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Power Words: How Can I Help You?

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“The longer I have lived and the more I have experienced the more I realize that being there for one another is what living is all about. We look for meaning and purpose. We have been called ‘meaning makers’ and ‘time binders’ by anthropologists. We seek inside ourselves and outside ourselves for ‘something’ greater.

We have our sciences, our stories, our philosophies, our religions to inform us and comfort us. Few of us successfully live alone and solitary confinement is considered a very cruel inhumane form of punishment. Why might these things be so?

Because we as a species band together. From earliest times of bands and tribes and groups we form ties and have worked, played, loved and moved together. With the  rise industrial revolution people began to leave their clans, their burrows, their neighborhoods, travel far and seek employment and their dreams in other neighborhoods. From one place to another place they journeyed. Landing in a new area they formed new ties. Cities grew larger.

So what am I getting at with all this? We are social creatures. We can’t really live well without one another. It is true that we seek out our own kind; we group by race, religion, economics, politics and a few other factors.

We ostracize by these same factors. We gather, support, defend based on mostly mentally manufactured distinctions. ‘They look the same as me’ okay part of my group. They look different not part of my group. ‘They think the same as me’; my group. They think otherwise, not part of my group. And on and on.

People do categorize each other as part of the ‘in group’, or not. This is unfortunate that as a people we have not all successfully learned to get along and accommodate our differences. Still, it is the current way of the world. We have to learn how to live together without prejudices and looking for those elements that could separate us. We need to seek harmony, acceptance, and embrace our differences.

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I think we can move toward embracing all and become one people, one world even if there is a lot of resistance toward that from various mindsets. The world is still divided and may be for sometime or forever. My point is we band together. Like groups attract like groups. We don’t live alone. We need each other and we seek each other out and form ties.

Since we need each other one of the most powerful ways to create strong ties IS to assist each other. When we help each other we grow closer to each other.We create bond. Not only is that important but when you or I help another person learn to do something, overcome a difficulty or accomplish something important to them we not only help THAT person but we help ourselves too! We grow together independently. We make them and we make ourselves feel better!

There are those in the world who don’t want to help. They want to own, to have and to protect what they claim is theirs and ostracize and blame others. I get that. I don’t think that helps them live more wonderful lives but I get their reasoning. I can empathize with their thinking and their potential fears.

I also think and believe and operate from ‘what we think about we bring about’. The more we fear the more we have to fear and are more fearful. The more we love and accept the more we have to love and accept. I do not believe we have a more peaceful world by engaging in more wars. We have a more peaceful world when we all embrace being peaceful.

People band together so supporting each other and helping each other makes sense. Some religions are founded on and practice helping others. They believe in helping those like us and those unlike us. Therefore, I return to The Golden Rule which I have come to believe is one of the most important concepts and practices we can embody. It truly is an incredible and important practice to begin to understand and apply.

‘Do unto others as you would have others do unto you’. Treat others the way you prefer to be treated. Hey, most all of us, dare I say, all of us, want love, acceptance, kindness, life, liberty, happiness and more good things. We want connection, we want health, wealth and well being. We want family and friends. We want meaning and a sense of significance.  We want to be liked. We want to be understood and loved.

what we project we perceive

We want to be important to each other. We don’t want isolation, rejection, fear, famine or  poverty. We want to mean something to each other, to have a sense of dignity and productivity. I think most people want these things. They want peace, joy and community.

So to treat each other this way first IS what the golden rule is about. What we think about we bring about so it begins with out thoughts. How we think about others is important! We need to think the best, the highest, the finest even when that may be most difficult. Why? BECAUSE that is what the golden rule is about.

YOU treat others HOW you want to be treated. What do you want? Do you want to be identified as unacceptable and as a less than desirable person? Do you want to be rejected, isolated devalued and discarded? DO you want to be treated in any of these ways? I doubt it. How we think about others IS important and it speaks volumes about who we are, what we believe and what we do or practice.

Everything ALL begins with out thoughts. What we think about we become. If we think less of others much of the time how are we helping anyone or anything be better? If we refuse to think positively about anyone or a situation how are we helping anyone or anything become better? We aren’t lifting anything up if we are busy in our minds tearing it down. So how we think and what we think IS critical!

What we say and do is equally important. We should make it a point to never say or do anything that doesn’t bless, heal or prosper ourselves and one another. If we keep this in mind we actively seek and work to better ourselves and those around us.

We can get more of we want by helping others get more of what they want and need. We work together to bring us all to a higher more respectable place. We work together peacefully to bring about peacefulness. Can you understand this? We only elevate the world when we think, speak and behave that way.

what u put out u attract

We concentrate on what we want to experience more of and then we help ourselves and each other have more of it. We make our lives and the world much more wonderful when we co-operative and help each other. True, some may resist your help, may not want your help, may resent your help but love them and embrace them and accept them even when they do. That is the higher road. Do not judge.

Perhaps, that is what is meant by ‘turn the other cheek’. When we are rebuffed, belittled, rejected, despised, hurt, attacked or abused maybe we should still find a way to forgive and love those who have done harm to us because when we are able to do that we are free. We are free to live and love others and ourselves without the baggage of vengeful thoughts. If we live hating others we contaminate our own experience. We need to find a higher way to think, and be and act that serves us in the most positive ways.

So some of the most powerful words you may speak to another person whether a close family member, friend, associate or stranger may be ‘How can I help you?’ People around us may be going through some tough times and the best way you may be able to demonstrate care, love, acceptance and support is to offer to help without judgement.

Wouldn’t you like it if someone offered assistance to you when times are tough AND they don’t judge you or make you feel less than glorious when doing so? Think ‘higher purpose’. Keep this in mind; what can I think, do and say that will bless, heal and prosper myself and others?

