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How You Define Your Success Is Important!

just because soemthing isn't happening

“For everything there is a season. When you plant a seed it takes time to grow. Everything happens in time and at it’s own pace. It’s okay to push yourself but don’t stress yourself. Understand that some things take time. Relax while you continue.

When you are creating your future and making your dreams come true you may not see immediate results but hang in there. Be patient, be positive and as long as you are moving ahead they will eventually show up. Nurture yourself along.

Faster isn’t always better. Slow and steady can win the race. Don’t beat yourself up over not getting there fast enough. Success, as defined byEarl Nightengale, is ‘the steady progression toward a worthwhile goal.’ It is a process.

At the end of each day if you have done one thing to move forward you have had a successful day. If you have attempted to do your best that then you can feel good knowing that is as good as any person can do. You are progressing.

It has been said that ‘you can light 1000 candles and more off of just one candle. The only requirement is that your candle is lit first’. No matter how small that flame is it still burns. Much can be accomplished. Remember, your light shines! YOU will light the way in darkness.” Rex Sikes

Today, find some extra time to relax and nurture yourself!

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Become An Explorer On An Adventure

old ways won't open new doors

“What is it about kids that is so fresh and vital? How do they think differently than we do as adults? What is the difference that makes the difference between them and those of us who are older? What is it about youth that we value and try to recapture?

Certainly, innocence and vitality. Kids have a freshness because as they grow and develop, prior to being biased or tainted by peers, parents, teachers and world influences they have an open quality, an accepting capacity. They look to the world and adults around them for answers and are eager to see and hear and learn what those people will say or explain. They live to experience it all.

KIDS ARE CURIOUS! The haven’t done it all before, they haven’t been there and done that. Everything is new and potentially thrilling or fun. Too many adults give this up as they grow up. We need to recapture it. We need to develop and live from an endless supply of curiosity. We need to stop and look more, observe and watch, witness and see.

We need to listen and hear the many sounds and silence around us. The variations of tones and tempos. We can feel more, the wind, the temperature, the sunshine or rain. We can live more present in the moment enjoying the little things of wonder that life offers us instead of passing them by on the way to somewhere important.

We can become an explorer and explore. Life can be an adventure.! There is so much the world and people have to offer. Get out into it and take advantage of it. Time is ongoing and we don’t get it back. So instead of missing all the little joys discover and delight fully in them. Try new things. Be open and stay open.

Learn something new, eat new foods, listen to new music, go to new places, the world is your oyster. The world is your garden paradise – bask in it! Become curious, become fascinated. Become again as a little child and expand you view of the world and increase your opportunities for wonderful moments. Create more pleasure and fulfilling memories. Become more fully alive! AND Enjoy!” Rex Sikes

Delight in the day!

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Feeling Great Is Simple! Do This It’s Powerful!

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“My recent posts have been about smiling and laughing. I have discussed using your neurology, your physiology purposefully to easily change your emotional states and your thoughts for the better. The reason I have is because it is so much simpler to make changes than many people think it is. We don’t have to overhaul our entire life to begin with, instead we make small, simple, significant changes that lead us along the path of living more happily and successfully. It is easy to change and to feel more wonderful!

Because it is so powerful and simple I shared it so you can start using it right away! When we feel better we think better. When we think better we feel better. We really aren’t able to separate the mind body connection. Thinking and feeling go hand in hand. When we think poorly we feel poorly. When we feel poorly we think poorly. SO become wonderful, become amazing, become happy, become positive, become the person you want to become by doing powerful little things each day.

Life will be more delightful as you add in more smiles and laughter. It truly will. Remember, when you feel delighted and enthused and happy how much more you smile and laugh. Well, if you will smile and laugh more now then you get more delight, enthusiasm and happiness. So add smiles and laughter throughout each day. Begin and end each day on a positive note. As you do this daily you will be forming good positive habits. You will discover yourself smiling and laughing more frequently and feeling better overall.

