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The 2 Most Powerful Ingredients For Happiness And Success! PT 2

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“The amount of time one spends devoted to their personal happiness and their personal and professional goals makes a difference in how easily attainable these are. How you spend your time IS a critical factor.

A plant is either growing or dying. It is either feeding or starving. Are you feeding and growing or starving and dying? You can evaluate this each moment of each day. How you spend your time is important!

Continued from previous blog:

How much time you devote to your goal and how good you feel while spending that time are the two critical ingredients.

2. Intensity

Intensity is the kicker that makes it all work better, easier and faster.

FEEL GOOD RIGHT NOW! You want to feel as good as you can feel for as much time as possible. You want your day and night to be spent enjoying the very best feelings you have. You want to feel good right now in your present.

The more time you spend feeling good the quicker you make your goals come true. The more time you feel good the more time you WILL be able to feel good. You get back great returns on your investment when you think and feel positive most of your time.

When you feel great and you are passionate and enthused, when you are eager and are filled with energy, you think clearer and are able to keep going longer. Your intense feelings make you powerful.

Feeling intensely good in the present moment makes everything work better!

Some people may think, ‘Well, if I could feel good I would.’

You need to take charge. You will never think and feel your best if you expect the outer world to make you happy or better. It just doesn’t work that way. The way to get to feel better IS to take control, even when you don’t feel like it, and control your thoughts and feelings.

Learn to do the things that make you feel better. A few things that help in this are to eat right, sleep right, get enough exercise. Eliminate chemicals and additives. Sit, stand and move with more energy. Get a massage. Many suggestions are in previous blog posts.

This is WHY we fill our mind with positive thoughts. It is why we read and listen to inspiring materials. It is why we visualize our goals as completed and feel the feelings of that accomplishment. It is why we monitor our self-talk to insure it is positive. It is why we affirm out loud and passionately who we are and what we are capable of.

It’s not be possible to feel ecstasy or joy all the time but you can spend more time feeling these. This little step helps you feel your best more of the time: Whatever you are feeling in the present moment make it a point to make yourself feel just a little bit better. Nudge yourself in the direction of feeling good.

It is a system of self management. You put yourself in the driver’s seat 100% and take responsibility for whatever happens good or bad. Take responsibility for managing your thoughts and feelings and for steering yourself in the most positive direction.

You don’t have to go from sad to ecstasy that is too big of a jump. Just make yourself feel a little bit better. That starts you on the path to over all well-being. Step by step. You do not have to do it all at once or even in one day. In time you will learn how to feel your best at nearly any time.

Celebrate everything life hands you, even if you don’t know how things will work out. Look to all you are thankful and grateful for. The longer you feel better the better your feel. The more you move yourself  to feel better when you are not the easier it becomes.

The more intense your good feelings are the swifter you bring about change. There is great power in living optimistically and vibrantly!

Do what you can do to make yourself feel a little bit better each day. Whenever you notice you are not feeling great, do what you can to feel better. Take a break, take a walk, get some exercise or some rest. Read something inspirational or chant your affirmations firmly and enthusiastically! Hang around positive people. Smile more!

Bring positive physical energy into your body by moving your body and your mind in positive ways. The more energy you put into it the more you get from it. Life IS vibrant and alive. There is more energy in a empty inch of space than in all the world’s power sources. There is plenty to go around. Energy flows where your attention goes!

You are alive! All your trillions of cells are alive and vibrating.

Too many people feel only okay. They robotically move from day to day doing the same routines, accepting that this is how it is and don’t have much to look forward to. They put all their hope in things outside themselves to rescue them. They live as victims.

Your positive thoughts are extra powerful when combined with the most intense positive good  feelings! The more intense the easier the subconscious mind gets the message. It reproduces that which we give to it through powerful feelings. (Read what I have shared about military training and intensity in previous blogs).

People limit themselves by feeling strong negative emotions about what they want or don’t have. The feel strongly afraid, or hurt or depressed and end up getting back more of the same.

The subconscious only delivers or reproduces strong emotions regardless of whether they are positive or negative. So you want to pay attention to what messages you are sending it. Aim your thoughts and feelings like a laser beam. Don’t be haphazard.

Zest for life is what makes life worth living. Successful people are passionate, intense, people. Their emotions are powerful. You can feel their energy when you are around them. Creative energy is intense. They pursue their dreams with passion and expect to succeed.

People who make money( think, ‘Wolf of Wall Street’ ) are intense. They are not half assed, namby-pamby, wishy washy, ‘oh well, ho hum’ people. The live to their fullest. When you live with passion, when you fill yourself up with positive feelings and energy you become unstoppable. You don’t need to be licentious to enjoy life, however. You become a power house. Feel your power.

How you think determines how you feel and how you feel determines how you think.  Energy flows where attention goes. If you want to feel better think better. If you want to think better put  a spring in your step. Shake up your body, dance, skip, twirl. Stand and move with confidence, energy and liveliness.

The more you feel the good feelings right now the more changes you will readily make. Live with passion. Feel fully. Commit to feeling better than okay. Notice when you aren’t feeling good and take steps to feel better. Even if you only make yourself feel a little bit better you are doing something valuable.

The longer you devote yourself to thinking positive about yourself and your goal while feeling intensely wonderful the quicker and easier your life will change. The more time you spend smiling and feeling happy the better off you will be.

You are either growing or dying. You are either positive or negative. You are either feeling good or you are not. Notice, become aware, and make the positive changes as necessary.

Live as the driver in charge of your life and steer your thoughts and feelings to the most positive and glorious. The more time you spend thinking and feeling wonderful the more wonderful you will be. You get and become what you spend most of your time thinking about.

Take charge of your life and live it fully and completely. After all what else is there? Life is to be enjoyed. Enjoy it. Do it for yourself! You will discover that by taking even small steps in the right direction, though it may seem difficult at first, becomes easier and easier.

Intensity is what super charges your thoughts and your actions. When you feel vibrantly positive and alive you can get through any hardship faster. When you celebrate and feel thankful and aren’t distracted by any circumstances you excel. FEEL GOOD NOW makes all the difference in the world.” Rex Sikes

Grab this day with gusto!

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Healthy Body Healthy Mind – Are You?

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“Healthy Body Healthy Mind; Healthy Mind Healthy Body. The two seem go hand in hand. We tend to think of these as separate entities, body and mind. Really they are part of one system. It is difficult to have one without the other. It makes sense to do think, feel and do things that benefit the entire system. We are one not two.

If you want to be clearer headed and have more energy, maintain your ideal weight and feel better then what we think about is important. It is equally important what we put into our bodies.

