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Why Your Friends And Colleagues Are Important!

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“Invest in your relationships. Nurture your personal and professional connections. Surround yourself with people that make you feel incredible. You can be more awesome when the people around you help you feel awesome. You can’t be your best if some people are making you feel less than glorious. You get further faster with support.

You may have to choose to not spend so much time with those people who bring you down. You may need to be a bit selfish with your time and space in order to spend it with those who uplift you. Don’t be rude about it. Be gentle, be kind and simply withdraw your presence gradually over time. Spend your time elsewhere bit by bit. It will always be your decision to let them back in at some time.

Wish them the best in your mind, your word and your deed as you choose those other people who can help you fulfill your purpose. Always wish everyone the best! Make it a point that most every person around you is someone that you chose to keep around.

Nurture and care for the important people in your life young or old but seek those who inspire you and challenge you to be your best. Don’t just choose like minded people who want to keep you the same as they are. Choose those who help you to stretch and develop your talents, abilities and resources. Surround yourself with those who help you to discover yourself and help you believe in yourself.

It is our network of people who help us move ahead. We cannot do everything by ourselves nor should we try. We should connect and network and form strong healthy close ties with good people. We need to care for the people in our lives and stay close to our loved ones, family, friends and associates. Together we are stronger!

We want people in our lives who accept us as we are while allowing us and encouraging us to grow. It is important that this goes both ways. Be certain that you accept them and allow and encourage them to grow as well. Relationships are based on mutual reciprocal support and nurturing.

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It is important that you give first what you seek in return. Be the same kind of best friend you want for yourself. Be the loving, strong family member you want in return. Become the person you want to meet and include in your life. Accept others and they can accept you. Inspire, help, motivate and support everyone in your life.

Be grateful for everyone. Even the ones you may let go of. Every person in our lives, intentionally or not, offers us opportunities to grow and see aspects of ourselves we may otherwise not. Every person is a much needed mirror to reflect back to us who we are and what we value.

From those closest to us to strangers we randomly meet each shows us ourself and is a valuable asset to us. So be grateful for each and every person and the challenges and opportunities they present us with JUST be being themselves.

When you are incredible to be around you will attract back into your life incredible people. Make the other person feel marvelous first. The easiest way to do this is to feel wonderful. When you first feel awesome you can help them be more awesome . They can’t be their best if you are making them feel less than glorious. So think and feel and behave your best.

Birds of a feather flock together. Like attracts like. You get what you focus on. When you are positive and all your thoughts, words and deeds bless, heal and proser those kind of people will be attracted to you and come into your life. Others who you may need to let go of may simply spend less time with you all on their own and seek the company of those more similar to them. It is amazing how it works.

SO live by the Golden Rule! Hold all people in your mind and heart in high esteem and with respect and you will be surprised how wonderful life becomes and how many new doors open for you.” Rex Sikes

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What To Do When Everything Sucks

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“The goal in life is to feel good right? We should enjoy life, live fully, delight in everything. Celebrate. But what about those times when you just don’t or can’t? What do we do about those moments? It certainly would be useful to know, wouldn’t it?

People who love themselves and appreciate life and all it offers know that sometimes we just get stuck. They understand that there are challenges, upheavals and down times. They know that sometimes you just sit in traffic and don’t seem to make any progress. They understand the burn, frustration, anger and sadness that may accompany these moments. They realize sometimes we just have to fester awhile.

Many take heart in the motto ‘This too will pass’ . They understand that just as there is night and day, dark and light, cold and hot that there is a rhythm to life and that things do change. They ‘get it’ that the waves on the water come in, the tide rises and the waves go out and the tide goes down. They know there are seasons and time frames in which different challenges exist.

People who successfully navigate the tough times know that there are going to be these times and the accept it. They may try to navigate around them when possible but they don’t run from them. There are tough times that may seem to last forever. There are great times that seem to end too soon. There are times when nothing seems to change and we grow bored or weary. All of these occasions are just a part of life.

We need to understand what we can control and what we are not able to control. We may not be able to change the world but we can learn self control or self management or self improvement when we go though tough times. Tough times while not welcome are useful.

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There is the saying ‘We can’t change the wind but we can adjust our sails’. Most everyone knows, ‘When life gives you lemons make lemonade’.  So it isn’t about controlling, manipulating or changing the outer world to conform to our wishes but it IS about evolving ourselves to meet any challenge. We may not be able to change the world we can change ourselves and our responses!

When these challenges occur it is an opportunity to surrender. We need to learn how to surrender because as much as we might try make the world conform to us or change the circumstances some things in life just don’t happen until they are ready to happen.

Surrender. It is the time to allow and not resist because what we resist persists. So don’t fight it. This may seem difficult but this IS precisely what we need to learn. We need to learn how to navigate these times more productively and not get caught in the ‘trauma drama’. We need to understand sometimes we have to be patient and wait.

We need to learn how to seek feedback. We need to find the seed of opportunity that exists in the challenge. Through all of these experiences we can grow and develop when we understand how to best respond. We can experience great freedom in letting go.

When things change we tend to react out of habit. We do what we have always done previously. If what we always do is less than glorious, brings us or others more pain; if it doesn’t work very well and these habits aren’t serving us then it is time to learn and develop new habits.

repetition is the mother of skill

We always have choice. We really do. We can choose to do something or choose to do nothing but both are choices. Challenges will always be there but we can grow in spite of them. The way of the world is that things just happen. Unexpected things happen. Some expected things loom on the horizon. The choice is ours about what we think and feel and do.

