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Power Words: How Can I Help You?

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“The longer I have lived and the more I have experienced the more I realize that being there for one another is what living is all about. We look for meaning and purpose. We have been called ‘meaning makers’ and ‘time binders’ by anthropologists. We seek inside ourselves and outside ourselves for ‘something’ greater.

We have our sciences, our stories, our philosophies, our religions to inform us and comfort us. Few of us successfully live alone and solitary confinement is considered a very cruel inhumane form of punishment. Why might these things be so?

Because we as a species band together. From earliest times of bands and tribes and groups we form ties and have worked, played, loved and moved together. With the  rise industrial revolution people began to leave their clans, their burrows, their neighborhoods, travel far and seek employment and their dreams in other neighborhoods. From one place to another place they journeyed. Landing in a new area they formed new ties. Cities grew larger.

So what am I getting at with all this? We are social creatures. We can’t really live well without one another. It is true that we seek out our own kind; we group by race, religion, economics, politics and a few other factors.

We ostracize by these same factors. We gather, support, defend based on mostly mentally manufactured distinctions. ‘They look the same as me’ okay part of my group. They look different not part of my group. ‘They think the same as me’; my group. They think otherwise, not part of my group. And on and on.

People do categorize each other as part of the ‘in group’, or not. This is unfortunate that as a people we have not all successfully learned to get along and accommodate our differences. Still, it is the current way of the world. We have to learn how to live together without prejudices and looking for those elements that could separate us. We need to seek harmony, acceptance, and embrace our differences.

you are a living magnet

I think we can move toward embracing all and become one people, one world even if there is a lot of resistance toward that from various mindsets. The world is still divided and may be for sometime or forever. My point is we band together. Like groups attract like groups. We don’t live alone. We need each other and we seek each other out and form ties.

Since we need each other one of the most powerful ways to create strong ties IS to assist each other. When we help each other we grow closer to each other.We create bond. Not only is that important but when you or I help another person learn to do something, overcome a difficulty or accomplish something important to them we not only help THAT person but we help ourselves too! We grow together independently. We make them and we make ourselves feel better!

There are those in the world who don’t want to help. They want to own, to have and to protect what they claim is theirs and ostracize and blame others. I get that. I don’t think that helps them live more wonderful lives but I get their reasoning. I can empathize with their thinking and their potential fears.

I also think and believe and operate from ‘what we think about we bring about’. The more we fear the more we have to fear and are more fearful. The more we love and accept the more we have to love and accept. I do not believe we have a more peaceful world by engaging in more wars. We have a more peaceful world when we all embrace being peaceful.

People band together so supporting each other and helping each other makes sense. Some religions are founded on and practice helping others. They believe in helping those like us and those unlike us. Therefore, I return to The Golden Rule which I have come to believe is one of the most important concepts and practices we can embody. It truly is an incredible and important practice to begin to understand and apply.

‘Do unto others as you would have others do unto you’. Treat others the way you prefer to be treated. Hey, most all of us, dare I say, all of us, want love, acceptance, kindness, life, liberty, happiness and more good things. We want connection, we want health, wealth and well being. We want family and friends. We want meaning and a sense of significance.  We want to be liked. We want to be understood and loved.

what we project we perceive

We want to be important to each other. We don’t want isolation, rejection, fear, famine or  poverty. We want to mean something to each other, to have a sense of dignity and productivity. I think most people want these things. They want peace, joy and community.

So to treat each other this way first IS what the golden rule is about. What we think about we bring about so it begins with out thoughts. How we think about others is important! We need to think the best, the highest, the finest even when that may be most difficult. Why? BECAUSE that is what the golden rule is about.

YOU treat others HOW you want to be treated. What do you want? Do you want to be identified as unacceptable and as a less than desirable person? Do you want to be rejected, isolated devalued and discarded? DO you want to be treated in any of these ways? I doubt it. How we think about others IS important and it speaks volumes about who we are, what we believe and what we do or practice.

Everything ALL begins with out thoughts. What we think about we become. If we think less of others much of the time how are we helping anyone or anything be better? If we refuse to think positively about anyone or a situation how are we helping anyone or anything become better? We aren’t lifting anything up if we are busy in our minds tearing it down. So how we think and what we think IS critical!

What we say and do is equally important. We should make it a point to never say or do anything that doesn’t bless, heal or prosper ourselves and one another. If we keep this in mind we actively seek and work to better ourselves and those around us.

We can get more of we want by helping others get more of what they want and need. We work together to bring us all to a higher more respectable place. We work together peacefully to bring about peacefulness. Can you understand this? We only elevate the world when we think, speak and behave that way.

what u put out u attract

We concentrate on what we want to experience more of and then we help ourselves and each other have more of it. We make our lives and the world much more wonderful when we co-operative and help each other. True, some may resist your help, may not want your help, may resent your help but love them and embrace them and accept them even when they do. That is the higher road. Do not judge.

Perhaps, that is what is meant by ‘turn the other cheek’. When we are rebuffed, belittled, rejected, despised, hurt, attacked or abused maybe we should still find a way to forgive and love those who have done harm to us because when we are able to do that we are free. We are free to live and love others and ourselves without the baggage of vengeful thoughts. If we live hating others we contaminate our own experience. We need to find a higher way to think, and be and act that serves us in the most positive ways.

So some of the most powerful words you may speak to another person whether a close family member, friend, associate or stranger may be ‘How can I help you?’ People around us may be going through some tough times and the best way you may be able to demonstrate care, love, acceptance and support is to offer to help without judgement.

Wouldn’t you like it if someone offered assistance to you when times are tough AND they don’t judge you or make you feel less than glorious when doing so? Think ‘higher purpose’. Keep this in mind; what can I think, do and say that will bless, heal and prosper myself and others?

When you help others you do help yourself. Research demonstrates that helping others, giving back, paying forward can increase your own sense of purpose and overall self-satisfaction. When you freely volunteer to help without conditions or expecting payback you are uplifting your own soul. You can help those close to you and you can also choose to volunteer in your community or to a cause you feel is important.

