Be gentle and encouraging. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper.

If you can’t say something good about yourself, another person or the circumstances, do not say anything at all. Do not reinforce what you do not want? Do not give it your energy! DO YOU UNDERSTAND?

Only put the energy you have into the things you want. Make sure you are putting it into what you want! Many people think they are when they aren’t! So check and double check. Energy begets energy. You want to get back WHAT YOU WANT and not more of what you do not want. Is this clear? I hope so.

Speak Only To Bless, Heal And Prosper – Congratulate Yourself

I repeat: WHENEVER you do remember, give yourself a pat on the back for noticing and changing. Encourage the positive behaviors you want more of. Literally, ignore the behaviors you wish to eliminate. Do not put energy into the negative thoughts or behaviors or you end up getting more of the same. Focus and get back the positive!

So here it is. A huge wide open secret that most people never apply so they never get the changes or life they want to have. Sad, but if it is to be, it will be up to them. Just as it is up to you and me. No one can do this for us. We must each do it our self.

So what is it going to be? Will you dive in and begin transforming your life in powerful and positive ways or not? It is up to you. Whenever you make a positive decision to make a positive difference for yourself, celebrate and be grateful that you recognized an opportunity.

This is how we learn to recognize more and more opportunities as they present themselves. I hope you, decide today to, transform your life in wonderful ways that bring you more delight than you can even begin to imagine right now. Celebrate, enjoy and be glad! Today is a magnificent day!” Rex Sikes

Savor the positive wonderful moments you create!

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