When you help others you do help yourself. Research demonstrates that helping others, giving back, paying forward can increase your own sense of purpose and overall self-satisfaction. When you freely volunteer to help without conditions or expecting payback you are uplifting your own soul. You can help those close to you and you can also choose to volunteer in your community or to a cause you feel is important.

Whenever you can relieve suffering of another person; a child, someone elderly, a friend or stranger it makes you feel good does it not? Doesn’t it make you feel better whenever you are able to relieve the suffering of an animal? Whenever you help to put s smile on another person’s face it makes you smile more, doesn’t it. You feel good when you help others feel good, don’t you?

what u put out u get back

According to Todd Farchione, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders he states that JUST offering to support someone is a good way to support them. ‘If you really want to help somebody, then the way you should go about it is to ask yourself if you can be supportive of the individual in a way that allows them to tell you about what they’re experiencing and why they may be experiencing that.’

So maybe the words, ‘Can I help you’ or “How can I support you in this’ are some of the most important words you can say. One of the most important things you can then DO is to LISTEN and absolutely accept what they say. DON’T argue, or instruct, or reject, don’t insist, simply listen, accept and take their side. Support them in the way they ask to be supported. If and when it is appropriate perhaps you can help in additional other ways.

I think most people WANT to be heard and understood. Sometimes they want to be accepted even when they act bizarre because they simply want someone to love and care for them anyway. So listen and respond to them and their actual needs and what they say they are.

Don’t project on them what you think they need or what they need to understand about their problem or issue. Accept and lift them up. After all, wouldn’t you want someone to approach you and accept you for who you are? Don’t you want someone who would listen carefully to you and support you because they care about you? Wouldn’t you prefer that they not judge you? I know I sure do.

I think we create a more loving, peaceful and wonderful world when we do this even in small ways. I do think it helps pay it forward and it contributes to everyone overall. The more we each take responsibility to live peacefully, lovingly, helpful, joyfully the more contagious good things become. The more we are able to contribute first to others unconditionally the more good things we create or generate. The big key is unconditional giving. No one likes stings attached to anything.

What we resist persists. Fighting war with war only makes more of the same. So the choice is each of ours to make. What do we want to create, attract and have more of? We know what we want to eliminate. We will eliminate it faster by attracting more of what we want  than by fighting what we don’t want.

The Golden Rule is a way we change the world person by person. We think, speak and act only in ways that bless, heal and prosper. When we do this we help others ANDt we help ourselves, immensely. We help everyone when we actively ‘go first’. When we live our lives with love and well being in our hearts we help make the world a much more enjoyable place. So live, love, laugh and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Cross Something Off Your Bucket List

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Do it! You know you want to. So Do it! Stop procrastinating and actually do it. Cross something off your bucket list. Stop making excuses and find the way and the means to do something you have always wanted to do. Your bucket list are the things you want to do so go and do them. At least cross one item off the list real soon!

Don’t waste any more time. You will only have less time as days go on. You will only be older so the time is now. Pick that something positive you really want to experience and experience it. For goodness sakes how long will you keep putting it off in the future? Stop and make it happen now.

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Sometimes the he hardest part of doing anything is starting. Do not let that stop you or prevent you from enjoying a highlight. Make the commitment to begin. It only takes a couple of minutes at most to get going with it. Plan it, organize it, do whatever you can to cross a delightful item off your bucket list. Stop waiting and start doing.

Once you begin you will be surprised by how much further along you will be. You can delight in your progress toward making it happen. As it gets closer and closer you can enjoy the enthusiasm, the eagerness, that comes with knowing it IS going to happen.

Live well, have fun and delight yourself. This is something special for you. Make the decision to accomplish it this year. You will be glad you did. Because after all the person who waits to make their dreams come true – waits.” Rex Sikes

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Not Feeling Successful? Do This And Succeed!

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“New Year always gets people motivated for awhile. Are you one of those who makes all sorts of vows only to find yourself keeping a few? Maybe none? Somewhere along the way you run out of steam or forget and give up. If that is what you have done in the past, so be it.

Accept it, and move on. Your past has nothing to do with your future. It really has nothing to do with your present. That was then and this is now. Decide it will be different and then learn easy ways of making that so.

One way to insure that you keep motivated and inspired in keeping your resolutions is to not bite off more than you can chew. Take it easy on yourself and do a little bit by bit. The way you eat an elephant is bite by bite. Many people just try to do too much too soon and they can’t accommodate it in their schedule. Remember, for your life to change you have to change some things in your life.

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A great definition of success is the steady progression toward accomplishing your goal. That means as long as you keep moving forward towards achieving what you want you are succeeding.!

Obviously, if you quit it ends there. So keep doing a little bit each day, each week and each month and you will be succeeding all along the way.  We succeed faster by doing a little bit consistently than to give a great burst and not do anything again for some time.

New Years sees lots of people hit the gyms. I am convinced that many people drop out for this reason alone. I know I used to do this. While there may be other reasons this one seems to be one that many do. They jump in and they hit the weights. They lift and lift. They add the weight. First day out. The second and third day their muscles burn from their first work out and they decide they need to lay off. Already they have interrupted the flow of their workout promise.

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They do so because they try or they do too much too fast. Better to ease into it. Walk for a week or two. Try to do at least an hour of walking. Get your muscles used to moving. Maybe do a month.

Better to walk for an hour a day for a month than to work out a couple times and give up. Ease into it! Do less which in the long run can be a whole lot more. Maybe you can only do 20 minutes. Okay do 20 minutes that is better than nothing at all.