Whenever you can relieve suffering of another person; a child, someone elderly, a friend or stranger it makes you feel good does it not? Doesn’t it make you feel better whenever you are able to relieve the suffering of an animal? Whenever you help to put s smile on another person’s face it makes you smile more, doesn’t it. You feel good when you help others feel good, don’t you?

what u put out u get back

According to Todd Farchione, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders he states that JUST offering to support someone is a good way to support them. ‘If you really want to help somebody, then the way you should go about it is to ask yourself if you can be supportive of the individual in a way that allows them to tell you about what they’re experiencing and why they may be experiencing that.’

So maybe the words, ‘Can I help you’ or “How can I support you in this’ are some of the most important words you can say. One of the most important things you can then DO is to LISTEN and absolutely accept what they say. DON’T argue, or instruct, or reject, don’t insist, simply listen, accept and take their side. Support them in the way they ask to be supported. If and when it is appropriate perhaps you can help in additional other ways.

I think most people WANT to be heard and understood. Sometimes they want to be accepted even when they act bizarre because they simply want someone to love and care for them anyway. So listen and respond to them and their actual needs and what they say they are.

Don’t project on them what you think they need or what they need to understand about their problem or issue. Accept and lift them up. After all, wouldn’t you want someone to approach you and accept you for who you are? Don’t you want someone who would listen carefully to you and support you because they care about you? Wouldn’t you prefer that they not judge you? I know I sure do.

I think we create a more loving, peaceful and wonderful world when we do this even in small ways. I do think it helps pay it forward and it contributes to everyone overall. The more we each take responsibility to live peacefully, lovingly, helpful, joyfully the more contagious good things become. The more we are able to contribute first to others unconditionally the more good things we create or generate. The big key is unconditional giving. No one likes stings attached to anything.

What we resist persists. Fighting war with war only makes more of the same. So the choice is each of ours to make. What do we want to create, attract and have more of? We know what we want to eliminate. We will eliminate it faster by attracting more of what we want  than by fighting what we don’t want.

The Golden Rule is a way we change the world person by person. We think, speak and act only in ways that bless, heal and prosper. When we do this we help others ANDt we help ourselves, immensely. We help everyone when we actively ‘go first’. When we live our lives with love and well being in our hearts we help make the world a much more enjoyable place. So live, love, laugh and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Not Feeling Successful? Do This And Succeed!

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“New Year always gets people motivated for awhile. Are you one of those who makes all sorts of vows only to find yourself keeping a few? Maybe none? Somewhere along the way you run out of steam or forget and give up. If that is what you have done in the past, so be it.

Accept it, and move on. Your past has nothing to do with your future. It really has nothing to do with your present. That was then and this is now. Decide it will be different and then learn easy ways of making that so.

One way to insure that you keep motivated and inspired in keeping your resolutions is to not bite off more than you can chew. Take it easy on yourself and do a little bit by bit. The way you eat an elephant is bite by bite. Many people just try to do too much too soon and they can’t accommodate it in their schedule. Remember, for your life to change you have to change some things in your life.

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A great definition of success is the steady progression toward accomplishing your goal. That means as long as you keep moving forward towards achieving what you want you are succeeding.!

Obviously, if you quit it ends there. So keep doing a little bit each day, each week and each month and you will be succeeding all along the way.  We succeed faster by doing a little bit consistently than to give a great burst and not do anything again for some time.

New Years sees lots of people hit the gyms. I am convinced that many people drop out for this reason alone. I know I used to do this. While there may be other reasons this one seems to be one that many do. They jump in and they hit the weights. They lift and lift. They add the weight. First day out. The second and third day their muscles burn from their first work out and they decide they need to lay off. Already they have interrupted the flow of their workout promise.

winners never quit

They do so because they try or they do too much too fast. Better to ease into it. Walk for a week or two. Try to do at least an hour of walking. Get your muscles used to moving. Maybe do a month.

Better to walk for an hour a day for a month than to work out a couple times and give up. Ease into it! Do less which in the long run can be a whole lot more. Maybe you can only do 20 minutes. Okay do 20 minutes that is better than nothing at all.

The same thing with loosing weight. People stop eating or overhaul their entire diet. Then they abandon it because it is too overwhelming. It is too difficult to keep up with it. Plus, they haven’t made any new habits that keep them going.

its a slow process but quitting wont speed it up

Better to eliminate one or two foods and add in one or two at a time. The idea is to build habits that support what you do. Habits take some time to develop. We build positive habits by routinely engaging in the correct behavior repeated over days, and weeks and months. As we do this we wire in the new behaviors. They become part of us.

If you focus on health and well being instead of loosing weight it is easier too. Then you can think and do those things bit by bit that are healthy to do. Overall you are improving, slowly but steadily. Remember in order to win the race you first have to run the race AND you have to finish the race. You can not quit anywhere along the way and expect to win.

YOU can win! You can succeed in making changes and doing anything new that you want to!  You will develop a positive habit as long as you make a steady progression toward achieving your goal. Stick with it and it is yours.

act as if you already have it

Mind set is 99% of your success. Your positive thoughts make a big difference. What you expect makes an incredible difference! If you expect to succeed you are on your way. Sadly, many people don’t expect good things.

They think something may come along and mess things up. Then when it does they exclaim, ‘I knew it!’ as if it is more important to be right about failing than to do what it takes to succeed. This is just plain silly. Take responsibility and accept no excuses.

Okay, if you are one of those then build a contingency plan into what you want to accomplish. An if/then flow chart. If this happens then this is how you will overcome it. Then stick with it. IF this other thing occurs then THIS  is how you will keep on course. Plan for success. Rehearse your success. This is an important piece to put into play.

success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out

Think positive!  Use the inner movie theater of your mind to see yourself as having already accomplished what you want to accomplish. See it as if it is already done. Notice the great feelings and thoughts you have as you live your dream. The best way to insure success is to rehearse it again and agin in your mind.