Remember GIGO; Garbage In Garbage Out? You can’t have a well operating system if you are putting garbage into it. You might want to make a point of eating better in addition to thinking better. It is still early in the new year, perhaps that was even one of your resolutions.

It is always easier for some reason and some people to begin on a Monday. Today is Friday (or whenever you are reading this) take the next few days to plan to begin to add in food items that are healthier choices and to eliminate some that are not healthy. This will give you some time to plan what you want, decide how you want to do it, shop for the items, clear out the old and begin to take steps toward being healthier overall. All of this is your choice. Decide well and choose wisely.

We know that lots of sugar, chemical additives, processed foods, MSG, HFCS are not good for us. We know more servings of fresh vegetables, fresh fruits, clean water, 100% grass fed, antibiotic and hormone free, well raised and pasture or cage free meats, wild caught fish, are wiser choices than most items in food stores and butcher shops. You will have to make your own choices but there are guidelines out there to follow. Again, seek out the best guidelines.

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It is not just what we put in our bodies but what we put on our bodies. Our skin is our largest organ and it absorbs whatever we put on it. Lots of chemicals, deodorants, make-up, lotions, lathers are not at all beneficial for us. Much of what we ingest and slap on ourselves has little to do with thoughtful choices and more with blind adherence to brand advertising.

It is a wise and worthwhile practice to check the labels on food, drink and items we slather over us or bath in. A good rule of thumb is, IF you can’t pronounce it don’t ingest it or wear it. Don’t eat it or wear it if you don’t know what it is. IF it has more items than make sense for a simple food item don’t eat it.

Feeling good comes from what we do within and without. What we put in ourselves as fuel is important. You wouldn’t expect your car or furnace to run on inferior products so neither should you. I think when one cares for oneself one cares FOR oneself.

If you love and value and appreciate yourself you won’t skimp, cheat or treat yourself less than you deserve to be treated. You deserve the very best! Take care of yourself in the very best fashion. Keep this in mind for your children, parents and all family members. Make it a point to be healthy inside and outside. You will be delighted with how much more wonderful you feel when you dedicate yourself to feeling wonderful!” Rex Sikes

Have a marvelous day!

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Do This! Start The New Year Right!

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“The New Year is upon us. Happy New Year! This is a time when people make resolutions for a new beginning. It is an exciting time January 1. The truth is everyday is the start on a new day and a new year. Anytime you decide to make a change is valid. You can begin new each day.

A good start to this year, whenever you decide to make the change would be to be nicer to yourself. Stop being mean. Be kind, be gentle, be encouraging. We think and say some terrible things to ourselves that we would never or should never say to another person. So this year make it a point to be good to you.

Put a guard before your thoughts and your lips. Make it a point to only speak what helps you (and others) feel blessed, heal and prosper. Everyone makes mistakes so accept it and nurture yourself along instead of criticizing or  blaming. Stop getting down on yourself!

Understand that you did the best you could at the time with the information or tools that you had then. Learn from your mistakes. Look for the lesson and the seeds of opportunity and move forward by giving yourself support instead of reprimand. Be peaceful and love yourself.

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Find a way to think the best of you. Expect the best of you! Understand that if you don’t know how to do something, yet, you can learn to as you apply yourself and stick with it. Understand that when you undertake any new learning you aren’t the best right out of the gate, you aren’t proficient yet, you are learning it. So give yourself a break and allow the time it takes for you to get the hang of it.

Whenever you think or speak poorly of yourself or others, whenever you are off track or feeling less than glorious nudge yourself back towards feeling better and thinking more positively. Take baby steps and move yourself along. Don’t let yourself stay stuck for long.

Be patient with yourself and your progress. You can’t push a rope. You can’t push a river either. Accept yourself, accept where you are at, allow it and learn to relax and go with the flow. Treat yourself as you would a new born or toddler. Encourage and be thrilled as your progress.

Be thrilled when you progress! I repeat it.  Be enthusiastic. Fill yourself with positive energy and thoughts. Savor and enjoy feeling well. Take delight in little things. Find ways to enjoy the moment. Gift yourself from time to time. Have a special ‘me’ time when you treat yourself extra well. Appreciate you for no reason other than you can.

I am blessed and I am talented

Realize every day is an opportunity to be grateful, feel thankful and celebrate. Fill your time with positive images in your mental movie theater, positive self talk and positive wonderful feelings. Make each moment marvelous and each day will be too. Celebrate and appreciate!

Take advantage of the new year whatever day you decide it falls on. Have fun, trust yourself more, focus on your goals and what you want and will make happen. Focus less on the circumstances around you. If

Whenever you find yourself thinking about what you don’t want realize that informs you about what it is you really want. Then shift your focus and spend your time thinking about what you DO want. Keep your attention on what you want to create and the things you are grateful for. You can be do or have anything you want in life.

Whenever you feel less than glorious recognize the feelings as a signal to shift into feeling better. Then think better, take some deep breathes, take a break, go for a walk or do some physical activity that helps you feel better and move into better feelings. Move from the less than glorious toward the glorious in increments. The goal is to feel your best most of your time.

gratitude is the attitude that propels you forward

When you are feeling down one of the best ways to help yourself is to help another person feel  better. Give as you are able, support someone else, encourage and nurture another person and you will begin to feel better. What you put out there you get back. Help someone to feel good and you will feel better.

As you do these things, as you celebrate and appreciate and love yourself more you and your life will transform in wonderfully positive ways.” Rex Sikes

Make today your day!

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Who Do You Think You Are?

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“Who are you? The answer is, you are who you think you are. You are either a poor person who doesn’t have enough and lives hand to mouth, a pauper, perhaps, or you are a wealthy millionaire living abundantly enjoying everything there is to enjoy. Who deserves it!

The fact of the matter is that  what is currently in your bank account doesn’t matter. Your past and present do not define you. YOU define you!  What matters is your self definition, the view of yourself, the thoughts you think about you. These determine who are you. You determine who you are and how far you will go. You determine what your life will be like and what you do and have. YOU, it is all up to you!

You decide who you are . Your present situation shows you what your thoughts about you have been up until now. You are where your thoughts brought you. You will go where your thoughts take you. If you like where you are at, fabulous! Keep it up!

If you do not like your current circumstances YOU can change them! You can make life more of what you want it to be, BUT, you have to be willing to change what you are doing! That is the key. If you want your life to change then you must make some changes first. Then you can have everything you want.