The same thing with loosing weight. People stop eating or overhaul their entire diet. Then they abandon it because it is too overwhelming. It is too difficult to keep up with it. Plus, they haven’t made any new habits that keep them going.

its a slow process but quitting wont speed it up

Better to eliminate one or two foods and add in one or two at a time. The idea is to build habits that support what you do. Habits take some time to develop. We build positive habits by routinely engaging in the correct behavior repeated over days, and weeks and months. As we do this we wire in the new behaviors. They become part of us.

If you focus on health and well being instead of loosing weight it is easier too. Then you can think and do those things bit by bit that are healthy to do. Overall you are improving, slowly but steadily. Remember in order to win the race you first have to run the race AND you have to finish the race. You can not quit anywhere along the way and expect to win.

YOU can win! You can succeed in making changes and doing anything new that you want to!  You will develop a positive habit as long as you make a steady progression toward achieving your goal. Stick with it and it is yours.

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Mind set is 99% of your success. Your positive thoughts make a big difference. What you expect makes an incredible difference! If you expect to succeed you are on your way. Sadly, many people don’t expect good things.

They think something may come along and mess things up. Then when it does they exclaim, ‘I knew it!’ as if it is more important to be right about failing than to do what it takes to succeed. This is just plain silly. Take responsibility and accept no excuses.

Okay, if you are one of those then build a contingency plan into what you want to accomplish. An if/then flow chart. If this happens then this is how you will overcome it. Then stick with it. IF this other thing occurs then THIS  is how you will keep on course. Plan for success. Rehearse your success. This is an important piece to put into play.

success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out

Think positive!  Use the inner movie theater of your mind to see yourself as having already accomplished what you want to accomplish. See it as if it is already done. Notice the great feelings and thoughts you have as you live your dream. The best way to insure success is to rehearse it again and agin in your mind.

Live it. FEEL IT! See yourself as the change you want to become! When you do this you are pointing yourself in the direction you want to go in. You have set your destination and your unconscious servo-mechanism will help you in getting there. Feelings are the key to unlock the doorway  to your success. Feel great and life becomes great! Feel successful and you will be successful.

Remember, less is more! Better to take smalls steps toward what you want to do than to do a lot and quit before achieving it. It is better to take more time getting there than to not get there at all. Each step you take is a success you can claim because you are then actively in the process of making your dreams come true.

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When you feel yourself succeeding you will be successful! When you take the steps and feel positive and successful all along the way you are building a powerful, positive way to live.  Focus on what you want, positively handle any challenges along the way, and keep on keeping on!  Apply these principles in any area of you life. Anything you want to do in your playtime, your hobbies, sports, school, your career, your job, with your family, wealth creation, health, in your life you can make happen. You CAN do it. You WILL do it! Claim your own success. Make it happen!” Rex Sikes

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How To Handle Time Pressures Without Caving!

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“Does it sometimes seem like you are on an endless treadmill? Are there times when you just can’t wait until the day or week is over?  Do you sometimes feel rushed as if there is not enough time in the day to get everything you need to completed? We do react differently depending what we have going on or not going on. Often we may feel overwhelmed and stressed. Obviously, this is not good for our health and there is another way.

How we relate to time is a reflection of how we feel about our lives. The sayings ‘as above so below’ and ‘as within so without’, comes to mind. How we relate to what is going on outside mirrors what is going on inside. If we feel pressured outside it is because of our inner pressure and turmoil. The more we think and feel poorly the more we invite that to continue. Birds of a feather flock together. It is NOT going to change unless we change it!

While it is true you may have deadlines and you want to act to complete them, that pressure is only as good so long as it motivates you to get things done. Beyond that it gets in the way and adds stress. So if you feel that it helps you get started okay, use it. You don’t want to lose out, or get fired, or miss the opportunity.

Use the negative motivation to get moving. You know what you do not want. Once you know that decide what you do want. Then focus on what you want. Keep going but towards what you want!

In order to be more effective and live life more wonderfully it is important to learn to make the most of the time we have. We do this by appreciating little things. When we are grateful for the little things each moment we make better use of our time. When we are able to enjoy and savor the moments of the day as we get to the close of the day we feel much better. Time is a flow and we need to be in the flow. We need to enjoy the present instant. The more we enjoy THIS MOMENT the more moments overall we enjoy!

Yes, there are times when you will feel rushed. There are also times when you may feel bored or as if the day is just dragging on. When either of these happen you still have to be able to do what you need to do. How you do it is what makes the difference for you. In order to do it well and feel good you need to make a change in the moment.

what you allow is what will continue

Stop, take some breathes and decide how you want this day to go. Decide what you can do in this very moment to accomplish what you want to in the best frame of mind and while feeling well. The reason some people never make a change is because they don’t decide to make it different. Because we run on autopilot so much it doesn’t occur to them that it can be different. It does not occur to them that they can be different. It does not have to always be the same.

To not make any decision is to already have tacitly decided. It is agreeing to go along with whatever is. It is being a drifter of a victim to the outside pressures or circumstances. Once we decide and take control everything can change for the better! Make it a point to remember to decide how you want to spend your time. We only have so much while on this planet you might like to use it most wisely.

Stop, breath, decide how you can and will make the moment different. Decide how you want to feel now. Decide how you want to feel as you go through the remainder of the task and your day. Look for everything you can to appreciate in this moment. Really appreciate these! Feel it! Mental lists and reciting affirmations without feeling great feelings does little. It is our feelings that drive everything and that make a difference. Feel it! Feel your best!

If you need to take a short break and you are able to, do something that makes you feel better. Take a walk, hum a song, recite affirmations with enthusiasm, ask yourself powerful Directed Questions, help someone else, relax, do something enjoyable and when the break time is over get back on it with a renewed sense of well being.