Live it. FEEL IT! See yourself as the change you want to become! When you do this you are pointing yourself in the direction you want to go in. You have set your destination and your unconscious servo-mechanism will help you in getting there. Feelings are the key to unlock the doorway  to your success. Feel great and life becomes great! Feel successful and you will be successful.

Remember, less is more! Better to take smalls steps toward what you want to do than to do a lot and quit before achieving it. It is better to take more time getting there than to not get there at all. Each step you take is a success you can claim because you are then actively in the process of making your dreams come true.

happiness depends on quality of your thoughts

When you feel yourself succeeding you will be successful! When you take the steps and feel positive and successful all along the way you are building a powerful, positive way to live.  Focus on what you want, positively handle any challenges along the way, and keep on keeping on!  Apply these principles in any area of you life. Anything you want to do in your playtime, your hobbies, sports, school, your career, your job, with your family, wealth creation, health, in your life you can make happen. You CAN do it. You WILL do it! Claim your own success. Make it happen!” Rex Sikes

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How To Handle Time Pressures Without Caving!

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“Does it sometimes seem like you are on an endless treadmill? Are there times when you just can’t wait until the day or week is over?  Do you sometimes feel rushed as if there is not enough time in the day to get everything you need to completed? We do react differently depending what we have going on or not going on. Often we may feel overwhelmed and stressed. Obviously, this is not good for our health and there is another way.

How we relate to time is a reflection of how we feel about our lives. The sayings ‘as above so below’ and ‘as within so without’, comes to mind. How we relate to what is going on outside mirrors what is going on inside. If we feel pressured outside it is because of our inner pressure and turmoil. The more we think and feel poorly the more we invite that to continue. Birds of a feather flock together. It is NOT going to change unless we change it!

While it is true you may have deadlines and you want to act to complete them, that pressure is only as good so long as it motivates you to get things done. Beyond that it gets in the way and adds stress. So if you feel that it helps you get started okay, use it. You don’t want to lose out, or get fired, or miss the opportunity.

Use the negative motivation to get moving. You know what you do not want. Once you know that decide what you do want. Then focus on what you want. Keep going but towards what you want!

In order to be more effective and live life more wonderfully it is important to learn to make the most of the time we have. We do this by appreciating little things. When we are grateful for the little things each moment we make better use of our time. When we are able to enjoy and savor the moments of the day as we get to the close of the day we feel much better. Time is a flow and we need to be in the flow. We need to enjoy the present instant. The more we enjoy THIS MOMENT the more moments overall we enjoy!

Yes, there are times when you will feel rushed. There are also times when you may feel bored or as if the day is just dragging on. When either of these happen you still have to be able to do what you need to do. How you do it is what makes the difference for you. In order to do it well and feel good you need to make a change in the moment.

what you allow is what will continue

Stop, take some breathes and decide how you want this day to go. Decide what you can do in this very moment to accomplish what you want to in the best frame of mind and while feeling well. The reason some people never make a change is because they don’t decide to make it different. Because we run on autopilot so much it doesn’t occur to them that it can be different. It does not occur to them that they can be different. It does not have to always be the same.

To not make any decision is to already have tacitly decided. It is agreeing to go along with whatever is. It is being a drifter of a victim to the outside pressures or circumstances. Once we decide and take control everything can change for the better! Make it a point to remember to decide how you want to spend your time. We only have so much while on this planet you might like to use it most wisely.

Stop, breath, decide how you can and will make the moment different. Decide how you want to feel now. Decide how you want to feel as you go through the remainder of the task and your day. Look for everything you can to appreciate in this moment. Really appreciate these! Feel it! Mental lists and reciting affirmations without feeling great feelings does little. It is our feelings that drive everything and that make a difference. Feel it! Feel your best!

If you need to take a short break and you are able to, do something that makes you feel better. Take a walk, hum a song, recite affirmations with enthusiasm, ask yourself powerful Directed Questions, help someone else, relax, do something enjoyable and when the break time is over get back on it with a renewed sense of well being.

The idea is to take a moment to deliberately change your feelings and thinking for the better. DO positive things that make you feel as good as you are able to. Everything is better when YOU feel better. Do it!

It is far better and easier to think clearly and get things accomplished well when you are feeling at your best. Many people discount their feelings or ignore them.  Stop it! Some people try to push them away. If you do this Stop! Others try to push through things while feeling stressed or less than glorious. Stop, don’t do that! Change how you think and feel instead! Change it, change it, change it! It is up to you!

The point of this brain, mind, feeling training is to have a more wonderful life. Life is not a big bunch of something nebulous, it is tiny moments we either mostly enjoy or we don’t. Find ways to make more of your moments wonderful and much more of your life becomes wonderful. It is all in the little things that the big things exist. Make the most of the mini-moments and all moments transform!

we are our choices

It is completely up to you. The big illusion, the big lie, the greatest deception is that it all comes from the outside. Yes, It does seem like that but that is not what is actually going on. It all begins within us. What matters is what we are doing on the inside.  We react to the outer world based on what we have going on in the inner world.

Thought precedes everything! It is our thoughts that determine how we enjoy each moment. What we think determines how we feel and vice versa. So we want to think only the very best and feel the very best! We can change all of it by changing what we think and feel first.

If you have never taken control of these processes then it might seem doubtful to you. That is because you have not experienced how it can be otherwise. How you experience each moment is determined by what you decide. You either decide you want it the best or you do nothing and it remains whatever it is. It is always, ONLY your choice, I hope you realize this.

Brain, mind, feeling training is about creating positive habits. Good habits that serve you instead of the ones that keep you running poorly. If you have never actively decided to make things better then now is the time. As you do this each day, because there are plenty of opportunities each day, each time you choose to be in control instead of a victim you are building a positive habit. Keep this in mind!

