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What To Do When Unexpected Challenges Arise And You Feel Fear

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“My blog today is in response to comment left yesterday. It is a piece of a puzzle. It is a first step in a journey. It is a morsel of food in the meal you eat. Without knowing specifics (this is not a request to know) the suggestions I have are general. Absolutely valuable and applicable anytime, but still general.

It may not be what the individual needs to read or hear at this time, and the person may be better served seeking answers elsewhere from someone in person.

Still, the principles are applicable to all of us in our quest for a more wonderful life so I wrote in reply, actually to all of us. Each of us face challenges, hopefully, this will encourage.

The reader commented, and I am always happy when readers comment. When someone reaches out, or shares insight, loves or hates something it is good to know. That is WHY there IS a comment section so you can LEAVE comments!

Here is the comment:

‘I’m facing an unexpected and very challenging situation. And I do feel fear. I agree with what you have written, but my path seems unclear to me. I want peace and a stable situation. (And I have re-written this 9 different ways)……Changing my thoughts will change my actions and change the situation.’

First,  I wish you the best. I am glad you commented. You are doing for yourself and working to make it work for you. That is excellent.

It is not uncommon to feel fear from an unexpected and challenging situation. That is quite normal. It is what we do as humans.

Getting clear about your path is what you do want to do.  When confronted with obstacles we may not know what to do or where to go. Still, in order to journey onward we first need to clarify where we want to end up. Otherwise, we may or may not make any progress.

How would we know if we were progressing if we don’t know where our destination is? Plus, it is important that we make certain we are focused on where we want to go to or end up.

Circumstances can be challenging and difficult, for certain. The learning we all need to acquire is to notice the circumstances but not focus on them. Stop giving the circumstances your attention and energy. Decide what you want instead, not what you do not want.

When you repeat,  ‘Changing my thoughts will change my actions and change the situation.’ while accurate notice what your attention is on. Change the situation. You want to change your thoughts and actions in order to change the situation.

How might you phrase your affirmation to put the emphasis on what you want instead of focusing on the situation? That is where you need to put you emphasis or focus. Think about what you want. Also affirm what you want to feel.

For example, ‘I am calm’; ‘I am confident’; ‘I am able to learn to do anything I put my mind to’; ‘I have peace of mind’; ‘I feel joy’. Whatever you want to think, feel and be. Simply put whatever you want to be after ‘I am’ or ‘I have’ or ‘I feel’. Present tense.

You might also ask Directed Questions™: ‘I wonder how soon I can discover myself easily find more peace and joy throughout today?’ In how many ways will I be delighted and amazed to feel my confidence growing in leaps and bounds?”

You can use what it is you don’t want to help you clarify what it is you do want. Make sure you know what you want and then imagine what you want fully. Whatever it is use your imagination and imagine all the positive good you want to have. Imagine it as though you already have it. It has happened. It is yours.

You want your energy to go where you want. That is why you place you attention on what you want. The work is to keep the attention on the good you want to create and positively have. It takes practice. It does take discipline but anyone can learn to do it in time.

The secret is keeping it there. Going back and forth from feeling positive and confident to doubtful and fearful is what keeps us stuck. We need to overwhelmingly feel positive and confident. We need our focus to be on the good most of the time. Of course, everyone has a negative thought.

As soon as you notice the negative thought or feeling steer it back to positive. Two things happen. One is this is the training we all need. The ability to control and steer our mind and get it to serve us instead of being out master is the skill we need to develop. Two it will make the difference. You will be more positive more of the time!

Make sure what you want is a win/win for you and everyone; wonderful and positive! Place your focus on this. You may not know how to bring it about yet but stay focused on what you want to create. The good you want to create is the good you focus on and imagine throughout the day. This is what you can create!

Feel the good feelings that come with the good you desire. If the world were perfect and your situation resolved and you were your ideal self, being, doing and having what you want how would you feel?

Those are the feelings you want to have more of. Those are the feeling you want to savor and bask in when you think about your destination.

Those are the feelings you want to spend time with. Day and night, and as often as you can, think of the good, see it in your mind’s eye and feel the marvelous feelings. As long as you win and others with there is no disharmony.

What we think about we bring about! If we concentrate on avoiding what we don’t want we just get more of the same. If we focus on what we DO want to create for ourselves we get more of that.

Even though you may not know how it will come about this is what you concentrate on. You think, have faith and affirm that everything will work out for good even though you don’t have any idea how. It is okay not to know how. It really is.

We all need to learn to do this. It is similar to planting a seed. It grows where we can’t see it grow at first, underground. The results of our decision, to focus on the good we want to create, is at first invisible.

We must keep the faith that ultimately everything will work out and that we will be able to behave resourcefully. It isn’t magic or wishing. It is the application of principles that changes the course of our future.

If you decide you want to take boat across the sea to a distant land you have to know where you are going. You determine where you want to end up and you go there. If storms come up along the way you have to navigate through, or around them and get back on course, to get to your destination.