The idea is to take a moment to deliberately change your feelings and thinking for the better. DO positive things that make you feel as good as you are able to. Everything is better when YOU feel better. Do it!

It is far better and easier to think clearly and get things accomplished well when you are feeling at your best. Many people discount their feelings or ignore them.  Stop it! Some people try to push them away. If you do this Stop! Others try to push through things while feeling stressed or less than glorious. Stop, don’t do that! Change how you think and feel instead! Change it, change it, change it! It is up to you!

The point of this brain, mind, feeling training is to have a more wonderful life. Life is not a big bunch of something nebulous, it is tiny moments we either mostly enjoy or we don’t. Find ways to make more of your moments wonderful and much more of your life becomes wonderful. It is all in the little things that the big things exist. Make the most of the mini-moments and all moments transform!

we are our choices

It is completely up to you. The big illusion, the big lie, the greatest deception is that it all comes from the outside. Yes, It does seem like that but that is not what is actually going on. It all begins within us. What matters is what we are doing on the inside.  We react to the outer world based on what we have going on in the inner world.

Thought precedes everything! It is our thoughts that determine how we enjoy each moment. What we think determines how we feel and vice versa. So we want to think only the very best and feel the very best! We can change all of it by changing what we think and feel first.

If you have never taken control of these processes then it might seem doubtful to you. That is because you have not experienced how it can be otherwise. How you experience each moment is determined by what you decide. You either decide you want it the best or you do nothing and it remains whatever it is. It is always, ONLY your choice, I hope you realize this.

Brain, mind, feeling training is about creating positive habits. Good habits that serve you instead of the ones that keep you running poorly. If you have never actively decided to make things better then now is the time. As you do this each day, because there are plenty of opportunities each day, each time you choose to be in control instead of a victim you are building a positive habit. Keep this in mind!

You begin by becoming aware, recognizing what is going on in the moment, what you are thinking and feeling that is not productive and you deliberately decide in this moment to change it. Then you take the steps to make it more to your liking. You keep doing it to maintain it. As you persist and consistently apply what you are learning you are building a powerful new positive habit that will soon become automatic. You are creating more of the life you want in doing this.

Begin now! Don’t delay, don’t put it off, don’t remain a victim, don’t drift and be pushed by the outer currents. Become the captain of your soul and the master of your fate. Make each moment meaningful and you determine how time flows. Take charge and enjoy much more of your time! Get a new lease on life today! ” Rex Sikes

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Simple, Easy Things You Can Do To Feel Better

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“It’s time to do something for you too. Take some baby steps towards different things you can do that will make a big difference. Put into practice some tiny things that help improve your life over all. It is easy and simple to make your overall experience more delightful!

Read more inspirational material, stop using the smart phone so much. Simplify your life, downsize some things, get back to nature. De-stress, revive, and have some fun. Speak nicely to yourself and others! Treat everyone with respect and love.

Eat a little healthier; take the stairs; park further away and walk to your destination; get better sleep; treat yourself kindly; give yourself a treat now and then. Spend quality time with others. Count your blessings! Visualize and concentrate on your goals.

This year, this beginning time, find something you can cross off your bucket list. Make it a point to do one of your special wants this year. See if you can’t do it earlier rather than later.

Don’t use time as an excuse not to. Don’t say you don’t have time or money or know how. No excuses. Figure out how to make it happen. You will be thrilled as you accomplish something you have wanted to.

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Life is too precious to waste. Sometimes we get caught up and loose sight of keeping it simple, beautiful and fun. We may need to remind ourselves from time to time to stop and smell the roses. Feel good, enjoy, put a smile on your lips.  Help put a smile on the lips of others.

This year keep it simple, keep it fun, keep it feeling as good as you can by implementing simple, small, easy, steps towards overall well being. Don’t miss out by putting things off, today is the only day you have. Now is the time. Don’t bite off more than you can chew. Easy and simple is the way to go.

Celebrate everything! Look at everything you do and have to feel grateful about. Appreciate the people in your life that matter. Make the most of your moments together. Spend more time with family, friends and love ones. Meet some new people too!

Live, laugh, love and celebrate! Chose to think and feel your best. Realize you either affirm or deny. You either go with the flow or you resist. Stop resisting, stop denying and start affirming and flowing.

Recognize when you get stuck and unstick yourself without blame. Smile, sing, laugh, dance, play more. Take the opportunities to improve your life in tiny ways that make a big difference! You’ll feel better! You’ll think better!  You’ll recognize opportunities sooner! You’ll enjoy so much more! Live simply and live fully! ” Rex Sikes

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How To Keep Your New Year Resolutions!

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It is the beginning of the New Year. You want to make a difference for yourself don’t you? You want to get your goals and keep your resolutions? A great way to do this is to help others get their goals and keep their resolutions. Be a support to someone else. Create a support team or buddy system.

Make it a point to give to them first and allow them to give to you. The magic happens when you go first and give for no reason other than to help another person. Find positive productive people you can work together with as a support system. Help each other stay inspired and motivated. Help each other to keep reaching to their personal best.

Invest in these relationships with others. Choose people who are positive. Don’t expect the best if you choose poorly. Pick people who are positive and help each other feel better. Surround yourself with a team of happy, successful go-getters who are dedicated to making a positive difference in each of their lives. This will help to keep you on track. Help each other keep your commitments and resolutions.

This point is important! Give and help those less fortunate than you. Whatever your lot or station in life there are those who are struggling or who have less. Find them, wherever they may be, and help them. Give assistance and give service.

Help them for no other reason other than it is the right thing to do. When we help others it not only helps them but it helps us. Give, share, teach, assist whatever you can do to improve someone else’s situation. There is a beauty in giving to others who can’t return your help too. You have no expectation of repayment. This is priceless!