You begin by becoming aware, recognizing what is going on in the moment, what you are thinking and feeling that is not productive and you deliberately decide in this moment to change it. Then you take the steps to make it more to your liking. You keep doing it to maintain it. As you persist and consistently apply what you are learning you are building a powerful new positive habit that will soon become automatic. You are creating more of the life you want in doing this.

Begin now! Don’t delay, don’t put it off, don’t remain a victim, don’t drift and be pushed by the outer currents. Become the captain of your soul and the master of your fate. Make each moment meaningful and you determine how time flows. Take charge and enjoy much more of your time! Get a new lease on life today! ” Rex Sikes

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You Are Creators Act Like It! Start Getting What You Want.

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“Most people look around, see what is happening, and feel something about it in response. They let the present circumstances, people and events determine how they feel. They use their senses as evidence of the results they are getting. They think ‘I will believe it when I see it’.

Somehow  they think seeing  is not subject to deception but it is. All our senses leave information out, and can distort what is actually there. We trust too much in our perceptions which can be very wrong. They do deceive us often. Looking at circumstances is a mistake when you want to create something. You have to look at what you want to create instead.

For most people life happens to them and they react to it. They react out of habit.  As we grew up and life situations were repeated our brains hard wired the responses in. It did it to streamline them. We don’t have much  choice. We may be afraid of things we have nothing to fear. Our brains did a marvelous job though. We react similarly in fight, freeze or flight. We react similarly to positive stimuli too.

You are on automatic if when a good thing happens you feel good and when bad things happen and you feel bad.  So you break the cycle.  Instead of being a victim on automatic and looking around and letting the accompanying feelings dictate what we think, feel and do we NOW add awareness and choice.

you will see it when you believe it

Now instead you decide how you want to feel and then you look. In this way you have control. You don’t let the circumstances dictate, instead you choose your feelings and you dictate the circumstances. This is how we create something positive and productive. This is claiming your power.

For most people, maybe you, because you don’t see evidence of wealth you don’t believe it is coming to you. You see only lack, or debt or bills and wonder how you will every get out of it. You worry about it and hope for the best but know it is difficult. This is letting the results or the circumstances dictate your thinking and feeling. Keep in mind that like thoughts attract like thoughts. Birds of a feather flock together. You become what you think about.

You do not get out of debt and become wealthy thinking thoughts about being poor. To see improvement or get wealthy you need to be thinking thoughts or wealth, positive creation, having plenty and feeling grateful. Then you attract those.

This is true about anything you want! You don’t get healthy focused on sickness. You don’t get happy focused on sadness or distress. You don’t relax by thinking thoughts of worry. In order for you to get what you want you need to repeatedly focus on WHAT it is that you want!

It is the reverse that works. This is difficult for most people to understand and accept but it really is the key. Believe it and you will see the evidence. It works in the complete opposite to how we think it does. In order to have it you believe it first and then you will see it.

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Everything first exists as a thought. Thought precedes all human action. Nothing that was created by a human came into being prior to thinking it into being.  Believing precedes seeing! It is not as we were led to think about it. It is not see it and then believe it it is believe it first and then you will see it. Belief is faith in things unseen otherwise it is not faith at all. Faith and positive expectations make it happen!

So you create it in your mental movie theater. You see what you want to create and what you want to have. You make it vivid and detailed. Writing it down helps clarify. You get real clear about what you want to be, do or have in your life. You focus on it repeatedly, obsessively. You adjust it and enhance it and make it more real and more vivid so that you can taste it! You see it and feel it! Feeling it is important.

You see yourself already being, doing or having what it is you want. You see it already accomplished. It is yours and you are living it. You spend time each day as often as you can reviewing and living this reality. At least five minutes morning and night and any other time. This becomes your preoccupation your dominant thoughts that you think. When you spend this time you want to feel the best feelings! You want to feel how you would feel living this reality!

You have control and are in charge of yourself. Accept the responsibility. Be 100% at cause then the effects (the results) you create are your responsibility. Actually they always already were. You are always creating but you may not have liked the results you were getting. Now you take deliberate charge of the creation process and create what you DO want. YOU make it happen!

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You stay focused on your mental movies. You think the best positive thoughts throughout the day. You use your feelings as a signel for when you are on target and aligned. If you feel less than glorious it means somewhere inside you you are off track so find ways to make yourself feel better. They goal is to spend as much time each day feeling good.

Use the signal of your feelings to adjust. When you are feeling good you are on target with your goals and desires. You are manifesting good things when feeling good. Stay focused on gratitude in the past and present. Be grateful for everything, celebrate.

Learn from mistakes, and be grateful you can learn and grow. Fill your mind with positive inspirational material, books and audios. Hang around with positive productive people who are making their dreams come true. Become a positive powerful creative force and have fun and delight in all of it. Celebrate. Embrace it and relax. ENJOY!

Remember you are in charge of your vibrations. Whatever you put out in the universe you get back more of the same. Like attracts like, birds of a feather flock together. The reason you do not have more is because you look around, see what you have and what you don’t and feel bad. You attract more of the same lack and poor feelings.

what u put out u attract

When you use your eyes to determine your situation you are creating more of the same. You look at your present and accept it as your lot. You think I am tired of this, I want more I don’t want to be poor but you do not create wealth and well being by attracting more of what you do not want.

In order to attract wealth and well being you have to feel wealth and well being. You have to spend time feeling it! Feel wonderful and enjoying having wealth and well being and in response you attract more of the same. This is what your inner movie theater helps you do. You think it, see it, create it in your mind and have the feelings of what you want.

You see it and enjoy the feelings. Savor the feelings and do this repeatedly. Keep doing it. Your thoughts, feelings and words all congruently align with your desires. You stop resisting and you start making happen what you want to happen. You end the inner conflict, you end the mixed results and you start getting what you want. You attract resources, other people and situations.

You attract more abundance, more delight, more well being because like attracts like, birds of a feather flock together. You will reap whatever you have sown. What are you currently sowing? If you are focused on less than glorious circumstances and lack of wealth and well being you will get back much more of the same. Focus on what you really, really want instead. Make that happen. Create it!