When you focus and believe in yourself you marshall your inner resources. When challenged it is the opportunity to learn lessons and discover the very best within you. The key is to not give up or lose faith. Believe in yourself. Affirm you can do this!

In your present circumstances you may need to find someone who has already navigated the troubled waters, someone who can positively mentor you because they have been there and gone through that and come out the other side successfully. Someone in your area whom you can rely on, confide in and trust. If you need help or assistance reach out.

Inside you is an internal GPS. It knows all the routes and has all the answers you need to get where you want to go. You have the resources to make positive changes, even though you may not be aware that you do, and yet, that can being to easily clear up.

As you keep positive and keep faith in your own inner abilities you may find yourself discovering more of what you need to know in order to move ahead confidently and safely. Trust in yourself to make the wisest choices even though you don’t know what these are yet. Believe in you!

Attitude makes a big difference. This may be just what you look back on some day and are thankful for. If you can cultivate that attitude while going through it you are ahead of the game.

The opportunity to grow and develop comes from adversity. The statement, ‘the kite rises against the wind’ is applicable. Challenge will help you grow in the long run and you will learn a lot from the situation about yourself and your resourcefulness.

I hope, my words help. Understand I have little to go on and I can’t, no one can, solve anything for you. That is up to each individual to do for oneself. I hope, though, in some small way, I can encourage you to stay strong and take everything lightly.

Put into practice the principles you have been learning. Fill your mind each day with positive, inspirational material. Read and listen to positive books and audios. Fill your mind with ‘can do’ messages. Find positive people to encourage and support you.

Manage your self talk and speak only to bless, heal and prosper. Visualize what you want, as already discussed, and grow your faith in your ability to have a positive present and future. Find things to celebrate and appreciate in areas of life, even in the challenges.

Be the victor of the circumstances. Decide to prevail against troubles and to create more love, joy and happiness for all. Determine to live as a champion and stay positive and confident. You will as you keep your focus on what you want to create! It works. It does work. It is YOU who makes it work!” Rex Sikes

PS I wrote this response, then just as I went to publish, it occurs to me that, perhaps, you weren’t looking for a reply. If I made an incorrect assumption I apologize. I say this because I realize that not everyone wants someone to reply, sometimes we just wish to be heard or listened to. Sometimes we just want a hug.

Have a wonderful day!

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Want To Have An Incredible Life? Then Learn What These People Already Know!

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“Some people just live differently than others! They let nothing deter them from enjoying life. It is amazing and inspiring! It has to do with their beliefs and attitude. How would you respond to the following? What do you think about this and how it may apply to your life?

To lose a limb or the ability to walk or move would be devastating. Life crushing. I do not wish it on anyone. Yet, there have been people throughout time who have suffered tremendous accidents, lost body parts or were paralyzed, BUT continue to live as blessed. They live differently from the rest.

Recently, they made a movie of the surfer girl who lost her arm in a shark attack. She continues to surf. Others, with similar circumstances have been in the news. Sometimes, we see people who suffer greatly continue to suffer greatly.

Other times, we see people who express gratitude at being alive. For these, they seem to say, ‘life is an adventure. I did it with two arms now I do it with one. It doesn’t matter, great to be alive!’

They don’t let a challenge stop them.  It must be a major adjustment, still, some seem to never miss a beat. They go right on living cheerfully. Young, old, rich or poor, that doesn’t seem to matter.

I have used an example to explain some of this. This example, pales by comparison but I present it, and then another one, as food for thought. Although, I think these considerations are already enough of a meal.

How people maintain an incredible positive attitude in the face of life changing experiences is definitely worth learning and applying. Ok, my example, two people go to a movie and sit side by side. The movie ends, one loved it the other hated it.

Both express opinions. It seems as if these have something to do with the movie when actually their opinions reveal much about them; who they are and what they pay attention to.

After all, it is the same movie. Both individuals sat through it but had a different experience of it. It can’t be the movie. It must be about them!

Two people are in a terrible car crash but survive and are not badly injured. One is filled with fear and speaks repeatedly about how the accident was terrible and how close to being killed he was.

The other is thankful to have lived through a huge ordeal and speaks of being lucky or blessed or protected he feels. Same experience two different reactions. Two separate, independent outlooks. Do you think their outlook has anything to do with how they live their lives?

Some people blame the economy for their problems saying they just can’t get ahead. Others during that very same economy make a ton of money and state if it hadn’t been for the economy they’d have never discovered how to make so much money.

Pretty much we are all the same. We have different experiences and programming as we grow. We still live in the same world. It appears how we respond to the world and circumstances has everything to do with what we believe.

Our thoughts, our attitude determine how we live our lives. What we think determines our world and our opportunity or our disadvantage. It is mindset more than anything else!

Some people face tremendous odds and let nothing stop them or ruin their day. Some people are born with, what we call, challenges but excel more than others born without challenges. Some seem to buckle at the smallest provocation.

