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Without This You May Be Missing Out On A Lot!

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“You could be missing out on lots of what life has to offer. You might not recognize opportunity even when it stares you in the face. You could be closed off to many good things that would help you get ahead in your career or at school. Sadly, if you are missing out you are missing out. Who knows what or how much you might be missing. Have you ever considered this?

Curiosity is one thing we all seem to have when we are young but tend to let diminish as we grow older. We shut down instead of staying open. We get jaded instead of filled with wonder. We live by ‘been there done that’ instead of ‘WOW how incredible! How does this work? or Why? or What does that do, or mean? We stop asking questions from an open mind.

Instead of seeing to understand and to learn many of us sacrifice those important qualities for certainty or for being right. Some of us get into arguments that go no where just to prove our point. We seem to have forgotten what it was, and is, like to experience the innocence and openness and wonder of a child. To be open and to wonder is amazing and has so many marvelous benefits.

Some one pointed out that we listen in order to speak next not really to understand the other person’s position. We watch ‘our’ shows and listen to radio that supports what we already believe. We seem to all sing in the same choir but there are many choirs in the world and we may not accept the others. We go to war over philosophy and religion and words. We ostracize and criticize.

We would benefit greatly if we sought to become curious again. We’d be much better off if we were to learn, to explore, to look and actually listen seeking to understand rather than to dismiss too early. Our brains crave novelty and newness . By providing ourselves with new things to learn and enjoy that stimulation alone helps keep us younger.

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Thinking and behaving differently is stimulating in healthy ways. We grow older faster by only giving our brains the same stimuli all the time. When we restrict our attention and our choices we limit ourselves and we don’t grow as much. Stress also stunts our development. We need to provide our brains with new things to enjoy. We need to stretch ourselves. There are lots of things we can do to add variety, novelty and newness to our lives. There is so much to become curious and wonder about. We are such creatures of habit we miss so much of what good is going on around us and elsewhere. Dive in!

Take a new route to work or school, dress and shower in a different order, sleep facing another way, learn new games, play, take up new hobbies, sports, read materials and watch shows you wouldn’t normally and stay open. Instead of objecting to what you disagree with ask questions that help you understand the other position. Look for the merits not the pitfalls.  Meet new people, learn another language. Visit museums and art galleries. Try new foods, take up cooking. Vary the speed of your walk, sing, skip, go new places. Listen to different kinds of music. There are so many ways to add newness to our experience.

The world and people and nature is an endless supply of areas to be curious about. Stop and take a moment to ‘smell the rose’, to notice, to look, to observe, to listen, to interact with the little things we pass by or miss or shut out each day. Take moments to savor. Be an explorer. We can imagine we are in the jungle or the Amazon and everything is new and different. We can ask questions to understand without explaining or defending our point of view. We can try new things!

There is so much to notice, enjoy, delight in and appreciate. Why miss any of it? We need to get out of our comfort zone and our laziness and discover more. I have always maintained that ‘exploration IS the doorway to adventure’. Live as an adventurer, not a conquerer. Live as a young child open to find newness each second. We only go around once why not live more fully?” Rex Sikes

What adventures can you discover that will delight you? Enjoy!

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Want More Power? Do This!

what you allow is what will continue

“Would you like to be able to make some positive behavioral changes and keep them? Are there some behaviors you would like to be able to cut down or stop completely? Could you use more self-control? If you answered yes to these question there is a simple thing you can do.  First, keep in mind that we think is important. Everything first begins with our thoughts. We speak those thoughts to ourselves, out loud and to others. What we think and say is important. We become what we think about.

Take responsibility for the behavior you want to stop or start. Don’t blame or criticize yourself for doing it. Realize if you are going to stop it YOU are going to stop it. If it is going to happen it will be up to you! It is not up to anyone else. You must stop being a victim of the behavior and realize you are the person who performs the behaviors. You decide whether or not you will do something. You are in charge. Stop thinking and saying ‘you can’t’ help it, or that you can’t stop it. If you can’t do something it means you are powerless. You want to and need to claim your power.

If you want and need to become more powerful YOU need to begin to think of yourself as powerful. You have to see yourself and tell yourself that you are in charge. You have to act like someone in charge.You want to develop a mind set that you can and will do what you want. You can and will do what you say you will and you will keep your word. Various research concludes that people who say ‘I don’t’ instead of ‘I can’t’ had more positive behavior changes because they had more self control.

If you think and say, ‘I don’t eat chips’ instead of ‘I can’t stop eating chips’ the difference is two fold. First, you become a person who does not engage in the particular behavior. You are a person in power and control. That is part of your identity. Second, as a result of the first reason, the behavior does not control or determine your future YOU do. When you are not the type of person who does something you don’t do it. When you are in charge, when you have control, when you make the decisions everything is different. You become the person who does or does not do something rather than letting behaviors determine what you are able to do.

Feel free to add that you are the kind of person who ‘can’ control behaviors. YOU can make decisions and stick to them. You don’t let snacks (or other habits) govern you. You are the kind of person who IS able to control your behaviors. So you will. How we think about ourselves and what we say has an incredible impact on what we are able to do and not do. Thoughts lead to actions. Govern your thoughts and words and you can govern your behaviors.

Decide to be in charge of your life. Think and say those things that move you forward. Think and say only those things that heal, bless and prosper you and others. Realize who you are, what kind of person you are and what you are able to accomplish. Think it, say it claim it! BE IT!” Rex Sikes

Make today count!