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Keep your vibrations high. Keep them positive, joyful, glorious and you will have everything you want. Don’t dig up the seeds to insure they are growing. Forget looking at the current results. Have faith that what you plant you will reap. YOU WILL! Believe it and eventually you will see it! Everything takes time so during the time it takes focus on what you want.

Don’t seek evidence that what you are doing is working accept that it is and move forward. If you compare how far away you are from where you want to be you interrupt the process and get the mixed results. THIS is what you have always already been doing in the past. You have been looking for evidence. STOP IT! Believe and you will ultimately see. It may be hard at first but it gets easier and easier.

You open the way to have more because you enjoy and are thankful for all things. You sow you reap. You are where you thoughts have brought you.  You will be where your thoughts take you. It is time to take charge of your thoughts. Your future you will some day be your present. What do you want that present to be? Create it now!

Your feelings are your guidance system. If you feel less than glorious your thinking is less than glorious. If you are feeling wonderful your thoughts are positive and productive. Follow your bliss and bliss will fill you. You have no excuse you have created your life as it is. Accept it! That is the most powerful moment you can have.

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That moment when you totally and completely get it and accept that you are 100% responsible for everything in your life. is the moment your life can completely change. Yes, things happen from the outside but you react to them automatically. You have been making choices. You can’t escape your responsibility in all of this. You shouldn’t want to. The moment you completely accept it is the moment you begin to transform everything! It is your choice.

You accept and embrace your role as creator, you acknowledge that you have been good at creating what you don’t want, or mixed results and now you aim your creative powers at creating everything you do want. THIS is a powerful freeing moment! This is the start of a wonderful new way to be in the world. Reclaim you power and aim it productively. Don’t delay. Begin making your dreams come true this very moment.” Rex Sikes

This can be the start of a very good new day!

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Do This When You Want To Feel Good!

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“Are you ever down or lack energy? Does it seem that  sometimes your thoughts or feelings carry you where you don’t want to go? Have you tried to get ahead or feel better but you just keep getting more of the same?  If you answered yes to any of these questions you are not alone.

There are some things you can do that bring change about quickly. I have shared many of these with you in this blog. Please go back and read through the blog again and again as many great golden nuggets will leap out at you through multiple readings.

I have been discussing gratitude and feeling grateful is one of the quickest ways to changing how you feel for the better. You have to do it to get the change you can’t just give lip service to it. The way to feel grateful is to look at your present life and your past and find everything and everyone you are actually thankful for. It can be very tiny or very large. Everything counts! There are scores of things you take for granted. Go back and find these. What are they? You can write them down. That is a great practice.

What are the things you feel grateful for? Then notice WHY you are grateful for them. What are the reasons? This is an important piece. What and Why! You want to actually FEEL grateful and these help.

For example, ‘I am grateful for my feet. They have carried me near and far. All my life I have traveled and my feet have carried me and supported me. I would not have been able to do much or all of what I have done if I didn’t have feet that worked so well. They have taken me on adventures, gotten me in trouble, but I have seen and experienced so much because of my feet. My toes, the bones, the joints, the tissues. Everything about my feet I am thankful for.’

It can be anything! All your bodily processes, your muscles, your organs, your health and well being, you ability to think and remember, your ability to speak, see, hear, touch, taste, smell, read and write, The people in your life, good and bad, the lessons you have learned as a result of challenges. The challenges and opportunities that have helped make you who you are today. All events, situations and circumstances. Your things, where you have been. Your education or lack of it. EVERYTHING is available for you to list.

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It is important to be really thankful to feel it. Just reciting a list will not get you very far. Yes, it is better than not doing anything at all and it may be the grease that makes the wheel eventually move smoothly but the point is to ACTUALLY FEEL gratitude. So what are you grateful and why. Spend at least 5 minutes every morning when you first get up. Before your feet hit the floor count your blessings! It is a  great way to energize your day.

Too many people get out of bed dreading what the day may bring or that they have to be ending their sleep. Learn to greet the day with enthusiasm, with vim and vigor as they say! Get excited about what the new day will bring. After all it is an entirely new day. The only thing that keeps it the same as yesterday is our perceptions and routines. So shake them up add in some fun and some novelty and enjoy the new day. Feel better.

Do your five minutes gratitude prior to going to sleep, You are always welcome to do  for longer, but 5 minutes twice a day is practical for you. It is easy to accomodate.

Another thing you can do that we have discussed in past posts is to shift your physiology. Move your body into productive postures and movements. For example, You can stand up and imagine what you look like, stand like and move like when you have 5 times the amount of energy you presently have. Actually move your body, shake it up. You have to be willing to play to win so do it!

Then do 10 times, 20 and more. Move you body and walk around feeling the added energy. It is pretend but it works! When you move your body into the same physical arrangements as when you are feeling great you begin to feel great.  It is hardwired into your neurology. You can’t help but to begin to re-experience it!

If you want to be more confident stand with shoulders back, chest out, chin up look ahead, strut, stomp, walk and move, breath as someone who has lots of confident. Move and talk and act as you do when you do feel powerful and secure and confident in yourself! Do it. It is pretend but it works! You are behaving now as you do when you have had these feelings in the past. Any feeling you have is yours to re-live and make work for you.

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See yourself in your mind’s eye when you are filled with confidence and power and acting resourcefully. Listen to how you sound when you speak with authority and purpose. Feel the feelings as you look and listen. Feel the feelings as you do the behaviors of behaving with confidence and power. Notice how good it feels to actually do this.

Whenever you want to feel instantly better,stop what you are doing take a deep breath or two or three and shift you physiology. Really do it. Stand or sit as you would feeling better. Remember vividly times in your past when you felt good or felt great. Choose one and relive it in your mind and then try it on with your body and movements. Use your body and your voice the same way. Find other times too if you want. Re-live it.