Learn to laugh at the little things and everything becomes easier. When we are able to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, now and in the past, and those times we labelled failures we are free of them. Laughter changes everything. It frees us up! When you are able to remember difficulty and laugh at it you are over it. You have reframed it and released it! You are able to move ahead more easily.

Be grateful you were or are presently challenged. Look at the challenges and learn from them. Note the lessons and utilize them to move forward. Seek the opportunities present in the difficulties. Don’t take life or yourself so seriously. Your life and your business or career aren’t meant to be serious but to be enjoyed. So enjoy them! Now time for a short anecdote.

A friend of mine was working construction high on a roof. He slipped off but managed to catch hold of the edge. High above the ground he dangled. He realized he was not going to be able to hang on and was going to fall. Thinking this might be his final moments he decided if he had to go out he would go out well. It struck him that this was a funny moment dangling.

He decided if he was going to die he was going to die laughing. He laughed and laughed and laughed until he fell. He laughed all the way down He struck the ground laughing. Surprisingly, he was not badly injured. He was hurt some but he was fine. He was able to get up on his own and carry on. He did not require medical care but he did get checked out.

Granted this may not be the outcome for everyone. BUT as we discussed it we came to the conclusion that while we didn’t know the actual reasons he survived we postulated that by laughing he completely relaxed. His body was at ease when he landed. He was not tense, stiff or scared.

Certainly, we don’t know but it is both plausible and possible that this is what helped save him. Regardless, his choice to laugh made those moments wonderful instead of terrifying. If he could laugh in the face of potential death many of us can laugh more with life’s lessor challenges. So laugh more! Enjoy more! Delight!” Rex Sikes

It’s your day. Make it marvelous!

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How To Start Your Day Off Right

that i do today imporves ur tomorrows

“My previous post suggests you learn to smile more each day. When you smile you release chemicals and hormones that produce feelings of well being and happiness. Your feeling  change in response to how you use your body and your breath.

Whenever you want to feel better you can shift your body posture and movements and re-create feelings and emotional states of resourcefulness. Your thinking and feeling changes.  When you change the depth and rate of your breathing you can feel inspired, confident, happy or relaxed. It works!

Our neurology is marvelous! Our brains and body work together so we are able to deliberately affect how we think and feel. We can feel wonderful by  using our body, breath and face in a positive way. Here is something else we can do to begin the day in a great way and enjoy it more thoroughly as the hours pass by.

Laugh! Begin your day smiling and laughing. Before you leave the bedroom laugh deliberately for at least 5 minutes. Of course, if you have not tried this before you will have to push it. Sit somewhere, close your eyes and just begin to laugh. FAKE IT until you make it.

It won’t seem natural at first because laughter is an involuntary response. However, once you push through the start of the laughter you will find that it does become involuntary. Frankly, whether or not the laughter becomes ‘real’ doesn’t matter. By using your body in the same way you do when you actually laugh you get the benefits.

A great belly laugh really stirs up the body and releases positive chemicals and hormones. Instantly, you begin to feel the affects. You can laugh for longer if you like. I was part of a group who did this decades ago, every morning at 6am for one hour! It was incredible.

I have taught this in my live training and seminars ever since. We also did it in the evening. Each night before we said so long until the next day we would relax, think positive thoughts and laugh out loud together.  Laughter massages your brain and body. It relaxes you and it heals you. Laughter transforms you!

DO IT for however long you can. 5 minutes would be a great start. Norman Cousins utilized laughter to heal himself by spending time each day watching funny TV programs. So too have countless others. You can use the power of laughter to transform your life and being. Make it a habit to laugh much more and you will be glad you did. ” Rex Sikes

Smile, laugh make today incredible!

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Without This You May Be Missing Out On A Lot!

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“You could be missing out on lots of what life has to offer. You might not recognize opportunity even when it stares you in the face. You could be closed off to many good things that would help you get ahead in your career or at school. Sadly, if you are missing out you are missing out. Who knows what or how much you might be missing. Have you ever considered this?

Curiosity is one thing we all seem to have when we are young but tend to let diminish as we grow older. We shut down instead of staying open. We get jaded instead of filled with wonder. We live by ‘been there done that’ instead of ‘WOW how incredible! How does this work? or Why? or What does that do, or mean? We stop asking questions from an open mind.