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When we give we get! When we give first without expecting return it is one of the best things we can do. Giving and loving unconditionally not only benefits the recipient but it benefits the giver. This year give more and you will get more than you can ever imagine.

The difficulty with many who arrive at their dreams of wealth is once they get there they no longer do what they did to get there. Instead they try to hang onto what they have. That change in mindset often results in downfall. You can’t hoard and have free flow towards you. Like attracts like. Fear, neediness, clinging attracts the more of the same. Giving cheerfully, sharing, helping attracts more of the same.

You have to keep doing what works. What works is giving cheerfully. Helping others who need some help. It works to surround yourself with a positive team who give freely to each other and keep each other going. Think the best, feel the best, do the best and speak the best and your life will become so much more magical and wonderful. Celebrate and delight in helping other people in this new year. Keep this team and keep giving throughout the new year! ” Rex Sikes

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“The New Year is upon us. Happy New Year! This is a time when people make resolutions for a new beginning. It is an exciting time January 1. The truth is everyday is the start on a new day and a new year. Anytime you decide to make a change is valid. You can begin new each day.

A good start to this year, whenever you decide to make the change would be to be nicer to yourself. Stop being mean. Be kind, be gentle, be encouraging. We think and say some terrible things to ourselves that we would never or should never say to another person. So this year make it a point to be good to you.

Put a guard before your thoughts and your lips. Make it a point to only speak what helps you (and others) feel blessed, heal and prosper. Everyone makes mistakes so accept it and nurture yourself along instead of criticizing or  blaming. Stop getting down on yourself!

Understand that you did the best you could at the time with the information or tools that you had then. Learn from your mistakes. Look for the lesson and the seeds of opportunity and move forward by giving yourself support instead of reprimand. Be peaceful and love yourself.

plant positive thoughts in our minds

Find a way to think the best of you. Expect the best of you! Understand that if you don’t know how to do something, yet, you can learn to as you apply yourself and stick with it. Understand that when you undertake any new learning you aren’t the best right out of the gate, you aren’t proficient yet, you are learning it. So give yourself a break and allow the time it takes for you to get the hang of it.

Whenever you think or speak poorly of yourself or others, whenever you are off track or feeling less than glorious nudge yourself back towards feeling better and thinking more positively. Take baby steps and move yourself along. Don’t let yourself stay stuck for long.

Be patient with yourself and your progress. You can’t push a rope. You can’t push a river either. Accept yourself, accept where you are at, allow it and learn to relax and go with the flow. Treat yourself as you would a new born or toddler. Encourage and be thrilled as your progress.

Be thrilled when you progress! I repeat it.  Be enthusiastic. Fill yourself with positive energy and thoughts. Savor and enjoy feeling well. Take delight in little things. Find ways to enjoy the moment. Gift yourself from time to time. Have a special ‘me’ time when you treat yourself extra well. Appreciate you for no reason other than you can.

I am blessed and I am talented

Realize every day is an opportunity to be grateful, feel thankful and celebrate. Fill your time with positive images in your mental movie theater, positive self talk and positive wonderful feelings. Make each moment marvelous and each day will be too. Celebrate and appreciate!

Take advantage of the new year whatever day you decide it falls on. Have fun, trust yourself more, focus on your goals and what you want and will make happen. Focus less on the circumstances around you. If

Whenever you find yourself thinking about what you don’t want realize that informs you about what it is you really want. Then shift your focus and spend your time thinking about what you DO want. Keep your attention on what you want to create and the things you are grateful for. You can be do or have anything you want in life.

Whenever you feel less than glorious recognize the feelings as a signal to shift into feeling better. Then think better, take some deep breathes, take a break, go for a walk or do some physical activity that helps you feel better and move into better feelings. Move from the less than glorious toward the glorious in increments. The goal is to feel your best most of your time.

gratitude is the attitude that propels you forward

When you are feeling down one of the best ways to help yourself is to help another person feel  better. Give as you are able, support someone else, encourage and nurture another person and you will begin to feel better. What you put out there you get back. Help someone to feel good and you will feel better.

As you do these things, as you celebrate and appreciate and love yourself more you and your life will transform in wonderfully positive ways.” Rex Sikes

Make today your day!

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Do This And Change Your Life!

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there is nothing impossible

“Choice is a moment to moment activity. It requires that you choose and then choose again as needed. Each moment there is a choice to be made. You will choose, if you make mistakes you have the opportunity to choose to correct those mistakes. When you correct your choice you are learning to maneuver back towards what you want. Learning to make positive choices and self-correct as necessary is an important skill to develop. You want to make it habit.

Building a habit requires that you consistently perform the same actions and behaviors over and over again until they get wired in. Once wired in they operate on their own reliable when triggered. This is how we developed less than glorious habits and it is how we develop good positive ones. Build positive habits!

When you chose to build a positive skill you correctly repeat the skill enough times, over time, until it is wired in. When you go off course you course correct. For as many times as you go off course and you course correct you are building the skill of learning to get back on course. I repeat, this is an incredible skill to develop.

habit keeps you going

Build the habit of course correcting. It is so useful. When you get off track, (from your goal, from feeling good, from thinking positively) as soon as you become aware that you are off course, you gently nudge yourself back towards where you were headed. You don’t blame, you simply acknowledge, accept, nudge back and move on.

After a while you will have made this a positive habit for yourself. Whenever you feel less than glorious you recognize it at take steps to help yourself feel, at least, a little better. You develop a guidance system the similar to what is used to get rockets, planes and ships to their destination. You create an inner GPS to what you want.