Everything begins in thought. Thought precedes feelings and actions. Reality is really only our interpretation. You’d be better off imagining that you are very wealthy but have yet to deposit all that money in your account than to worry about about your current financial situation. Worry and fear only bring about more of the same. You don’t want more lack do you? If you want abundance you focus on it!

worry takes away today's peace

The point is to aim high at what you want to become. You may not have everything yet, but in your mind you should assume that you do and live there as though you have.  Imagine vividly what you want as though you already have all of it. See yourself as your ideal self and continue to hold these thoughts in your mind. Daily! Often!

Send a clear command to your unconscious mind (your servo-mechanism) that this is who you are and what you want. Then patiently wait for it to develop. It is a process and takes some time.

You faithfully work on it daily. It works similarly to planning a trip. You chose your ultimate destination. You know where you want to end up and then you travel there. You may have to alter your route from time to time but you keep heading toward where you want to end up. You  get there bit by bit. You can’t rush it.  It takes whatever amount of time it takes but ultimately you arrive at your chosen direction, but, you have to stick with it and never quit.

So decide who you are. Decide what you do and what you have and keep that alive in your mind daily. Stay positive! It is not what is presently going on that matters! You created that previously. Do not focus on the present circumstances!  Focus on what you want and how it will be in the future. Maintain that focus habitually! Stick with it.

see it in your mind first

How do you deal with the present? You embrace it with compete and utter gratitude. After all, you brought it about whether you wanted to or not. Appreciate everything.  Take 100% responsibility and appreciate yourself. You move forward faster when you are grateful!

Whatever you did, whatever you have was because of what you thought and did at that time. Whatever you did you did. No worries no matter. No blame. Accept it. You acted as you knew how to act then. What matters most is what you decide from here on out. From this moment on is what matters! It is what you do next and what you continue to do that will determine what your future will be like!

Recognize that YOU can make the future whatever you want it to be. Go back and re-read these blog posts for more details, tips, strategies and principles that will help guide you into having an incredible future!

Handle  current problems by focusing on the solutions and remaining positive. Stay calm and relaxed. Remember worry and negativity don’t help anything. Stay focused on your destination. Don’t get sidetracked. Keep your focus. You can and will make it happen!” Rex Sikes

Celebrate Today! It Is A Special Day! It is the only day of its kind you will ever have!

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Stick With It, You Can Do It! Never Give Up

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Keep going no matter what. Never give up. Giving up is easy. Going on may be tough but it is only by persevering that you will make your dreams come true. ‘Quitters never win and winners never quit’, as the saying goes. Just keep going! Hang in there and keep the faith.

Keep your mind in check. Stay positive and maintain your focus. Believe with all your heart you will prevail. Never let obstacles or challenges derail you. Stick with the plan. Keep on going. You only fail when you finally stop trying. We can learn from any challenge and any obstacle. So stay with it and you WILL get through it.

good judgement comes from experience

All defeat is only temporary. It may not seem that but it is. Remember the saying, ‘This too will pass.’ IT WILL, it really will. No matter how tough it is rise up. You deserve the best there is so you must keep going in order to make that happen. Sometimes we have to fall to learn how to get back up and keep going. We make mistakes to gain wisdom and experience. Everything can be useful to learn from so make the most of every experience, every moment.

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Keep moving forward. Being stuck means you stop, that there is no movement. Don’t get stuck, keep moving toward your goals and dreams bit by bit. Consider this, whether true or not, use this thought to inspire you: You are creating everything, your wishes and wants, your dreams and desires, your present and your future. You are creating your obstacles and challenges too. You create these to learn important lessons from and to evolve. Even if it is not true keep it in mind and act as if it were true to guide you.

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EVERYTHING is a blessing, every moment there is something to be thankful for. In every challenge is a seed for opportunity and a lesson to be discovered. So be thankful and enjoy! Celebrate and find what is good and new each moment. Make every second count. Live with passion, joy and delight. When you do each moment can transform. Find the little magical moments and collect them. You will transform.

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It may be tough but that is just the way it is, for now. Concentrate on what you want and why you want it. Celebrate all the good things you presently can find and ignore the rest. If it doesn’t make you stronger or happier or bring you closer to your goal let it go. Know that if you stay with it you can have what you want if you give up it stops the moment you do.

Never let a thought stop you from getting what you deserve. Make your life wonderful everyday! If you are really challenged help someone else. Put a smile on your lips and help put a smile on yours. In helping others will will move forward faster. It makes us feel good when we do and it helps move all of us forward together, even if just a little bit. Helping others is a great way to transform yourself and help transform the world. Live, love, laugh and enjoy!” Rex Sikes

Make today count. Enjoy it, celebrate it and delight in it!

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A magnet to miracles…

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“Take a break, relax and count your blessings. It is important to refresh and rejuvenate. So relax, do something wonderful for yourself. Celebrate, enjoy and delight. You deserve to treat yourself well. Treat yourself special today, do something extra nice for you.

When you can be truly thankful for all that you have in your life, when you appreciate it fully, something inside you changes. It as if you awaken. Once you live in gratitude you find much more to include and feel happy and thankful for. You make more room in your life for all good things. You see with new eyes, your heart sings. Each moment becomes a blessing. You open up, allow and become receptive. You are accepting, receiving, while giving thanks. It is really amazing how your life can change when you become filled with thanks.

From thankfulness allow yourself to be. Enjoy! Delight in the small and the large. Celebrate everything. Celebrate yourself. Delight in being you. Rest in who you are.

Allow your self to simply be. Make it a point only to find those things and those moments you appreciate and do so fully. Take a walk, visit a special friend, take in the sights, have a special meal, take a bath or a nap but do something that makes you feel more wonderful.” Rex Sikes

Everyone deserves a special day to enjoy! I hope you have a marvelous one.

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You Already Know How To Drive You Just Have To Change Direction Part 3

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Once you begin implementing this process you open a window for change. You create a space where more good things become possible. Your life becomes more of an adventure because you look for and find more good things to include. You find more good things about yourself. As you begin to look for more good in yourself and others and in the world you actually DO find more good.

When you take moments and transform them by transforming your thoughts and feelings for the better you build a rich reserve of positive feelings. When you feel better and think better more of the time you are in a better mental and physical space to recognize opportunities when you may encounter them. When you are a positive influence and you resonate with positive energy other like minded people tend to gravitate toward you. As you transform yourself others and the world can respond positively to you.

So someone might say, (counter example) well bad things still happen to good people. This is true. You may be the most positive person, believing in all good things, and some ‘terrible’ calamity may fall you or a loved one. I am not saying the outer world conforms to you. Things still happen, but how you respond to them makes all the difference. How you label actions and events and people make a big difference. What you glean or learn from these, how you adjust and move forward is all up to you. Your perception about them is what makes them what they are for you

Choice always exists for you. This is important to understand. Even though your current situation may not be desirable you do not have to choose to be unhappy about it.