Someone said, ‘Worry is praying for things we don’t want’. We should stop it. Complaining and whining only bring us more less than glorious thoughts and feelings. Gratitude and celebration may be tough at first but will bring us more of the feelings of thankfulness and insight than fretting and being upset will.

Relax, allow, and go with the flow. These will bring us more rest so we can gather our resources. These are times for self-reflection. Self examination and making new positive choices (especially when forced to) can lead to new positive thoughts and behaviors and new habits. Through reflection, during times of struggle, we can find ourselves renewed.  Gratitude and celebration for the challenge will open our eyes to possibilities we might otherwise miss.

Remember, ‘we become what we think about’. We get what we focus on.  Like attracts like, birds of a feather flock together so we need to choose the best, the highest the most glorious thoughts and feelings we can find to fill our minds. When we stick with these we will find more of them. In staying on course we will discover incredible value and can begin to build a positive new habits that serve us better.” Rex Sikes

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Healthy Body Healthy Mind – Are You?

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there is nothing impossible

“Healthy Body Healthy Mind; Healthy Mind Healthy Body. The two seem go hand in hand. We tend to think of these as separate entities, body and mind. Really they are part of one system. It is difficult to have one without the other. It makes sense to do think, feel and do things that benefit the entire system. We are one not two.

If you want to be clearer headed and have more energy, maintain your ideal weight and feel better then what we think about is important. It is equally important what we put into our bodies.

Remember GIGO; Garbage In Garbage Out? You can’t have a well operating system if you are putting garbage into it. You might want to make a point of eating better in addition to thinking better. It is still early in the new year, perhaps that was even one of your resolutions.

It is always easier for some reason and some people to begin on a Monday. Today is Friday (or whenever you are reading this) take the next few days to plan to begin to add in food items that are healthier choices and to eliminate some that are not healthy. This will give you some time to plan what you want, decide how you want to do it, shop for the items, clear out the old and begin to take steps toward being healthier overall. All of this is your choice. Decide well and choose wisely.

We know that lots of sugar, chemical additives, processed foods, MSG, HFCS are not good for us. We know more servings of fresh vegetables, fresh fruits, clean water, 100% grass fed, antibiotic and hormone free, well raised and pasture or cage free meats, wild caught fish, are wiser choices than most items in food stores and butcher shops. You will have to make your own choices but there are guidelines out there to follow. Again, seek out the best guidelines.

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It is not just what we put in our bodies but what we put on our bodies. Our skin is our largest organ and it absorbs whatever we put on it. Lots of chemicals, deodorants, make-up, lotions, lathers are not at all beneficial for us. Much of what we ingest and slap on ourselves has little to do with thoughtful choices and more with blind adherence to brand advertising.

It is a wise and worthwhile practice to check the labels on food, drink and items we slather over us or bath in. A good rule of thumb is, IF you can’t pronounce it don’t ingest it or wear it. Don’t eat it or wear it if you don’t know what it is. IF it has more items than make sense for a simple food item don’t eat it.

Feeling good comes from what we do within and without. What we put in ourselves as fuel is important. You wouldn’t expect your car or furnace to run on inferior products so neither should you. I think when one cares for oneself one cares FOR oneself.

If you love and value and appreciate yourself you won’t skimp, cheat or treat yourself less than you deserve to be treated. You deserve the very best! Take care of yourself in the very best fashion. Keep this in mind for your children, parents and all family members. Make it a point to be healthy inside and outside. You will be delighted with how much more wonderful you feel when you dedicate yourself to feeling wonderful!” Rex Sikes

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Power Words: How Can I Help You?

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“The longer I have lived and the more I have experienced the more I realize that being there for one another is what living is all about. We look for meaning and purpose. We have been called ‘meaning makers’ and ‘time binders’ by anthropologists. We seek inside ourselves and outside ourselves for ‘something’ greater.

We have our sciences, our stories, our philosophies, our religions to inform us and comfort us. Few of us successfully live alone and solitary confinement is considered a very cruel inhumane form of punishment. Why might these things be so?

Because we as a species band together. From earliest times of bands and tribes and groups we form ties and have worked, played, loved and moved together. With the  rise industrial revolution people began to leave their clans, their burrows, their neighborhoods, travel far and seek employment and their dreams in other neighborhoods. From one place to another place they journeyed. Landing in a new area they formed new ties. Cities grew larger.

So what am I getting at with all this? We are social creatures. We can’t really live well without one another. It is true that we seek out our own kind; we group by race, religion, economics, politics and a few other factors.

We ostracize by these same factors. We gather, support, defend based on mostly mentally manufactured distinctions. ‘They look the same as me’ okay part of my group. They look different not part of my group. ‘They think the same as me’; my group. They think otherwise, not part of my group. And on and on.

People do categorize each other as part of the ‘in group’, or not. This is unfortunate that as a people we have not all successfully learned to get along and accommodate our differences. Still, it is the current way of the world. We have to learn how to live together without prejudices and looking for those elements that could separate us. We need to seek harmony, acceptance, and embrace our differences.

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I think we can move toward embracing all and become one people, one world even if there is a lot of resistance toward that from various mindsets. The world is still divided and may be for sometime or forever. My point is we band together. Like groups attract like groups. We don’t live alone. We need each other and we seek each other out and form ties.

Since we need each other one of the most powerful ways to create strong ties IS to assist each other. When we help each other we grow closer to each other.We create bond. Not only is that important but when you or I help another person learn to do something, overcome a difficulty or accomplish something important to them we not only help THAT person but we help ourselves too! We grow together independently. We make them and we make ourselves feel better!