You lived it your body knows it. Your brain knows it. You know it deep inside. So re-activate it. You re-create it inside and outside. You put it on as you would some clothes. You do it as an actor would do it. You re-live it and when you do, even in pretend, your brain and body bring back the feelings of feeling good. It is awesome and it is powerful!

You already do this, outside of conscious awareness, to feel good and not so good. Your body has body memory. Now, you are taking deliberate conscious control of a mechanism that already works reliably and you are aiming it at what you want instead. You are making it work for you by choice, by making a positive decision in the moment when you need it. You are taking charge of it!

After you have done it and have changed your feelings imagine other times in the future when you might want to feel better again. What would be the triggering thought, event or person that might make you feel less than glorious.? Run it in your imagination, see the triggering moment and then choose to feel better.

Watch yourself change it from less than resourceful into feeling what you want to feel instead. Run some of these movies in your head. Pick another two or three situations in your life and see you move from less than glorious to glorious. You are using what your body and mind already do purposely. You are learning to skillfully take charge of it and become more resourceful. This is another skill to be grateful for.

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Learn to run your brain and make it work for you!  Learn to take charge or your neurology to serve you. You make the decision and instruct your unconscious what you want to do. You keep doing it and you make it a habit.

You make a positive habit of deciding to act on you own behalf and transform your less than glorious moments into more glorious ones. Use it at every opportunity and even when you don’t need it in the moment. You can use it anytime you want to feel better.

Since your mind and body already know what to do all you have to do is steer it productively. The more you do this the easier and quicker it becomes. The more you make it a habit the more you will delight and surprise yourself.  You will discover  yourself more delighted and enjoying life overall. Correct repetition builds habits.

These are two very powerful, positive, productive ways you can instantly turn a less than glorious moment or feelings into better ones. They will not do you any good at all unless you actually do them. Remember, you can fake it till you make it but you have to engage the processes! The goal is to transform more of your moments in your day into feeling good moments.

You get what you predominantly think and feel during each day. When you are feeling wonderful and on top of the world your energy is higher and more positive. When you are living mostly in high frequency positive energy you attract and create more of the same.

You literally vibrate at a higher level. All good things can come to you when you  live in gratitude because true appreciation is one of the highest forms of energy. So make it a point to feel as good as you can any moment of the day. Even if it is not ecstatic the goal is to aim yourself into feeling better or as good as you can.

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Go for all the gusto you can AND keep in mind that you want to feel the best you can. It is not about plastering a fake greeting card smile on your face when times are tough. There are times when we may grieve or feel less than happy. These are true moments. Accept that.

In these times make it a point to help yourself feel a little bit better. Baby steps are fine and may be all you can seem to take. The goal is not to feel worse so if you try to make to big a leap into feeling wonderful and you don’t feel it. Stop.

Stop and take some deep breaths, take a nap, a break, and later, a little while later, make a smaller move towards feeling better. This is still making it work for you because you are gently aiming your energy in a more positive direction. So there may be times like this. Most of the time you can move forward into feeling incredible.

When every fiber of your being lives in a state of appreciation for whatever is in your life, good and bad, because YOU KNOW that even the bad has seeds of opportunity YOU are living well. YOU are able to see opportunity you otherwise might not, you feel incredible, you attract and create all good things. Birds of a feather flock together. Like attracts like. You become what you think about. Do these things. If you haven’t already started begin today. You will transform your life when you do!” Rex Sikes

Have a wonderful fun filled day!

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Here’s How You Can Instantly Change How You Feel!

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“It is important to fill our minds with positive thoughts and possibilities. It is good practice to listen to those who can inspire and motivate us to move forward and make our lives the way we want them to be. We can read, listen to audio, spend time with positive mentors and others who help us in our positive pursuits.

We need to celebrate more, enjoy and delight, feel grateful most of the time. Never let anything stop us from legitimately making our dreams a reality. Persist and keep going. We only fail when we stop attempting.  Here’s some food for thought for your daily nutrition.

Michael Jordan points out, ‘I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.’

Considered one of the all time greats in basketball he states he succeeded because he failed over and over. Michael did not give up.

Failure is an important part of succeeding. It teaches us what we need to do. It shows us when we are aimed in the wrong direction. It allows us to stop and start again with new useful information. Don’t fear failure but embrace it. Accept that it is feedback for us to actually move forward.

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Ellen DeGeneres states, ‘When you take risks you learn that there will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail, and both are equally important.’

We have to face our fears and keep on moving. One of the great military generals of the U.S. shared what to do about fears we encounter. George S. Patton stated ‘ The time to take counsel of your fears is before you make an important battle decision. That’s the time to listen to every fear you can imagine! When you have collected all the facts and fears and made your decision, turn off all your fears and go ahead!’  He points out that we will have fears but we should not be a victim of them.

There will always be people who think we are fanciful. There will be those who say no to us. We can not let nay sayers prevent us from being who we are and accomplishing what we want to accomplish. ‘I am thankful for all of those who said NO to me. It’s because of them I’m doing it myself,’  said Albert Einstein. Don’t let people rain on your parade. You can be respectful and move forward anyway.

Jack Canfield,the author of ‘Chicken Soup of The Soul’ series gives this powerful advice. ‘Don’t worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try.’

In order for your life to change you have to change some things. You will miss out if you don’t ever try So don’t worry about failing. Be worried about not ever attempting to do anything!

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For most people it is small changes made at the right time and consistently applied that gives them the most leverage. Thinking better, feeling better, acting with passion are things we can begin to do today to make our lives measurably better. One of the most potent formulas for instantaneous change is: Fill your mind and being with gratitude!

Celebrate everything you have, the abilities you have no matter how small; seeing, hearing, tasting, smelling, feeling, walking, reading, writing. Celebrate the people in your life you love, family, friends, and others. Celebrate anything and everything. Fill your mind with thankfulness and your life begins to immediately transform.

You attract what you think and feel most of through the day. When you feel alive, passionate, joyful, happy, thankful you attract more of the same! You attract whatever you predominantly think about.