I am not stating that you must be happy or stoic about it. I am only suggesting that it is your choice how you respond. If bad things are going to happen anyway why would you ever choose to feel unhappy about it? From the answer you give to that question will learn much about yourself. I am not saying there is a correct answer just examine your answer. What might you learn about you?

If you choose to not let it make you unhappy so be it. If you choose to be unhappy about it so be it. Don’t resist, accept, allow.

If at some point you wish you had made a different choice, my guess is there will be another opportunity at another date.

Celebrate whatever your choice is. You will get further faster by loving and accepting and treating yourself positively than by criticizing, self loathing and regret. UNLESS, these latter feelings catapult you into a positive direction they don’t serve to make you better.

There is a reason for regret. We feel regret so that we don’t repeat whatever we did. If you regret treating a loved one or stranger poorly then stop it. If  regret gets you to stop treating someone poorly and begin treating them better, then in this case, regret is a good thing.

It got you to stop so it was an asset. If you can make the change it is positive to do so regret then serves a function. If you cannot do anything at all about it, if the person is dead or long gone, or it is just something you can’t change, then it is an emotion that does not serve you at well in this regard. The same is true regarding guilt.

This is the point in our life when the Serenity Prayer may be useful to consider: ‘Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference’.

Wisdom is more important than knowledge because with a little knowledge you can do great things good or bad. Wisdom is knowing the difference. Again, here is where I think good taste out to prevail. Make the wisest choicest in the best possible interests of yourself and others. Do no harm. Do no harm to others nor to yourself. Instead, love and allow even when you don’t understand. Live and let live. What you resist will persist. Seek the higher way of being.

As I stated, when difficult times arise, acceptance is a worthy response. Sometimes we need to be able to accept and allow and not endeavor to escape or avoid or dictate how something or someone must be.

Acceptance, for me however, does not mean becoming a victim or giving up. Acceptance means learning how not to resist. Whatever we resist persists. When we actively fight against something we are IN A fight. It means we are actively engaged in combating something we don’t want. We are focusing on the what we don’t want instead of being focused on what we do want.

It is a fine point, subtle but powerful, and we will explore later. For now, let me use this example. Not wanting to be poor is NOT the same as wanting to be rich. Focusing on what you don’t have or lack is NOT the same as focusing on what you want to create or gain or on abundance. Knowing what you don’t want or won’t tolerate sets your limits but it DOES NOT provide you a useful direction to what you do want. It is similar to driving down the road looking in the rearview mirror. It is not useful in getting you where you want to go.

So don’t resist. Don’t give what you do not want any more energy or time. Let it be, accept it for whatever it is, and steer gently from it. Acknowledge whatever is important to acknowledge. Learn from it and when ready move in the direction you actually want to go in.

It is okay to grieve, it is okay to be sad. We all feel these things. All emotions have their place. We are human after all. We don’t have to insist on being otherwise.There is a season for everything, a time to sow a time to reap, a time to rest.

Don’t force yourself and for goodness sakes don’t force others. Allow them to be whomever they are. Do not pressure them to change or be different for you. Don’t place unreasonable demands on yourself nor on others. Instead, celebrate your differences.

This is where The Serenity Prayer makes a lot of sense so I repeat it:  ‘Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference’.

As you become facile with this process it gets easier and easier. It becomes a reliable habit. As a reliable habit you are able to handle more of what life throws at you. Anything may come along and up set you, rain on your parade, ruin your party or downright devastate you, but you will more likely recover quickly and more easily, no matter how difficult it was, by being a positive powerful person. You would only wallow longer if you are a negative person most of the time. Face it, it does rain and shine on the good and the bad.

None of what I am suggesting is about controlling the world or other people rather it is about your relationship to the world, how you move through it. I think we all deserve to make life grand and have it as wonderful as it can be. This means many different things to many different people so I am not drawing any conclusions here.

What I am telling you is that YOU can make for yourself the life you wan to have whether you were born and live with outstanding incredible odds, or whether you were born on Easy Street. You can have the life you choose. The fist step, going back to other writing is to conceive of it, Then believe you can have it. We have discussed believing in this blog post for a little bit.

I know this, when you become a more positive person you discover more wonderful moments and fewer hardships because you have opened up the possibility to include many more good things into your life. You enrich yourself with positive thoughts, feelings, actions, people and experiences. Like does attract like. Even if crap happens overall your life becomes far more magnificent.

In developing and maintaing a positive outlook, in making positive thinking a habit, you become your own champion thinker and doer. You become a positive resource unto yourself and others.

When you stop yourself from traveling the old road way to the old house, and you take a break, go into neutral and shift your thoughts to positive you move from victim to victor. As a victor you are better able to handle and resolve the crap that may happen WITHOUT losing your positive focus or momentum. But,if you do lose it, you know how to get yourself back on track and on target. If you do momentarily forget your way to the mansion, you will more easily find it.

Promoting a healthy positive attitude in yourself makes life much better all the way around.

What you absolutely WILL discover when you engage this process is that it gets easier to utilize.

Think about a computer software program. I don’t like the analogy that much, but it returns us to the notion of servo-mechanism. Remember a servo-mechansim is just does what it is designed to do without caring about the outcome or the content.

Take this writing software program for example. It is designed so you can run any content though it. The program is constructed so you can write and publish but it doesn’t care whether you write well or not, whether you write inspirational material or drivel, whether you write about love or hate. All that is your choice. You determine what you write about.

Our unconscious, or subconscious. or other than conscious (all just words for processes that occur outside of our awareness and in many cases our voluntary control) is the program. It runs on and on. You supply the content it publishes it. So the mechanism is there to return to you whatever you put in it. Recall, GIGO,garbage in garbage out notion. If you dwell on negative thoughts your unconscious finds and supplies you with more of the same, if you dwell on positive thoughts it will find and supply you with more. IT ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT CARE!!! It returns whatever you give it.

Most of us are better at one form of thinking than the other hence the results in our life. Obviously, if we are predominately negative then the world, our life reflects that back. On the other hand if we are predominately positive our world, our life reflects that back IT DOES NOT CARE.

The question for each of us is: If we are not happy, ecstatic, with who we are, what we have accomplished and what we have in life then when will we begin to take responsibility to change it for the better? If life isn’t glorious we can do something about it. One thing is certain, if we do nothing about it, it is bound to remain the same. If you do want something better, you can have it. If life is already incredible it can be even more so. Who knows if there is any upper limit on what we could accomplish if we only decided to try and then did not give up.