There are those in the world who don’t want to help. They want to own, to have and to protect what they claim is theirs and ostracize and blame others. I get that. I don’t think that helps them live more wonderful lives but I get their reasoning. I can empathize with their thinking and their potential fears.

I also think and believe and operate from ‘what we think about we bring about’. The more we fear the more we have to fear and are more fearful. The more we love and accept the more we have to love and accept. I do not believe we have a more peaceful world by engaging in more wars. We have a more peaceful world when we all embrace being peaceful.

People band together so supporting each other and helping each other makes sense. Some religions are founded on and practice helping others. They believe in helping those like us and those unlike us. Therefore, I return to The Golden Rule which I have come to believe is one of the most important concepts and practices we can embody. It truly is an incredible and important practice to begin to understand and apply.

‘Do unto others as you would have others do unto you’. Treat others the way you prefer to be treated. Hey, most all of us, dare I say, all of us, want love, acceptance, kindness, life, liberty, happiness and more good things. We want connection, we want health, wealth and well being. We want family and friends. We want meaning and a sense of significance.  We want to be liked. We want to be understood and loved.

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We want to be important to each other. We don’t want isolation, rejection, fear, famine or  poverty. We want to mean something to each other, to have a sense of dignity and productivity. I think most people want these things. They want peace, joy and community.

So to treat each other this way first IS what the golden rule is about. What we think about we bring about so it begins with out thoughts. How we think about others is important! We need to think the best, the highest, the finest even when that may be most difficult. Why? BECAUSE that is what the golden rule is about.

YOU treat others HOW you want to be treated. What do you want? Do you want to be identified as unacceptable and as a less than desirable person? Do you want to be rejected, isolated devalued and discarded? DO you want to be treated in any of these ways? I doubt it. How we think about others IS important and it speaks volumes about who we are, what we believe and what we do or practice.

Everything ALL begins with out thoughts. What we think about we become. If we think less of others much of the time how are we helping anyone or anything be better? If we refuse to think positively about anyone or a situation how are we helping anyone or anything become better? We aren’t lifting anything up if we are busy in our minds tearing it down. So how we think and what we think IS critical!

What we say and do is equally important. We should make it a point to never say or do anything that doesn’t bless, heal or prosper ourselves and one another. If we keep this in mind we actively seek and work to better ourselves and those around us.

We can get more of we want by helping others get more of what they want and need. We work together to bring us all to a higher more respectable place. We work together peacefully to bring about peacefulness. Can you understand this? We only elevate the world when we think, speak and behave that way.

what u put out u attract

We concentrate on what we want to experience more of and then we help ourselves and each other have more of it. We make our lives and the world much more wonderful when we co-operative and help each other. True, some may resist your help, may not want your help, may resent your help but love them and embrace them and accept them even when they do. That is the higher road. Do not judge.

Perhaps, that is what is meant by ‘turn the other cheek’. When we are rebuffed, belittled, rejected, despised, hurt, attacked or abused maybe we should still find a way to forgive and love those who have done harm to us because when we are able to do that we are free. We are free to live and love others and ourselves without the baggage of vengeful thoughts. If we live hating others we contaminate our own experience. We need to find a higher way to think, and be and act that serves us in the most positive ways.

So some of the most powerful words you may speak to another person whether a close family member, friend, associate or stranger may be ‘How can I help you?’ People around us may be going through some tough times and the best way you may be able to demonstrate care, love, acceptance and support is to offer to help without judgement.

Wouldn’t you like it if someone offered assistance to you when times are tough AND they don’t judge you or make you feel less than glorious when doing so? Think ‘higher purpose’. Keep this in mind; what can I think, do and say that will bless, heal and prosper myself and others?

When you help others you do help yourself. Research demonstrates that helping others, giving back, paying forward can increase your own sense of purpose and overall self-satisfaction. When you freely volunteer to help without conditions or expecting payback you are uplifting your own soul. You can help those close to you and you can also choose to volunteer in your community or to a cause you feel is important.

Whenever you can relieve suffering of another person; a child, someone elderly, a friend or stranger it makes you feel good does it not? Doesn’t it make you feel better whenever you are able to relieve the suffering of an animal? Whenever you help to put s smile on another person’s face it makes you smile more, doesn’t it. You feel good when you help others feel good, don’t you?

what u put out u get back

According to Todd Farchione, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders he states that JUST offering to support someone is a good way to support them. ‘If you really want to help somebody, then the way you should go about it is to ask yourself if you can be supportive of the individual in a way that allows them to tell you about what they’re experiencing and why they may be experiencing that.’

So maybe the words, ‘Can I help you’ or “How can I support you in this’ are some of the most important words you can say. One of the most important things you can then DO is to LISTEN and absolutely accept what they say. DON’T argue, or instruct, or reject, don’t insist, simply listen, accept and take their side. Support them in the way they ask to be supported. If and when it is appropriate perhaps you can help in additional other ways.

I think most people WANT to be heard and understood. Sometimes they want to be accepted even when they act bizarre because they simply want someone to love and care for them anyway. So listen and respond to them and their actual needs and what they say they are.

Don’t project on them what you think they need or what they need to understand about their problem or issue. Accept and lift them up. After all, wouldn’t you want someone to approach you and accept you for who you are? Don’t you want someone who would listen carefully to you and support you because they care about you? Wouldn’t you prefer that they not judge you? I know I sure do.