So today make it a point to begin feeling and thinking happy thoughts filled with appreciation. Remember, it is important to feel good, as best you can and you will get more good feelings. Birds of a feather flock together.

For those who feel really down, the goal is to begin to feel a little bit better. Move incrementally, take baby steps toward feeling more positive by finding those elements and people and situations in your life, present and past that you are glad about.

Remember all that you feel thankful about and remember all the reasons WHY you are grateful. You will change. You will begin to change. Make it a daily practice. Write them down, think about them any moment you feel less than glorious. Fill yourself with gratefulness!

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If you are feeling down change your thinking to ANYTHING else that you are grateful about. Recount your blessings and consider WHY you are blessed. In a few seconds, less than 20 seconds, your mind and being can begin to shift.  Stay with it. Do it for a minute or more. As you do it and feel the shift you will want to stay with it.

It doesn’t take much to make the shift happen. Bathe yourself in gratitude and well being. Linger in the better feelings and as you do you continue to attract much more. Can you spend at least 5 minutes morning and night? When you do great things can begin to happen. Make it a habit and overall your life will wonderfully improve.

ANYTIME, really ANYTIME you catch yourself feeling less than glorious or negative, STOP, notice it, take a deep breath, let it out slowly and begin to look for things  in your life you are grateful for. You only miss out if you don’t ever do it. So do it today and transform your being and your life.” Rex Sikes

Create something wonderful today!

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Fake It Till You Make It

its a slow process but quitting wont speed it up

“Most of us are conditioned to wait for things in life. That is not a bad thing because it is true that things take time. When you plant a seed in the earth you must wait the appropriate timespan for it to develop and then break ground and grow. Things just take time. So be patient. While waiting, however, you can put into practice something that will help you spend the time much better and get you what you want while waiting.

Most of us believe we feel the way we do because of current circumstances. We think we feel the way we do because of what is happening in our lives or what is not happening. Consider for a moment that perhaps it is exactly the other way around. What if what happens in our life is because of how we feel? I keep reminding you that ‘we get and we become what we think about predominantly.’

That which presently occupies our minds and our hearts determines our results. This is the wisdom of the ancients as well as current researchers, philosophers and self-help leaders. What fills our mind determines our reality. How we feel determines how we experience the present. We can do an exercise to make things much better whenever we want it to be.

Researchers know  that by shifting our physiology and changing our thoughts we can change our mental and physical states. If we stand and move and act and think and speak like we have more energy, more confidence, more happiness, more power we actually get more of those right then. Instantly. When we behave as if we already have it we actually have it.

Out bodies have  positive states wired in. They have less than glorious ones wired in too. Whenever you want to change how you feel adopt the physical stance and movements you feel when you are in a positive state. Adopt the physiology of feeling resourceful and well-being. You will experience the feelings of the physiology you adopt.

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It actually is quite simple. You change your breathing to what it is like when you are feeling confident, for example. Put your shoulders back, your chest out your chin up, Strut and move as someone filled with confidence. Speak with authority. Pretend.  You ACT AS IF you are confident right now and you will be. You actually will become more confident. It is hardwired into your being as a human. It works!

Keep doing it. Move, walk, sit, and go through your routines behaving this way. Take a walk down the street. Spend time ‘acting as if’ you are exactly what you want to be feeling and enjoy feeling it. Don’t be skimpy be lavish with yourself. Keep it up, do it throughout the day.

You fake it till you make it! The more you try on the positive feelings like a set of brand new clothes the more you make a habit of taking charge and changing your feelings for the better. If it wears off and you want more of it do it again. Go for all the gusto you can.

You can use this to wake up and get over feeling tired, You can use it to relax and unwind and go to sleep. You can use it to feel safe, happy, peaceful, confident, excited, secure, outgoing, anything you want to. For those one or two who claim they may not have ever had a certain feeling but want one then pretend to be the way you have seen others act. Be an actor and do what they do.

Use positive role models as examples. Act as if you have what they have. Try it on like a new set of clothes. Have fun, pretend, enjoy!  As kids we learned by pretending so keep using this valuable approach to learning important behavioral skills. The more you do it the more you have available to you. It gets easier and you get better at it.

believe it to receive it

Instead of excuses use your time well and feel wonderful whenever you want. If you want to change your life you have to change some of the things you are doing. You take charge and responsibility to making things happen. If you want to be more successful, wealthy, healthy, and happy then pretend to be in your mind. Imagine you already are! Use your inner world too!

Live it on the inside because as you do you inform your unconscious that this is what you want to experience. You align your thoughts and behaviors with being how you want to be. You focus on what you want and will make happen instead of the circumstances in the present. Fill your being with the best inside and you will get the best outside. You will be better equipped to handle anything when your mental frame of mind is powerful. Fake it till you make it!

Utilize your inner movie theater to rehearse success, happiness, confidence, peace, whatever it is you want more of. See your self being and feeling and speaking and thinking and doing how and what you want to be, as if you already are. That is what ‘act as if’ is about. Rehearsal. So rehearse, rehearse, rehearse, rehearse and have fun!

Everyone knows the benefit of rehearsal; actors, athletes, speakers, surgeons, and others. We have plenty of research that proves you can rehearse outside in real life AND inside your head to enhance and accelerate wiring in the skills. You get better faster when you use your mind to make it real. Think inner golf, inner tennis some of those very successful programs that work!

Steer yourself through the present into what you want by maintaining your focus on your target. Use everything I have shared in this and previous blogs and you will accelerate your abilities to achieve your desires. While traveling to your destination you will make the journey most enjoyable. There is no reason to wait to feel better. Get the upper hand on what is happening by taking charge of what you think, feel and do! You will be delighted.” Rex Sikes

May your day be magical!

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No Failure Only Feedback!

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Have you ever been faced with a particularly rough challenge? Have you tried some things that didn’t work out back when  you tried them? Have you felt defeated in your past? When things got difficult what did you do?