I prefer to think of living life without seeing walls that stop me. I prefer thinking of what I can do instead of what I can’t. I’d much rather be optimistic and positive and live happily and fully than anything else. I’d like to think most other people do too.

I am not certain any one knows how they will respond until faced with an obstacle. I think what they think and believe, makes a difference. If a big challenge comes there way are they prepared to handle it?

Some believe in an outer god; some a personal god; some believe in an inner god or divinity; some believe in no god; that doesn’t seem to make any difference.

Whatever else they believe in sure seems to make an incredible difference. What they think about themselves, their ability to live happily, handle difficulty, enjoy life, and the nature of the universe seems to make an incredible difference.

What would you do? How would you move forward? Is the glass half empty or half full? I think these examples, of what some might call courage, are a testimony to the awesome power of the human mind and spirit.

Their attitude certainly seems to determine their altitude. What do you think? What if you could learn, what these few people know, that makes them live their lives incredibly different from the rest of the people? Would you like to learn to live like this? If you could learn it would you?

There are people who choose to not let anything prevent them from enjoying this life to the fullest. They live as they wish no matter what happens to them or around them. They live as champions and victors over circumstances.

They continue to live joyfully. They consider the journey a marvelous adventure. This is wonderful and inspiring. It is absolutely possible that any one of us, all of us, can find the power within to be able to celebrate no matter what! When we are truly able to feel blessed regardless of circumstances then  life is transformation and we are incredibly rich in all ways.” Rex Sikes

This is your day! How will you use it?

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Tips To Make Good Things Happen For You!

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“How do we make things happen? How do we attract? How do we create? The process is quite simple. The fact is many people mess it up by getting in their own way. They believe it must be hard. They think, ‘it can’t be this simple’. So they go about proving themselves right.

After all the unconscious mind makes no judgements. The unconscious mind just agrees with you. If you think it is simple your unconscious says, ‘yep, it’s simple!’ If you think, ‘boy this is hard.’ Your unconscious thinks, ‘yep, boy this is hard!’ It’s job is to agree with you and find agreement with you out in the real world.

So how do you get what you want? How do you make it happen?

Visualize the good you desire in your life. See it, hear it, feel it. Imagine the good you want is already yours. You have it right now. NOT in the future, sometime, somewhere, but right here and now!

What You See Is What You Get

Affirm it.  The quickest way to be what you want to be is to say ‘I am’ what you want to be. Declare it. Affirm yourself to be it right now. Whatever follows ‘I am’ or ‘I have’ is your affirmation. Your mantra, that which you repeat over and over.

See it, visualize it fully, and declare it. What you think about you bring about! Feel all the wonderful feelings that accompany having it right now. Enjoy these feelings. Feel these and think about your desire. You become what you think about most.

For example. Imagine you played and won the lottery. You get a call that tells you in a couple weeks you are going to get a check for millions of dollars. How do you feel getting this news? I bet pretty good. I bet, too, you imagine many things you would do with that money. Right?

What You Say Is What You Get

Now consider this as well. NOTHING in your daily life has changed other than you got this news. Your life is exactly the same as it was before the news. The money is yours that is certain. BUT you do not have any of it yet. It is coming. BUT it is yours right now too. You can feel it. Your entire life changes. You vibrate with energy and enthusiasm.

These are the kind of feelings and expectations you want to have when it comes to your desires. You want to feel it already belongs to you and you are thrilled. It feels incredible! Savor and bask and enjoy these feelings. You know it is coming. There is nothing left to do but allow it to arrive. You expect it completely!

You live with eager anticipation because you now it is coming. You don’t doubt it because you know it is happening. You don’t have to pull yourself up by your own bootstraps to believe it because you know it is yours already. You accept it. ALL you have to actually do is receive it.

What You Feel Is What You Get

If you were just told you won the lottery you wouldn’t declare or think ‘someday I am going to be rich’ you’d think ‘I AM RICH! I AM SO RICH! I HAVE LOTS OF MONEY!’ You would state what you have (lots of money).  You would most likely ignore present circumstances, except you’d imagine paying off any bills and still being rich.

You have not yet received as much as an actual penny but you know the money is yours. Yet, you don’t let that deter you from feeling marvelous and celebrating. In an instant your life is entirely transformed.

This is how we make it happen. We live it first within our imagination fully. What we think about we bring about. Our powerful, joyful enthusiastic, thrilled feelings open the floodgates. Our detailed visualization and our declarations pinpoint what we want. We make it happen from the inside out.

From Within So Without

That is it. Sadly, people second guess, doubt, give up, try to make it work, figure it out, add extra effort, and all that does is muck it up and push it away. We see it and claim it! It is knowing that it is ours that creates the excitement. If you doubt it you don’t know it is yours yet.

If you are having trouble believing then create smaller more believable things. Pick something you can believe happens and make it happen. For example you may find it difficult to believe you can be a millionaire in a couple years but you don’t have any problem imagining that you could earn two hundred extra dollars in the next couple months.