I think we create a more loving, peaceful and wonderful world when we do this even in small ways. I do think it helps pay it forward and it contributes to everyone overall. The more we each take responsibility to live peacefully, lovingly, helpful, joyfully the more contagious good things become. The more we are able to contribute first to others unconditionally the more good things we create or generate. The big key is unconditional giving. No one likes stings attached to anything.

What we resist persists. Fighting war with war only makes more of the same. So the choice is each of ours to make. What do we want to create, attract and have more of? We know what we want to eliminate. We will eliminate it faster by attracting more of what we want  than by fighting what we don’t want.

The Golden Rule is a way we change the world person by person. We think, speak and act only in ways that bless, heal and prosper. When we do this we help others ANDt we help ourselves, immensely. We help everyone when we actively ‘go first’. When we live our lives with love and well being in our hearts we help make the world a much more enjoyable place. So live, love, laugh and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Celebrate your day! Make it meaningful!

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Not Feeling Successful? Do This And Succeed!

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“New Year always gets people motivated for awhile. Are you one of those who makes all sorts of vows only to find yourself keeping a few? Maybe none? Somewhere along the way you run out of steam or forget and give up. If that is what you have done in the past, so be it.

Accept it, and move on. Your past has nothing to do with your future. It really has nothing to do with your present. That was then and this is now. Decide it will be different and then learn easy ways of making that so.

One way to insure that you keep motivated and inspired in keeping your resolutions is to not bite off more than you can chew. Take it easy on yourself and do a little bit by bit. The way you eat an elephant is bite by bite. Many people just try to do too much too soon and they can’t accommodate it in their schedule. Remember, for your life to change you have to change some things in your life.

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A great definition of success is the steady progression toward accomplishing your goal. That means as long as you keep moving forward towards achieving what you want you are succeeding.!

Obviously, if you quit it ends there. So keep doing a little bit each day, each week and each month and you will be succeeding all along the way.  We succeed faster by doing a little bit consistently than to give a great burst and not do anything again for some time.

New Years sees lots of people hit the gyms. I am convinced that many people drop out for this reason alone. I know I used to do this. While there may be other reasons this one seems to be one that many do. They jump in and they hit the weights. They lift and lift. They add the weight. First day out. The second and third day their muscles burn from their first work out and they decide they need to lay off. Already they have interrupted the flow of their workout promise.

winners never quit

They do so because they try or they do too much too fast. Better to ease into it. Walk for a week or two. Try to do at least an hour of walking. Get your muscles used to moving. Maybe do a month.

Better to walk for an hour a day for a month than to work out a couple times and give up. Ease into it! Do less which in the long run can be a whole lot more. Maybe you can only do 20 minutes. Okay do 20 minutes that is better than nothing at all.

The same thing with loosing weight. People stop eating or overhaul their entire diet. Then they abandon it because it is too overwhelming. It is too difficult to keep up with it. Plus, they haven’t made any new habits that keep them going.

its a slow process but quitting wont speed it up

Better to eliminate one or two foods and add in one or two at a time. The idea is to build habits that support what you do. Habits take some time to develop. We build positive habits by routinely engaging in the correct behavior repeated over days, and weeks and months. As we do this we wire in the new behaviors. They become part of us.

If you focus on health and well being instead of loosing weight it is easier too. Then you can think and do those things bit by bit that are healthy to do. Overall you are improving, slowly but steadily. Remember in order to win the race you first have to run the race AND you have to finish the race. You can not quit anywhere along the way and expect to win.

YOU can win! You can succeed in making changes and doing anything new that you want to!  You will develop a positive habit as long as you make a steady progression toward achieving your goal. Stick with it and it is yours.

act as if you already have it

Mind set is 99% of your success. Your positive thoughts make a big difference. What you expect makes an incredible difference! If you expect to succeed you are on your way. Sadly, many people don’t expect good things.

They think something may come along and mess things up. Then when it does they exclaim, ‘I knew it!’ as if it is more important to be right about failing than to do what it takes to succeed. This is just plain silly. Take responsibility and accept no excuses.

Okay, if you are one of those then build a contingency plan into what you want to accomplish. An if/then flow chart. If this happens then this is how you will overcome it. Then stick with it. IF this other thing occurs then THIS  is how you will keep on course. Plan for success. Rehearse your success. This is an important piece to put into play.

success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out

Think positive!  Use the inner movie theater of your mind to see yourself as having already accomplished what you want to accomplish. See it as if it is already done. Notice the great feelings and thoughts you have as you live your dream. The best way to insure success is to rehearse it again and agin in your mind.

Live it. FEEL IT! See yourself as the change you want to become! When you do this you are pointing yourself in the direction you want to go in. You have set your destination and your unconscious servo-mechanism will help you in getting there. Feelings are the key to unlock the doorway  to your success. Feel great and life becomes great! Feel successful and you will be successful.

Remember, less is more! Better to take smalls steps toward what you want to do than to do a lot and quit before achieving it. It is better to take more time getting there than to not get there at all. Each step you take is a success you can claim because you are then actively in the process of making your dreams come true.

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When you feel yourself succeeding you will be successful! When you take the steps and feel positive and successful all along the way you are building a powerful, positive way to live.  Focus on what you want, positively handle any challenges along the way, and keep on keeping on!  Apply these principles in any area of you life. Anything you want to do in your playtime, your hobbies, sports, school, your career, your job, with your family, wealth creation, health, in your life you can make happen. You CAN do it. You WILL do it! Claim your own success. Make it happen!” Rex Sikes

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How To Handle Time Pressures Without Caving!