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How To Handle Time Pressures Without Caving!

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“Does it sometimes seem like you are on an endless treadmill? Are there times when you just can’t wait until the day or week is over?  Do you sometimes feel rushed as if there is not enough time in the day to get everything you need to completed? We do react differently depending what we have going on or not going on. Often we may feel overwhelmed and stressed. Obviously, this is not good for our health and there is another way.

How we relate to time is a reflection of how we feel about our lives. The sayings ‘as above so below’ and ‘as within so without’, comes to mind. How we relate to what is going on outside mirrors what is going on inside. If we feel pressured outside it is because of our inner pressure and turmoil. The more we think and feel poorly the more we invite that to continue. Birds of a feather flock together. It is NOT going to change unless we change it!

While it is true you may have deadlines and you want to act to complete them, that pressure is only as good so long as it motivates you to get things done. Beyond that it gets in the way and adds stress. So if you feel that it helps you get started okay, use it. You don’t want to lose out, or get fired, or miss the opportunity.

Use the negative motivation to get moving. You know what you do not want. Once you know that decide what you do want. Then focus on what you want. Keep going but towards what you want!

In order to be more effective and live life more wonderfully it is important to learn to make the most of the time we have. We do this by appreciating little things. When we are grateful for the little things each moment we make better use of our time. When we are able to enjoy and savor the moments of the day as we get to the close of the day we feel much better. Time is a flow and we need to be in the flow. We need to enjoy the present instant. The more we enjoy THIS MOMENT the more moments overall we enjoy!

Yes, there are times when you will feel rushed. There are also times when you may feel bored or as if the day is just dragging on. When either of these happen you still have to be able to do what you need to do. How you do it is what makes the difference for you. In order to do it well and feel good you need to make a change in the moment.

what you allow is what will continue

Stop, take some breathes and decide how you want this day to go. Decide what you can do in this very moment to accomplish what you want to in the best frame of mind and while feeling well. The reason some people never make a change is because they don’t decide to make it different. Because we run on autopilot so much it doesn’t occur to them that it can be different. It does not occur to them that they can be different. It does not have to always be the same.

To not make any decision is to already have tacitly decided. It is agreeing to go along with whatever is. It is being a drifter of a victim to the outside pressures or circumstances. Once we decide and take control everything can change for the better! Make it a point to remember to decide how you want to spend your time. We only have so much while on this planet you might like to use it most wisely.

Stop, breath, decide how you can and will make the moment different. Decide how you want to feel now. Decide how you want to feel as you go through the remainder of the task and your day. Look for everything you can to appreciate in this moment. Really appreciate these! Feel it! Mental lists and reciting affirmations without feeling great feelings does little. It is our feelings that drive everything and that make a difference. Feel it! Feel your best!

If you need to take a short break and you are able to, do something that makes you feel better. Take a walk, hum a song, recite affirmations with enthusiasm, ask yourself powerful Directed Questions, help someone else, relax, do something enjoyable and when the break time is over get back on it with a renewed sense of well being.

The idea is to take a moment to deliberately change your feelings and thinking for the better. DO positive things that make you feel as good as you are able to. Everything is better when YOU feel better. Do it!

It is far better and easier to think clearly and get things accomplished well when you are feeling at your best. Many people discount their feelings or ignore them.  Stop it! Some people try to push them away. If you do this Stop! Others try to push through things while feeling stressed or less than glorious. Stop, don’t do that! Change how you think and feel instead! Change it, change it, change it! It is up to you!

The point of this brain, mind, feeling training is to have a more wonderful life. Life is not a big bunch of something nebulous, it is tiny moments we either mostly enjoy or we don’t. Find ways to make more of your moments wonderful and much more of your life becomes wonderful. It is all in the little things that the big things exist. Make the most of the mini-moments and all moments transform!

we are our choices

It is completely up to you. The big illusion, the big lie, the greatest deception is that it all comes from the outside. Yes, It does seem like that but that is not what is actually going on. It all begins within us. What matters is what we are doing on the inside.  We react to the outer world based on what we have going on in the inner world.

Thought precedes everything! It is our thoughts that determine how we enjoy each moment. What we think determines how we feel and vice versa. So we want to think only the very best and feel the very best! We can change all of it by changing what we think and feel first.

If you have never taken control of these processes then it might seem doubtful to you. That is because you have not experienced how it can be otherwise. How you experience each moment is determined by what you decide. You either decide you want it the best or you do nothing and it remains whatever it is. It is always, ONLY your choice, I hope you realize this.

Brain, mind, feeling training is about creating positive habits. Good habits that serve you instead of the ones that keep you running poorly. If you have never actively decided to make things better then now is the time. As you do this each day, because there are plenty of opportunities each day, each time you choose to be in control instead of a victim you are building a positive habit. Keep this in mind!

You begin by becoming aware, recognizing what is going on in the moment, what you are thinking and feeling that is not productive and you deliberately decide in this moment to change it. Then you take the steps to make it more to your liking. You keep doing it to maintain it. As you persist and consistently apply what you are learning you are building a powerful new positive habit that will soon become automatic. You are creating more of the life you want in doing this.

Begin now! Don’t delay, don’t put it off, don’t remain a victim, don’t drift and be pushed by the outer currents. Become the captain of your soul and the master of your fate. Make each moment meaningful and you determine how time flows. Take charge and enjoy much more of your time! Get a new lease on life today! ” Rex Sikes

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