Start with making the 200 happen. Then increase it. Only as large and as quickly as you are able to maintain your belief in it. Pick up wins as you go a long. That will convince you of your power to make things happen. How can you tell you believe it? How do you feel? If you feel ecstatic you do. If you feel less than glorious it isn’t likely you do.

Last thing for today. Don’t specify how it is to arrive. My example was you won the lottery. If you put all your hope and faith into winning the lottery I wish you luck. You might or you might not. If you don’t and you get discouraged then you will have truly lost out.

Relax, Let Go And Transform

Don’t specify how it happens. Simply, trust that it does. How it does, you don’t know and you could care less. Get out of your own way. Don’t put any conditions on it. Simply, enjoy it and vibrate positively with it. The less you dictate how it must be the quicker you will get it.

Let go and give in. Allow. Receive. Enjoy. Celebrate between now and whenever it arrives. Be happy, delighted, positive and patient. You did the creative work inside now celebrate and let it all come together. We’ll discuss more in future posts. Meanwhile, live, be happy, celebrate and delight!

The quickest way to get what you want is to be it! Be filled with gratitude and joy. May all your dreams and goals come true.” Rex Sikes

Delight in your day!

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Can You Do This???? — Extra Blog Post 10/19

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Hey there. I trust you are well. Hope you have had a marvelous day. If times are tough I hope they resolve themselves soon. They can you know. Keep the faith and maintain your forward momentum in gratitude and celebration and you may be quite surprise.

Today, tonight, I am adding a brief extra blog to all subscribers, followers and readers. I want to say thanks. I hope you like the blog. If you have questions or there is anything I can do to assist you finding information please ask. Anything I can do I will do.

Tell me what topics you are interested in. If I am able and have some experience or knowledge in the area I will attempt to discuss or point you in a useful direction. Please, tell me how I can improve this blog for you. Your feedback is welcome. Let me hear it.

Thanks for sharing the blog with others too. That helps more than you can ever imagine!  When you share it gives others a chance to read it too. I appreciate that and your efforts. It has been my goal to provide a daily inspirational piece and for nearly 500 consecutive days that is the case. I will continue.

Can I ask you something?

I need your help too. It is getting very busy for me in the next few weeks and I could really use a hand, each day, getting my blog out. If you would share the daily blog posts with your friends and on Facebook, Twitter, and elsewhere that would help. It would mean so much! SO MUCH!!!

Whether in person or by email, re-blogging or however you are able to get the posts out to others IT would be wonderful. I won’t have the time to promote the blog for a while (few weeks) so I ask your help in doing this. Is this possible for you to do?

If you can and if you will that would mean a lot. I’ll still write it in the middle of the early am hours and get it to you.

Thank you! I look forward to your feedback on improvements and topic ideas. Have a wonderful rest of the day! Meanwhile, all the best. Make your dreams come true. Celebrate and enjoy!

Rex Sikes

You Are Marvelous!

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My Life Absolutely Transformed When I Decided This!

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My life absolutely transformed when I decided I was no longer going to focus on what I don’t want or want to avoid and concentrate instead only on what I do want.

Yes, I don’t want wars but instead I focus on peace. Yes, I don’t want poverty but instead focus on wealth creation.

Yes, I don’t want many things but instead of focusing on the problem, once identified, I prefer to focus on the solution.

That is what we are after most anyway. Life is good!

My life absolutely changed for the better when I stopped thinking and saying ‘I can’t’ and decided to say ‘I can’, instead!

My life absolutely transformed when I stopped thinking and saying ‘Somebody ought to do something’, and started thinking and saying ‘I ought to do something’.

When I learned to take control of my own thought process everything in my life got better!

My life transformed in glorious ways when I decided I wasn’t a victim or survivor of my past but that I am, and could live as, a champion. I could be a victor in every way.

My life changed wonderfully when I opened the possibility for thinking positive instead of thinking habitually negative or mere lack luster thinking.

My life transformed positively when I decided to take 100% responsibility for all of my life past and present as well as for my future.

I decided I was a creator and attractor. I recognized that I choose. I decide. When I realized I was deciding all along, even when I didn’t think I was, or when I wanted to blame someone else, I came into incredible power.

My life transformed when I realized my feelings were a signal as to what I was paying attention to in my mind.

When I decided I was going to live feeling the best I could at any moment is when miracles began happening in my life!

Simple moments became auspicious moments.

My life transformed delightfully when I decided to put my energies into what I am grateful for. When I filled the day and each moment with gratefulness beauty became evident.

Suddenly, everything became perfectly okay and as it should be!

My live transformed incredibly when I learned how to better let go and drop weight I need not carry.

When I learned how to stop resisting and start allowing life because so much easier. Flow happened and I started to enjoy it so much more.

My life transformed in amazing ways when I learned how to forgive myself and others.