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“Does it sometimes seem like you are on an endless treadmill? Are there times when you just can’t wait until the day or week is over?  Do you sometimes feel rushed as if there is not enough time in the day to get everything you need to completed? We do react differently depending what we have going on or not going on. Often we may feel overwhelmed and stressed. Obviously, this is not good for our health and there is another way.

How we relate to time is a reflection of how we feel about our lives. The sayings ‘as above so below’ and ‘as within so without’, comes to mind. How we relate to what is going on outside mirrors what is going on inside. If we feel pressured outside it is because of our inner pressure and turmoil. The more we think and feel poorly the more we invite that to continue. Birds of a feather flock together. It is NOT going to change unless we change it!

While it is true you may have deadlines and you want to act to complete them, that pressure is only as good so long as it motivates you to get things done. Beyond that it gets in the way and adds stress. So if you feel that it helps you get started okay, use it. You don’t want to lose out, or get fired, or miss the opportunity.

Use the negative motivation to get moving. You know what you do not want. Once you know that decide what you do want. Then focus on what you want. Keep going but towards what you want!

In order to be more effective and live life more wonderfully it is important to learn to make the most of the time we have. We do this by appreciating little things. When we are grateful for the little things each moment we make better use of our time. When we are able to enjoy and savor the moments of the day as we get to the close of the day we feel much better. Time is a flow and we need to be in the flow. We need to enjoy the present instant. The more we enjoy THIS MOMENT the more moments overall we enjoy!

Yes, there are times when you will feel rushed. There are also times when you may feel bored or as if the day is just dragging on. When either of these happen you still have to be able to do what you need to do. How you do it is what makes the difference for you. In order to do it well and feel good you need to make a change in the moment.

what you allow is what will continue

Stop, take some breathes and decide how you want this day to go. Decide what you can do in this very moment to accomplish what you want to in the best frame of mind and while feeling well. The reason some people never make a change is because they don’t decide to make it different. Because we run on autopilot so much it doesn’t occur to them that it can be different. It does not occur to them that they can be different. It does not have to always be the same.

To not make any decision is to already have tacitly decided. It is agreeing to go along with whatever is. It is being a drifter of a victim to the outside pressures or circumstances. Once we decide and take control everything can change for the better! Make it a point to remember to decide how you want to spend your time. We only have so much while on this planet you might like to use it most wisely.

Stop, breath, decide how you can and will make the moment different. Decide how you want to feel now. Decide how you want to feel as you go through the remainder of the task and your day. Look for everything you can to appreciate in this moment. Really appreciate these! Feel it! Mental lists and reciting affirmations without feeling great feelings does little. It is our feelings that drive everything and that make a difference. Feel it! Feel your best!

If you need to take a short break and you are able to, do something that makes you feel better. Take a walk, hum a song, recite affirmations with enthusiasm, ask yourself powerful Directed Questions, help someone else, relax, do something enjoyable and when the break time is over get back on it with a renewed sense of well being.

The idea is to take a moment to deliberately change your feelings and thinking for the better. DO positive things that make you feel as good as you are able to. Everything is better when YOU feel better. Do it!

It is far better and easier to think clearly and get things accomplished well when you are feeling at your best. Many people discount their feelings or ignore them.  Stop it! Some people try to push them away. If you do this Stop! Others try to push through things while feeling stressed or less than glorious. Stop, don’t do that! Change how you think and feel instead! Change it, change it, change it! It is up to you!

The point of this brain, mind, feeling training is to have a more wonderful life. Life is not a big bunch of something nebulous, it is tiny moments we either mostly enjoy or we don’t. Find ways to make more of your moments wonderful and much more of your life becomes wonderful. It is all in the little things that the big things exist. Make the most of the mini-moments and all moments transform!

we are our choices

It is completely up to you. The big illusion, the big lie, the greatest deception is that it all comes from the outside. Yes, It does seem like that but that is not what is actually going on. It all begins within us. What matters is what we are doing on the inside.  We react to the outer world based on what we have going on in the inner world.

Thought precedes everything! It is our thoughts that determine how we enjoy each moment. What we think determines how we feel and vice versa. So we want to think only the very best and feel the very best! We can change all of it by changing what we think and feel first.

If you have never taken control of these processes then it might seem doubtful to you. That is because you have not experienced how it can be otherwise. How you experience each moment is determined by what you decide. You either decide you want it the best or you do nothing and it remains whatever it is. It is always, ONLY your choice, I hope you realize this.

Brain, mind, feeling training is about creating positive habits. Good habits that serve you instead of the ones that keep you running poorly. If you have never actively decided to make things better then now is the time. As you do this each day, because there are plenty of opportunities each day, each time you choose to be in control instead of a victim you are building a positive habit. Keep this in mind!

You begin by becoming aware, recognizing what is going on in the moment, what you are thinking and feeling that is not productive and you deliberately decide in this moment to change it. Then you take the steps to make it more to your liking. You keep doing it to maintain it. As you persist and consistently apply what you are learning you are building a powerful new positive habit that will soon become automatic. You are creating more of the life you want in doing this.

Begin now! Don’t delay, don’t put it off, don’t remain a victim, don’t drift and be pushed by the outer currents. Become the captain of your soul and the master of your fate. Make each moment meaningful and you determine how time flows. Take charge and enjoy much more of your time! Get a new lease on life today! ” Rex Sikes

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How To Keep Your New Year Resolutions!