I have outlined a process in these pages that you can use whenever you discover yourself engaged in thinking or feeling other than how you want to. You do not ever have to do anything with it unless you want to and knowing ABOUT IT will not do anything for you. It is only when you do it and continue to do it that you will benefit.

So if you want a more wonderful life isn’t it time to begin doing something? You don’t have to take my suggestions or word for it you may find another way. Find what works for you. I do know however, if you do not change something you are doing you will keep getting the same results.

What is it you would like to enjoy more of in your life? What positive things about you might you change for the better? If, you could do or be anything during the rest of your life what would you choose? What if, the next days and weeks and months ahead you became more and more delighted and surprised gradually, and discovered yourself just feeling incredible more of the time, wouldn’t that be cool? Wouldn’t that be worth having for yourself?” Rex SIkes

More next time. In the meantime make every moment miraculous!

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Finding Feelings

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“The key to making each day the best is to look for and find the very best feelings you can find within yourself. No matter how small or seemingly insignificant find the best feeling and focus on it, accentuate it, nurture it.

Begin to wonder how delighted you can be to discover it increasing and spreading thought out your being and your experience. Encourage your best feelings and help them grow and bask in them. In doing this you are truly learning something of great importance.

You are learning you can choose to, and that you can experience the very best. Yes, it may take some time, you must be patient and expect wonderful results and stay positive.

You are training yourself in a number of important areas, scanning and looking to find the best you have and feel, focus of attention and learning to increase the feelings of well being and spreading them through your body. You are learning you actually have a say in what your experience is like.

You have a choice as to what you feel and what you encourage. These are valuable learnings because you get to have you life back, you get to make it what you want it to be. Begin today, and keep at it until you make it a habit.

You will have plenty of opportunities through out each and every day to remember to do this process. Keep at it as much as you can for a couple of months and you will have vastly improved your life.” Rex Sikes

FORGIVENESS!!! WHY???

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“Wow this is something I have been learning all my life. I must admit I have not been very good at it. We grow up hearing things like ‘To forgive is divine’ and we understand somehow, possibly, that there is something better, higher, more beneficial, spiritual about being able to forgive someone. Then we hear statements suck as ‘I forgive but I will never forget’ which indicates that somehow we will let an offending party off the hook, but not really. We will always remember the hurt, the pain, the offense, whatever it may be we won’t let that go but we will accept that you may be sorry and we will forgive. This implies a certain power we have over others. It states, ‘I am offended but I am a big enough person to not hold it against you, I absolve you of your responsibility but I will also always remember what you did.’

The question becomes, if you do not let go of it, if you always remember it, how can that not color or influence your actions toward the other person, and not only toward them, but what are you carrying around inside yourself that affects you, perhaps, in less than positive ways. You are carrying a slight or hurt around somehow keeping it alive even if on a back burner somewhere. If I you gave me a forty pound rock and I said ‘it’s okay I forgive you for the 40 pound rock but I will never forget it but will carry it with me always/ that is significant.

Since we are using this example of the rock how many “I’ll forgive you but won’t forget” episodes are in your life. It seems one is more than enough but what if you carried two 40lb rocks or three or more? Do you see how your life would be altered, literally weighed down because you are unwilling to let go? This does not seem the best choice or use of one’s time or life. It would seem that if one were to forgive one should absolutely forget.

Yes, this may be difficult. Most of us are not raised learning and acquiring the art and skill of forgiving and forgetting. It would seem to me, because I have been there, that reliving or replaying past negative times does nothing to help one live today. I understand that there may be an important lesson in what happened and one can extract that but to replay something repeatedly that causes one to feel less than glorious is self abuse, self torture and I think that should be stopped.

We are not taught well. We are not  taught how to forgive ourselves and let go of or forget our past disappointments and upsets. Forgiving oneself honestly and completely makes the most sense, after all, we are all amateurs at being human. We did not come with an owner’s manual, we make our way by trial and error, we grope around blindly in the darkness of daily living unsure what the correct course of action is. For some reason however we hold ourselves accountable or blame ourselves for not being perfect, for not knowing or acting better when we didn’t and actually couldn’t because we didn’t have the information on how to think or act ‘correctly’ at the time it was needed.

We just did whatever we did and there were unwanted or unintended consequences for ourselves and we then blame ourselves for not being better than we were. This cycle of self blame is silly but one most of us have engaged in because we don’t really know any other way to be. We aren’t schooled in love and forgiveness and acceptance and allowing and receiving as perhaps we could and should be.

So we blame others and ourselves for problems we have during events and situations or circumstances. The fact is we blame. Then we somehow manage to say, ‘Okay, I will forgive you but I will never forget what you did’. I am not suggesting we should not hold people accountable for their actions I think we should. I think people need to take responsibility for their behaviors and actions especially when it causes harm in whatever manner to another. Then at some point there does come a time to forgive and let go of it. The idea of punishment is that it fits the “crime” and that it is just and for a particular duration and then punishment ends.

Punishment can’t end if one never lets go. It is the equivalent of the Scarlett Letter. Forever one is doomed to go through life with a reminder of the injury. That may seem fair to some and unjust to others. For me, that is how I had lived my life for a long time.

One day I thought about the story of Jesus on the cross. For some people this is an historical event and the basis of salvation for others a story or myth. I won’t take sides here, that is not my purpose and while some would blame me saying that “it doesn’t indeed matter”, I am only interested in the human side of the story in the context of this discussion. Whether it is or is not anything more than a story, for our purposes I believe we can learn something important from the record of the “alleged” event.  That is how I proceed.

While on the cross, after being brutally tortured in unimaginable ways, and then further injured by being put on the cross Jesus uttered “Forgive them for they know not what they do”. Again, I point out that I am leaving out any spiritual salvation messages regarding this and extract the meaning or significance of the sotry that dawned on me. Certainly, I am not the first to have this insight but for me it was a first just to have it.

Jesus forgave his tormenters, while in incredible pain and suffering he asked that they be forgiven for all of their actions against him (I assume). He forgave them all of their actions. He followed it up with “They know not what they do.” It seems he felt that they didn’t understand the immediate impact of their actions or the spiritual ramifications of their actions. Whatever he meant, any and all of it, he simply said “forgive them they know not what they do”.

One day that struck me hard. I thought, “Wow, IF Jesus, in that horrible moment could forgive how come I didn’t in my life?”