The reason people think negatively is because it is habitual. It is what they learned to do and so they do it. They are in the habit of thinking poorly, looking at the world or circumstances and thinking poorly. Whatever you focus on for awhile you create and attract more of. So the person who spends time thinking negatively ends up doing it most of the time. This is a habit you would want to break.

we are what we repeatedly do Aristotle

Since habits are difficult to break it does require consistent effort to do so. When we have a habit we want this is great news!  When it is an unwanted habit that we want to change it means we need to put some effort into it. Consciously developing a habit requires patience and our attention to it.

When we develop the habits we want they will be reliable and difficult to break. Then we will behave and find ourselves automatically behaving as we want to We will think, feel and behave more positively and productively. We will get consistent results.

The reason positive thinking gets easier is because it becomes a habit. As with any habit once you do it enough it gets wired in and your unconscious takes it over. They become reliable. The key is to have your positive habits outweigh your negative ones. Your thinking, feeling and doing habits should be mostly positive if you want a positive life.

repetition

If your habits aren’t serving you then it is time to make them do so. Take charge, put yourself in control and make your habits serve you to be and do and have whatever it is you want. It gets easier when you stick with it and are consistent in your practice. You will get to a point where it just seems to flow. It is how you have gotten good at anything; reading, writing, a sport, driving, any skill you are good at.

At first, it may seem a little tough because you are learning to do something new. That is true for most everything we attempt to learn. If we already knew it and did it well we wouldn’t have to learn how to.  So you have to apply yourself.

Keep this in mind! If you don’t do anything to change you will always remain the same. If that is what you want then be happy about it. If you want to change your life then you must change what you are thinking and doing. It is far easier than you think it is and even easier than perhaps how I describe it. Still, to get the pay off, to win you have to play the game.

repetition of thought Napoleon Hill

Surprise yourself! Take action and decide what positive habits you want to create. Which less than glorious ones do you want to replace. Begin with something important to you and do it. Start small if you must but be consistent. You don’t have to re-do everything all at once. As you make one change others may also fall into place as well. Apply what I’ve shared in these blog posts and you will make your dreams come true. So do it!” Rex Sikes

Make today a very good new day!

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You Are Creators Act Like It! Start Getting What You Want.

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youa are creators

“Most people look around, see what is happening, and feel something about it in response. They let the present circumstances, people and events determine how they feel. They use their senses as evidence of the results they are getting. They think ‘I will believe it when I see it’.

Somehow  they think seeing  is not subject to deception but it is. All our senses leave information out, and can distort what is actually there. We trust too much in our perceptions which can be very wrong. They do deceive us often. Looking at circumstances is a mistake when you want to create something. You have to look at what you want to create instead.

For most people life happens to them and they react to it. They react out of habit.  As we grew up and life situations were repeated our brains hard wired the responses in. It did it to streamline them. We don’t have much  choice. We may be afraid of things we have nothing to fear. Our brains did a marvelous job though. We react similarly in fight, freeze or flight. We react similarly to positive stimuli too.

You are on automatic if when a good thing happens you feel good and when bad things happen and you feel bad.  So you break the cycle.  Instead of being a victim on automatic and looking around and letting the accompanying feelings dictate what we think, feel and do we NOW add awareness and choice.

you will see it when you believe it

Now instead you decide how you want to feel and then you look. In this way you have control. You don’t let the circumstances dictate, instead you choose your feelings and you dictate the circumstances. This is how we create something positive and productive. This is claiming your power.

For most people, maybe you, because you don’t see evidence of wealth you don’t believe it is coming to you. You see only lack, or debt or bills and wonder how you will every get out of it. You worry about it and hope for the best but know it is difficult. This is letting the results or the circumstances dictate your thinking and feeling. Keep in mind that like thoughts attract like thoughts. Birds of a feather flock together. You become what you think about.

You do not get out of debt and become wealthy thinking thoughts about being poor. To see improvement or get wealthy you need to be thinking thoughts or wealth, positive creation, having plenty and feeling grateful. Then you attract those.

This is true about anything you want! You don’t get healthy focused on sickness. You don’t get happy focused on sadness or distress. You don’t relax by thinking thoughts of worry. In order for you to get what you want you need to repeatedly focus on WHAT it is that you want!

It is the reverse that works. This is difficult for most people to understand and accept but it really is the key. Believe it and you will see the evidence. It works in the complete opposite to how we think it does. In order to have it you believe it first and then you will see it.

you are a living magnet

Everything first exists as a thought. Thought precedes all human action. Nothing that was created by a human came into being prior to thinking it into being.  Believing precedes seeing! It is not as we were led to think about it. It is not see it and then believe it it is believe it first and then you will see it. Belief is faith in things unseen otherwise it is not faith at all. Faith and positive expectations make it happen!

So you create it in your mental movie theater. You see what you want to create and what you want to have. You make it vivid and detailed. Writing it down helps clarify. You get real clear about what you want to be, do or have in your life. You focus on it repeatedly, obsessively. You adjust it and enhance it and make it more real and more vivid so that you can taste it! You see it and feel it! Feeling it is important.

You see yourself already being, doing or having what it is you want. You see it already accomplished. It is yours and you are living it. You spend time each day as often as you can reviewing and living this reality. At least five minutes morning and night and any other time. This becomes your preoccupation your dominant thoughts that you think. When you spend this time you want to feel the best feelings! You want to feel how you would feel living this reality!

You have control and are in charge of yourself. Accept the responsibility. Be 100% at cause then the effects (the results) you create are your responsibility. Actually they always already were. You are always creating but you may not have liked the results you were getting. Now you take deliberate charge of the creation process and create what you DO want. YOU make it happen!

you are entirely up to you

You stay focused on your mental movies. You think the best positive thoughts throughout the day. You use your feelings as a signel for when you are on target and aligned. If you feel less than glorious it means somewhere inside you you are off track so find ways to make yourself feel better. They goal is to spend as much time each day feeling good.