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It is the beginning of the New Year. You want to make a difference for yourself don’t you? You want to get your goals and keep your resolutions? A great way to do this is to help others get their goals and keep their resolutions. Be a support to someone else. Create a support team or buddy system.

Make it a point to give to them first and allow them to give to you. The magic happens when you go first and give for no reason other than to help another person. Find positive productive people you can work together with as a support system. Help each other stay inspired and motivated. Help each other to keep reaching to their personal best.

Invest in these relationships with others. Choose people who are positive. Don’t expect the best if you choose poorly. Pick people who are positive and help each other feel better. Surround yourself with a team of happy, successful go-getters who are dedicated to making a positive difference in each of their lives. This will help to keep you on track. Help each other keep your commitments and resolutions.

This point is important! Give and help those less fortunate than you. Whatever your lot or station in life there are those who are struggling or who have less. Find them, wherever they may be, and help them. Give assistance and give service.

Help them for no other reason other than it is the right thing to do. When we help others it not only helps them but it helps us. Give, share, teach, assist whatever you can do to improve someone else’s situation. There is a beauty in giving to others who can’t return your help too. You have no expectation of repayment. This is priceless!

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When we give we get! When we give first without expecting return it is one of the best things we can do. Giving and loving unconditionally not only benefits the recipient but it benefits the giver. This year give more and you will get more than you can ever imagine.

The difficulty with many who arrive at their dreams of wealth is once they get there they no longer do what they did to get there. Instead they try to hang onto what they have. That change in mindset often results in downfall. You can’t hoard and have free flow towards you. Like attracts like. Fear, neediness, clinging attracts the more of the same. Giving cheerfully, sharing, helping attracts more of the same.

You have to keep doing what works. What works is giving cheerfully. Helping others who need some help. It works to surround yourself with a positive team who give freely to each other and keep each other going. Think the best, feel the best, do the best and speak the best and your life will become so much more magical and wonderful. Celebrate and delight in helping other people in this new year. Keep this team and keep giving throughout the new year! ” Rex Sikes

Make today your day!

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Do This And Change Your Life!

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there is nothing impossible

“Choice is a moment to moment activity. It requires that you choose and then choose again as needed. Each moment there is a choice to be made. You will choose, if you make mistakes you have the opportunity to choose to correct those mistakes. When you correct your choice you are learning to maneuver back towards what you want. Learning to make positive choices and self-correct as necessary is an important skill to develop. You want to make it habit.

Building a habit requires that you consistently perform the same actions and behaviors over and over again until they get wired in. Once wired in they operate on their own reliable when triggered. This is how we developed less than glorious habits and it is how we develop good positive ones. Build positive habits!

When you chose to build a positive skill you correctly repeat the skill enough times, over time, until it is wired in. When you go off course you course correct. For as many times as you go off course and you course correct you are building the skill of learning to get back on course. I repeat, this is an incredible skill to develop.

habit keeps you going

Build the habit of course correcting. It is so useful. When you get off track, (from your goal, from feeling good, from thinking positively) as soon as you become aware that you are off course, you gently nudge yourself back towards where you were headed. You don’t blame, you simply acknowledge, accept, nudge back and move on.

After a while you will have made this a positive habit for yourself. Whenever you feel less than glorious you recognize it at take steps to help yourself feel, at least, a little better. You develop a guidance system the similar to what is used to get rockets, planes and ships to their destination. You create an inner GPS to what you want.

The reason people think negatively is because it is habitual. It is what they learned to do and so they do it. They are in the habit of thinking poorly, looking at the world or circumstances and thinking poorly. Whatever you focus on for awhile you create and attract more of. So the person who spends time thinking negatively ends up doing it most of the time. This is a habit you would want to break.

we are what we repeatedly do Aristotle

Since habits are difficult to break it does require consistent effort to do so. When we have a habit we want this is great news!  When it is an unwanted habit that we want to change it means we need to put some effort into it. Consciously developing a habit requires patience and our attention to it.

When we develop the habits we want they will be reliable and difficult to break. Then we will behave and find ourselves automatically behaving as we want to We will think, feel and behave more positively and productively. We will get consistent results.

The reason positive thinking gets easier is because it becomes a habit. As with any habit once you do it enough it gets wired in and your unconscious takes it over. They become reliable. The key is to have your positive habits outweigh your negative ones. Your thinking, feeling and doing habits should be mostly positive if you want a positive life.

repetition

If your habits aren’t serving you then it is time to make them do so. Take charge, put yourself in control and make your habits serve you to be and do and have whatever it is you want. It gets easier when you stick with it and are consistent in your practice. You will get to a point where it just seems to flow. It is how you have gotten good at anything; reading, writing, a sport, driving, any skill you are good at.

At first, it may seem a little tough because you are learning to do something new. That is true for most everything we attempt to learn. If we already knew it and did it well we wouldn’t have to learn how to.  So you have to apply yourself.

Keep this in mind! If you don’t do anything to change you will always remain the same. If that is what you want then be happy about it. If you want to change your life then you must change what you are thinking and doing. It is far easier than you think it is and even easier than perhaps how I describe it. Still, to get the pay off, to win you have to play the game.

repetition of thought Napoleon Hill

Surprise yourself! Take action and decide what positive habits you want to create. Which less than glorious ones do you want to replace. Begin with something important to you and do it. Start small if you must but be consistent. You don’t have to re-do everything all at once. As you make one change others may also fall into place as well. Apply what I’ve shared in these blog posts and you will make your dreams come true. So do it!” Rex Sikes

Make today a very good new day!