Instead of seeing to understand and to learn many of us sacrifice those important qualities for certainty or for being right. Some of us get into arguments that go no where just to prove our point. We seem to have forgotten what it was, and is, like to experience the innocence and openness and wonder of a child. To be open and to wonder is amazing and has so many marvelous benefits.

Some one pointed out that we listen in order to speak next not really to understand the other person’s position. We watch ‘our’ shows and listen to radio that supports what we already believe. We seem to all sing in the same choir but there are many choirs in the world and we may not accept the others. We go to war over philosophy and religion and words. We ostracize and criticize.

We would benefit greatly if we sought to become curious again. We’d be much better off if we were to learn, to explore, to look and actually listen seeking to understand rather than to dismiss too early. Our brains crave novelty and newness . By providing ourselves with new things to learn and enjoy that stimulation alone helps keep us younger.

attitude difference between ordeal and adventure

Thinking and behaving differently is stimulating in healthy ways. We grow older faster by only giving our brains the same stimuli all the time. When we restrict our attention and our choices we limit ourselves and we don’t grow as much. Stress also stunts our development. We need to provide our brains with new things to enjoy. We need to stretch ourselves. There are lots of things we can do to add variety, novelty and newness to our lives. There is so much to become curious and wonder about. We are such creatures of habit we miss so much of what good is going on around us and elsewhere. Dive in!

Take a new route to work or school, dress and shower in a different order, sleep facing another way, learn new games, play, take up new hobbies, sports, read materials and watch shows you wouldn’t normally and stay open. Instead of objecting to what you disagree with ask questions that help you understand the other position. Look for the merits not the pitfalls.  Meet new people, learn another language. Visit museums and art galleries. Try new foods, take up cooking. Vary the speed of your walk, sing, skip, go new places. Listen to different kinds of music. There are so many ways to add newness to our experience.

The world and people and nature is an endless supply of areas to be curious about. Stop and take a moment to ‘smell the rose’, to notice, to look, to observe, to listen, to interact with the little things we pass by or miss or shut out each day. Take moments to savor. Be an explorer. We can imagine we are in the jungle or the Amazon and everything is new and different. We can ask questions to understand without explaining or defending our point of view. We can try new things!

There is so much to notice, enjoy, delight in and appreciate. Why miss any of it? We need to get out of our comfort zone and our laziness and discover more. I have always maintained that ‘exploration IS the doorway to adventure’. Live as an adventurer, not a conquerer. Live as a young child open to find newness each second. We only go around once why not live more fully?” Rex Sikes

What adventures can you discover that will delight you? Enjoy!

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What To Do When Everything Sucks

change your direction not your decision

“The goal in life is to feel good right? We should enjoy life, live fully, delight in everything. Celebrate. But what about those times when you just don’t or can’t? What do we do about those moments? It certainly would be useful to know, wouldn’t it?

People who love themselves and appreciate life and all it offers know that sometimes we just get stuck. They understand that there are challenges, upheavals and down times. They know that sometimes you just sit in traffic and don’t seem to make any progress. They understand the burn, frustration, anger and sadness that may accompany these moments. They realize sometimes we just have to fester awhile.

Many take heart in the motto ‘This too will pass’ . They understand that just as there is night and day, dark and light, cold and hot that there is a rhythm to life and that things do change. They ‘get it’ that the waves on the water come in, the tide rises and the waves go out and the tide goes down. They know there are seasons and time frames in which different challenges exist.

People who successfully navigate the tough times know that there are going to be these times and the accept it. They may try to navigate around them when possible but they don’t run from them. There are tough times that may seem to last forever. There are great times that seem to end too soon. There are times when nothing seems to change and we grow bored or weary. All of these occasions are just a part of life.

We need to understand what we can control and what we are not able to control. We may not be able to change the world but we can learn self control or self management or self improvement when we go though tough times. Tough times while not welcome are useful.