It is important to understand that everyone faces trials and tribulations. That may not be much of a consolation but it is true. Tough times come and tough times go. When you encounter tough times you might be better served if you remember thoughts like ‘diamonds are created by massive pressure’, or ‘through chaos stars are born’.

Mind set is an important component of successfully navigating difficulty. Mindset is your attitude, beliefs and perceptions. What you think and feels determines MUCH of the outcome. The more you are positive the more you are powerful and able.

Every successful person has had difficulty. Some face seemingly insurmountable odds. For some true disaster preceded their success. That just seems to be the way things go. Perhaps, that is why common wisdom has stated, ‘It is always darkest before the dawn’.

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When faced with challenge it is important to be flexible and adjust the plan (if you want) but do not give up on the goal if it is important to you. Maybe this is why it is said, ‘If at first you don’t succeed try, try again.’ ‘Those who win finish the race’. ‘Winners never quit and Quitters never win.’

Once you have have made mistakes it is important to examine them. Do not blame or judge yourself in any way.  You did the best you could with the information or tools you had at the time. Accept whatever  you did, what happened, whatever outcome you got and stay open. Examine the mistake for the learning opportunity contained in it. Look for the hidden wisdom. Discover new resources!

If you did something wrong, forgive yourself. If you hurt someone else seek forgiveness. Make amends. Don’t repeat the mistake is an important component in gaining resolve. Have integrity and take responsibility! Be trustworthy!

Don’t lose the lesson just because things didn’t work out as you hoped. Find it! Keep moving. Keep the faith! Do not give up because it has not yet worked out. Failure is feedback for what you need to now to make it work. Feedback is important for us all to evolve and grow positively. Feedback is what allows you to course correct.

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Don’t let the wind come out of your sails. Gather your resources and go at it again with the new information and a renewed spirit. This process is more important that actually succeeding right from the gate. Too early or too easy success spoils a person. They only learn one way.

One method at some point is bound to fail. It is best to have numerous ways to succeed. We should seek is lots of feedback, correction and resourcefulness. Feedback gives up alternative avenues to be more successful.  Appreciate feedback at every opportunity. Be grateful for errors and for the learning. When you can truly appreciate all that happens then you are really learning and moving forward positively!” Rex Sikes

Discover the delight in this day!

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This Separates The Haves From The HaveNots!

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“Most successful, wealthy people are different from the rest. They think and do things differently from the masses.  It is what they think and do that puts them ahead of others. The good news is you can begin to think and behave as they do and start discovering more success for yourself.

Those who are able to make wealth and keep it know that they do not know everything. They understand that so they surround themselves with others who have different methods and approaches for accumulating wealth and success.  The recognize the value in keeping others, who may be smarter and wiser, near them. They keep other successful people close! They have mentors. They are always on the lookout for opportunity and better, new approaches.

The wisest of those who succeed know that they may encounter ideas and practices that conflict with theirs. They know it is important to be adaptable and flexible and not take themselves too seriously. If they make a mistake they are willing to correct it. They do not pass the buck. They learn from their ‘mastermind’ group of mentors and advisors. They pick up and move on letting nothing deter them.

The masses often think they know the way. They believe they can handle it on their own. They tend to work alone and don’t have the benefit of wise successful consultants. If they do the people they associate with are typically in the same situation as they are. The don’t change much. They plug along as they learned they should. Often they work from antiquated maps of reality.They defend themselves and blame others  when mistakes are true. They may give up when it gets too hard.

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Obviously, there are some on both sides that do not fit these generalizations but there are enough to make these elements poignant.

If you want success in any area; health, wealth, well-being and happiness you need to be willing to be flexible and not rigid. You should develop a successful mindset (your thoughts, beliefs and perceptions). Remember, a belief is really only a thought you think over and again. Develop a set of success habits that automatically support you  in where you want to go. Surround yourself with people who can inspire, stimulate, and wisely advise you. Chose wisely!

In this blog website I have posted other critical elements that separate the successful from the not so successful. Go back and read through the posts and start putting these powerful practices into play. Make a study of it . Embrace these principle and you will be amazed at what you can accomplish. If you want your life to change you have to change things in your life.” Rex Sikes

May your day be joyful and filled with love.

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You’ll Get It Back When You Give It Away

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“Somehow people have forgotten. Perhaps, they don’t know. Maybe they were brought up and have never heard, It is as true and needed today as it has always been. We should not ignore it but we should implement it in principle and practice. It makes a huge difference and creates many wonderful things.

The principle is ‘With great power comes great responsibility’. When you have more power you can do more. You can be more. So it is only natural to give the power and the benefits back. The more power one has the more accountable one is. The more one can do the more one should do. The more wealth one has the more one can share. The more one knows the more one can teach. If you know the way let others in on it.

Too many have made this a struggle between people and over resources. The greedy mind. If you perceive lack you will fight to keep whatever you have and try to get more. If you perceive plenty you can have all you want, allow others what they want, and even help to distribute it.

It is true some have plenty and prevent others from getting any. There are many in the world who have been living this way. Still there are those with much less who feel wealthy in various ways who give and continue to. Attitude and beliefs determine how you live in the world. It is long known that happiness is not dependent on things but on mental attitude. Happiness is a matter of one’s thinking and feeling. It is a matter of one’s spirit.

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A great way to feel happier is to help others find happiness. There are plenty in the world who need a kind word, a favor, a gift, help, or some support. There are people who need food, shelter, and other people to connect with. Please do not let the cruelty and selfishness of some make it harder for the many in need.

Give from your spirit and your heart. This is true year round but especially during holiday seasons. It might be someone in your own family who needs extra care, a child, a neighbor or someone in your community. It might be a friend, co-worker or even a stranger. It might be a person in a nursing home, hospital, shelter or someone homeless .

Take some time the rest of this year to see what you can do from your heart to help. Make a difference for someone and you will make a difference for you.

When you help others it changes things in you while helping change things for them. Both transform. You will feel touched, happier and more well being. Share your love, peace, kindness and blessing!” Rex Sikes

You have a gift! it’s called today.

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