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You Are Creators Act Like It! Start Getting What You Want.

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“Most people look around, see what is happening, and feel something about it in response. They let the present circumstances, people and events determine how they feel. They use their senses as evidence of the results they are getting. They think ‘I will believe it when I see it’.

Somehow  they think seeing  is not subject to deception but it is. All our senses leave information out, and can distort what is actually there. We trust too much in our perceptions which can be very wrong. They do deceive us often. Looking at circumstances is a mistake when you want to create something. You have to look at what you want to create instead.

For most people life happens to them and they react to it. They react out of habit.  As we grew up and life situations were repeated our brains hard wired the responses in. It did it to streamline them. We don’t have much  choice. We may be afraid of things we have nothing to fear. Our brains did a marvelous job though. We react similarly in fight, freeze or flight. We react similarly to positive stimuli too.

You are on automatic if when a good thing happens you feel good and when bad things happen and you feel bad.  So you break the cycle.  Instead of being a victim on automatic and looking around and letting the accompanying feelings dictate what we think, feel and do we NOW add awareness and choice.

you will see it when you believe it

Now instead you decide how you want to feel and then you look. In this way you have control. You don’t let the circumstances dictate, instead you choose your feelings and you dictate the circumstances. This is how we create something positive and productive. This is claiming your power.

For most people, maybe you, because you don’t see evidence of wealth you don’t believe it is coming to you. You see only lack, or debt or bills and wonder how you will every get out of it. You worry about it and hope for the best but know it is difficult. This is letting the results or the circumstances dictate your thinking and feeling. Keep in mind that like thoughts attract like thoughts. Birds of a feather flock together. You become what you think about.

You do not get out of debt and become wealthy thinking thoughts about being poor. To see improvement or get wealthy you need to be thinking thoughts or wealth, positive creation, having plenty and feeling grateful. Then you attract those.

This is true about anything you want! You don’t get healthy focused on sickness. You don’t get happy focused on sadness or distress. You don’t relax by thinking thoughts of worry. In order for you to get what you want you need to repeatedly focus on WHAT it is that you want!

It is the reverse that works. This is difficult for most people to understand and accept but it really is the key. Believe it and you will see the evidence. It works in the complete opposite to how we think it does. In order to have it you believe it first and then you will see it.

you are a living magnet

Everything first exists as a thought. Thought precedes all human action. Nothing that was created by a human came into being prior to thinking it into being.  Believing precedes seeing! It is not as we were led to think about it. It is not see it and then believe it it is believe it first and then you will see it. Belief is faith in things unseen otherwise it is not faith at all. Faith and positive expectations make it happen!

So you create it in your mental movie theater. You see what you want to create and what you want to have. You make it vivid and detailed. Writing it down helps clarify. You get real clear about what you want to be, do or have in your life. You focus on it repeatedly, obsessively. You adjust it and enhance it and make it more real and more vivid so that you can taste it! You see it and feel it! Feeling it is important.

You see yourself already being, doing or having what it is you want. You see it already accomplished. It is yours and you are living it. You spend time each day as often as you can reviewing and living this reality. At least five minutes morning and night and any other time. This becomes your preoccupation your dominant thoughts that you think. When you spend this time you want to feel the best feelings! You want to feel how you would feel living this reality!

You have control and are in charge of yourself. Accept the responsibility. Be 100% at cause then the effects (the results) you create are your responsibility. Actually they always already were. You are always creating but you may not have liked the results you were getting. Now you take deliberate charge of the creation process and create what you DO want. YOU make it happen!

you are entirely up to you

You stay focused on your mental movies. You think the best positive thoughts throughout the day. You use your feelings as a signel for when you are on target and aligned. If you feel less than glorious it means somewhere inside you you are off track so find ways to make yourself feel better. They goal is to spend as much time each day feeling good.

Use the signal of your feelings to adjust. When you are feeling good you are on target with your goals and desires. You are manifesting good things when feeling good. Stay focused on gratitude in the past and present. Be grateful for everything, celebrate.

Learn from mistakes, and be grateful you can learn and grow. Fill your mind with positive inspirational material, books and audios. Hang around with positive productive people who are making their dreams come true. Become a positive powerful creative force and have fun and delight in all of it. Celebrate. Embrace it and relax. ENJOY!

Remember you are in charge of your vibrations. Whatever you put out in the universe you get back more of the same. Like attracts like, birds of a feather flock together. The reason you do not have more is because you look around, see what you have and what you don’t and feel bad. You attract more of the same lack and poor feelings.

what u put out u attract

When you use your eyes to determine your situation you are creating more of the same. You look at your present and accept it as your lot. You think I am tired of this, I want more I don’t want to be poor but you do not create wealth and well being by attracting more of what you do not want.

In order to attract wealth and well being you have to feel wealth and well being. You have to spend time feeling it! Feel wonderful and enjoying having wealth and well being and in response you attract more of the same. This is what your inner movie theater helps you do. You think it, see it, create it in your mind and have the feelings of what you want.

You see it and enjoy the feelings. Savor the feelings and do this repeatedly. Keep doing it. Your thoughts, feelings and words all congruently align with your desires. You stop resisting and you start making happen what you want to happen. You end the inner conflict, you end the mixed results and you start getting what you want. You attract resources, other people and situations.