When I could shower others with love and not hold anything against them so many relationships changed.

My life transformed when I transformed my life. I transformed me and everything transformed after that.

Life is good. Life is great. Life is grand!

I believe any one of these practices will transform your life too in incredible ways. You can transform in ways that you may not even be able to begin to fully imagine yet.

Pick one and put it into practice. Soon it will lead to the others.

There is no reason to not be absolutely happy in life and with life. To feel happy is a choice we make. Choose to be happy and you can be. Choose to be happy and you  will be. What you get is completely up to you. It is up to you. Celebrate and enjoy!” Rex Sikes

Make each moment marvelous!

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Stop Describing Your Life As If You Are Talking To Tech Support

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“Yes, we will continue with how and why it is important to have and maintain good vibrations. This is a bit of a segue but in the same vein. It is important to staying happy, creating your dreams and attracting the future you desire to think positive and feel the best you are able to most of the time. The key to change IS in good feelings.

You want to feel good most of the time. You want the ratio of less than glorious to glorious to be predominantly on the side of glorious. This is the key to manifesting what you want more of. You want more good feelings so you start and maintain feeling good. Then you will get more of the same. Do you get it?

What You Think About You Bring About

So today, I had a tech issue on the computer and on my smart phone. I called tech support. Of course, they want to know what is wrong so that they can help correct it. I describe the problem I am having with book marks on one of my browsers. They state, yes, this is a common problem. It get’s fixed.

I state there is the problem I am having with my phone. They work to resolve it. As they do, what they do, fixes the problem I described but leaves me with another problem I discover moments after we hang up the phone. I go back through the web site, ask them to call me and they do and we begin again.

If You Always Do What You Always Did …

I describe the original problem that brought me there and that it was remedied only to discover another issue once we hang up. They work to resolve this and do but again create another issue which is larger than the previous one. I only discover this problem once we hang up.  I go back through the web site and the cycle begins again.

This went on, pretty much like this, all day long.

Each time I had to go back to the website get them to call me. Then I had to go through each of the issues and their remedies and the new problems created each time. This was repeated time and time again. During this time I had to go about business.

I left one meeting to go sit in the stair well to speak with them. At this point I was able to request call backs at certain times or whenever they finished helping someone else they would call me. So in my car en route to my computer. Later, they  called at the conclusion of another meeting I had.

…You’ll Always Get What What You Always Got

Then during a drive through while getting my son something to eat, Then back at home. The final call lasted 3 hours until my land line air phone died and the tech support person finished his 11.5 hour shift. AND get this!  The problem I dread most still looms for tomorrow . They scheduled an early AM technical support call.

So it is near the close of the day when it occurs to me that this is a great analogy for how many of us spend our days anyway. We describe the issues that bother us over and over again. Someone cuts us off on the free way while on the way to work. We get angry. Flip the other person off. Use a few choice expletives and drive on muttering about that SOB.

We mention it to the coffee barista. Once at work we complain to co-workers about the jerk on the road. During lunch we bring it up again. This continues on until we arrive home. We are asked about our day and we begin with the asshole on the highway. Only by now we have added a litany of other complaints that occurred during the day. We stock pile bad events. We pick them up like lint rollers.

If You Want Your Life To Change…

When we focus on our problems, even to solve them, we tend to get more problems. I am not suggesting we don’t fix wrongs but that we learn how to shift our attitude away from it being a problem and into how wonderful it is finding a solution. Our days are meant to be spent joyously not spent reciting lists of what went wrong.

Yet, sadly, that is what too many of us do. Why? My guess is we get caught up in it. That is one potential reason. We get snagged by it, hooked. I think we also do it because we are used to doing it. Our parents did it and we grew up doing it. It is mostly all we know. I think another reason is there is a reward in complaining.

Secretly, somehow we like the drama and the attention we get. We want to be the sad little puppy who has had it soooooo hard. Really, I do. Who doesn’t feel better feeling bad sometimes? Admit it, you like it. You do! The bottom line is it doesn’t matter much why we are the way we are. We won’t change even a little unless we do change.

…You Have To Change Things In Your LIfe

That is what we must remember. As long as we perpetuate the old way, the painful way. the negative way, the comfortable, old, wonderfully painful way that gets us attention and ‘bandaids on our boo boos’ we will remain stuck wallowing in endless lists of daytime wrongs.

Our life will remain essentially as it is. We will continue to complain about the bills, that no one listens, that we’re living in a loveless relationship, our job sucks but nobody cares, and how we wish it were better but it never really gets any better. Do you get it? If you want your life to change you must change things in your life.

You cannot go around listing problems as if you are speaking with technical support and expect your life to improve. For your life to improve you pretty much need to ignore the less than glorious circumstances and place your energy and your focus on what you can appreciate and feel gratitude for.

You Become What You Think About Most

You need to maintain your vision on your positive dreams and goals, the ones that haven’t really happened yet, and imagine them as if they are completed. You need to feel all the marvelous feelings most of your day, that you would feel if your life was perfect and all your dreams had already come true.