I have tormenters and tough times but no physical parallel to what he was going through at that moment. Whether historical or only a story to serve as an example by authors this example spoke deeply to me. He forgave them in the height of his misery. When they had done their worst and it was ongoing hell for him, in spite of all of this, he said forgive them.

The addition of “For they know not what they do” spoke loud to me too. He forgave and didn’t blame them. He didn’t say, “Forgive this ruthless bunch of uncaring horrific people who should know better …” he said, “They know not what they do” and I bet they did. When they were beating him and pounding nails into him, calling him names, torturing, tormenting, killing him I bet they knew exactly what they were doing and intending to do. Jesus, however, treated them as if they did not. This for me is the key.

He forgives and he holds blameless.

In fact, he went further to provide a reason for the forgiveness. They don’t know what they are doing so they should be forgiven. He says, don’t hold them accountable they are ignorant, they are unaware of their actions and the consequences of their actions. They don’t know what they are doing so forgive them.

I mean really? He not only forgave them but he provided an excuse for them. He justified his request by stating that they were ignorant thus entitled to be forgiven

It seems it did not matter to Jesus whether the reality was that they did or didn’t know what they were doing, what truly mattered was to forgive them.

I repeat. It seemed it didn’t matter at all why they did whatever they did to him, the point was to forgive them.

He excused them to the Father. He justified the request for forgiveness to the Father. “Forgive them they know not what they do” Frankly, they couldn’t know the ramifications whether there were any spiritual ones or not in this event. How could they? According to the story, the report, they thought they were doing the right thing by crucifying a pretended, a false messiah, a poser. Even if they didn’t believe that and they were simply bad ass and criminal, certainly they weren’t trying to mess with God.

My point is – Jesus’ forgiveness had nothing to do with what was in the hearts and minds of the people who hurt and were killing him, it was what was going on in Jesus’ heart and mind.

He forgave these people everything. Whether or not they were deserving in reality, he decieded they were. He let it go. He didn’t blame he excused them. I repeat, my thought was “WOW, if he could do this at such an incredibly horrific moment, why can’t I begin to do it in my daily life?”

This is why I am not discussing salvation or not . It is not because I do or don’t believe it is important but I am discussing an insight I had into a scripture, and whether it is non-fiction or only fiction doesn’t alter my insight. I hope the readers may understand where I come from on this point without further discussion of it. Said plainly, if it were nothing more than a fairy tale and absolutely nothing more I got a powerful life lesson from it and I am incredibly grateful.

There are, and there have been people who rub me the wrong way, I have tormenters, people who repeatedly caused me grief in my life, friends, relatives, strangers whom, for whatever reason, have done things to harm me mentally, emotionally, physically all for whom this lesson applies. I have harbored grudges, wished the worst on them, talked about these people to other people, about what a problem they were, thought about them, argued with myself over them and frequently found myself frustrated, angry, or sad because of my thoughts about them and our interactions.

Then Jesus words struck me. “Forgive them they know not what they do”. It doesn’t matter if they do or they don’t know what they do or are trying to do, it is my choice to excuse them.

In some ways they truly can’t know what they do. If one thinks of a television set in your family room or wherever it might be, what is on the screen is available information. Everything outside of the TV set screen is also present and available but not being considered. The focus is what is on the screen.

When news people film an incident they focus on the people or the event in the camera, but in life, this event is happening with all sorts of things around it that we never get to see. For example, if it occurs on a street corner, we may see the corner, the people involved, etc., and a few witnesses, but the camera never pulls back to reveal everyone else and everything else. The reporter speaks with a few but not with all the people. My point is that there is a context within a context. We don’t ever have access, at any time, to all the possible information. There are always things left outside of our awareness.

It has been said that consciousness is like a flashlight in a dark room, and that we can only pay attention to what is spotlighted in the beam. As it moves around the room we see more things it spotlights but we never see everything at once. This is my point. We don’t know everything even when we sometimes are convinced we do. We don’t really know what is in the hearts and minds of others though we act as if we do, we assume we know and we assign motives to others. Sometimes we are more accurate than other times and there are many instances when we are way off base.

What Jesus said and did took all that into account and made it not matter. He forgave and he excused. It is not about who he forgave and why they were doing what they were doing or why they needed forgiveness it was his act and his alone. He forgave and he excused. He forgave and let go. I thought, “if he can forgive at the worst moment I should be able to forgive in some of my moments.”

So I did. I thought about the people who I felt at odds with one by one. I imagined them and I forgave them. I thought “This person doesn’t know what they are doing and it doesn’t matter I forgive this person” and I showered the person with love. I began to feel grateful for the challenges I faced. I began to see these difficult interactions with difficult people as learning opportunities. As I did these things, in that moment, I realized it was an opportunity for me to let go as completely as I was able to. I forgave and began to appreciate the person/s.

An incredible transformation transpired. As a result,  I am freer than ever, lighter, and able to move through life without getting caught up as much. When things happen, as I become aware of it, I think forgiveness and shower love. It is not always easy in the moment as I am still learning this.

At night or at other times I can do it when I’m not with the person face to face AND I am getting better during real time encounters. Jesus did it at the height of his suffering and I am learning that any instance it is an opportunity to forgive, to let go, be free, and to get grateful.

I now can appreciate the other person or the situation that arises and understand that if it is something I don’t like I actually have choices. For example I am much happier now than every in my life. This does not mean bad things don’t happen. They do, it rains on the good and bad the rich and poor alike. When less than glorious events occur I realize I don’t have to feel bad just because something bad has happened. I can feel happy if I want to.

Some people think I’m crazy. Why would you be happy about bad things? Let me be clear, I am not happy about bad things or bad people I am happy even when bad things happen or people come along and rain on the parade. I have a choice now about how I respond to bad things and people. I have a choice!

For example, If I am happy and something bad happens why must that dictate that I can no longer feel happy? Why must I feel bad? I know I used to let events affect me, and many people still do, but I have come to the conclusion that this is our conditioning from growing up with people who emphasize that the world around us, others or events should dictate our mood.

Then I look and see people with nothing incredibly happy. I see  people who have lost the use of their arms, legs, eyes, ears, their entire body who are still outrageously happy. There are  people who have suffered great injustices, or who have been held captive and yet they are happy. Then it dawned on me, maybe it is not dictated that we have to feel a bad when bad things happen.  Maybe it is only because we have not learned that there ARE alternatives. Perhaps, we have choices we never exercise. If this is the case basically we are choiceless.

The moment comes when one realizes, “I can choose other alternatives, I can learn to fight my conditioning”, or le”I can learn to recondition my mind and my awareness”. From this awareness a new decision can be made.