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There is the saying ‘We can’t change the wind but we can adjust our sails’. Most everyone knows, ‘When life gives you lemons make lemonade’.  So it isn’t about controlling, manipulating or changing the outer world to conform to our wishes but it IS about evolving ourselves to meet any challenge. We may not be able to change the world we can change ourselves and our responses!

When these challenges occur it is an opportunity to surrender. We need to learn how to surrender because as much as we might try make the world conform to us or change the circumstances some things in life just don’t happen until they are ready to happen.

Surrender. It is the time to allow and not resist because what we resist persists. So don’t fight it. This may seem difficult but this IS precisely what we need to learn. We need to learn how to navigate these times more productively and not get caught in the ‘trauma drama’. We need to understand sometimes we have to be patient and wait.

We need to learn how to seek feedback. We need to find the seed of opportunity that exists in the challenge. Through all of these experiences we can grow and develop when we understand how to best respond. We can experience great freedom in letting go.

When things change we tend to react out of habit. We do what we have always done previously. If what we always do is less than glorious, brings us or others more pain; if it doesn’t work very well and these habits aren’t serving us then it is time to learn and develop new habits.

repetition is the mother of skill

We always have choice. We really do. We can choose to do something or choose to do nothing but both are choices. Challenges will always be there but we can grow in spite of them. The way of the world is that things just happen. Unexpected things happen. Some expected things loom on the horizon. The choice is ours about what we think and feel and do.

Someone said, ‘Worry is praying for things we don’t want’. We should stop it. Complaining and whining only bring us more less than glorious thoughts and feelings. Gratitude and celebration may be tough at first but will bring us more of the feelings of thankfulness and insight than fretting and being upset will.

Relax, allow, and go with the flow. These will bring us more rest so we can gather our resources. These are times for self-reflection. Self examination and making new positive choices (especially when forced to) can lead to new positive thoughts and behaviors and new habits. Through reflection, during times of struggle, we can find ourselves renewed.  Gratitude and celebration for the challenge will open our eyes to possibilities we might otherwise miss.

Remember, ‘we become what we think about’. We get what we focus on.  Like attracts like, birds of a feather flock together so we need to choose the best, the highest the most glorious thoughts and feelings we can find to fill our minds. When we stick with these we will find more of them. In staying on course we will discover incredible value and can begin to build a positive new habits that serve us better.” Rex Sikes

Have a delightful in your day!

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Simple, Easy Things You Can Do To Feel Better

you can become anyone you want to be

“It’s time to do something for you too. Take some baby steps towards different things you can do that will make a big difference. Put into practice some tiny things that help improve your life over all. It is easy and simple to make your overall experience more delightful!

Read more inspirational material, stop using the smart phone so much. Simplify your life, downsize some things, get back to nature. De-stress, revive, and have some fun. Speak nicely to yourself and others! Treat everyone with respect and love.

Eat a little healthier; take the stairs; park further away and walk to your destination; get better sleep; treat yourself kindly; give yourself a treat now and then. Spend quality time with others. Count your blessings! Visualize and concentrate on your goals.

This year, this beginning time, find something you can cross off your bucket list. Make it a point to do one of your special wants this year. See if you can’t do it earlier rather than later.

Don’t use time as an excuse not to. Don’t say you don’t have time or money or know how. No excuses. Figure out how to make it happen. You will be thrilled as you accomplish something you have wanted to.

stop being victim start living strong

Life is too precious to waste. Sometimes we get caught up and loose sight of keeping it simple, beautiful and fun. We may need to remind ourselves from time to time to stop and smell the roses. Feel good, enjoy, put a smile on your lips.  Help put a smile on the lips of others.

This year keep it simple, keep it fun, keep it feeling as good as you can by implementing simple, small, easy, steps towards overall well being. Don’t miss out by putting things off, today is the only day you have. Now is the time. Don’t bite off more than you can chew. Easy and simple is the way to go.

Celebrate everything! Look at everything you do and have to feel grateful about. Appreciate the people in your life that matter. Make the most of your moments together. Spend more time with family, friends and love ones. Meet some new people too!