In order to experience the magic you have to place your attention and keep your attention on the invisible, that which hasn’t actually happened yet. AND you have to act and think as if it already has. The point of this is : if you want the good life you have to stay focused on the good life and not contaminate it with all that goes wrong in the meantime.

Fill your heart and mind with gratitude and joy. Feel thrilled that life is incredible. Live with enthusiasm, passion and joy. Be alive, totally alive. Have fun. Smile, laugh, sing, dance, love and celebrate. When you do you vibrate in that special creative way that helps you make everything you want come to be.

Speak Only To Bless, Heal And Prosper

You are a light unto the world and you radiate and attract the right people, events and circumstances into your life. Your brain works on finding opportunity and advantages, resources in the real world. You operate from such a place of optimism and power the game literally changes. You operate from being in charge and being in control

You are the captain of your fate and the master of your soul. You live as a champion instead of a whiner. You live as a victor and not as a victim. Start describing the things that go right in your life. Start talking about the things you want to say ‘YES” to.

Emphasize these! Repeat these again and again and feel blessed. Your mantra, your self talk should be positive. Speak to yourself and others only to bless, heal and prosper. Accentuate the positive and you will get more positive back. Thoughts are things. What we think about we bring about. What you focus on expands.

Radiate And Let Your Light Shine

Remember this! Keep it in mind. We become what we think about. Birds of a feather flock together. It is the flowers that attract the bees. Bears are attracted to the honey. Let your goodness flow like a river and all good things will flow to you. Stay positive! Be a light for others! Your life will wonderfully transform as you do!” Rex Sikes

Let your light shine today!

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What You Do Most Of The Time Determines Your Success

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“Balance is important in much of what we do and how we live our lives. If we want to get ahead, be happier, healthier and more successful in career and life then we have to tip the scales in favor of those. We must do positive productive things repeatedly more often.

What we think and feel and do most of the time runs the show. We can’t be 50/50 and expect to be a champion. We need to give it our all to be a winner. We need to spend most of our time practicing the principles that bring us what we want in life. That’s just the way it is.

80/20 Is A Good Point To Keep In Mind

A coaching client said to me recently, ‘I try to be positive all the time. Life is so much better when I am not negative. It seems hard, however, and I have to know do positive people ever have negative thoughts?’ I answered, ‘I suppose. That depends on the individual.’

Certainly, I can’t answer for all. However, it is a good bet that they do. Given how most of us are raised, even with the best of intentions by the best parents, we have picked up limited thinking from others around us. That is just the way it is. No point complaining or blaming.

There is no use getting upset about the way of the world. That just adds fuel to the fire. The reality is anything and everything is possible. Some people have more and others have less advantages. So what, the opportunity is to make the best with what you have.

The More You Do The More You Can Do

To complain, resent or worry about it doesn’t change it. However, getting upset may be the catalyst for our own personal changes. Sometimes, we end up feeling ‘okay enough of this’ and we resolve to be different. We move forward once we have had enough.

The most positive people I know, who have been my mentors, have had negative thoughts from time to time. By their own admission they did so. They just do not let the negative thoughts run away on them. They do not let negative thoughts rule their lives. Nope, no way!

Once they notice them and recognize them for what they are move on. The steer back to the positive thoughts. They use the negative thoughts or feelings as a signal to make some changes in what they are thinking or doing. They really do understand them as signals.

Today You Are Where Your Thoughts Brought You

They use the ‘less than glorious’ a signal that they have gotten off course. They recognize that an opportunity has presented itself. How soon this occurs for each of them, or each of us, depends on how good we have gotten noticing and shifting back. It is up to us.

Changing our thinking takes awareness and skill. The most positive people I know are positive because they deliberately take charge of their mental processes. What is natural or haphazard for most people they  have learned to make deliberate.

They are in control of. They are in charge. All of us can get down. Time is the great healer. At some point we get over things. Then we feel better again until something else happens and we don’t again. We live like a cork bobbing on the water influenced by outside forces.

Tomorrow You Will Be Where Your Thoughts Take You

The positive people I know don’t allow the outside forces to have much control over their internal state. Sure, from time to time it may. Sometimes, people get dealt a really difficult blow. In general though, the positive people control their thinking and responses.

They have learned by trial and error to develop positive habits that support them. I know no one who claims it happened over night. For every single person  it is a process. It took dedication and deliberate work to make it reliable and automatic. Yes, it can and does!

So when they do have negative thoughts or feelings the positive person is not a victim of them. The positive person examines them only long enough to determine whether there is useful feedback and then moves on. Anyone of us can learn to change our thinking.

You Can’t Escape Your Thoughts

Anyone of us can learn to control our thinking and feelings in positive and powerful ways. The questions is will we? No one has to if they don’t want to but if life is not everything you want it to be or have hoped for there is a way to make it better. Anyone can.