The one I made was If I am happy, and something comes along that is less than glorious why would I ever decide to be unhappy? Why would I let it affect me that way? Why must I respond as some Pavlovian dog?

Maybe there is an actual reason, I am sure some can come up with a few or many, but for me I now began to think, “why not remain happy and handle the situation from that happy state?”

It makes more sense. When you are happy and energetic you have greater ease of access to your own personal resourcefulness. Your thinking is clearer so you are better equipped to handle bad times or crises when you are in an optimum state. When one is angry, bored, sad, or depressed it is not as easy to think clearly or have the energy required to change things. So I decided that I would choose to be happy.

Returning to the notion of forgiveness once I learned I could forgive and that I could even practice forgiveness in an ongoing situation, lots of positive changes occurred for me. I did feel happier, freer, and it became clear that if I was going to feel better it was directly related to what I thought and what I did.

What my thoughts are determine how I feel and behave. When I harbored grudges or saw the people as terrible people, or unwanted people in my life causing me grief, I wasn’t as happy or free. Once I realized if I wanted my life to change I realized I had to change things about me. I had to change how I thought, how I saw things, how I felt, how I acted, what I said.

As the saying goes, If it’s to be it is up to me”.  So I decided I had to become the captain of my fate. I had to be the pilot of my plane, set my course and determine how I was going to get there. I had to  take charge of how I thought and what I thought about during each day, each moment

I realized then that what we focus on we get. What we focus on we get back and we get more of it back because it actually expands and we become what we think about. If my thoughts are occupied with hurt, sadness, suffering, revenge, grudges, trying to scheme to get even, disappointment, failures, then I will feel bad. I will feel worse because thoughts attract like thoughts. When you think one negative thought about yourself you brain takes it as – “oh, you want this? Well here, let me give you some countless more examples of how your screwed up, or how you are not enough”. You know what, I no longer wanted that.

So I chose to focus on what I do want. What is it I want more of in my life right now and in my future? I realized that the thoughts one thinks today creates your present and your future so I chose to think the best thoughts about my present and my future.

Sure there are things I don’t like going on but I notice them and draw my attention to what I can find to like about that situation and to I seek to find the best feelings I can in the moment.

My goal is to feel the best I can throught out the day and not let anything impinge on it. This does not mean I ignore things or not deal with things, rather it means I steer my thoughts to aspects that are positive. It means looking for the silver lining in the dark clouds.

The way I have learned to do this is through gratefulness. I have learned  to appreciate what I have and what I want. I have learned to be thankful for whatever happened in my past because brought me this far and I am still here. By adopting this mind set it re-codes all of my experiences as things that were necessary to move me along. I don’t even care whether this is accurate or not. It simply feels right.

I find I can appreciate anything and everything and this is where I return to the notion of forgiveness.

When I can forgive and really let go of these tormenting people is when I can appreciate them fully. When I can fully appreciate them then I can be free of the burden being angry or upset with them for any pain they caused me. If I can really appreciate different aspects of the person or the challenge they present then I can more easily feel grateful to them for what I am learning as a result. It is evolutionary and for me revolutionary.

Hence I can more easily forgive and forget. There is motive to forgive and forget. It allows me to live life with more freedom, with more love, peace, happiness, contentment and less angst, hostility and bondage. I suffer less and enjoy more when I let go and forgive. It really isn’t about the other person at all, in a lot of ways.

It occurred to me one day that my life was okay. It was not everything I wanted but it was okay. I had ups and downs all along the way and I was never truly happy. I thought from time to time I was. I learned how to be happier, and I became happier. Then at one point it occurred to me that I was great at getting what I didn’t want but not so good at getting what I did want. I went from one bad time to the next. I went through bad events, situations and disappointments wondering why I had such bad luck, when it suddenly occurred to me that maybe I had something to do with it.

I realized that my thoughts, what I thought, how I thought it, what I spent most of my time thinking, brought me to where I was. I realized that to continue to think the same or in similar ways would carry keep it the same way into my future. I realized then if I continued as I was nothing would change. I had to change something. So I decided to change my thinking.

Previously, I would have thought it was others that was the cause of my discomfort but now I saw that my own thinking was the issue.

So I began to determine what I wanted and focused on these things instead of what I didn’t want. I determined to find the small and large things that occur each day that I could celebrate, rejoice, appreciate, and once found to keep looking for more. I determined to find the best feelings I could find and find a way to feel even better. Celebration and gratitude really helped because once I started focusing on good things and really appreciating them I did start to feel much much better.

Then came forgiveness. I practice letting go. I started allowing things to be without trying to control them. I forgave, I let go, I excused.

It is an ongoing process. It never ends but it has become easier and more enjoyable and I am happier and more free now than ever.

I leaned important things about self forgiveness too.

When I would still get hooked into an argument or went off feeling less than glorious or when I found myself thinking thoughts I didn’t want to be thinking, those that seemed to return again and again while I struggled to gain control I would forgive and excuse myself.

I’d remind myself, “I am new to this, I am not perfect”. I made it a point to remember that I am and a beginner at it. I am learning and these challenges are important lessons. Then I found I can appreciate the opportunity to learn from and I can be different as a result. I forgive myself because I am not perfect, and I am evolving and I don’t have all the information.

I can’t see past the TV screen into all things. I trust that all things work together for good and that I am remaining positive, happy and free in spite of what goes on around me. I choose to be happy. AND I choose to be happy when I do something other than what I intended. When I screw up, I examine it , learn from it and benefit.

The Golden Rule states “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”

What I learned from the Golden Rule is I would hope others would forgive me for when I am a bone head or when I do wrong things. I hope they would get over it, let it go and forgive and completely accept me with my imperfections. I would hope that they would feel good about me and hold me in the highest possible esteem. I hope they would want me happy and healthy and wealthy and to have all good things. So how can I wish anything less to anyone else.

The wellness I derive is from silently wishing the best for the people in my life, the difficult people in my life and people I encounter. I attempt to “Do unto others” FIRST “ the way I want to considered and treated. That makes everything just so more pleasant. Because I again remind that what we think about we become, what we focus on we get, it expands and attracts more of the same. I want the very best so I offer the very best to others first.

I have learned to extend this to me as well. Why not? I am the other person as well. I wish for me all good things, all blessings, and forgiveness. “What we sow we reap”, and I want to reap the very best. I know the thoughts of yesterday brought me here. The thoughts today create my future. I want to have the most incredible future filled with love, happiness, joy, acceptance, all good things spiritual, emotional, mental and physical. So I keep on focusing on these things and what I am able to do to make my life wonderful.