Live, laugh, love and celebrate! Chose to think and feel your best. Realize you either affirm or deny. You either go with the flow or you resist. Stop resisting, stop denying and start affirming and flowing.

Recognize when you get stuck and unstick yourself without blame. Smile, sing, laugh, dance, play more. Take the opportunities to improve your life in tiny ways that make a big difference! You’ll feel better! You’ll think better!  You’ll recognize opportunities sooner! You’ll enjoy so much more! Live simply and live fully! ” Rex Sikes

Celebrate  today!

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How To Surrender! Go With The Flow

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“I have been a forceful driver all of my driving life. I used to listen to ramp me up music and shoot through the streets of Los Angeles on a mission to get there ahead of everyone else. I pushed the river of life. It was not uncommon for me to give the finger or curse out other drivers slower, faster or just different than me. I hated traffic but I loved driving.

One time in my past I decided I was only going to listen to calming, relaxing music, classical but not rousing classical, while I drove to attempt to curb my passion for beating everyone to the stop light or being the first in the fast lane. It helped some. I later learned a better way, but certainly you can combine the two.

I know not everyone is like me in this regard because I encountered them on the roadway. So this may or may not apply to you but it can be a powerful lesson in any regard.

It seems most happiness and success comes when you learn true gratitude and acceptance. When you have a definite purpose that you want to accomplish. It comes when you have absolute faith that you will manifest it and you fully expect to. You believe in yourself.

It occurs when you can get out of your own way, surrender and go with the flow of life. It comes quickest when you can accept whatever life offers gratefully and keep moving forward expecting the best.

what u put out u attract

Okay, well here is an exercise I learned to embrace. Traffic is the universe giving you whatever it gives you. It has every possibility for you to get stuck, annoyed and angry. It provides an opportunity to push it or accept it. It is frustrating for most people.  Hence, a great place to learn surrender.

If you want to learn to go with the flow in life begin with traffic. Drive safely, should go without saying.

Recognize that person that cuts you off or pulls out in front of you at the last moment IS your opportunity to relax and accept that is what IS right now. The universe offers you opportunity in this moment. Traffic backed up, accept it. If you can’t easily go around it that’s what life gave you right now. Don’t push it ACCEPT IT.  Slow pedestrian annoying you as they cross the street in front of you. The light changes, someone runs a light, whatever it is RELAX! That is what IS GOING ON AT THIS MOMENT! That is what is happening!

Instead of cursing and trying to get back at them accept it allow it. Instead of driving and complaining, instead of being filled with stress, Coritsol and anger, let it go. Instead of complaining to your friends, family and co-workers about how horrible the commute was let it go. LET IT GO! This is where you practice acceptance because as you know you will have PLENTY of opportunities each and every instant.

THAT IS PRECISELY WHAT MAKES THIS EXERCISE SO VALUABLE! For many this will be an excruciating exercise BUT how better to learn to give up control and accept  what the universe gives us than to do so when it gives us so many opportunities. Traffic is a great place to learn.

we are what we repeatedly do

You can use driving to learn how to surrender to what is. There will be plenty of challenging moments as you already know. Still, if you can learn, ‘hey this is what IS right now’, and accept it, surrender to it, you can learn to do it anywhere else too.

Use the flow of traffic to learn HOW TO go with the flow. When you get hot, and you become aware of it, recognize it and relax and drive safe. Be courteous. Bless the other drivers, the bikes, motorcycles and pedestrians, the truckers who would have infuriated you in the past.

Stop trying to push the river. Relax and let the current take you down stream. What a wonderful opportunity this exercise is because you will learn so many fascinating things about yourself. You will change your life when you learn true acceptance. You will transform your life when you learn to wish all others well. Bless others, praise others, celebrate others regardless and you will transform so much of you and your life it will amaze you. STOP complaining! Stop whining!

Relax, surrender, go with the flow. Be gentle with yourself through the learning process and enjoy transforming your life. You can find magic and mystery in each and every moment when you stop and look. When you find it fill yourself with gratitude!” Rex Sikes

Have a marvelous magical day!

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