You attract more abundance, more delight, more well being because like attracts like, birds of a feather flock together. You will reap whatever you have sown. What are you currently sowing? If you are focused on less than glorious circumstances and lack of wealth and well being you will get back much more of the same. Focus on what you really, really want instead. Make that happen. Create it!

u r responsible

Keep your vibrations high. Keep them positive, joyful, glorious and you will have everything you want. Don’t dig up the seeds to insure they are growing. Forget looking at the current results. Have faith that what you plant you will reap. YOU WILL! Believe it and eventually you will see it! Everything takes time so during the time it takes focus on what you want.

Don’t seek evidence that what you are doing is working accept that it is and move forward. If you compare how far away you are from where you want to be you interrupt the process and get the mixed results. THIS is what you have always already been doing in the past. You have been looking for evidence. STOP IT! Believe and you will ultimately see. It may be hard at first but it gets easier and easier.

You open the way to have more because you enjoy and are thankful for all things. You sow you reap. You are where you thoughts have brought you.  You will be where your thoughts take you. It is time to take charge of your thoughts. Your future you will some day be your present. What do you want that present to be? Create it now!

Your feelings are your guidance system. If you feel less than glorious your thinking is less than glorious. If you are feeling wonderful your thoughts are positive and productive. Follow your bliss and bliss will fill you. You have no excuse you have created your life as it is. Accept it! That is the most powerful moment you can have.

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That moment when you totally and completely get it and accept that you are 100% responsible for everything in your life. is the moment your life can completely change. Yes, things happen from the outside but you react to them automatically. You have been making choices. You can’t escape your responsibility in all of this. You shouldn’t want to. The moment you completely accept it is the moment you begin to transform everything! It is your choice.

You accept and embrace your role as creator, you acknowledge that you have been good at creating what you don’t want, or mixed results and now you aim your creative powers at creating everything you do want. THIS is a powerful freeing moment! This is the start of a wonderful new way to be in the world. Reclaim you power and aim it productively. Don’t delay. Begin making your dreams come true this very moment.” Rex Sikes

This can be the start of a very good new day!

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How To Surrender! Go With The Flow

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“I have been a forceful driver all of my driving life. I used to listen to ramp me up music and shoot through the streets of Los Angeles on a mission to get there ahead of everyone else. I pushed the river of life. It was not uncommon for me to give the finger or curse out other drivers slower, faster or just different than me. I hated traffic but I loved driving.

One time in my past I decided I was only going to listen to calming, relaxing music, classical but not rousing classical, while I drove to attempt to curb my passion for beating everyone to the stop light or being the first in the fast lane. It helped some. I later learned a better way, but certainly you can combine the two.

I know not everyone is like me in this regard because I encountered them on the roadway. So this may or may not apply to you but it can be a powerful lesson in any regard.

It seems most happiness and success comes when you learn true gratitude and acceptance. When you have a definite purpose that you want to accomplish. It comes when you have absolute faith that you will manifest it and you fully expect to. You believe in yourself.

It occurs when you can get out of your own way, surrender and go with the flow of life. It comes quickest when you can accept whatever life offers gratefully and keep moving forward expecting the best.

what u put out u attract

Okay, well here is an exercise I learned to embrace. Traffic is the universe giving you whatever it gives you. It has every possibility for you to get stuck, annoyed and angry. It provides an opportunity to push it or accept it. It is frustrating for most people.  Hence, a great place to learn surrender.

If you want to learn to go with the flow in life begin with traffic. Drive safely, should go without saying.

Recognize that person that cuts you off or pulls out in front of you at the last moment IS your opportunity to relax and accept that is what IS right now. The universe offers you opportunity in this moment. Traffic backed up, accept it. If you can’t easily go around it that’s what life gave you right now. Don’t push it ACCEPT IT.  Slow pedestrian annoying you as they cross the street in front of you. The light changes, someone runs a light, whatever it is RELAX! That is what IS GOING ON AT THIS MOMENT! That is what is happening!

Instead of cursing and trying to get back at them accept it allow it. Instead of driving and complaining, instead of being filled with stress, Coritsol and anger, let it go. Instead of complaining to your friends, family and co-workers about how horrible the commute was let it go. LET IT GO! This is where you practice acceptance because as you know you will have PLENTY of opportunities each and every instant.

THAT IS PRECISELY WHAT MAKES THIS EXERCISE SO VALUABLE! For many this will be an excruciating exercise BUT how better to learn to give up control and accept  what the universe gives us than to do so when it gives us so many opportunities. Traffic is a great place to learn.

we are what we repeatedly do

You can use driving to learn how to surrender to what is. There will be plenty of challenging moments as you already know. Still, if you can learn, ‘hey this is what IS right now’, and accept it, surrender to it, you can learn to do it anywhere else too.

Use the flow of traffic to learn HOW TO go with the flow. When you get hot, and you become aware of it, recognize it and relax and drive safe. Be courteous. Bless the other drivers, the bikes, motorcycles and pedestrians, the truckers who would have infuriated you in the past.

Stop trying to push the river. Relax and let the current take you down stream. What a wonderful opportunity this exercise is because you will learn so many fascinating things about yourself. You will change your life when you learn true acceptance. You will transform your life when you learn to wish all others well. Bless others, praise others, celebrate others regardless and you will transform so much of you and your life it will amaze you. STOP complaining! Stop whining!

Relax, surrender, go with the flow. Be gentle with yourself through the learning process and enjoy transforming your life. You can find magic and mystery in each and every moment when you stop and look. When you find it fill yourself with gratitude!” Rex Sikes

Have a marvelous magical day!

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