Think the best thoughts, feel the best feelings, be free, forgive and forget, let go of anything that doesn’t create a better you and a better future. Celebrate and appreciate, enjoy and delight, and spread it to everyone including myself. It’s not always easy but it is possible. And it becomes a habit. A good habit to have. Once it is a habit it is far easier. Persistence pays off. You do get what you focus on and you do become what you think about.

Think about that!

My feeling is if Jesus at his worst moment could forgive, I should be able to in my daily life.

Even, if as some believe it was only a fairy tale, the example in the story is a potent one

If we follow some of the other statements on the cross we get – “Why have you forsaken me?” Which, as I think about it in this context, means that he, as a human, was alone in his suffering. He had no divine power to rescue him. No divine power to forgive. Yet, he forgave, As I think about it this makes it even more poignant an example. He accepted his situation and faced it all by himself

Many of us pray to be rescued or for some on or some thing to avenge us but it seems Jesus, in his last hours, felt the hopelessness we all do, perhaps even much worse than many of us do. He was Hopeless and helpless on the cross suffering yet he was forgiving and excusing those who put him there.

Then he states “Not my will but yours” meaning he accepted his fate, this condition, the inevitable. He allowed it he did not fight it. It was what it was.He did not resist.

Most of us attempt to change our circumstance when it gets uncomfortable rather than go through them. When possible that is not a bad choice. Still, we should learn something about acceptance, about allowing what is

I can hope and pray and fight and resist forever that a particular person leave me alone and I may never get that answered that way/ That may never happen. That person may still persist or an unwanted circumstance persist OR arise that is really terrible and hard to get through it.

Things are as they are, the people around us may never change no matter how we hope and pray, the circumstances may never get any better so what can one do. Fight for ever. Live with the stress.

One can be dismayed or unhappy or one can accept that is how it is and that it will never change, so why let it affect your happiness?. If it is going to go on, no matter what, why choose to be unhappy about it? Why not accept it, allow it and go about your life anyway choosing to be happy rather than distressed? It is your choice, after all.

I won’t say it is easy. Learning acceptance and non-resistance may be as difficult as learning to truly forgive and forget.

In fact, I never am saying this is easy but it gets easier as one does it and it certainly is possible to do. It is not impossible.

The question is whether you start today? If you never begin to take charge of yourself and make your life what you want it to be it will always be has it has been.  As long as others and circumstances dictate how you think, feel and behave, and what you possess you will be a victim not a victor.

Times are tough, yet people in war torn countries, can be happy, there are happy people living in poverty while there are millionaires, made in every depression and economic upheaval, that are fat rich cats in ivory towers with everything one can imagine, who are miserable, depressed and angry. There are lottery winners who are unhappy or who end up loosing all their money and end up worse than before getting it.

There are people from everyday walks of life who have learned how to be happy. These people manage to inspire themselves and others. We should choose these as examples to emulate, if we chose any examples at all to follow.

There are those all around us who are negative and miserable regardless. We should realize “it” isn’t out there, “it” comes from within. The world, the events, the people that we think are the cause of our suffering and unhappiness will always be. Happiness comes from within us and  it is how we think and respond to those. There are people suffering while held in captivity that give up and there are those who remain hopeful and optimistic.

When wee realize we have a choice then we have a decision to make. Either we keep doing what we are doing and things remain the same or we change what we are doing in order to get the changes we want to have. If you always think as you have always thought you get nothing new at all. When you change your thinking you can begin to entertain and find new things to explore.  When each of us understand that we are the product, the end result, of what we think, then either we keep going as we have been or we change it. This is the decision we face.

Happiness is a choice as is forgiveness. Creating a future or living in the past is a choice. Letting go or harboring resentment is a choice.  Enjoying or abhorring your present is a choice.

I have experienced a freedom and wonderful opportunities when I began practicing deliberate control of my thought and feelings.

decided to think the best of the situations, the people and myself. I began and continue to look for the best in my past, even the horrible times, to discover that I made it through those, and I was still here and that each moment back then was a stepping stone to now.

I decided to think about the best in my present and focus on discovering the wonderful things each day. I decided to focus on what I want to include in my future, what I’d like and what I’d like more of and how it feels to have these. These are ongoing decisions I have made and I make then each moment too.

My thoughts are not just about things or situations or people, but personal attributes about who and how I want to be now and in my future. I decided to be thankful for everything and everyone, regardless, and to shower the people in my life and those I encounter with love, peace, acceptance and joy. I decided to go first and forgive my self and others and to let go, to excuse and accept us as we are so I can move forward without carrying any baggage. I decided that whatever life throws to me to accept. I now look for the silver lining, I seek the best, and to find opportunity where I might have not thought to look. I decided to stay at it no matter what and to never quit. I am not claiming to be good at any of this, but my life has changed as a result. I mention myself only to state that I know for myself that this is now possible. I would never have thought that to be the case, but it is. I feel very blessed to finally awaken to these things, if only just a little.

Recently, there were some pretty tough challenges. I found myself falling back on these decisions and living from my new choices. I discovered myself delighted to realize I had come a long positive way in my journey and that I felt better and happy in spite of what went on around me. It was going to go on anyway why not go through it happy and trusting that things would work out for the best no matter what? I found myself at times thinking of some things that weren’t as productive as I like but I steered my thoughts to what I did want to think about. If the former returned I’d again steer my thinking to what I want instead. Sometimes it may seem like attempting to control a wild horse, but with patience, and peace and acceptance and forgiveness and acknowledgment and nurturing, I could do what I wanted to do. What would have been a struggle in years past was no struggle at all.

There were times that were more challenging than other times but through it all I knew I would find the best. Someone once said, “When the going gets tough the tough get going” which relates to this other saying, “When the going gets tough you get what you practice”.

If you persistently practice loving kindness, happiness, forgiveness, celebration you get it back when you need it. If you are never challenged you don’t learn how to have it in those  trying times. Every moment becomes an opportunity to learn and better enjoy life.

After all it is, or may be, the only life we have. I decided I wanted to have a say in what kind of life it is going to be and determined to make it wonderful. It is! Even when the  circumstances are not good life can still be wonderful. This is the point I became aware of and that I have been trying to make.

Jesus was in the worst of circumstances yet he was able to allow and forgive. When we learn to do as Jesus did our life does improve. Give it a try and then stick with it and you will discover so many marvelous benefits. No one can convince you, only you will convince yourself as you do when you discover these for yourself. I figure if Jesus could do it at the very worst in his life I ought to be able to do it in as many circumstances as possible. For me it has made an incredible difference. I am certain it will for you to.

Blessings and Peace.” Rex Sikes

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