Use the signal of your feelings to adjust. When you are feeling good you are on target with your goals and desires. You are manifesting good things when feeling good. Stay focused on gratitude in the past and present. Be grateful for everything, celebrate.

Learn from mistakes, and be grateful you can learn and grow. Fill your mind with positive inspirational material, books and audios. Hang around with positive productive people who are making their dreams come true. Become a positive powerful creative force and have fun and delight in all of it. Celebrate. Embrace it and relax. ENJOY!

Remember you are in charge of your vibrations. Whatever you put out in the universe you get back more of the same. Like attracts like, birds of a feather flock together. The reason you do not have more is because you look around, see what you have and what you don’t and feel bad. You attract more of the same lack and poor feelings.

what u put out u attract

When you use your eyes to determine your situation you are creating more of the same. You look at your present and accept it as your lot. You think I am tired of this, I want more I don’t want to be poor but you do not create wealth and well being by attracting more of what you do not want.

In order to attract wealth and well being you have to feel wealth and well being. You have to spend time feeling it! Feel wonderful and enjoying having wealth and well being and in response you attract more of the same. This is what your inner movie theater helps you do. You think it, see it, create it in your mind and have the feelings of what you want.

You see it and enjoy the feelings. Savor the feelings and do this repeatedly. Keep doing it. Your thoughts, feelings and words all congruently align with your desires. You stop resisting and you start making happen what you want to happen. You end the inner conflict, you end the mixed results and you start getting what you want. You attract resources, other people and situations.

You attract more abundance, more delight, more well being because like attracts like, birds of a feather flock together. You will reap whatever you have sown. What are you currently sowing? If you are focused on less than glorious circumstances and lack of wealth and well being you will get back much more of the same. Focus on what you really, really want instead. Make that happen. Create it!

u r responsible

Keep your vibrations high. Keep them positive, joyful, glorious and you will have everything you want. Don’t dig up the seeds to insure they are growing. Forget looking at the current results. Have faith that what you plant you will reap. YOU WILL! Believe it and eventually you will see it! Everything takes time so during the time it takes focus on what you want.

Don’t seek evidence that what you are doing is working accept that it is and move forward. If you compare how far away you are from where you want to be you interrupt the process and get the mixed results. THIS is what you have always already been doing in the past. You have been looking for evidence. STOP IT! Believe and you will ultimately see. It may be hard at first but it gets easier and easier.

You open the way to have more because you enjoy and are thankful for all things. You sow you reap. You are where you thoughts have brought you.  You will be where your thoughts take you. It is time to take charge of your thoughts. Your future you will some day be your present. What do you want that present to be? Create it now!

Your feelings are your guidance system. If you feel less than glorious your thinking is less than glorious. If you are feeling wonderful your thoughts are positive and productive. Follow your bliss and bliss will fill you. You have no excuse you have created your life as it is. Accept it! That is the most powerful moment you can have.

talk about blessings

That moment when you totally and completely get it and accept that you are 100% responsible for everything in your life. is the moment your life can completely change. Yes, things happen from the outside but you react to them automatically. You have been making choices. You can’t escape your responsibility in all of this. You shouldn’t want to. The moment you completely accept it is the moment you begin to transform everything! It is your choice.

You accept and embrace your role as creator, you acknowledge that you have been good at creating what you don’t want, or mixed results and now you aim your creative powers at creating everything you do want. THIS is a powerful freeing moment! This is the start of a wonderful new way to be in the world. Reclaim you power and aim it productively. Don’t delay. Begin making your dreams come true this very moment.” Rex Sikes

This can be the start of a very good new day!

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What To Do When You Are Feeling Bad

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energy goes where attention goes

“There is only energy. This is what physics tells us. Everything is energy at different rates of vibration. This  is a very important understanding.  We use our senses to define our world and our experience but our senses are limited. Our senses can be and are deceived. Yet, we think IF we see it then it must be real. We are mistaken to think so.

Everything is energy! The energy is either very high frequency which we are unable to perceive or low frequency. The lower frequencies  we can notice the vibratory effects on our eyes, ears, body, nose and mouth. Everything is energy. It is all the same one energy in various forms. Everything is in a constant state of vibration. Light, sound, heat, thought, everything!

There are positive and negative charges. Positive and negative thoughts. Positive and negative feelings. These are simply whatever they are but we human labels them as good or bad.  We determine what is wanted and unwanted by how we feel. We either feel positive and good or negative and not so good. That is what we do. This ability to recognize the difference and become aware IS our guidance system. To be truly happy we can use this guidance system.

you will see it when you believe it

When it comes to our life and manifesting or creating or attracting what we want this is useful to know and understand and utilize. We are either vibrating at a high frequency or a low frequency or anywhere in between. We are either mostly positively charged or mostly negatively charged. We want to be mostly positively charged.

We are either feeling good or not so good. We can notice the difference and we can make adjustments. Essentially, we are either ON or we are OFF. We are either on base or off base. On task or off task. It is very simple.

We can tell easily whether we are feeling good or not good. This is the signal. Whenever we are feeling ‘off’ or less than glorious THAT IS the signal to notice so we can adjust.

Then there is FLOW. Everything is flowing, moving, expanding. It just is. Our universe is expanding as I write these words. Everything is flowing along. We are either flowing with it or against it. Just like a river we either go with the current, the path of least resistance, or we paddle against the current. Our choice. Everything is our choice.

It is very simple and plain to understand. We are either flowing or we are not. Either we are in the zone, moving with creation and how things are going or we are not. We are either surrendering to what is or we are not. On or Off. Flowing or Resisting. Positive or Negative.