Life can become much more glorious. When you become positive MOST of the time there is a wonderful quality to it that we otherwise seem to miss. The opportunity before each of us is in learning how to make it mostly positive and to live powerfully.

I think learning to take control of our thinking is one of the most profound, glorious and exciting things we can discover and do. I am in awe most every day! When negative thoughts or feelings do arise, and they do, we run they show, our thoughts don’t. You’re in charge!

You Can Control Your Thoughts

For most all of us that is a pretty BIG deal. I don’t even know how to describe it. It is wonderful. As I have been known to say, do it! Do it. And do it step by step. What you discover will amaze you. Drop by drop fills the tub. You will have what you want when you persist.

There does comes a time when automatic positive habits rule the day and less effort is required. You naturally are more positive most of the time. Things get easy and require less attention. I didn’t say no attention but far less. When negativity arises you change it back.

As you make the changes you want life will become more and more incredible. There is no way to put words to it. When each day becomes a celebration and each moment an opportunity to enjoy it more life is good! Live it! Live, love, laugh and enjoy!” Rex Sikes

Make today incredible!

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What You See Is What You Get: How To See It!

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“How do you make changes and get what you want? That seems to be on a lot of minds? What do I do? How should I think about it? What if I don’t visualize well? Can you help me? These and other questions I get asked a lot by clients and at speaking events or workshops.

Yesterday, a client emailed me asking how to think about getting a new job. How should she create it in her mind or use the Law Of Attraction to land the kind of ideal job she wants. Should she use a vision board? What can she do?

She stated she doesn’t see her pictures. I thought I’d include the answer here as a sample of what you can do. I said, YES, a vision board can help. Absolutely, this is a great practice. Plus, she has had success using one in the past. SO that is good news.

Writing Helps You Visualize

I also suggested the person visualize what they wanted ‘as if’ they already had it all right now. Life is perfect and she is working the perfect job. Imagine what that is like in detail. Because she stated she didn’t see anything I suggested she write it in a journal. Not only once but write it down daily. This is an amazing practice.

Record what she experienced and how she feels when everything is perfect. Fully Imagine already having that perfect job. Describe it in detail. Write down what she does, who is around her, what it is like working there AND HOW IT FEELS!

I gave her some sample text instructing her to put it in her own words. After all, it is her perfect job, not mine. I suggested  she might write some things like this. ‘I love my co-workers they are so cool. I appreciate how we support each other and interact. I look forward each day to seeing them.’

‘I love going to work it makes me feel extra special. I smile as I approach the place because I know I will have a great day with great people doing work and helping others.’

It Is What You Are Feeling That Is Most Important

‘I love the money this new job pays me. I enjoy having money coming in. Imagine being able to do something I enjoy so much and make good money doing it. I am blessed.’

So each day write more about it. Each day write and feel wonderful for five minutes or more. The more the better. As long as you feel the wonderful feelings while you are doing it. It is all about the feelings you have.

I explained that you write to help yourself visualize what you want and to feel all the incredible feelings you would feel as you live this reality. Remember, you are answering the question, ‘if life were perfect how would you feel?’ What are you doing and what are you grateful for?

We Are Always Using Affirmations 

I then suggested she use ‘I am’ and ‘I have’ statements to continue to create what she wants. Anything that follows ‘I am’ or ‘I have’ is what we experience. Unfortunately, too many people make horribly negative ‘I am’ and ‘I have’ statements.

People affirm what they don’t want all the time. They say things such as, ‘I am broke.’ ‘I have no money.’ ‘I have too many bills.’ ‘I am stupid’ or ‘Why am I so stupid?’ the sad list goes on and on. It is no wonder they keep getting more of the same. Birds of a feather flock together.

I suggested these statements as example. ‘I am happy in my job. I have lots of happy experiences because of the people I am interacting with. I am contributing and adding value to my employers. This always makes me feel wonderful.’

Learn To Use Affirmations To Get What You Want

‘I have all the right talents to work in this arena. I am confident and happy. I love and appreciate everything this job brings me. I attract the right people to me. I am surrounded by good friends. I am brave and confident.’

‘I can control my thoughts. I am in charge. I can learn to do anything I put my mind to. I am resourceful. I have all the money I need and more keeps coming to me. I feel secure. I am creative. I am peaceful and relaxed.’

I told her you can do this! Watch your thoughts and feelings. Whenever you are feeling less than glorious change what you are thinking about to something positive. Stop the negativity. Rephrase whatever you are thinking about into the positive.

Learn to Use ‘As If’ To Create The Results You Want

Your feelings are a great indicator of your thoughts. Your feelings let you know, whether you feel good or not, whether you are thinking positive or not. Less than good means less than positive. Stop, take a breath and change it.

Ask positive Directed Questions™ which lead your mind where you want it to go. If at first, you have difficulty accepting or believing the other powerful affirmations use questions.  ‘How soon can I enjoy discovering how truly resourceful I am?’