When we surrender and go with the flow it is easy and effortless. When we move with the current we move swiftly along. When we resist and try to paddle upstream it is difficult and a struggle. When we effort against what is going on we fight. We create conflict. Struggle.

life is not hapening to you life is responding

We are either positive energy or we are not. If we are not going with the flow and feeling positive we  feel negative or less than glorious. It is that simple! Either something is moving up or it is moving down. It is either on or off. It either feels good or it doesn’t. We are either accepting and flowing or we are not. It is not complicated.

The goal of life seems to be ecstasy. We evolve toward happiness. The highest purpose of human kind seems to be to evolve in our consciousness and well being. We are entitled to have and enjoy all life has to offer. We deserve all good things and situations. You can be, do and have anything you want!

To be and get what you want it is necessary for you to align your thoughts and feelings. It is necessary to be congruent with your desires and ambitions. You can’t be wanting and expecting not to get. You can’t be creating and uncreating and expect to get. You can have every good thing you want and desire. You can have everything when you stop resisting. You have to fully EXPECT to get what you want.

Most of the moments of your day are either positive or they are not. Most of your moments you either feel good or you don’t. When you are feeling the best and thinking the best you are flowing, your energy is aligned with your desires and you are able to make your dreams come true. You are congruent. You are one with the creative energy.

we attract what we are prepared to receive

Whenever you feel or find yourself resisting, or feeling or thinking negatively that is a SIGNAL to relax, let go, and make positive micro adjustments towards feeling better. We have a built in system that lets us know when we are off track SO THAT we can get back on track! Use it. Take baby steps back toward feeling great.

You want to be feeling the best you can the bulk of your day. You want to tip the scales toward positive, toward flow, toward feeling wonderful most of your time. When you stop resisting and are feeling fabulous you ARE  flowing. When you are flowing you are aligned. Relax into this. Understand that you are a creator.  Everything is in operation for you to get what you want.

You are already creating your life whether you realize it or not. You are getting everything you are getting  because you are have always been  creating your life. Most people don’t realize this. This is what you MUST come to understand.

If life is haphazard a mix of good and bad or it is mostly less than glorious it is only because you are either haphazard in what you are doing, or you have not been purposeful. You are focused on what you want and what you don’t want and getting some of both. OR you are focused mostly on what you don’t want and getting exactly what you don’t want. In my past I was always great at getting what I didn’t want.

You can begin to change that now if  you want to. You can create a wonderful life instead. You can change what you are doing and you can positively and powerfully begin to change your life!

Now the time has come to get and stay out of your own way. Don’t paddle upstream. Whenever you look at where you are and how far you might be from realizing your goals you are creating a chasm. You separatE yourself from your dream and creatE resistance when you try to take inventory of how close or far away you are.

You do not want to do this. You don’t keep digging up the seeds to make sure they are growing. You must stop comparing where you are with where you want to be. Instead, you want to align and feel at one with your desires. After all it is all the same energy, you just can’t see that yet.

You want to feel you deserve it and that it is coming to you. You are making it happen EVEN IF you can’t yet see the results. Celebrate that it is coming EVEN WHEN you can’t yet see anything BELIEVE IT and YOU WILL SEE IT eventually! Things take time. Relax and believe!

This is why it is necessary to keep your focus on your dreams and off the everyday circumstances. It takes time to manifest your desires Stop checking to see if it is occurring.  This is where most people screw it up. They don’t believe it and they keep evaluating to see whether they are getting close or not.

Keep this in mind: Don’t dig up the seeds you planted to check on their growth. Leave them grow in darkness, underground, and one day they WILL sprout. You have to trust. You have to believe that it will happen even when you can’t see it. Faith is believing in the unseen. You must believe in your dreams! Celebrate!

youa are creators

So either you are positive energy or negative energy. Notice when you are not positive and adjust back towards it. Notice when you feel less than glorious and adjust back to feeling more positive. Notice when your thoughts aren’t productive and adjust back toward productive thinking. Relax and accept and go with the flow. Know deep inside it will all come to pass. Believe it, feel it.

You stay focused on your dreams of the future seeing them in your mind’s eye already realized. To adjust back toward feeling better and to feel better anytime in the present focus on gratitude. Become thankful for everything. Count your blessings and remember why you are thankful. Keep the focus on appreciation. Find the good inside of every one and every circumstance. Stay grateful. Be thankful!

As you begin to see little sign posts of things you want happening you can use these to feel stronger and to believe stronger. This is a great sign but don’t go looking for them. Just appreciate them as they appear. They will. Meanwhile trust, find the good in everything, be thankful and celebrate!

In the face of great adversity hold true and you will come through to the other side. Creation will continue just stop resisting it. Understand that is is perfectly acceptable for you to want the best for yourself and others. Accept that you are making it happen. Choose to stay focused on feeling the best.

what u feel now is what u attract

Go with the flow. Recognize when you are attempting to push the river, or paddle upstream. Enjoy the process. It is not what you do, it is not your actions that will get you there but your energy alignment. Your feelings, your thoughts and your attitudes.

Most people make the mistake and think if they only work hard enough they will make it happen. IT is not your hard work that brings it about it is WHO you are that brings it about. When you become the person for whom all these things are possible you then will do all the right things with the right amount of effort to make them happen.

Hard work with the wrong attitude is putting the cart before the horse. Get your being right and everything else begins to fall into place.

We have this incredible built in guidance system and so few of us learn to use it. The time is now to appreciate how marvelous this is for you. You can be, do and have anything you want. Go with the flow.

Learn to live and spend most of your time feeling wonderful and you will be creating and attracting and getting everything you want. It is a process and it takes time but you are making it happen. Enjoy the process, enjoy the journey and you will be surprised!” Rex Sikes

May your day be magical!

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