‘In how many ways can I find myself feeling blessed and excited?’ “How quickly will I amaze myself to find many different things I feel truly grateful for?’ ‘As I go through my day I wonder how surprised I might be to discover how much fun I can have that puts a smile on my face and a song in my heart?’

Use Intentional Thinking Don’t Be Haphazard

Count your blessings and feel blessed. Take my examples and come up with your own. Watch what you think and say to yourself.  If it is less than glorious or what you DO NOT WANT change it.  Be in charge of your own mind. Think positive and keep thinking positive. Make it a habit by repeating it again and again.

You can do this! Drop by drop fills the tub. Think all blessings! Celebrate and enjoy! You will be amazed at how quickly you can create or attract and live the kind of life you want to live. When you aim your mind positively your mind finds opportunity and advantages in the outer world you would have otherwise missed.

Get your mind working for you. Program it to work for you. Write in your journal. Make positive affirmations and questions emphatically with positive emotion and enthusiasm. Once a habit it will continue to work for you automatically. Great News! DO IT!!!” Rex Sikes

What grand things will you discover today?

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What You Should Do: The Best Way To Spend Your Time!

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“What is most important? What should a person do? How best to use their time? These and other questions are certainly important.  Often, I am asked to consult or give advice. I am happy to provided I can be of service and provide value. I will attempt to answer these questions to the best of my ability.

The life you are living. You and your relationships. The people closest to you. These are important. If I had one word to give as advice that word would be ‘live’. Live your life fully. Make the most of the little moments and enjoy everything. Live, celebrate and live.

It is far too short to spend time worrying about what isn’t, what you don’t want and don’t have. What is important is to enjoy this experience as much as possible. Fill your life with love, laughter and lightness. Leave the seriousness behind. Drop anything that doesn’t make you feel better. Happiness is a choice. Choose it!

Sure, you have to pay bills and do what is necessary to live in society. So do it and learn to enjoy life anyway. You can either hate what you have to do or enjoy it. Make the best of it or at least don’t let it get you down. Spend less time in misery and more time enjoying.

Delight, love, live, laugh, learn, have as much fun and fascination as possible. Play and relax. You only go around once! Make the most of it. Celebrate, appreciate and be grateful.  Spend time with the people who you love and appreciate most doing things you enjoy.

It is so simple. Spend more of your time feeling good and life will be good. It is a no brainer. Focus on that which makes you feel wonderful. Think thoughts that make you feel good. Be positive and enjoy. It is simple. Be more positive than negative, more joyful than sad, more peaceful than angry. Be curious and play as a child does.

It is your life. You don’t have to, of course. It is only a suggestion for how you may want to spend the time you have here.  The more fun you have the more you can have. Don’t shirk your responsibilities simply add pleasure in more often. Stop being so serious. LIVE!!!” Rex Sikes

Be filled with passion today!

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What Being Thankful Can Do For You

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“What are you grateful for? There are so many people and so many things to appreciate? Can you list a few? Who do you appreciate? What experiences in your life have blessed you? What things in life are you thankful you have?

Could you do that every day? Spend some time feeling grateful? Especially prior to bed could you do this? It is such an amazing practice. The more you can feel truly grateful the more life becomes incredible. Feeling blessed is transformation. Feeling blessed opens the way for all good things in life!

I am so grateful for so many blessings in my life. My children, my family and friends, my career, all of my experiences that have led me to today. Thanks for those that are good and those one wouldn’t think of as good but which actually are. All experiences good and bad. Everything!

The Attitude Is Gratitude

Thank you readers! Thank you who spend time with me. Thanks to you, who in whatever ways, put into practice some of the principles shared here. Thank you for taking time each day to inspire yourself and others. Thanks for the comments. Thanks to you who share this blog so others can benefit. You all are a blessing!

I appreciate you even if I do not personally know you. The more we positively influence each other the more pockets of positivity that form and grow in our world. The more people who are positive the more powerful changes we can make. Birds of a feather flock together.

We can be a force that helps make the world a better place within our own community and without. You can be a force that helps change the world by outreach. While we may never meet in person we are on the same team that helps the world become a better place.

Magic Happens When You Can Celebrate Everything

Heck, it is already a really marvelous place! People may gunk it up with their limitations and greed but together we can change that. The world is still marvelous! We can be influencers for positive change. We can dream our goals and achieve them together.  What we focus on expands.

It begins with the idea. If we are inspired to live better and make a better place for ourselves and our children then we can. We can accomplish what we set out to as long as we keep at it and do not quit. So I thank you for being part of a community of people who want to live better, work better, play better, and relate better.

So today, let us celebrate. Celebrate being together. Celebrate all the wonderful people in your life. Celebrate your experiences. Celebrate all the things you have. Stop, pause and truly be grateful. Enjoy it, delight in all of it. Transformation occurs inside appreciation!” Rex Sikes

Delight in all today!

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